I never realised that alcohol can be this enjoyable, all my life I’ve always detested ppl that drink, whenever the topic comes up I always remember a certain wealthy man when I was younger, even with all his wealth he would drink himself to stupor every night and vomit, his driver would have to carry him, it was a very bad experience as neighbours to witness those nights especially as a young boy. So I concluded that drinking is unacceptable and I grew up with that ideology, not until recently I’ve started having a rethink.

For sometime now, especially couple of weeks ago leading to last Saturday’s election, I’ve been having a difficult time, I feel like I’m drowning sometimes, maybe it’s midlife’s crisis I don’t know, I don’t know how that feels but what I know is that I was gifted a bottle of expensive vodka last week and I accepted knowing fully well what I was getting into, I knew I was going to step into another phase in my life, I could have sold the drink but no, I kept it.

Like I said already, it’s been rough with me lately, the current cash crunch in the country isn’t helping, the last strew came when last Saturday’s election was announced by 4am, I was awake watching, it struck me like a bolt of lighting, I felt speechless physically but this deep hurt like my soul was groaning. Fast forward to date, I’ve consumed a couple of bottles like bloody mary, VSOP and other spirits which I mix in chilled soft drinks. I so much enjoy this new habit, I can never drink to stupor, I just lock up myself in my lounge, play some music and sip away or lock myself in my car at night and sip with music, I stop when I start feeling a bit sleepy, I just sleep quietly and peacefully. My wife just smells the stuff on me but hasn’t said anything, as I still talk reasonably and even engage her with more humor in those hours, I’ve also noticed that the house is stress-free, no arguments or hard conversations when I consume too.

Here’s my problem guys, deep inside me I know I’m doing something wrong, which is why I’m posting this anyway, even though I feel peaceful when I consume. I wasn’t raised this way, my father was never an alcohol person. I feel something is wrong and somehow I feel like I’m drowning and need help (laughs). I don’t know if this will get worse overtime or if I might be tempted to do more than this in future. I know I can never do drugs, smoke etc but this highness things is eating me, I just finished the last bottle of Strumbras spirit now which I shared with a visitor, I now think it’s even more pleasurable sharing a drink with someone. I’ve ran out of bottles now and I’m considering restocking but I’m led by the spirit to post this, I don’t want preaching, I just want to read other ppl’s comment and experience and how they navigated this phase of life (midlife crisis), preferably elders in the house if any, if you’re 40 and below and have no useful contribution pls don’t comment. I need this to get to FP. Thanks.

Never exceed the limit of alcohol

not more than 2 standard drinks per day (and not more than 14 standard drinks per week).

Don't drink in the morning

When it comes to alcohol. It's YOU vs YOU.

STOP TRYNA IMPRESS.

2 BOTTLES ON A SITTING. THATS REASONABLE.

Even is u fit finish 1 crate. Remember its you vs you.

What are you capping? Alcohol brings out the real person in you. Yes, don't abuse it ofcourse. But there's nothing wrong with drinking. I'm currently on my 9th bottle of trophy and you see I'm still very functional. So long as you have handled every financial need in your home, then please enjoy your liquor. Don't allow anyone guilt trip you.

Mid-life crisis without a mention of age or children, is that one a mid-life crisis? Welcome to Nairaland where people born in 2011 can claim 50 years of age.

meobizy:
Mid-life crisis without a mention of age or children, is that one a mid-life crisis? Welcome to Nairaland where people born in 2011 can claim 50 years of age.

Do u know how stupid u sound? From your narrow thinking, my son will probably be your age mate, at least do a simple google search on the subject and understand the concept, whoever said you must have kids or be married to have midlife crisis. Must age be mentioned b4 u use your brain if u’ve one to know that it happens to most middle age adults.

From ur profile, u’ve spent 9months of ur life on NL, true indication that u’r either a child with a phone or a jobless youth with no real life responsibilities and making no effort to be profitably engaged, keep wasting ur life here typing and straining ur eyes day and night, by the time u clock 50 and above body go tell u.

Send me a dm or even drop your WhatsApp number so you can see who you’re engaging on video call. I don’t blame your father.

Op said 40 and below should not comment, but na under-20 dey comment pass. Smh

gard9ner:



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Using alcohol to alleviate some of your feelings, such as anxiety and frustration, will not help you in the long run. Some people get burnt during this stage of life, some emerge stronger and richer/bigger.
1. Identify the the things that you are worried about.
2. Find a confidant to share. It could be a spouse, or a close friend
3. Try to learn a new skill or craft.
4. Get busy with something that is not part of your daily routine. If you like cooking, learn new recipes. If you are in tech, learn new programming language or any tech skills.
5. If you have kids, play more with them. Set out time to be the one responsible for them. This will engage you a lot.

