REALretep:
In addition... you can't keep her and her brother in the dark any longer.
The earlier they understand their situation, the better.
You need to let them know about their biological parents.
It's definitely going to hurt but they definitely need to know.

VoidLife7:

Ladymillion:
This broke my heart, can your mum give out her own 18 year old daughter to a divorcee with 3 kids?

VoidLife7:
seen

God bless you🙏

Latty88:


So sorry about that. Since she is good with sewing, let her work with a fashion house where she will be paid.

Overtime, she can save up, get a machine then go to school. While in school, she can support herself with her skill.

Encourage her to be determined, diligent and avoid distractions too.

amdman:
SOLUTION

I have engaged OP and I am currently working to confirm the veracity of his story. This should be completed by next weekend. Once confirmed, the plan is to do any of the following:

1. Full-ride scholarship (tuition and living expenses) to any public university in Nigeria (including cost of preparing for JAMB etc) - the condition for this is that she must be able to get admission on merit.

2. Alternatively, sponsored training in a structured fashion school in Lagos, including cost of sewing machine, transportation and stipend for one year.

It will be nice to collaborate with @Gaby, @Dawoyo and everyone else that would like to pitch in.

VoidLife7:
Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion designing immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones supporting the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd support her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤

gaby:


Cry no more.

She wants to go to school, she'd definitely go to school.

I'll sponsor her to whatever level she wishes to go to as part of my impacting lives project.
DM me..

Sirchiboy:
.
God bless you sir for this.
Your generation will never lack emen.
Sir I am not asking for financial favour but job to keep body and soul together.
I have been jobless ever since I finished My HND.
I have applied for several jobs but to no avail.
Please kindly assist me with any job.

rickleye:


I could also help - perhaps we can chat to discuss how you would like to proceed.
Will the mother agree to such an arrangement since she is still living under the same roof ?
How much are we looking at to finance her education ?

gaby:
Ooops, I just saw you registered this moniker today for this purpose.

I don't think I have the time to waste here...

The last comment before this actually helped me to go check your profile.

I've been disappointed one too many times trying to assist people here. Never again.

Good luck to you guys.

VoidLife7:
Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion designing immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones supporting the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd support her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤

VoidLife7:
Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion designing immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones supporting the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd support her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤

gaby:


I wished I could right now, bro. So, sorry.

VoidLife7:
She will be 18 by May

litaninja:
At 18, she's an adult and can do whatever she likes, including moving out, getting a job and living her life exactly how she desires.

Justbehave:
Women supporting women by marrying her off. Nice idea.But come ooh. Women on this forum are fucking broke. So non of you could volunteer to help out your fellow woman? You women only talk Cho Cho Cho without any action. Make Una help your fellow woman before her mum marries her off. Make Una no dey wait for a men to come bail Una gender out. Shame on Una.Lol .Where is Jennyclay? She don hide abi? If nah to call men broke she for be the first to comment. Broke Akwunas wey full here.

Justbehave:
Lol. No woman offered to help. Chaii. Shame.I can see you are no longer busy as soon as I mentioned rape. Shameless akwuna busy sucking dick.

Maysdevices:
You dey open mouth wide but yourself broke pass the people wey you dey shade. Before you open your mouth.
Who have you helped here in your life?

Abi you dey try bask in the glory of other men? You no go drop something?

Brownshoe:
e dey burning o,1k wey I put for pocket flash outside 1 woman say make i give her make she transfer for me with charges, hmmm I no say e don reach like that o, people fit robber u if them see cash for ur hand o.

stormborn28:


Why you dey think like Bola Tinubu..kai

Maysdevices:
You are just a big fool. Smelling thing. Wetin you drop? Rapist

If you think say I go reply your smelling mention, Na your papa for house you dey decieve

faithfull18:
Stand your ground, don't let it happen, she can apply to immigration with her WAEC and other places where WAEC is acceptable, while perfecting her sewing skills, then save up after a few years to go back to school.

You don't necessarily need connections for lower cadre, where's your location?

YorobaPIGS:
bro calm down Did you check his posts before attacking?, Cos I don't think he's an urchin

VoidLife7:
I sent you a mail

texazzpete:


Kindly DM me so I’m looped in. I can pitch in something if the story checks out.

Thanks to you and @gaby for following up

VoidLife7:
I will. Thanks for your advice

I live in morogbo, along Badagry expressway