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Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by Nobody: 9:14am On Apr 06, 2023
Its been close to five years now since I had a girl visit me or honour our first date after we meet.
Honestly speaking, it is one thing or the other that will set in and we won't meet up or she would singlehandedly refuse to come,which the cause of that would not be made known to me.

Okay, let me share the one that just happened yesterday.I just met a girl by name Precious like 5 days ago, she was the one looking at me with quick glances which captured my attention and I approached her where she was standing to pick a bike to church for tarry night after closing from work according to her.I didn't say much and after collecting her number, we bade each other goodnight.

We fixed a date over the phone two days later, which was supposedly Wednesday(yesterday) cuz Tuesday was her birthday. Then the time fixed was 8pm for the date.She told me she needed to get back home from work by 7pm and eat,freshen then I should call her back after 30 minutes.I tried calling her back after the 30 minutes elapsed, she never picked my calls,even this morning I called her again, she don't want to pick.

What could be the problem cuz I have been having this same issues overtime in my life.
To be precise, iam handsome and dresses clean as an average nigga should.

Please I want to know, am I the only one suffering this all the time?? undecided
Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by donbachi(m): 9:20am On Apr 06, 2023
Ask for account number join.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by Jennyclay(f): 9:26am On Apr 06, 2023
Most of you broke men will hold 10k to take a lady out on a date. Biko who does that undecided. Is it handsome or your fine dress we'll eat

If you don't have over 100k to take a lady out then relationship is not for you. Don't come and put someone's daughter in abject poverty.

You don't have money and you want to take a lady out undecided.

shame!!!

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by phorget(m): 9:30am On Apr 06, 2023
Jennyclay:
Most of you broke men will hold 10k to take a lady out on a date. Biko who does that undecided. Is it handsome or your fine clothes we'll eat


If broke men are suppose to hold 10k on a date with a lady then how much exactly would the lady come with?

A date shouldn't be made into a picnic.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by Jennyclay(f): 9:31am On Apr 06, 2023
phorget:



If broke men are suppose to hold 10k on a date with a lady then how much exactly would the lady come with?

A date shouldn't be made into a picnic.
Biko.. You broke men should stop quoting me.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by NeckingNgulping(m): 9:32am On Apr 06, 2023
Jennyclay:
Most of you broke men will hold 10k to take a lady out on a date. Biko who does that undecided. Is it handsome or your fine dress we'll eat

If you don't have over 100k to take a lady out then relationship is not for you. Don't come and put someone's daughter in abject poverty.

You don't have money and you want to take a lady out undecided shame!!!

If attention seeking was a person, you'll be the one..

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by phorget(m): 9:36am On Apr 06, 2023
Jennyclay:
Biko.. You broke men should stop quote me.


I'll conveniently feed you for the rest of your life but unfortunately I dont roll with people that sees kpekus as their only source of income.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by PussyGalore(f): 9:39am On Apr 06, 2023
phorget:



If broke men are suppose to hold 10k on a date with a lady then how much exactly would the lady come with?

A date shouldn't be made into a picnic.

If you're broke then taking a lady out should be the last thing on your mind
Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by Jennyclay(f): 9:42am On Apr 06, 2023
phorget:



I'll conveniently feed you for the rest of your life but unfortunately I dont roll with people that sees kpekus as their only source of income.
Go and feed your starving sisters first before you feed me.

Nonsense!!!

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by phorget(m): 9:47am On Apr 06, 2023
Jennyclay:
Go and feed your starving sisters first before you feed me.

Nonsense!!!


My sisters ain't broke like you and they'll never call any man broke cos they understand that all men grinds but it's the pay that makes the difference. If you are grinding and making your pay then you wouldn't worry how much a man brings out on a date.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by phorget(m): 9:48am On Apr 06, 2023
PussyGalore:


If you're broke then taking a lady out should be the last thing on your mind


The op didn't state that he's broke,the lady in question simply didn't honor the date with no reason.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by dabonny(m): 10:31am On Apr 06, 2023
I think those ladies are reneging in honouring your date cuz you are shooting on the wrong birds. I know some guys will still hold on to a believe that an average Nigerian lady is a cheat, but I will like to state it here that that's just a believe based on the strata hypothesis.