Alcohol can come at night before bedtime. But let it be limited. Too much Alcohol does not only impair your response time, it opens a hole in your pocket. If you're going through a financial crisis, downing expensive brands of liquor is like pouring gasoline on fire.

My brother will always say...

All very na this Alcohol dey make my troubles look small😄😄

Don't drink so much that you start embarrassing yourself and your family.

I believe you understand now

gard9ner:
I never realised that alcohol can be this enjoyable, all my life I’ve always detested ppl that drink, whenever the topic comes up I always remember a certain wealthy man when I was younger, even with all his wealth he would drink himself to stupor every night and vomit, his driver would have to carry him, it was a very bad experience as neighbours to witness those nights especially as a young boy. So I concluded that drinking is unacceptable and I grew up with that ideology, not until recently I’ve started having a rethink.

For sometime now, especially couple of weeks ago leading to last Saturday’s election, I’ve been having a difficult time, I feel like I’m drowning sometimes, maybe it’s midlife’s crisis I don’t know, I don’t know how that feels but what I know is that I was gifted a bottle of expensive vodka last week and I accepted knowing fully well what I was getting into, I knew I was going to step into another phase in my life, I could have sold the drink but no, I kept it.

Like I said already, it’s been rough with me lately, the current cash crunch in the country isn’t helping, the last strew came when last Saturday’s election was announced by 4am, I was awake watching, it struck me like a bolt of lighting, I felt speechless physically but this deep hurt like my soul was groaning. Fast forward to date, I’ve consumed a couple of bottles like bloody mary, VSOP and other spirits which I mix in chilled soft drinks. I so much enjoy this new habit, I can never drink to stupor, I just lock up myself in my lounge, play some music and sip away or lock myself in my car at night and sip with music, I stop when I start feeling a bit sleepy, I just sleep quietly and peacefully. My wife just smells the stuff on me but hasn’t said anything, as I still talk reasonably and even engage her with more humor in those hours, I’ve also noticed that the house is stress-free, no arguments or hard conversations when I consume too.

Here’s my problem guys, deep inside me I know I’m doing something wrong, which is why I’m posting this anyway, even though I feel peaceful when I consume. I wasn’t raised this way, my father was never an alcohol person. I feel something is wrong and somehow I feel like I’m drowning and need help (laughs). I don’t know if this will get worse overtime or if I might be tempted to do more than this in future. I know I can never do drugs, smoke etc but this highness things is eating me, I just finished the last bottle of Strumbras spirit now which I shared with a visitor, I now think it’s even more pleasurable sharing a drink with someone. I’ve ran out of bottles now and I’m considering restocking but I’m led by the spirit to post this, I don’t want preaching, I just want to read other ppl’s comment and experience and how they navigated this phase of life (midlife crisis), preferably elders in the house if any, if you’re 40 and below and have no useful contribution pls don’t comment. I need this to get to FP. Thanks.

quickly join alcohol anomaly group

Quite funny
I never drag wine except socially until about 4 years ago when I started drinking a glass almost every night to help me sleep. I am able to stop and haven’t had a drink in 2 weeks.
Moderation is key.

Meobizy don collect😁😁😁
Everytime na to talk rubbish. Shebi your body don come down now. Ode.

If I drink 1 and half bottle of beer, I become drunk automatically and experience a very throbbing headache. I don't know how u guys finish 4 or 5 bottles of beer. Una dey try

Two months of non drinking alcohol since I took a break Dec 31, 2022. I notice regular headache as stop ,the mouth ulcers no more and I don't feel one side of my stomach itching again, I may consider a longer break. Reason for taking the break was constant headaches for almost 3 months while alabukun and Panadol extra as turn to my daily medicine , itching beside the stomach and mouth ulcers but I don't feel them anymore. It's difficult stopping because last month, I had different symptoms just for taking the break alone and still end up getting injection from the doctor due to fever and some medication from doctor

U are a Nigerian, u should know it one of the setbacks in ur bid to halt taking of alcohol.

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You could find an AA program near you. Especially if you live in Lagos.
It's the same with people who smoke weed. Same feeling, different type of highness.
We just want to getaway

You could start with tolerance break too. Maybe once a week or two weeks.

Or you could just decide to quit on your own and fight the urge till you conquer.

Ok

You go dey alright...

Hmm

So because Obi didn't win you want to turn to an alcoholic. Hope you are well-loaded and can afford to travel out to treat alcohol-induced sicknesses because Nigerian hospitals are death camps.

DRINK RESPONSIBLY.

God gave us soft drink to change the things we can, and alcohol to accept those that we cannot.

SAPA reset needed.

Na Midnight crisis remain

Midlife crisis is for people well above 40, also, alcohol drinking costs outweighs any enjoyment you may experience now. A word is enough.

Start taking bobo instead