intruder15:


Do you two talk over the phone? If yes explain to her how exactly it's doing you. Let her know that your heart wants to be close to her but your body isn't. Let her know that you are willing to work with her to fix this issue with you.

You need to ascertain what exactly the fear is about. That will guide to fix.

Yes I do talk to her on phone but only when it’s very important because I avoid anything that’ll make her come close, so I avoid unnecessary familiarity that’ll bring her close to me. I think the fear( abi unimaginable irritation) was my very first encounter with one in my childhood, we were in the same class(no long stories), infact I had to be taken away from that class and eventually from that school, it was that bad. I don’t know why I didn’t outgrow it.

FiremanX:
Cuz u are a terrible person,,u need to change your mindset and perspective about people, their color etc.

I don’t have problems relating with other people irrespective of their colors, infact I attract people (don’t judge me based on my nairaland behavior, it doesn’t truly define me entirely) a lot and I can be extremely nice . Yes I’m unconsciously terrible with albinos which my post already explains.

luminouz:


Wonders shall never end

Don’t bring in hatred into this thread please.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Yes I do talk to her on phone but only when it’s very important because I avoid anything that’ll make her come close, so I avoid unnecessary familiarity that’ll bring her close to me. I think the fear( abi unimaginable irritation ) was my very first encounter with one in my childhood, we were in the same class(no long stories), infact I had to be taken away from that class and eventually from that school, it was that bad. I don’t know why I didn’t outgrow it.

Yes this is ur problem... I was like u once but I outgrew mine quickly. In kg3 I had an albino best friend but then I was still a child and saw no difference cos the school has kids from different ethnicity and races. In later primary and secondary school all the irritation based on assumptions and lies took over but then when I got closer to a very popular albino guy in school I quickly discovered we were all the same. Some say they smell, are prone to all types of skin diseases/infection which can be transferred etc but all was just a lie like I came to find out. Overcome urs too by getting close to her with an open mind like that of a baby. Forget what u think u Know about them and really get to her for who she is and not some stereotype. It's the best way to break this assumptions about them. Only u can do it for urself... Happy Sunday 🙂

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I will never date or knack any afin pucci

IyaebeTheGreat:
Right from childhood I have this very rare and strong phobia for albinos, infact I practically run on sighting them no matter who was with me. Well, I thought I’ve overcome this habit overtime until recently I found out it’s still with me. I happen to be in a place recently that involves me mingling with an albino and each time she tries to come close I unconsciously drift away immediately and would have to pinch and hold myself so as not to get noticed. I unconsciously avoid anything that’ll join us together and would made sure we are never in line doing things together, she has tried severally to come close to me but I just don’t know when I’ll stylishly dodge her and be forming busy. But I tried to be very nice to her at any given opportunity but unconsciously do that from a reasonable distance . Recently she had her birthday and I gifted her a very massive cake but unconsciously feigned sickness just to avoid some closeness that may happen during the birthday. Believe me i don’t have control when I do these things, I feel so bad and terrible after doing them. Last friday I woke up early and made up my mind that immediately I sight her that day, I’ll go give her a hug and peck her but on sighting her i didn’t even know when i started forming busy and all that. I went home and cried bitterly because she’s a very nice person. I think she has noticed all of these (especially how my countenance do change immediately she’s coming close) and she has started minding her space gradually. I’ve never felt this bad in a long time and I seriously do not know how to go about this. Please how do I overcome this phobia for albinos ? What went wrong and how do I permanently correct all of these?

If you were white you would be the worst racist.

You need to stop visiting that babalawo.

Because na only them like using albino for rituals.

Why will you get irritated by albino.

Better learn step by step.

Start by touching her skin. If na to high. Get used to it. Na people like you God dey give albino as only child.

Shey you go throway am

juri:


Honesty is the best policy here. You have to find the most comfortable means through which you can tell her the whole truth concerning your attitude towards her. Yes, tell her everything including your school encounter with an Albino and how you have to leave the school. It will not hurt her self esteem, but rather even help because you have made her understand that the problem is from your end.

