Spherica177:
This is a brilliant idea but why don't you consider Op for this offer? He is a brother to this young girl and he has been supportive with his meagre 30k job. I believe if things get better for him, he will help the family obviously

Some individuals are willing to help the young girl through school in Nigeria and also help her get sewing machine

I think you should consider helping the elder brother who already has a degree. It will turn out a success and positively change the family condition at large

Cheers.

A brilliant and very mature advice if all checks out.

gaby:


We are still waiting for amdman to revert on his findings.

. Okay my brother, thanks please let me know when the story click.

sirjamesjnr:
. Okay my brother, thanks please let me know when the story click.

Sure, sir.

ozome15:
Brother I totally understand your feelings, I was once in such situation year back. See what you will do. First on your own go to your church priest if you are a Catholic and narrate the issue to him, then tell him to invite your mum to have one on one talk in his office. Making her understand the implication of what her actions may result. 18yr she has not know the right from the left in life. Not to talk of marriage, to a 46yr divorcee. That was how I handled my own. And in turn the priest gave her scholarship to USA to do industrial chemistry.

I believe God will take control of everything. I'm glad she hasn't told the poor girl anything pertaining to that. She knows the girl may run out of the house, which obviously she's trying to avoid. I'm happy for your sister and i wish her all the very best🙏

I will stop here, so I don’t derail this thread. You have made some important points. 


“Keep quiet there.” - Insult. Typical of vulgar people who can’t hold a simple conversation

“Who know if he's abusive or has other issues no one knows about?” - Assumption 


“his own sick fantasy” - assumption


“mother will be somewhere living the single life and might re-marry another man who has no kids for her to look after,” - assumption



“this 17-yo girl will be stuck being a stepmom to her three kids” - Assumption.


“With all these discrepancies, you're telling me this would be an okay situation for this girl to go into? “ - I already answered this - Yes, the situation is not what the girl wants, i hope she can get out of it, - if you read my original message.


“you're probably a pervert “ - Insult. Typical of level 2 vulgar people.


This is not about the man, even OP did not cast aspersions on man’s character.

We do not have any information to castigate the man, just because he is 43.

Ask your dad, he also wants a younger wife.



If e pain you, help the girl out, that’s out focus.



The end.

TheGoodAmerican:
Keep quiet there.

She is 17-years old and is just about to get her life started. He's 43.

He has 3-kids. She has none and is most likely still a virgin.

His wife abandoned him with those 3-kids. Who know if he's abusive or has other issues no one knows about? Worse, this girl should go ahead and marry him, abandon her own dreams in order to fulfill his own sick fantasy, and be a stepmother to another woman's kids? Let's not forget that the mother will be somewhere living the single life and might re-marry another man who has no kids for her to look after, meanwhile this 17-yo girl will be stuck being a stepmom to her three kids.

With all these discrepancies, you're telling me this would be an okay situation for this girl to go into? If you see nothing wrong with that or all of the above, then you're probably a pervert yourself and ought to be locked up. Rubbish.

Thanks and God bless all that have offered to assist the girl and have helped

UPDATE

My lawyer was at OP's house today and was able to confirm that OP is genuine.

For privacy reasons, I am not able to disclose more information about OP's circumstances, but we will be proceeding with supporting the young girl moving forward. Her dream is to be a lawyer and I am believing that God will make that dream come true.

I will be engaging all those that have volunteered to help and will setup a WhatsApp group to coordinate our support. You can PM me if you want to join our collective effort.

@gaby
@dawoyo
@keepingmum
@crenzywilliams
@ibilelfe
@sirjamesjnr
@texazzpete
@rickleye
@iykenuwa
@geegee08
@kemabassi
@yakson123

@dawoyo
@keepingmum
@crenzywilliams
@ibilelfe
@texazzpete
@rickleye
@iykenuwa
@geegee08
@kemabassi
@yakson123

Please PM me as NL is not allowing me send more PMs

amdman:
UPDATE

My lawyer was at OP's house today and was able to confirm that OP is genuine.

For privacy reasons, I am not able to disclose more information about OP's circumstances, but we will be proceeding with supporting the young girl moving forward. Her dream is to be a lawyer and I am believing that God will make that dream come true.

I will be engaging all those that have volunteered to help and will setup a WhatsApp group to coordinate our support. You can PM me if you want to join our collective effort.

@gaby
@dawoyo
@keepingmum
@crenzywilliams
@ibilelfe
@sirjamesjnr
@texazzpete
@rickleye
@iykenuwa
@geegee08
@kemabassi
@yakson123

People are truly suffering in this country.

Sir i will suggest the mother also should be supported with start up capital. At least she can support herself with the other young ones. The girl is part of the family and anything affecting the family will affect her. @Kemabassi was willing to process her admission and see her through school in the USA. Why not consider the Op instead with this offer while the young girl continue her education in Nigeria. I believe the goal shouldn't be the girl only. The girl may be the subject matter but the condition of the family affects her directly or indirectly resulting to her being the subject matter.

