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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by VoidLife7: 2:27pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
REALretep:I'm sorry not now They will but obviously not now Thanks for your advice though 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by jmichael259(m): 2:28pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
VoidLife7: An almost 50yr old divorcee with 3kids, can never want any under20 girl for "marriage". Your mother isn't marrying her out, she is throwing her away into servitude, extreme suffering. A lifetime of battering and gnashing of teeth. Know this and become brave. Secondly, nobody in your immediate family has the right to force the girl into marriage without telling her the truth about her parents and involving the relevant members and chiefs from both her father & mother villages. Ways to solve this gently is to take the gal away(if u can afford), find her a JOB or better SUITOR since bills and marriage are your mother's blind excuse. e.g: I am mid-early 30's, christian, 3rd generation educationist (as in grandparents, parents, uncles, cousins everybody na civil servant, graduate entreprenuers). I for come marry her or find another young industrious single landlord for her here bt you dey lagos i'm in the east. I'm serious. This is what u should find for her. |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by VoidLife7: 2:32pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Ladymillion:She is her daughter also. She knows her as her mother because she treat her as one. Anyway,you may not understand the situation of things No matter how you try to picture it, you can never understand what we're passing through 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by leisuretym: 2:32pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
VoidLife7: Go and pay that instantly, know that this will not change the situation, it’s very helpful and thanks to the keepingmum, if possible request for the account of the Taillor and send the money right away, this is the only chance you have to safe her. Work toward getting her in standard fashion school in Lagos to boost her chance of survival So the bills can be sorted now that people are willing to help OR allow someone to adopt her before the month of May when your mom will give her out because that machine will still not safe her from your mom except she have where to live away from her . You really need to be transparent because people are watching especially those who are already calling you a names, there are people who are also watching to see and are willing to assist so I beg you to keep people updated and maintain transparency to safe her. I pray she get real help here. I have seen someone got help from this forum, someone I know relocated him abroad without even posting a single comment here, so be careful how you handle this. Let’s pray and see what God will do for her. It’s so pathetic that women doesn’t help Pls do not respond to this post. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by OKUCHI11(m): 2:35pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by omenuwad(m): 2:35pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Do everything you can to see that girl through school. God will bless your mum and your brother for taking care of them all these years. She has a bright future that should not be toy with. God will surely bless and provide all you need to come out this challenges amen. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by texazzpete(m): 2:38pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
amdman: Kindly DM me so I’m looped in. I can pitch in something if the story checks out. Thanks to you and @gaby for following up 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by litaninja(m): 2:42pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
At 18, she's an adult and can do whatever she likes, including moving out, getting a job and living her life exactly how she desires. VoidLife7: |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Sirchiboy: 2:44pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
gaby:. God bless you sir for this. Your generation will never lack emen. Sir I am not asking for financial favour but job to keep body and soul together. I have been jobless ever since I finished My HND. I have applied for several jobs but to no avail. Please kindly assist me with any job. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by gaby(m): 2:46pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Sirchiboy: I wished I could right now, bro. So, sorry. 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by gaby(m): 2:47pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
rickleye: Get in touch with @amdman. He's busy with the verification and authentication so we can proceed from there. God bless. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Prolificdeman: 2:49pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
gaby: Boss does it really matter? People can create a new moniker to save face or for security reasons. Do your due diligence to verify if the info is true, then go ahead to continue your philanthropy task. Task like this paves way for you for generations to come. God help you Boss. Just my 2 cents!! 6 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Pointblack: 2:51pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
[quote author=VoidLife7 post=120910660]Good day all, Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages. I enrolled her in fashion designing immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it. My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones supporting the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭 I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd support her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges. Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤ Please stand up for her. You and your senior bro can do it. |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by delishpot: 2:53pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
VoidLife7: If you don't live with them, ake her in and help her with a sewing machine to start something. If you leave her with mom ehn, one day you will visit and hear that she has moved to her husband's house. Your mom is funny Sha. She no even fit find better young man to marry her beloved daughter na okrika overused and abandoned old cargo with 3 burdens (for your sister I mean) she go dey select for her new chassis daughter. Tufiakwa! Like she low-key hate the girl . 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by AbuAeesha: 2:54pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
VoidLife7:She is not too young to marry at 18. You should be concerned with the kinda of family she is moving to, being left with kids as a young wife might be difficult for her. So if ur mum is determined to get her married ,it should be with to a person that wouldn't put much responsibility on her and whereby she can continue her schooling. Alot of ladies get married at her age regardless of the religion and they are doing well. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Sirchiboy: 2:56pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
gaby:. Thank you 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Iykenuwa(m): 2:57pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
VoidLife7: Resist that evil decision, Let her use one year to prepare for JAMB, teach her what you can since you're a teacher. I will buy the form, if she passes well enough to enter a federal University, I'll pay the fees. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Spherica177: 3:13pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
litaninja:Must you talk? An 18 years old girl should be allowed to live outside and live her life the way she desires? Lol, you think every family allow their girl child in particular to live outside? And if she will live outside not at this tender age. Every family has different ways of raising their kids. When you have your own family, you are free to allow your 18 years old daughter to go live outside and fend for herself. It's your choice. Don't impose your mentality on anyone else Thank you 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Maysdevices(f): 3:17pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Justbehave:You dey open mouth wide but yourself broke pass the people wey you dey shade. Before you open your mouth. Who have you helped here in your life? Abi you dey try bask in the glory of other men? You no go drop something? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Maysdevices(f): 3:19pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Justbehave:You are just a big fool. Smelling thing. Wetin you drop? Rapist If you think say I go reply your smelling mention, Na your papa for house you dey decieve |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Justbehave(m): 3:19pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Maysdevices:Atleast other men has done something. Make just one woman do same. Nah a girl we dey talk about ooh no be boy 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Xfactor88(m): 3:21pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Brownshoe:That's scary 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Xfactor88(m): 3:21pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Justbehave(m): 3:21pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Maysdevices:Lol. Stop talking and help her. Na Una fellow woman. I be rapist like your father wey dey rape you. Big shame on you females here. Broke ass bitches waiting for men to come save their fellow women. Lol. Don't worry. We will help her. 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Raxxye(m): 3:35pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Do all you can to make sure your mum doesn't have her way with this. It is selfish and insensitive of her! How does she think marrying her off will help the little girl? Or she wants to trade the girl's happiness and future for a morsel of bread! |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Divoc19(f): 3:48pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Bigshots001(m): 3:53pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
YorobaPIGS: I think he is o..or wait,did I mistake him to be someone else 😅😅 But,if I'm wrong that he is not,or maybe he got converted..then I apologize for attacking him. 1 Like |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by ozome15(m): 3:56pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Brother I totally understand your feelings, I was once in such situation year back. See what you will do. First on your own go to your church priest if you are a Catholic and narrate the issue to him, then tell him to invite your mum to have one on one talk in his office. Making her understand the implication of what her actions may result. 18yr she has not know the right from the left in life. Not to talk of marriage, to a 46yr divorcee. That was how I handled my own. And in turn the priest gave her scholarship to USA to do industrial chemistry. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by humblesteve(m): 4:01pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by rickleye: 4:04pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
texazzpete:Loop me in as well pls. I guess we could start with a WhatsApp group once you have verified the story and details. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Ehmmah588(m): 4:07pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
VoidLife7:Where in morogbo?? |
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