We all do have one phobia or the other and for some, they outgrow it over time. Mine used to be dwarf people. I remembered a time I almost ran sighting one physically years back when I was younger. Your phobia though is very chronic. It will take time and deliberate steps to overcome it. Interestingly, if you are very honest enough in expressing this fear to her, the healing process could as well beging through your relationship with her. I will advice you express yourself in writing to her, you may have the very necessary composure to do this than physically telling her or talking to her on phone. Take time to do this. However, don't push yourself too far, you don't have to go and, for example, start volunteering with the Albino Foundation just yet or even with her.

On a lighter and serious note though, it seems you have other phobias, because as I recall, there was something you were supposed to do on Monday and latter promised to do yesterday evening.

Thanks for this, I pray to God to help me do it. I actually did yesterday evening. Check

Killbillz:


Yes this is ur problem... I was like u once but I outgrew mine quickly. In kg3 I had an albino best friend but then I was still a child and saw no difference cos the school has kids from different ethnicity and races. In later primary and secondary school all the irritation based on assumptions and lies took over but then when I got closer to a very popular albino guy in school I quickly discovered we were all the same. Some say they smell, are prone to all types of skin diseases/infection which can be transferred etc but all was just a lie like I came to find out. Overcome urs too by getting close to her with an open mind like that of a baby. Forget what u think u Know about them and really get to her for who she is and not some stereotype. It's the best way to break this assumptions about them. Only u can do it for urself... Happy Sunday 🙂

Thank you so much, I'll give it my best and I'll also pray that God helps me out of this.

okunwaye:
I will never date or knack any afin pucci

Stop this, not good

IyaebeTheGreat:
Thank you so much, I'll give it my best and I'll also pray that God helps me out of this.

Ur always welcome

IyaebeTheGreat:
Yes I do talk to her on phone but only when it’s very important because I avoid anything that’ll make her come close, so I avoid unnecessary familiarity that’ll bring her close to me. I think the fear( abi unimaginable irritation) was my very first encounter with one in my childhood, we were in the same class(no long stories), infact I had to be taken away from that class and eventually from that school, it was that bad. I don’t know why I didn’t outgrow it.

It's very bad then. Try and understand what happended to you when small. You should be able to itemize the issue to something particular. When you do, then you can solve the issue small small

A dwarf avoiding albinos. Lmfao

IyaebeTheGreat:
Stop this, not good

stop what

intruder15:


It's very bad then. Try and understand what happended to you when small. You should be able to itemize the issue to something particular. When you do, then you can solve the issue small small

If I start to say some things here that happened then hmmm people will judge me,so that's why I avoided going into details of my childhood drama. Back then if you want to get me to do anything,just tell me you'll call an albino for me and that's all you need to do, it was that bad.

SPAMBOX7:
A dwarf avoiding albinos. Lmfao

How did you come up with this? Some of you lie here through your nose. So much lie on someone you don’t know. I bet you don’t even measure up to my shoulders.Please stay off this thread, it’s very personal to me.

IyaebeTheGreat:
How did you come up with this? Some of you lie here through your nose. So much lie on someone you don’t know. I bet you don’t even measure up to my shoulders.Please stay off this thread, it’s very personal to me.

Zzor werey dwarf dey play

Kobojunkie:
If you want to say something to her before you have successfully deprogrammed yourself of your prejudice, you can ask her to please bear with your rude behaviour for a bit as you are working through some mental issues you find your need to take care of.

After you have successfully taken care of those mental issues, you can then open to her about what was really going on in your mind and why you had behaved as you did towards her.

I'll be seeing her today and I plan to go talk to her, but I pray I'll be able to do it. May God help me

IyaebeTheGreat:
I'll be seeing her today and I plan to go talk to her, but I pray I'll be able to do it. May God help me

Do it for your own consciences sake.

Kobojunkie:
Do it for your own consciences sake.

Yes I'll try my best today. I'll give you feedback. Thank you

Kobojunkie:
Do it for your own consciences sake.

I did stay with her today and gisted , I made the move because I noticed she’s been withdrawing from me, so I was gisting her that I’m not fine that something is bordering me (this is to change whatever clue she might have gotten) , she told me she noticed my attitude right from the beginning and how it swings lol and asked me what could that be. I just told her that I broke up a relationship because he’s been lying to me and all the other things I could think of and she felt bad for me and was advising me and all that. I’m happy I succeeded in changing whatever mindset she has towards me, we gisted ooooo and it kind of relieved me very much and the phobia isn’t that strong again. I’ll gist with her tomorrow again and I’m so happyyyyyy. Thank you kobojunkie .