I feel that family should be liberated so that they can also help other true and genuine people out there in the nearest future.

I think someone suggested this also and @gaby was impressed with the suggestion

Btw, jamb form is on and i think it will close this week. The girl should put in for it.

God bless you sir @amdman and every other persons who has shown interest in helping this family. Y'all will be rewarded for this in life. Your children will be rewarded for this. Your generation shall be rewarded for this. You all generation will continue to prosper.

Cheers.

amdman:
UPDATE

My lawyer was at OP's house today and was able to confirm that OP is genuine.

For privacy reasons, I am not able to disclose more information about OP's circumstances, but we will be proceeding with supporting the young girl moving forward. Her dream is to be a lawyer and I am believing that God will make that dream come true.

I will be engaging all those that have volunteered to help and will setup a WhatsApp group to coordinate our support. You can PM me if you want to join our collective effort.

@gaby
@dawoyo
@keepingmum
@crenzywilliams
@ibilelfe
@sirjamesjnr
@texazzpete
@rickleye
@iykenuwa
@geegee08
@kemabassi
@yakson123

Well done boss.

This heart of kindness is a true reflection of Nigeria.... Faceless forum but giving hope and life to families..... I read from beginning till the end. Weldon op and everyone who is helping out in their ways .....

I think the thread can be updated so more people can support. This is laudable @seun,no amount of money can give this kind of satisfaction.....

How do we go about it? I propose setting up a student account in the girl's name. We can use the first bank so that the money can be used exclusively for the education of girls. One of us can make plans with the family and go to the bank with them to open an account into which we can deposit donations. I can be reach through this email.: danwattemm@gmail.com

gaby:


Sickening.

Just reading your submission and I kept feeling my inner man being spoken to. Your kid sister's dream needs and deserves to be kept alive.

Whatever life has thrown at her was never her bargain and shouldn't be used as an excuse to kill her lofty dreams.

To this effect, I am volunteering to take charge of that kid's educational needs so long as you are able to provide every necessary and confirm able details down to the physicals.

God bless...

God bless you for doing this. Please help the young girl and her family

dawoyo:


I intend to first and foremost get her a sewing machine and then think of something for both her and the mother.

I’ll wait for @amdman’s checks and for those willing to assist, we can collabo so that it’ll be more effective.

please sir in any decision you take don't let her abandoned her fashion design skills please. Let her get the sewing machines. Thank God she can sew. That can fetch her some little money while in school

Her mother too should have a business running to support the family. I love your decision

I can also suggest that Op should be assisted too. He is a good brother to the girl and her siblings, supporting the family with his little income.

God bless you sir

i feel sorry for the little girl, since she is very interested to study i will advice you to apply for Indian scholarship, i know peope that got it and its totally free, if they accept her you can come back with evidence of the admission and visa then we can contribute for her flight ticket online, because that is the only bulk money she will spend. if you are interested join this whatsapp group with link https:///LOZHKDyHXO3DaYnYvUlyA3 or search online for the indian government scholarship

VoidLife7:
Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion designing immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones supporting the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd support her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤

It's admirable that you want to keep your family together and support your sister's dreams and aspirations. It's clear that your family has gone through a lot and your parents have taken on a lot of responsibility to care for their siblings' children.

However, it's not fair to your sister to give her away in marriage just because of financial difficulties. Your sister has shown academic prowess and has also shown interest in fashion designing. It's important to support her dreams and aspirations, even if it means taking on more financial responsibility.

You mentioned that your sister has suggested joining the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service to pursue her career and education. This is a great suggestion, and it's important to explore all options before making any decisions.

It's important to have a conversation with your mother and explain how giving your sister away in marriage is not a solution to the financial challenges your family is facing. Explain how it will impact your sister's life and future. You can also explore other options, such as seeking financial assistance or loans to support your sister's education and career goals.

It's also important to seek outside help, such as counseling, to navigate these challenging family dynamics. You can reach out to organizations or agencies that offer support for families in difficult situations.

Ultimately, it's important to prioritize your sister's education and career goals, while also supporting your family as a whole. It's a challenging situation, but with open communication, support, and outside help, you can work towards a solution that benefits everyone.

ahia4sale:
i feel sorry for the little girl, since she is very interested to study i will advice you to apply for Indian scholarship, i know peope that got it and its totally free, if they accept her you can come back with evidence of the admission and visa then we can contribute for her flight ticket online, because that is the only bulk money she will spend. if you are interested join this whatsapp group with link https:///LOZHKDyHXO3DaYnYvUlyA3 or search online for the indian government scholarship

Thank you so much sir.

Please

geegee08:


I am about to log out. My suggestion is that priority one will be to get her to enrol for JAMB / UTME asap, taking advantage of the extension - who knows if it was done for her?

