You didn't overreact. However I think you spoke to the neighbour in a condescending manner which irritated him. Speaking to him was not the issue, it was how you did it. This does not in any excuse him going to get your fiancé's phone number just because he knocked once and she didn't open.

The stupid person in all of this was the gatekeeper who gave away another person's number without first asking for her permission. I would be furious too. Why would someone give out a number because of a meeting? The gatekeeper should have called your fiancé on the phone informing her about the issue on ground. Better still, wait until she is going out to do so.

If the said neighbour didn't want more than a meeting, why go about collecting people's phone numbers when you can easily bump into them? My guy, protect your fiancé o. Don't let a randy guy who has no idea how much you have invested into this relationship try his madness on your treasure o.

For those of you saying OP is jealous or insecure, I am sure you folks think great relationship is fluke.

Your neighbor did the right thing by calling for a meeting as how to reposition the gen , baba come para make them no tamper with em 9ja property . I see what you did there sir. Nice 1👍

Yes you did, reasonable tenants do not need to wait for landlord to make where they live habitable. What if you were the one occupying his apartment and having the noise and health concerns.

You and your babe get small wahala for hand plus not be everyone wan toast your babe.

He said fantastic twice probably surprised then thought a man could be easier to talk to but you were laughing inside.......for what

LandMann:
Op is very insecure and I can assure you Op that that girl has someone she is frolicking with while you're away in the UK.

All these unwarranted reporting of little issue is to deflect your attention from her cheating ways and even make you trust her.

And I'm sure you didn't sound polite or cool while speaking with the dude, hence his reaction. In the UK where you are I'm sure there's serious regulation against noise pollution. But how you forget that easily and call someone in Nigeria to insinuate that the person should keep suffering from noise pollution in silence beats my imagination.

Again, you called out of jealousy. [b]Him don help your lousy fiancee park ca[/b]r.. . Next thing na to collect her number and schedule when he can come mark her register... Same register one or several other dudes are already marking steadily while you're in the UK.

I pity you bro.

This is the problem with majority of us Nigerians, generalizing promiscuity, disloyalty and unfaithfulness, who told you we dont have faithful and loyal ladies/girls/women in our society, na people like una nor dey make some of the loyal and faithful ones get hope as una don use mouth carry them join the bad eggs. FYI, i luckily fell into the carry of someone dating a loyal and faithful person so park well oga,.


Read well make u nor dey talk gbaugbau, he intended parking for her, but didnt...all am saying is the guy have been showing kindess from the onset.

mastermaestro:
You didn't overreact. However I think you spoke to the neighbour in a condescending manner which irritated him. Speaking to him was not the issue, it was how you did it. This does not in any excuse him going to get your fiancé's phone number just because he knocked once and she didn't open.

The stupid person in all of this was the gatekeeper who gave away another person's number without first asking for her permission. I would be furious too. Why would someone give out a number because of a meeting? The gatekeeper should have called your fiancé on the phone informing her about the issue on ground. Better still, wait until she is going out to do so.

If the said neighbour didn't want more than a meeting, why go about collecting people's phone numbers when you can easily bump into them? My guy, protect your fiancé o. Don't let a randy guy who has no idea how much you have invested into this relationship try his madness on your treasure o.

For those of you saying OP is jealous or insecure, I am sure you folks think great relationship is fluke.

Swears bro, based on experience, I didnt speak to the guy with a harsh tone, neither did i use a condescending manner to speak with him. I polityely introduced myself, even when I said this is her fiance, the tone of which he replied FANTASTIC FANTASTIC, i be guy na, i deduced that he was trying to tell me PELE, I DUN HEAR, EHN NA U DEY RUN AM kind of response. I know what am talking about, I trust my woman so i have no reason to be insecure or jealous, my move was to channel his aim towards another side which was the lanlady or care take, and for someone yet to be well known going to knock at my door, just didnt fly well with me. Funny enough, he does bump into her on several ocassions whether shes going out or going out to the gate to empty thrash, why not exercise that opportunity to bump into her and discuss the meeting plan. Me i know wetin i dey talk about, i know peeps just dont understand where am coming from.

esthel:
Yes you did, reasonable tenants do not need to wait for landlord to make where they live habitable. What if you were the one occupying his apartment and having the noise and health concerns.

You and your babe get small wahala for hand plus not be everyone wan toast your babe.

