Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Johnholt909: 3:52pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
ednut1: they are clowns to me. You could not find a man while in Nigeria that had over 100m men. But you expect to find a man in a country where less than 200k 9ja men dey . People are not that crazy about marriage in the western world cos of the divorce laws. They also dont want to do 50:50, They also want religious men in a country where only old people go to church.One of my female friends dey tell me she is looking for a man from anambra that is a catholic too. This is a 32 years old babe o. π€‘π€‘ Damn hahaha! I would be in Chicago next year. |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Elephantboy(m): 3:52pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Get a vibrator, visit a particular site, I'll be there to help you out. I've been doing it for other girls, you're not the only one. For your information, it's a video chat, as far as you see me live, you must squirt by fire by force. That's why those ladies are excited whenever they see me online. Seeing is believing. 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Johnholt909: 3:54pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Elephantboy: Get a vibrator, visit a particular site, I'll be there to help you out. I've been doing it for other girls, you're not the only one. For your information, it's a video chat, as far as you see me live, you must squirt by fire by force. That's why those ladies are excited whenever they see me online. Seeing is believing. Thatβs not cool. She is not a lesbian. 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Nobody: 3:54pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
ope19: I am currently experiencing the same thing. Will start going out more soon intimacy gadgets made for you, contact senator Elisha Abbo for more detail 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Lumig: 3:54pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
You will soon get tired of all this. It seems you don't really understand loneliness and boredom ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) SmartGadgetz: Go to events play good music Read more books Have a close boyfriend Don't watch porn (It makes one hideous) Write your thoughts in the form of books Play outdoor and indoor games Go to recreational places Buy your own groceries not home delivery Focus on why you are there Start new business ideas or partnership Don't forget to have sex to keep body and soul together Etc etc
Do these you can't be lonely anymore
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Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Kingray10: 3:56pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
JASONjnr: You're not lonely but you want to change a certain thing by going out to buy things instead of ordering online....
You are deceiving yourself.....
Do you understand that being an introvert is always likened to extreme depression and in most cases, gives you alot of time to masturbae or see lots of pornographics online?
You will not understand this ..... I couldn't stay overseas, even when I thought I was an introvert, I returned to work in my country....
I love it here and this is nothing compare to the racism I face everyday.... Lolππππππππππ€£π€£π€£π€£ Baba run come back |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Lumig: 3:56pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
You'll soon get tired of all these. Seems you really don't know what loneliness and boredom are ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) SmartGadgetz: Go to events play good music Read more books Have a close boyfriend Don't watch porn (It makes one hideous) Write your thoughts in the form of books Play outdoor and indoor games Go to recreational places Buy your own groceries not home delivery Focus on why you are there Start new business ideas or partnership Don't forget to have sex to keep body and soul together Etc etc
Do these you can't be lonely anymore
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Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by izubext007: 3:56pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
there is allot of depression in nigeria right now , so manage that one . |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Mummyimbecile(m): 3:57pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
People complain about everything. You should be happy you made it out of Nigeria.
Canada is boring when compared to the United States. If you wish, you can cross over to the US. |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by egbetokuns(m): 4:02pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Confusedgirlie: Before I left Canada for Nigeria in 2020, I had heard severally that it was very lonely there for Nigerian immigrants. I didn't quite understand what people meant exactly when they said this. However, over time I now have a very good understanding of this particular challenge with migration. Here are some of the things I've learnt on the way. But first, a little background about me.
I'm an introvert and I like my introversion. It gives me a lot of time to think and to be in my own space which I enjoy a lot. I read, write and love to watch documentaries. Those are the three most important things to me in life. When I lived in Nigeria, I lived a mostly secluded life that didn't have a lot of people in it. Regardless, it wasn't boring to me. I went out when I wanted to and took my time for my own activities.
Since being in Canada, my observations have been that it is a lot lonelier here. The reasons are very obvious: there are not a lot of people around me from a culture I'm familiar with (Nigeria), so it's definitely a lot more difficult to interact with others. That's one key point. Another is that I don't really have to go out to purchase things (even groceries), compared to when I was in Nigeria. I can simply order everything I need while sitting in the comfort of my home. Hence, the temptation is to go this way. In addition, I don't have family around, so I'm mostly by myself. And finally, the few friends I have are often busy, so there's hardly time to get together.
That's about it. I think these are some of the challenges Nigerian immigrants face. But the real question is, do I feel lonely?
