Honeydenz:
Thinking aloud all through last night, I have thought very deeply till 1am this morning on how a particular pattern Of wealth and affluence drives In a family and society expecially in this part of the world.

Studying the life of rich and influential individuals in the society, most of them seem to come from an already established or comfortable home, this worries me since I and my siblings aren't really from a well-to-do home or a rich background.
For example,
Seyi tinubu is already successful and famous and doing well, all thanks to his father Bola tinubu and understandably, tinubu himself also had a rich parent and studied in the US and With the western exposure they come back home and do great things, Obaseki of Edo state, Femi otedola's father was a governor of Lagos state, I can go on and on.
Your background and the environment you grew up in either impacts your life positively, or negatively, and could determine your future. But only if you allow it to. From the experiences of many, a humble upbringing, absence of one parent or lack of education does not mean that your future is doomed.

What's your opinion? Please no sentiments, religious or emotional comments pls, only reasonable argument is welcome.
would really appreciate if this can get to the front page for more logical explanations.

woginid967:


You can make money from NOTHING.... I can tell you many ways i have made money from nothing.... So pls practically your family background has nothing to do with how great you will become. Ask obama who was in kenya and years later became USA president....

See children of the privileged like tinubu, can only use their fathers name.... But those of us from poor or average family generations are the ones breaking through now in tech, social media, etc.

No diabolism, no shortcuts, no mago mago.

So that you dont think I'm marketing anything or anyone, let me tell you how i made money as little as 570k, i was broke and hungry for days, family couldnt help, I am good at making friends and acquaintances, so my WhatsApp status at that time was about 746 views. At that time, i have been on hinger strike for 4 days, drinking water and visiting people hoping they'll give me food... Even bricklayer job was not available yet I'm a graduate, I sent one message to all the 700+ people that I need 500 to 1k for urgent help because i have not eaten and i was sick and need medical checkup and also I will refund the next month, well not all of them replied, some blocked me but i got 570k that week, with some promising foodstuff and others telling me not to refund. I used 100k to take care of myself for two months. Invested the rest in crypto and bale of clothes from Onitsha, which i started selling online ad delivering by myself. To cut this story short, i posted on my status thanking everyone and telling them what I did with the money, guess what, more started giving till i got 970k over the following 2weeks.... by the 4th month, i put my profit plus the donations together and bought a car for uber making 460k monthly, and the rest is history, under 7 months from zero to business man. It is my own story.

See, you cant be broke poor and hostile to friends.... Thats death. If you dont have money, at least be friendly, and with little wise idea you condition will change.


If you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, you'll be successful, period

sisisioge:


You are one of the lucky ones. And yes, there are some exceptions to the phenomenon who show a lot of zeal and resilience to break out of the chain. I totally agree with the OP.

Honeydenz:

Your background and the environment you grew up in either impacts your life positively, or negatively, and could determine your future. But only if you allow it to. From the experiences of many, a humble upbringing, absence of one parent or lack of education does not mean that your future is doomed.

woginid967:


Not luck. Everyone has the opportunities around them, laziness, complaining and lack of faith is why they don't see it.

Honeydenz:
Thinking aloud all through last night, I have thought very deeply till 1am this morning on how a particular pattern Of wealth and affluence drives In a family and society expecially in this part of the world.

Studying the life of rich and influential individuals in the society, most of them seem to come from an already established or comfortable home, this worries me since I and my siblings aren't really from a well-to-do home or a rich background.
For example,
Seyi tinubu is already successful and famous and doing well, all thanks to his father Bola tinubu and understandably, tinubu himself also had a rich parent and studied in the US and With the western exposure they come back home and do great things, Obaseki of Edo state, Femi otedola's father was a governor of Lagos state, I can go on and on.
Your background and the environment you grew up in either impacts your life positively, or negatively, and could determine your future. But only if you allow it to. From the experiences of many, a humble upbringing, absence of one parent or lack of education does not mean that your future is doomed.