He said fantastic twice probably surprised then thought a man could be easier to talk to but you were laughing inside.......for what

Mind you, someone could say I love you, but the tone of their voice will easily translate to you that they meant the opposite. The tone he used, as a man, not being overthoughtful, I know wetin he mean and how he was trying to pass across the meaning to me.

Lol, a neighbour knocking on our door doesn't translate into them entering your apartment. Whatever needs to be discussed can be done outside the door.

Well, we didn't hear the conversation so can't judge correctly as we hear differently. I could hear 'insecure' etc. and someone else would hear something else.

If your fiance feels the neighbor is sending Inappropriate signals, she is a lady and we know how to handle these things without being disrespectful.

She is the one who lives in the house, allow her handle it like the woman of the house as long as you don't have trust issues.

There's a gateman and other tenants so it's not like they are the only two in the house. OP, be calming down oh.

@Op I understand your fear from your write up you seems not too sure of your woman . I think trust issues is the problem you have and you are scared the man will snatch her away from you.nah your type go dey abroad dey call him woman 20 times in a day. Dude calm down you dont know insensitive it can be staying close to a generator with that weird sound wen you needed your peace. Your woman fit like the guy still dey yarn bobo give you for phone fear women! Let her deal with the issue herself!

so far, he sent me an sms apologizing, i replied with an apology also. The meeting took place, and what i suspected was what happened. He gave clear orders that generators will be put off by 1AM, he also talked about parking....saying the people at the front will take the right hand side, while people at the back will take the left hand side. What effrontery does a tenant have to give orders, telling my fiancé that she has no choice but to abide by the agreed rules amongst the rest of the 5 of them. Anyways i reached out to the care taker, she said she already heard d story, that first off, the wife was the one that came to inquire for the apt and claimed she was only going to be living there with her children due to the proximity of her work place, that though it doesn't deter the husband from staying there, but for him to be laying down rules is a no no, and what surprised me was that they were told when they came to check the property that since the only flat left is the one at the ground floor that the possibility of generator making things uncomfortable is likely high, asking if the wife still wanted it, she agreed, and now they paid and thereafter still complaining and making rules. If someone can go as far as this, I think yall should know that the dude is arrogant naturally and I never in no way sounded rash or harsh or spoke to him in a condescending tone.

Hmmm you were supposed to be the chief tenants as the first person to occupy that house and he has taken that position from you and still dishing out rules. My pain is that he is now the chief tenants instead of you how do you feel?

rbass144:
so far, he sent me an sms apologizing, i replied with an apology also. The meeting took place, and what i suspected was what happened. He gave clear orders that generators will be put off by 1AM, he also talked about parking....saying the people at the front will take the right hand side, while people at the back will take the left hand side. What effrontery does a tenant have to give orders, telling my fiancé that she has no choice but to abide by the agreed rules amongst the rest of the 5 of them. Anyways i reached out to the care taker, she said she already heard d story, that first off, the wife was the one that came to inquire for the apt and claimed she was only going to be living there with her children due to the proximity of her work place, that though it doesn't deter the husband from staying there, but for him to be laying down rules is a no no, and what surprised me was that they were told when they came to check the property that since the only flat left is the one at the ground floor that the possibility of generator making things uncomfortable is likely high, asking if the wife still wanted it, she agreed, and now they paid and thereafter still complaining and making rules. If someone can go as far as this, I think yall should know that the dude is arrogant naturally and I never in no way sounded rash or harsh or spoke to him in a condescending tone.

DaddyCoool:


Summary:
OP is in UK and a male neighbor went to knock on his wife's door in Nigeria. When she didn't answer he got her number from security. OP called the man from UK to stop knocking on his door. The man got angry.
OP wants to know if he overreacted

He never marry the Gel oo

Meandmycrew:
Hmmm you were supposed to be the chief tenants as the first person to occupy that house and he has taken that position from you and still dishing out rules. My pain is that he is now the chief tenants instead of you how do you feel?

Them nor born him papa well, caretaker dun put am for him place sey he nor get right to dey dish out rules to tenant. He dun calm now dey beg sey how we go take run am for am. I tell am sey i go get back when i can. However i never thought of having to be the chief tenant, wetin that one mean sef. u dey whine me?