She can continue to improve on her sewing skills acquisition while in school, to expand her options in life, as long as it won't disturb her studies.

I am currently out and will not want to be known but can arrange for funds transfer for her JAMB registration once your story is confirmed.

The story has been confirmed to be real

please help her put in for JAMB. It will close in two or three days time.

sirjamesjnr:
How do we go about it? I propose setting up a student account in the girl's name. We can use the first bank so that the money can be used exclusively for the education of girls. One of us can make plans with the family and go to the bank with them to open an account into which we can deposit donations. I can be reach through this email.: danwattemm@gmail.com

This is a brilliant idea. The girl should open an account while she gets the money needed throughout her studentship (tuition fees, accommodation, feeding, texboooks, handout and other miscellaneous)

A business for her mother too is good.

God will surely reward everyone involved in helping this poor girl and her family

Amen.

Op should setup a whatsapp group so we can start the process. I have other options to get her here but School will be her best bet. Lets stop talking but start doing something now.

Kemabassi:
Op should setup a whatsapp group so we can start the process. I have other options to get her here but School will be her best bet. Lets stop talking but start doing something now.

Please consider Op for this offer instead. I believe he has a degree already, it should be easier to bring him over. The young girl can have her first degree education in Nigeria with collective support. I believe by the time she's through with her law school and service, things will be okay for his brother. He can even bring her over or his younger brother. Please look into this. Although, it's just an advice. If I'm in your shoe and i truly want to help, i will consider the Op coming over while the girl study in Nigeria for her law degree. Op seems to be a good person who carries his family along even in difficult times. Such kind of person should be assisted to the top. He has a good family orientation

@Corolla03dud
@gaby
@dawoyo
@keepingmum
@crenzywilliams
@ibilelfe
@sirjamesjnr
@texazzpete
@rickleye
@iykenuwa
@geegee08
@kemabassi
@yakson123

Y'all should look into this please

God bless everyone of you for doing this. At least a family can be liberated from the shackle of hardship.

Kemabassi:
Op should setup a whatsapp group so we can start the process. I have other options to get her here but School will be her best bet. Lets stop talking but start doing something now.

I think @amdman has done that. He said he'd setup a WhatsApp group to coordinate it. Maybe you should get in touch with him.

Thanks.

Kemabassi:
Op should setup a whatsapp group so we can start the process. I have other options to get her here but School will be her best bet. Lets stop talking but start doing something now.

PM me or send me a message on WhatsApp - number on signature

Kemabassi:
Op should setup a whatsapp group so we can start the process. I have other options to get her here but School will be her best bet. Lets stop talking but start doing something now.

amdman has set up a WhatsApp group already on how to help the girl and her family. I think you should reach out to him to be added to the group.

I will suggest Op should update the thread since he was found genuine and real. In that way, other persons interested in helping or to support the girl and her family can turn up

@amdman
@Corolla03dud
@gaby
@dawoyo
@keepingmum
@crenzywilliams
@ibilelfe
@sirjamesjnr
@texazzpete
@rickleye
@iykenuwa
@geegee08
@kemabassi
@yakson123

So painful.

I pray all works out well for her

An update:

There's a Whatsapp group, created by amdman to support the girl and her dreams. If you would like to be part of this project please reach out to amdman so that you can be added to the group. Her results are amazing.

I would also like to encourage anyone who might be willing to support the family, especially the widowed mother to start a small-scale business. It could be a supply business, wholesale/retail. The family reside in the Agbara Lagos state axis.

Finally, if you have a fashion house around Agbara axis and would be willing to chip in to support this young female by helping to improve her fashion skills: please and please reach out to amdman to support practically. Your help doesnt have to be via physical cash.

Crenzywilliams:
Please check you mail.
Send me a massage and let's discuss.
Thanks.

please i just sent you a mail.

Thanks.

sirjamesjnr:
How do we go about it? I propose setting up a student account in the girl's name. We can use the first bank so that the money can be used exclusively for the education of girls. One of us can make plans with the family and go to the bank with them to open an account into which we can deposit donations. I can be reach through this email.: danwattemm@gmail.com

This is a very brilliant idea. The girl should open a bank account while money for her education deposited into the account. She should also get sewing machine to improve on her fashion skills, it is also important as well her education.

@amdman please take note of this.

Kemabassi:
Op should setup a whatsapp group so we can start the process. I have other options to get her here but School will be her best bet. Lets stop talking but start doing something now.

Please reach out to amdman. A WhatsApp group has been set up to this effect. Thank you.

Iykenuwa:



Resist that evil decision,

Let her use one year to prepare for JAMB, teach her what you can since you're a teacher.


I will buy the form, if she passes well enough to enter a federal University, I'll pay the fees.

Hello

I sent you a mail sir.

VoidLife7:
Hello

I sent you a mail sir.

I'm in the WG already.