What's your opinion? Please no sentiments, religious or emotional comments pls, only reasonable argument is welcome.
would really appreciate if this can get to the front page for more logical explanations.

sisisioge:


Awww....go tell that to the Alimanjiri boys who never were taught beyond eating a square meal. The poor children were left to cater for themselves as soon as they learnt to walk! You really need to spend a few hours with them to understand their doomed struggle. The last time I was at Jigawa, I went out to buy akara and couldn't eat at all. Those almanjiri toddlers were huddled against one another in the early morning cold hoping for food. My heart had not been that broken in a long long time! By the way, they were really just toddlers o. These kids mostly grow up to be farm hands, "dandoko", street shoe makers, bokoaram, etc

Or go tell that to the children in the innermost core of villages where they never learnt beyond substitent farming. They mostly grow to inherit whatever is left and pass same on to their children. Otherwise, yours and my village will be empty by now....

Or even enter makoko abi na maroko inside Lagos slum where the children were doomed from birth. One family with 8 children they can not afford to give basic physiological needs let alone formal or informal education towards survival! They are the ones that eventually replace the agberos, touts, blue collar lowly workers, your gate keepers and household staff, etc. Their birth somehow force them into that strata forever.

By the way, I used to work at big events and I've seen first hand how the rich connect themselves. Do not be deceived just because you made it out of the chain, besides, you even still had it good. At least, you were exposed to a formal or informal education to aid your survival, a lot of others werent that lucky.

Klass99:
@ Honeydenz, your original post is true and not far from reality. Most of what you said is one of the reasons I advocate for quality over quantity, when it comes to starting a family.

The fewer the better, quality over quantity, are recipes for success when it comes to responsible parenting and helping your offspring succeed in life. There is no gain or benefit in having many children you cannot cater for, only pain and suffer head awaits all parties involved.

Even if you are stinkingly rich, quality over quantity is still a good policy to live by as you birth children. Don't proceed to birth a football team or half the team because you have the means, this is one way we end up with sadistic deviants. Because someone refused to stop after their 3rd or 4th child, the 5th, 6th or 7th child turns out to be a real nightmare to a community at large and not only the parents.

Honeydenz:
Thinking aloud all through last night, I have thought very deeply till 1am this morning on how a particular pattern Of wealth and affluence drives In a family and society expecially in this part of the world.

woginid967:


You can make money from NOTHING.... I can tell you many ways i have made money from nothing.... So pls practically your family background has nothing to do with how great you will become. Ask obama who was in kenya and years later became USA president....

See children of the privileged like tinubu, can only use their fathers name.... But those of us from poor or average family generations are the ones breaking through now in tech, social media, etc.

No diabolism, no shortcuts, no mago mago.

So that you dont think I'm marketing anything or anyone, let me tell you how i made money as little as 570k, i was broke and hungry for days, family couldnt help, I am good at making friends and acquaintances, so my WhatsApp status at that time was about 746 views. At that time, i have been on hinger strike for 4 days, drinking water and visiting people hoping they'll give me food... Even bricklayer job was not available yet I'm a graduate, I sent one message to all the 700+ people that I need 500 to 1k for urgent help because i have not eaten and i was sick and need medical checkup and also I will refund the next month, well not all of them replied, some blocked me but i got 570k that week, with some promising foodstuff and others telling me not to refund. I used 100k to take care of myself for two months. Invested the rest in crypto and bale of clothes from Onitsha, which i started selling online ad delivering by myself. To cut this story short, i posted on my status thanking everyone and telling them what I did with the money, guess what, more started giving till i got 970k over the following 2weeks.... by the 4th month, i put my profit plus the donations together and bought a car for uber making 460k monthly, and the rest is history, under 7 months from zero to business man. It is my own story.

See, you cant be broke poor and hostile to friends.... Thats death. If you dont have money, at least be friendly, and with little wise idea you condition will change.


If you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, you'll be successful, period

Anunakeeh:


Omo so you sent messages to over 500 people begging them Chaiii.

This is the reason why most successful people doesn't help in Nigeria. I'm Imagining the kind of Shame and Humiliation you would have gone through. I'm sure some people will still use that eyes of beggi beggi of 1k to look you even after you become a Millionaire. But who Cares or give a Fvck so far you are okay now?😂

Nigeria is HELL on Earth.

This is the reason why i can never get impressed with most successful people in Nigeria because i perfectly know what most of them went through before they attain such status. I don't even blink at Nigeria's wealthy/rich people twice.

It is Well ooo.

myhousestats:


It's definitely true.

When it comes to the family making conditions dor successful children there are common things the parents do.