Almaigaa:


He never marry the Gel oo

He uses both. See below

Op didn't do anything wrong. If the co tenant has any issues concerning his apartment he should inform the lawyer in charge or caretaker as the case may be.
Even if OP the protect him wife, nothing bad to protect your territory and property way you value . Na because him be man that is why he has already dictated whatever yeye idea that co tenant the harbour for mind. The co tenant sef na woman in man body. Gossiping like a petty woman. Shameful

If not that this op is stupid.....even if you don't trust your fiancee and presumed that the unknown co-tenant act is fishy...........at least when you hear meeting and the agenda of the meeting....... supposed to have redirected your thought and the preconceived ideas about the whole issue......life is not about your inconsiderate self alone.


The generator noise is a very big issue.and a legitimate concern.....he is paying equal rent just like you......he deserves, privacy, sound sleeps, rest of mind and environment free of generator fume.

You are human and should have respect for other human......the meeting is supposed to be a fruitful one even without the involvement of the landlord/caretaker.


I believe none of the tenants will agree to be doing sleepless nights while other tenants are snoring, watching late night movies etc.........it a common sense.

kazyhm:
If not that this op is stupid.....even if you don't trust your fiancee and presumed that the unknown co-tenant act is fishy...........at least when you hear meeting and the agenda of the meeting....... supposed to have redirected your thought and the preconceived ideas about the whole issue......life is not about your inconsiderate self alone.


The generator noise is a very big issue.and a legitimate concern.....he is paying equal rent just like you......he deserves, privacy, sound sleeps, rest of mind and environment free of generator fume.

You are human and should have respect for other human......the meeting is supposed to be a fruitful one even without the involvement of the landlord/caretaker.


I believe none of the tenants will agree to be doing sleepless nights while other tenants are snoring, watching late night movies etc.........it a common sense.

They were informed about the location of the gen and the possibility of noise, they still went ahead to secure property. Fine you want tenants to work things out, but you ended up issuing executive orders instead of subtly reaching out and have a man to man talk which can lead to a mutual resolution. Is that you are daft or you lack comprehension to understand my write up, abi na naira wey nor dey ur hand dey frustate you?

You overreacted to be honest.

Is your wife a small pikin that cannot handle interaction with other adults?

Also from the sound of it all, you come across as petty, talkative, and insecure.

rbass144:


They were informed about the location of the gen and the possibility of noise, they still went ahead to secure property. Fine you want tenants to work things out, but you ended up issuing executive orders instead of subtly reaching out and have a man to man talk which can lead to a mutual resolution. Is that you are daft or you lack comprehension to understand my write up, abi na naira wey nor dey ur hand dey frustate you?

Being daft is when someone have low logical reasoning.

His opinion appeared to be an order to you for mischievous reasons but then you added executive to it.........that says volume about your person.

There are many factors people considered before paying for an apartment, generator's location is the least of it ?

Even if they were told....I believe that in their own understand; never thought they will share apartment with a bunch of unreasonable human.......

In fact, your emphasis on how he got your fiancee's contact and your narrative perspective about the knocking on her apartment door and given little detail on the main issues.....make the whole talk childish...(you warned the gateman, warned a co-tenant).....just to preserve a pvssy.........the funny aspect is that; you are an absentee fiance....your fiancee will definitely need help here and there.........but your self-centeredness will eventually deprive her of the help she would need.

On a final note, I will like to encourage you to brave for impact....because she will definitely be fvcked........and she will always skip that yosh Yash in her gist with you.

kazyhm:


Being daft is when someone have low logical reasoning.

His opinion appeared to be an order to you for mischievous reasons but then you added executive to it.........that says volume about your person.

There are many factors people considered before paying for an apartment, generator's location is the least of it ?

Even if they were told....I believe that in their own understand; never thought they will share apartment with a bunch of unreasonable human.......

In fact, your emphasis on how he got your fiancee's contact and your narrative perspective about the knocking on her apartment door and given little detail on the main issues.....make the whole talk childish...(you warned the gateman, warned a co-tenant).....just to preserve a pvssy.........the funny aspect is that; you are an absentee fiance....your fiancee will definitely need help here and there.........but your self-centeredness will eventually deprive her of the help she would need.

On a final note, I will like to encourage you to brave for impact....because she will definitely be fvcked........and she will always skip that yosh Yash in her gist with you.