The honest answer to that is a No. I find that my life is exactly the same way I lived it in Nigeria, only a lot more convenient and comfortable. I can't trade this for anything. In addition, as an introvert who likes to be by herself anyways, it's just a lot more enjoyable.
Nevertheless, there are steps I'm planning to take to change a few things. I am now taking more opportunities to actually go out and buy things even if I don't have to, e.g groceries, clothes, etc. Secondly, I say hello first to strangers and neighbours and get to ask them a few questions. This I wouldn't have done on the first place. Finally, I downloaded a social media application called clubhouse and have been making new friends in my area using this. As a cautious person, I'm taking baby steps here and not jumping straight into friendships I may not like.
Overall, what do I think of being in Canada as an introvert? I enjoy it. My life and choices are a lot better and I find that I have the time to do much more than I was doing back in Nigeria, not hampered by lack of power or resources.
My advice to others is to gauge their expectations carefully as they come to Canada with or without family. It can be lonely here, but that's not because Canada itself is lonely. It's just because you need to dig deep and find yourself in a new country where family is absent and culture is unfamiliar. Correct |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by enomakos(m): 4:05pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
ednut1: heard there is 100 to 200 dols for one round ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) no wonder |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by namo77: 4:05pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Come back to naija na⦠come and stay in naija with your friends |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Hassanmaye(m): 4:09pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Cutehector: How do you deal with conji. Hahahhahahaha indeed you are bad boy |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by EngrKemp: 4:17pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
ednut1: hinge and bumble Tinder too |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by SonofGod231: 4:21pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
When you realize men are swimming in choice and can hit loads of beautiful women without stress / when you finally realize day-in day-out nobody send you message ohh. Get off these apps and integrate again with real peeps coz you will finally wish you avoided those sex apps,They are mostly randy and vicious men who want to just smash. |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Phyde: 4:27pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Confusedgirlie: Before I left Canada for Nigeria in 2020, I had heard severally that it was very lonely there for Nigerian immigrants. I didn't quite understand what people meant exactly when they said this. However, over time I now have a very good understanding of this particular challenge with migration. Here are some of the things I've learnt on the way. But first, a little background about me.
I'm an introvert and I like my introversion. It gives me a lot of time to think and to be in my own space which I enjoy a lot. I read, write and love to watch documentaries. Those are the three most important things to me in life. When I lived in Nigeria, I lived a mostly secluded life that didn't have a lot of people in it. Regardless, it wasn't boring to me. I went out when I wanted to and took my time for my own activities.
Since being in Canada, my observations have been that it is a lot lonelier here. The reasons are very obvious: there are not a lot of people around me from a culture I'm familiar with (Nigeria), so it's definitely a lot more difficult to interact with others. That's one key point. Another is that I don't really have to go out to purchase things (even groceries), compared to when I was in Nigeria. I can simply order everything I need while sitting in the comfort of my home. Hence, the temptation is to go this way. In addition, I don't have family around, so I'm mostly by myself. And finally, the few friends I have are often busy, so there's hardly time to get together.
That's about it. I think these are some of the challenges Nigerian immigrants face. But the real question is, do I feel lonely?
The honest answer to that is a No. I find that my life is exactly the same way I lived it in Nigeria, only a lot more convenient and comfortable. I can't trade this for anything. In addition, as an introvert who likes to be by herself anyways, it's just a lot more enjoyable.
Nevertheless, there are steps I'm planning to take to change a few things. I am now taking more opportunities to actually go out and buy things even if I don't have to, e.g groceries, clothes, etc. Secondly, I say hello first to strangers and neighbours and get to ask them a few questions. This I wouldn't have done on the first place. Finally, I downloaded a social media application called clubhouse and have been making new friends in my area using this. As a cautious person, I'm taking baby steps here and not jumping straight into friendships I may not like.
Overall, what do I think of being in Canada as an introvert? I enjoy it. My life and choices are a lot better and I find that I have the time to do much more than I was doing back in Nigeria, not hampered by lack of power or resources.
My advice to others is to gauge their expectations carefully as they come to Canada with or without family. It can be lonely here, but that's not because Canada itself is lonely. It's just because you need to dig deep and find yourself in a new country where family is absent and culture is unfamiliar. My kind of life and I am enjoying it. |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Benrosaria(m): 4:27pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
the reason why Nigerians find this loneliness as a disorder, when they get to other countries, is cause they are "gbeborun" by default.
all your introvert story na story for the gods. if you be introvert why you go university, why you go work, why you go church?? instead of trying to know, why not become a better version of yourself by repeatedly doing you 2 Likes |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Amumaigwe: 4:39pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Confusedgirlie: Before I left Canada for Nigeria in 2020, I had heard severally that it was very lonely there for Nigerian immigrants. I didn't quite understand what people meant exactly when they said this. However, over time I now have a very good understanding of this particular challenge with migration. Here are some of the things I've learnt on the way. But first, a little background about me.