The main traits are the parent(s) being highly educated and in high-paying jobs. The parents have traditional family roles, with mom looking after the house and kids, and dad focused on making money. The kids in these families have strict parents that they look up to, obey, and respect greatly. Another trait that is linked to these families is experiencing hardship for many years followed by good economic conditions.

sisisioge:


Awww....go tell that to the Alimanjiri boys who never were taught beyond eating a square meal. The poor children were left to cater for themselves as soon as they learnt to walk! You really need to spend a few hours with them to understand their doomed struggle. The last time I was at Jigawa, I went out to buy akara and couldn't eat at all. Those almanjiri toddlers were huddled against one another in the early morning cold hoping for food. My heart had not been that broken in a long long time! By the way, they were really just toddlers o. These kids mostly grow up to be farm hands, "dandoko", street shoe makers, bokoaram, etc

Or go tell that to the children in the innermost core of villages where they never learnt beyond substitent farming. They mostly grow to inherit whatever is left and pass same on to their children. Otherwise, yours and my village will be empty by now....

Or even enter makoko abi na maroko inside Lagos slum where the children were doomed from birth. One family with 8 children they can not afford to give basic physiological needs let alone formal or informal education towards survival! They are the ones that eventually replace the agberos, touts, blue collar lowly workers, your gate keepers and household staff, etc. Their birth somehow force them into that strata forever.

By the way, I used to work at big events and I've seen first hand how the rich connect themselves. Do not be deceived just because you made it out of the chain, besides, you even still had it good. At least, you were exposed to a formal or informal education to aid your survival, a lot of others werent that lucky.

Klass99:
@ Honeydenz, your original post is true and not far from reality. Most of what you said is one of the reasons I advocate for quality over quantity, when it comes to starting a family.

The fewer the better, quality over quantity, are recipes for success when it comes to responsible parenting and helping your offspring succeed in life. There is no gain or benefit in having many children you cannot cater for, only pain and suffer head awaits all parties involved.

Even if you are stinkingly rich, quality over quantity is still a good policy to live by as you birth children. Don't proceed to birth a football team or half the team because you have the means, this is one way we end up with sadistic deviants in society. Because someone refused to stop after their 3rd child, the 4th, 5th or 6th child turns out to be a real nightmare to a community at large and not only the parents.

woginid967:


I used 100k to take care of myself for two months. Invested the rest in crypto and
If you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, you'll be successful, period

Honeydenz:


A lot of people underestimate the importance of wealthy/right platforms and parents for personal success.

Every time I see success stories of individuals out there, the first thing I check is their background and 4 times out of 5 they were born in solid foundations and leveraged it.

The Bill Gates, Elon Musks, Bezos, Fani-Kayodes, Otedolas of this world all took advantage of the background they were born in: rich, exposed and professional parents who gave them solid education, the right networks, nutritious meals, enlightening environments for their future success. It's like playing a match with life and you're leading 2 - 0 already.

But if na trenches dem born you, na life long struggle where you handicapped in a match with life losing 3 - 0.

And at the bold, I'm still on the journey and while I've seen relative success, I don't think I'm still there yet. It's why I laugh when I see many young men my age with half my net worth rushing to get married and have kids.

Sometimes, I think something is wrong with me for not towing that path, But deep down I know it's the fear of generational poverty.

My parents foolish no mean I go foolish self.

Honeydenz:
Thinking aloud all through last night, I have thought very deeply till 1am this morning on how a particular pattern Of wealth and affluence drives In a family and society expecially in this part of the world.

Studying the life of rich and influential individuals in the society, most of them seem to come from an already established or comfortable home, this worries me since I and my siblings aren't really from a well-to-do home or a rich background.
For example,
Seyi tinubu is already successful and famous and doing well, all thanks to his father Bola tinubu and understandably, tinubu himself also had a rich parent and studied in the US and With the western exposure they come back home and do great things, Obaseki of Edo state, Femi otedola's father was a governor of Lagos state, I can go on and on.
Your background and the environment you grew up in either impacts your life positively, or negatively, and could determine your future. But only if you allow it to. From the experiences of many, a humble upbringing, absence of one parent or lack of education does not mean that your future is doomed.

What's your opinion? Please no sentiments, religious or emotional comments pls, only reasonable argument is welcome.
would really appreciate if this can get to the front page for more logical explanations.