Ogun go kill u throway!

you didn't over react.
the guy must have been informed on the gen house before paying for the rent.
he should take up the issue to the landlord.

some tenants like to feel and behave like they are the owners of the city in the midst of other tenants.
this guy appears to be one of such.

you better call the landlord and tell him to seriously warn that guy to stay off your lane.
draw the lines right now.

rbass144:


Ogun go kill u throway!

Don't mind the gentle man up there. He should have gone soft on you. But try and remveyou fiancee from Nigeria to your place in uk asap.

kazyhm:


..(you warned the gateman, warned a co-tenant).....just to preserve a pvssy

On a final note, I will like to encourage you to brave for impact....because she will definitely be fvcked........and she will always skip that yosh Yash in her gist with you.

You made some point actually. Next time try and drop the truth in soft soft doses. That up there was too harsh

rbass144:


They were informed about the location of the gen and the possibility of noise, they still went ahead to secure property. Fine you want tenants to work things out, but you ended up issuing executive orders instead of subtly reaching out and have a man to man talk which can lead to a mutual resolution. Is that you are daft or you lack comprehension to understand my write up, abi na naira wey nor dey ur hand dey frustate you?

Honest Mr Op........I do understand the point u coming from to be honest.........I understand u trying to protect yo love/girl too......they called u INSECURE but wouldn't call u that..............infact 99% man had feel the same as u felt we're they in yo shoe okay..........esp since tis long distance relationship for now........

But then..........try get back and get things fixed......e get why sha

I honestly don't see the big deal in discussing generators location at all.

The guy probably can't sleep with the generators on, the Yeye caretaker too knowing the everybody's Gen might disturb him should have made a rule that gens should be put off by xyz time.

And yes OP you overreacted these are issues your fiance/ wife could have even handled and later just inform you about it.

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Klass99:


His wife Richy........he said his wife o. You haze the day wey you write this post, abi?

You want to behave like that poster who called his friend's wife by her name (Jessica) and friendship scattered, abi?

🙈🤭🙊🤸

xavuv:


Don't mind the gentle man up there. He should have gone soft on you. But try and remveyou fiancee from Nigeria to your place in uk asap.

Lol....don't mind the op.......

It is actually a bad narrative when the purpose of an article was not mentioned in the first paragraph.


He dragged every of his reader through unnecessary journey of his personal issues; when in actually sense what he want us to know was his neighbor got a bad deal...........the disadvantage of the location of his neighbor's apartment relative to the Generator house.......

What is wrong in having your neighbour's number?

What an annoying fellow. One can deduce from your post that you are a very petty individual. Shior

rbass144:


They were informed about the location of the gen and the possibility of noise, they still went ahead to secure property. Fine you want tenants to work things out, but you ended up issuing executive orders instead of subtly reaching out and have a man to man talk which can lead to a mutual resolution. Is that you are daft or you lack comprehension to understand my write up, abi na naira wey nor dey ur hand dey frustate you?

You are just an arrogant idiot. Why do you lots feel superior when you find yourself in UK? See you making a jest of the naira scarcity, just because you manage to get to UK to do your masters. If we check well now, na one factory job or taking care of old people that you are doing to hold body there.

Same you are saying that he should have talked to other tenants amicably, yet when he came to approach the other tenants to have a peaceful talk, you shunned it and termed it intrusion.

It's because the landlord doesn't live there and I guess the apartment is cheaper than the other ones maybe.

Turning the generator off by 1am is a reasonable demand. Arranging a parking formula is still not too much to ask. This is what the landlord is supposed to do but he didn't because it doesn't affect him directly.

You and your supposed fiancé feel too big to open your door for a neighbor? That's how the train killed one NYSC girl at Ikeja because she had her earpiece on and the train was passing.

Someone tried to pull her back but she shrug his hand away and continued because she thought he was trying to get her attention not knowing he was trying to save her life.

What if your wife's car was on fire or something terrible was happening in the compound that needed your fiancé's immediate attention for her safety?

Where I live, we have a WhatsApp group where every tenant is a member. Our numbers are fully available for anyone. You could be called by a neighbor for any genuine reason.

Sometimes, I would park my car outside and big trucks will be passing that needed my attention to repark.

No man is an island and your wife or fiancé is not the fiance of a president or a senator, so be calming down and know that there's nothing in this world.

Big man.