I had misunderstanding with my mother couple of months ago and she sent me packing. The problem was that I am too old to live with her under the same roof. She taunts and say all manner of things that my age mates are married but I am still at home. I am 23 and a manager in a super market. My boss pays me well. With that I was able to rent my own house. I am career-focused so I don't want what will jeopardize my chances.

Last month she called and demanded to see me. After I arrived she said her house is collapsing and that she wants to move into my apartment but I rejected that idea. Instead I suggest to repair the damaged parts but she refused so we left it that way. As from last week to this week I hadn't breathe in peace as she's always on the phone disturbing me to come and take her in.

Seriously my mother is a troublesome woman, she won't give me peace of mind. I can't live with her I am tired of her emotional torment.

Please my fellow nairalanders help with a word of wisdom on how to handle this matter. I am confused and have no idea what to do.

I would advise you to meet your maternal uncle's and talk to them about your predicament. Don't let her in no matter what happens. Some mother's are witches, who knows if she's the one who stopped you from getting married? She explain why she doesn't want you to repair her own house and insist to live in your house. Something is fishy about her insistence to move into your apartment. Don't accept that! A word is enough for the wise.

Don't let her move in with you.
Go to her apartment,make an assessment of the damage there and get a carpenter or bricklayer to go and fix things there.

Rolexxxy:
I had misunderstanding with my mother couple of months ago and she sent me packing. The problem was that I am too old to live with her under the same roof. She taunts and say all manner of things that my age mates are married but I am still at home. I am 23 and a manager in a super market. My boss pays me well. With that I was able to rent my own house. I am career-focused so I don't want what will jeopardize my chances.

Last month she called and demanded to see me. After I arrived she said her house is collapsing and that she wants to move into my apartment but I rejected that idea. Instead I suggest to repair the damaged parts but she refused so we left it that way. As from last week to this week I hadn't breathe in peace as she's always on the phone disturbing me to come and take her in.

Seriously my mother is a troublesome woman, she won't give me peace of mind. I can't live with her I am tired of her emotional torment.

Please my fellow nairalanders help with a word of wisdom on how to handle this matter. I am confused and have no idea what to do.

You are a very wicked girl. You are completely stupid! You don't want to let your mother in because that your useless boss is spending the night with you always in that house and you don't want your mother to know. If you don't want to receive curses go and bring that woman in.

Rolexxxy:
Seriously my mother is a troublesome woman, she won't give me peace of mind. I can't live with her I am tired of her emotional torment.

Please my fellow nairalanders help with a word of wisdom on how to handle this matter. I am confused and have no idea what to do.

Is your father in the picture? Do you have other siblings?

Have you ever considered being honest with your mother? I mean letting her in on those dark depraved sometimes weak thoughts regarding life and maybe her person that crawls around in your mind from time to time. Since that is pretty much what she does that you can't stand about her, maybe giving her a dose of the same medicine maybe a good place to start as far as mending what seems the broken boundary between you too. Just be blunt and unapologetic---- let her have it even when she is not expecting it. And maybe after a while, she will know to keep her thoughts to herself more often than not.

Stillwhites:
You are a very wicked girl. You are completely stupid! You don't want to let your mother in because that your useless boss is spending the night with you always in that house and you don't want your mother to know. If you don't want to receive curses go and bring that woman in.

I don't understand the reason behind this misguided comment.

Rolexxxy:
I don't understand the reason behind this misguided comment.

Is your brain running backward? Go and bring that helpless innocent old woman before Ogun scatter that your vagina 😡😡😡😡

Bring her in

Nataliace:
I would advise you to meet your maternal uncle's and talk to them about your predicament. Don't let her in no matter what happens. Some mother's are witches, who knows if she's the one who stopped you from getting married? She explain why she doesn't want you to repair her own house and insist to live in your house. Something is fishy about her insistence to move into your apartment. Don't accept that! A word is enough for the wise.

This your advice get as e be

Kobojunkie:
Is your father in the picture? Do you have other siblings?

Have you ever considered being honest with your mother? I mean letting her in on those dark depraved sometimes weak thoughts regarding life and maybe her person that crawls around in your mind from time to time. Since that is pretty much what she does that you can't stand about her, maybe giving her a dose of the same medicine maybe a good place to start as far as mending what seems the broken boundary between you too. Just be blunt and unapologetic---- let her have it even when she is not expecting it. And maybe after a while, she will know to keep her thoughts to herself more often than not.

My dad is not in the picture. My mom never married my dad, they were mere lovers. I was born out of wedlock. I am my mother's only child.

Men pretend to be mean to conceal their kindness, while women pretend to be innocent to conceal their meanness and wickedness.

Rolexxxy:
I had misunderstanding with my mother couple of months ago and she sent me packing. The problem was that I am too old to live with her under the same roof. She taunts and say all manner of things that my age mates are married but I am still at home. I am 23 and a manager in a super market. My boss pays me well. With that I was able to rent my own house. I am career-focused so I don't want what will jeopardize my chances.