I'm an introvert and I like my introversion. It gives me a lot of time to think and to be in my own space which I enjoy a lot. I read, write and love to watch documentaries. Those are the three most important things to me in life. When I lived in Nigeria, I lived a mostly secluded life that didn't have a lot of people in it. Regardless, it wasn't boring to me. I went out when I wanted to and took my time for my own activities.
Since being in Canada, my observations have been that it is a lot lonelier here. The reasons are very obvious: there are not a lot of people around me from a culture I'm familiar with (Nigeria), so it's definitely a lot more difficult to interact with others. That's one key point. Another is that I don't really have to go out to purchase things (even groceries), compared to when I was in Nigeria. I can simply order everything I need while sitting in the comfort of my home. Hence, the temptation is to go this way. In addition, I don't have family around, so I'm mostly by myself. And finally, the few friends I have are often busy, so there's hardly time to get together.
That's about it. I think these are some of the challenges Nigerian immigrants face. But the real question is, do I feel lonely?
The honest answer to that is a No . I find that my life is exactly the same way I lived it in Nigeria, only a lot more convenient and comfortable. I can't trade this for anything. In addition, as an introvert who likes to be by herself anyways, it's just a lot more enjoyable.
Nevertheless, there are steps I'm planning to take to change a few things. I am now taking more opportunities to actually go out and buy things even if I don't have to, e.g groceries, clothes, etc. Secondly, I say hello first to strangers and neighbours and get to ask them a few questions. This I wouldn't have done on the first place. Finally, I downloaded a social media application called clubhouse and have been making new friends in my area using this. As a cautious person, I'm taking baby steps here and not jumping straight into friendships I may not like.
Overall, what do I think of being in Canada as an introvert? I enjoy it. My life and choices are a lot better and I find that I have the time to do much more than I was doing back in Nigeria, not hampered by lack of power or resources.
My advice to others is to gauge their expectations carefully as they come to Canada with or without family. It can be lonely here, but that's not because Canada itself is lonely. It's just because you need to dig deep and find yourself in a new country where family is absent and culture is unfamiliar. You opened a thread lamenting loneliness you feel in Canada and outlined how you plan to ameliorate it and on the same thread denying you are lonely. Dear @Confusedgirlie, your confusion is confusing me. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by cliqtips: 4:46pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
SmartPolician: Loneliness or no loneliness, I am coming to Toronto! Likeee, no one can stop you ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Enemyofpeace: 4:54pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Cutehector: How do you deal with conji. na soapy now |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by chaloskyx: 5:12pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
where in canada are you? |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by HardMirror(m): 5:18pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
ednut1: they are clowns to me. You could not find a man while in Nigeria that had over 100m men. But you expect to find a man in a country where less than 200k 9ja men dey . People are not that crazy about marriage in the western world cos of the divorce laws. They also dont want to do 50:50, They also want religious men in a country where only old people go to church.One of my female friends dey tell me she is looking for a man from anambra that is a catholic too. This is a 32 years old babe o. π€‘π€‘ hahahaha. girls can be so confused. bunch of clowns. youtube is filled with them making videos about why they are tired of living abroad. I dont know what they were expecting. silly girls. That one waiting for Anambra man would find when she is 64 years old. The truth is they just dont understand what they are getting into, most of them are in those countries and dont understand anything about the country. lol 2 Likes |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Adex2442: 5:21pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
highchief1: back then in Nigeria I Dey block road cos traffic just to collect babe number.It was street toasting.Here itβs impossible u canβt even talk to ur Neighbour even though two of u like each other.Everything is on dating app o.u will look very awkward to be talking to anybody one on one.Abroad sweet.U stay in ur house,meet her online?uber her down,una go tidy u Uber her back. So nacking is easier there compared to naija? Won't u have to take her on a date first before tidy? |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by highchief1: 5:45pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Adex2442:
So nacking is easier there compared to naija? Won't u have to take her on a date first before tidy? lol why do u think most Nigerians abroad donβt want to return again even if they are not making it.Women here are very easy.No1 no woman here will give u their number if they are not ready to lash.No2 they are matured and donβt talk plenty talk once they enter ur house.No3 they eat from their house because they know they may not be able to eat Nigerian food or something else u will offer them.Nigerian girls r too hungry once they know they are having a date tomorrow from today they wonβt eat again.A glass of white or red wine here u don tidy.all this pls stop,why are u doing this?is this why u invited me to ur place,itβs our first meeting this is not right.if u touch me again Iβll pick my bag and go.I never hear all those nonsense since I come here.But mind u,the Uber is expensive o.we Dey use 30k to and fro to Uber girl.if her place far u fit pay 50k sef.Nigeria remains cheaper though.cos with 5k then I Dey tidy well. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by LastProphet: 5:49pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
JASONjnr: You're not lonely but you want to change a certain thing by going out to buy things instead of ordering online....
