TONYE001:


Certainly not what that means. But doesn't matter, I'd rather not derail the thread. Goodbye.

TheGoodAmerican:
Please do not allow this to happen. Take her away from your mom and find the means to help her further her education to study law or whatever she wants to do with her life. Or if it's to continue working as a tailor in the meantime, help her establish that business. But no-no to her getting married at 18 and definitely not to a 43-year old with 3 kids whose wife left him. The man himself is a sick pig who needs a good beating.

Spherica177:
Must you talk?

An 18 years old girl should be allowed to live outside and live her life the way she desires?

Lol, you think every family allow their girl child in particular to live outside? And if she will live outside not at this tender age. Every family has different ways of raising their kids. When you have your own family, you are free to allow your 18 years old daughter to go live outside and fend for herself. It's your choice. Don't impose your mentality on anyone else

Thank you

REALretep:
Well... it's a matter of choice
Nothing can be hidden forever on earth.

Truth, openness and honesty have their prices.
Lies, secrecy and dishonesty also have their prices.

I rather pay the price for the former than the latter.

gaby:


Sickening.

Just reading your submission and I kept feeling my inner man being spoken to. Your kid sister's dream needs and deserves to be kept alive.

Whatever life has thrown at her was never her bargain and shouldn't be used as an excuse to kill her lofty dreams.

To this effect, I am volunteering to take charge of that kid's educational needs so long as you are able to provide every necessary and confirm able details down to the physicals.

God bless...

gaby:


Sickening.

Just reading your submission and I kept feeling my inner man being spoken to. Your kid sister's dream needs and deserves to be kept alive.

Whatever life has thrown at her was never her bargain and shouldn't be used as an excuse to kill her lofty dreams.

To this effect, I am volunteering to take charge of that kid's educational needs so long as you are able to provide every necessary and confirm able details down to the physicals.


God bless...

sirjamesjnr:
. I already told him that I am ready to also contribute if he can link up with anyone who offers to help and his story isn’t fake.

VoidLife7:
080

Please sir let me have yours too so that i can keep in touch with you for a reminder🙏

VoidLife7:
Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion designing immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones supporting the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd support her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤

VoidLife7:
Lol

It is what her own biological children had attempted several times. She wasn't talking on hear say or assumption. It is how the country is. We know how people get job in the FG when there wasn't any adverts or recruitment from the said agency. She may be old but she understands the system. I am not disputing the fact of making attempt and give it a shot though but she wasn't wrong from her own view. If she was in a saner climes she wouldn't have said that. I can still advice her to try NPA but NDA is a no go area. No point wasting the poor girl time

Thanks for your input

femifezzy:
Humanity!, I'm very much inspired.
my dream one day

@gaby
@sirjamesjnr
@amdman
@dawoyo
@ibilelfe
@keepingmum..... and the rest with such kind gestures, thanks for trying to make the life and dream of the less privileged young girl look beautiful, may you keep progressing in all your endeavors in life.

To all struggling Nigerian out there, Don't Give up, we shall overcome one day!

TheGoodAmerican:
Please do not allow this to happen. Take her away from your mom and find the means to help her further her education to study law or whatever she wants to do with her life. Or if it's to continue working as a tailor in the meantime, help her establish that business. But no-no to her getting married at 18 and definitely not to a 43-year old with 3 kids whose wife left him. The man himself is a sick pig who needs a good beating.

geegee08:
God bless you and everyone here who has offered to support.

If you will coordinate, I will be happy to support once the story is confirmed to be true, to assist this young lady get a chance at a good life. I am willing to support her through University if she is willing to take and pass her UTME, by the mercies of God, seeing as she is quite intelligent and industrious - with what the OP said about her WAEC grades.

OP should tell the Mum that there are some faceless individuals offering to support them; and that the Mum should not jeopardise the child's future by marrying her off to a certainly dark future.

Please dm me once the story is confirmed to be true so we can arrange to videochat with the OP and his sister and take it from there.

I will try to check this space at least twice weekly for updates.

PS: I just saw that some people e.g. @gaby had already proposed educational support - God bless you too. I will be happy to partner with you all. I'm quite busy and no time to read through all the comments so far.

Corolla03dud:
Happy to help out also. OP feel free yo DM. Happy to collaborate with these folks to get her through school 🦾

leisuretym:


Thank you for putting this together, I wanted to ask OP to do it but I was tired ,

I’m pleading on behalf of the girl involved, it’s not nice to have a divorced father of 3 descend on the girl every night like a tiger 🐅, and still have her take care of 3 kids, this will ruin her future, I want to beg you not to change your mind, the op story should be verified first and if true

May God give you the grace to help her .
May God enlarge your coast too.
Thanks for having good mind and being kind to humanity.

Amalekki:

Between the two extremes you painted with those words is another word entrenched in wisdom called DISCRETION.

Using extremes like you just did, think of a land grabbing mob chasing after your father who just ran into your backyard and safely hidden by the poultry house. Would you go ahead with truth, openness, and honesty?

We have cultural differences. Being raised by an extended family as your parents is part of our culture and disclosure is uncalled for, unless absolutely necessary.

sirjamesjnr:
why do I have this feeling that your story is fake? What does it take to get jamb form in any cbt center? I suppose you graduated from secondary school. I can understand about lack of funds (at most 10k)
But saying someone have to help her enlist when you are there and should tell your mom step to fellow. I am out because I never support you to cheat other Nigerian

sirjamesjnr:
If he is able to prove himself then I can also help. We can start by getting jamb form and registering the girl. I also have someone I can call in some tertiary institutions if she is from the North or South south to give her admission. Let him tell us his full name and his place of residence. Let him act ASAP before entry for jamb exam is close. We can go further to open account for the girl so we pay all her school fees at once. The ball is on his court

VoidLife7:
A small girl should end her dream and aspirations in life for a divorcee old enough to be her father. The thought of it alone irritate me seriously. That will not happen while I'm still alive.

Kemabassi:
I dont know what to say but I think she deserve better. Can this forum assist in getting her SAT and TOEFL exam and i will handle her admission and tuition in The USA.

Lets keep praying for God to help her help the entire family.

TheGoodAmerican:

He should be ashamed of himself. Someone 26-years his junior. She's probably close to his children's age, if she's just 17 right now, meaning she's young enough to be his child. Shame, shame on him. Chase him away the next time he comes there, or better yet, call the police on him. I hope you can update us/me on how she's doing and whatever you've decided as per her education.

Corolla03dud:


I hope you feel this same way when you are rejected from a job you can do because of age. There no shame in marrying someone younger. It’s not an indication of bad character.

Yes, the situation is not what the girl wants, i hope she can get out of it, but e no mean say the man na wicked man. So far, we no nothing of the man except his age.

gaby:


Sickening.

Just reading your submission and I kept feeling my inner man being spoken to. Your kid sister's dream needs and deserves to be kept alive.

Whatever life has thrown at her was never her bargain and shouldn't be used as an excuse to kill her lofty dreams.

To this effect, I am volunteering to take charge of that kid's educational needs so long as you can provide every necessary and confirmable detail down to the physicals.

God bless...

sirjamesjnr:
. Good morning, is the story real?
How do we proceed to help?
Can someone volunteer on our behaved of us and open an account for the girl maybe a student account in any First bank branch?
I like we sort out this issue once.
Sending money to that guy is not a guarantee that the girl will obtain an education. We can achieve this, please, thanks.