Sis are y
Last month she called and demanded to see me. After I arrived she said her house is collapsing and that she wants to move into my apartment but I rejected that idea. Instead I suggest to repair the damaged parts but she refused so we left it that way. As from last week to this week I hadn't breathe in peace as she's always on the phone disturbing me to come and take her in

Seriously my mother is a troublesome woman, she won't give me peace of mind. I can't live with her I am tired of her emotional torment.

Please my fellow nairalanders help with a word of wisdom on how to handle this matter. I am confused and have no idea what to do.

Sis are you the only child

Rolexxxy:
My dad is not in the picture. My mom never married my dad, they were mere lovers. I was born out of wedlock. I am my mother's only child.

No wonder you are making every frantic effort to born out of wedlock too.

Prechgold1180:

Sis are you the only child

yes sir.

Stillwhites:
Is your brain running backward? Go and bring that helpless innocent old woman before Ogun scatter that your vagina 😡😡😡😡

Don't show off your emotional disorderedness.

Stillwhites:
No wonder you are making every frantic effort to born out of wedlock too.

This is exactly why women are leaving nairaland. Just look at this brainless person

Rolexxxy:
My dad is not in the picture. My mom never married my dad, they were mere lovers. I was born out of wedlock. I am my mother's only child.

That's even better as that means you don't have to fight back against an additional ego in the background somewhere. I think you need to let your mother know you are happy with who you are and that she has to learn to let you be. You are 23 and not too old to live and enjoy life with your mother. I am about twice your age and my mother is part of my regular if not daily life still. We aren't necessarily best of buddies — but we live as though roommates and everybody respects each other's boundaries because we learned to become more understanding of each other's differences as we became adults. Push back and let your mother know that you've got this — your life that is.

Stillwhites:
You are a very wicked girl. You are completely stupid! You don't want to let your mother in because that your useless boss is spending the night with you always in that house and you don't want your mother to know. If you don't want to receive curses go and bring that woman in.

Cocao:


This is exactly why women are leaving nairaland. Just look at this brainless person

You are the brainless one here.

Who cares if women are leaving nairaland? Please leave asap so we can have peace of mind.

Now you can run along the gutter where your fellow mad men are, you have been noticed.

Mindlog:


Don't show off your emotional disorderedness.

Stop running your mouth you worthless piece of human debris.

Stillwhites:
Stop running your mouth you worthless piece of human debris.

Eyah, just make sure you keep out of trouble offline.😆😆😆

What is the confusion? Maintain your No! Abi what do you want to hear again?

This whole thing is strange. Corrected.

Women and fighting themselves. Me that is praying for my mum to stay with me and some one is fighting with her mom.

This gender, their wahala too much abeg

bukas15:
Women and fighting themselves. Me that is praying for my mum to stay with me and some one is fighting with her mom.

This gender, their wahala too much abeg

This is not about gender but the personality involved. If it is about gender, there are more sons who have little or no relationship with their fathers than daughters with their mothers.

That you may have a relationship with your mother, that makes you crave to have her in your house does not mean others have the same relationship with their mothers.

When the person whose thoughts of, generates hurtful feelings happens to be your mother who ought to be your safe space....you are better off having limited contacts with her.

People pay money for therapy sessions aimed at building assertiveness to confidently walk away from their toxic parents, whose stock in trade is to emotionally blackmail them and making them feel less.

Don't take her in.
Such a wicked mother.

Cocao:


This is exactly why women are leaving nairaland. Just look at this brainless person

Bunch of cretins I must confess.sick of reading his senseless vituperation.

I missed when sexkillz was still a mod,it's braggarts like these he doesn't waste time banning.

Op pls do not let her move in with you.

Nataliace:
I would advise you to meet your maternal uncle's and talk to them about your predicament. Don't let her in no matter what happens. Some mother's are witches, who knows if she's the one who stopped you from getting married? She explain why she doesn't want you to repair her own house and insist to live in your house. Something is fishy about her insistence to move into your apartment. Don't accept that! A word is enough for the wise.

Nawa, what a bold tongue.

She's your mom , let her into your home but you talk to her about it and tell you've rules and regulations in your house and if she'll abide by it then she's free to stay in your house


You better spend time with her before she's no more


You gonna regret spending time with your mom when she japa this world

.

Rolexxxy:
I had misunderstanding with my mother couple of months ago and she sent me packing. The problem was that I am too old to live with her under the same roof. She taunts and say all manner of things that my age mates are married but I am still at home. I am 23 and a manager in a super market. My boss pays me well. With that I was able to rent my own house. I am career-focused so I don't want what will jeopardize my chances.

Last month she called and demanded to see me. After I arrived she said her house is collapsing and that she wants to move into my apartment but I rejected that idea. Instead I suggest to repair the damaged parts but she refused so we left it that way. As from last week to this week I hadn't breathe in peace as she's always on the phone disturbing me to come and take her in.

Seriously my mother is a troublesome woman, she won't give me peace of mind. I can't live with her I am tired of her emotional torment.

Please my fellow nairalanders help with a word of wisdom on how to handle this matter. I am confused and have no idea what to do.

Japa