You are deceiving yourself.....
Do you understand that being an introvert is always likened to extreme depression and in most cases, gives you alot of time to masturbae or see lots of pornographics online?
You will not understand this ..... I couldn't stay overseas, even when I thought I was an introvert, I returned to work in my country....
I love it here and this is nothing compare to the racism I face everyday.... You don't know what she's talking about, just a classic black way of summarizing everything into what you understand. She doesn't care about your experience and it's not the same. Is your background the same? Did you attend the same kind of schools growing up? Do you have equal exposure? I play in and attend orchestras does that mean every Nigerian knows what that means? You that even lived abroad before should have known better |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by kingimmade: 5:52pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Princedapace: Congrats.
I love naija and within africa abeg. I love to eat my cultural foods without having to do a lot work abeg. I am not againt anyone traveling. I am just talking about my self. Nigeria has wack govt and crazy masses, I know. Life is short. I can only visit other countries on vacation, I still love to see my family, my mom, my siblings, enjoy the cultural food. I have solar installed, I have power 24/7. I drive my small car fully AC, above all, ladies are so affordable here. U can get a stable side chick for as low as 20k per month and kack as u like. Life is too short to waste it.
Also, I earn online which means I can kinda cope with the naira inflation rate since I dont get paid in naira . I know naija is insecure, so, I mind how I move. I am one hater of Nigeria o. Don't get me wrong. Even if I would relocate, it would be within a more peaceful african country. I just love being around people who look like me more. I no get energy for all that cordination in white man's land. Like I said, this is my own opinion. I work hard to keep improving my dollar income online and enjoy the umu asa as much as I can. Babes cheap for here abeg. Nothing dey this life aside p*ssy and money and hopefully, live healthy if possible. I wish u all the best nne!
They also said Nigeria fit fight war. Oh, well, people in Ukraine never believed they could get into war last year. Well, it happened. The world is not predicable and death can come at anywhere. War may break out even in the least expected country.
Abeg, if ur income is in naira and it is low, japa if u can o ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
We just hope for the best as we live the NOW/ @Princedapace kindly reply my PM |
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Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Memyselfu2009(m): 6:13pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Most people abroad are lonely if you answer there video or what's app calls prepare to talk for like 3 or 4 hours.
@ the author is there any hope I can come join you the loneliness would vanish when I get there 2 Likes |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by samefiok(m): 6:17pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
ednut1: women on those dating apps set height requirements for men to 5 ft 11 and above . The stats are out there πππππ And they cry and cry saying they can't find husbands when their standards are too high, fuckingggggg clowns 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by egopersonified(f): 6:17pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
pyyxxaro: Oyaaa enter GOD IS GOOD MOTORS or BOB IZUA de come back ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) Be like na him village people send you so. |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by flokii: 6:32pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Someone like me will survive in Canada.. I used to be "introverted" at one point but a lot has changed now. Moreover, I'm not the type to rely solely on people for what I need.. I moved out to start my life quite early and I'm happy with how well I'm coping and growing.
No place like home.. the culture aspect and owambes are things one will really miss |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Hassanmaye(m): 6:33pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
JASONjnr: You're not lonely but you want to change a certain thing by going out to buy things instead of ordering online....
You are deceiving yourself.....
Do you understand that being an introvert is always likened to extreme depression and in most cases, gives you alot of time to masturbae or see lots of pornographics online?
You will not understand this ..... I couldn't stay overseas, even when I thought I was an introvert, I returned to work in my country....
I love it here and this is nothing compare to the racism I face everyday.... Racism in which country? |