The fact that you dated a lady or ladies, heard of or have an experience of ladies going out with another guy's while in an active relationship doesn't mean that that's how all Nigerian ladies behave.

Whenever you come across a woman who matches your person and get attracted with your personality, you will just put in a little effort and gain her whole attention, but I don't support a gamer in this context though

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by Hypnotise: 10:31am On Apr 06, 2023
Probably because you may seem boring to them, and you don’t tickle their fancy.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by 190: 10:33am On Apr 06, 2023
Jennyclay:
Most of you broke men will hold 10k to take a lady out on a date. Biko who does that undecided. Is it handsome or your fine dress we'll eat

If you don't have over 100k to take a lady out then relationship is not for you. Don't come and put someone's daughter in abject poverty.

You don't have money and you want to take a lady out undecided.

shame!!!

Would you shut up! angry

Did your father hold N100K to woo your mother?

Dont piss me off undecided

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by 190: 10:34am On Apr 06, 2023
Funnyson20:
Its been close to five years now since I had a girl visit me or honour our first date after we meet.
Honestly speaking, it is one thing or the other that will set in and we won't meet up or she would singlehandedly refuse to come,which the cause of that would not be made known to me.

Okay, let me share the one that just happened yesterday.I just met a girl by name Precious like 5 days ago, she was the one looking at me with quick glances which captured my attention and I approached her where she was standing to pick a bike to church for tarry night after closing from work according to her.I didn't say much and after collecting her number, we bade each other goodnight.

We fixed a date over the phone two days later, which was supposedly Wednesday(yesterday) cuz Tuesday was her birthday. Then the time fixed was 8pm for the date.She told me she needed to get back home from work by 7pm and eat,freshen then I should call her back after 30 minutes.I tried calling her back after the 30 minutes elapsed, she never picked my calls,even this morning I called her again, she don't want to pick.

What could be the problem cuz I have been having this same issues overtime in my life.
To be precise, iam handsome and dresses clean as an average nigga should.

Please I want to know, am I the only one suffering this all the time?? undecided


If you beat her pu-cee up bro, she aint gonna care about your money

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by Koppaguard: 11:04am On Apr 06, 2023
Op you are not alone, just go for the knacks alone if you have the means, I hope you know what I mean.
Getting a regular girl friend ain't easy as it used to be anymore, I could remember when girls woo me but na me dey run that time, well I managed to knack one then. Commitment, love and understanding are long gone as far as this generation is concerned. Just do your thing and discharge them that's all, remember to play safe.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by ifihearam: 11:06am On Apr 06, 2023
dabonny:
I think those ladies are reneging in honouring your date cuz you are shooting on the wrong birds. I know some guys will still hold on to a believe that an average Nigerian lady is a cheat, but I will like to state it here that that's just a believe based on the strata hypothesis.

The fact that you dated a lady or ladies, heard of or have an experience of ladies going out with another guy's while in an active relationship doesn't mean that that's how all Nigerian ladies behave.

Whenever you come across a woman who matches your person and get attracted with your personality, you will just put in a little effort and gain her whole attention, but I don't support a gamer in this context though

How does this nonsense you wrote connect to what the poster said?
Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by ifihearam: 11:11am On Apr 06, 2023
@op
I understand how you feel and to be frank I would be worried too just like you. I on the other hand, I run away from dates because I feel its over rated, then I hardly get girls i go on a date with thats trying to be a gentle man but if i acte like a player I get than sharply.

My advise to you is to slow down, dont be to eager to fix a date,infact when you get a girls number, dont text or call her in the next couple of days, they smell desperation and cant differentiate it with seriousness from a guy. whennyou finally do, act and text normal,let her indicate a little interest before you move on..

Since dates dont favor you try something else, invite them straight to your place.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by Karleb(m): 11:13am On Apr 06, 2023
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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by Nobody: 11:20am On Apr 06, 2023
If women ghost you immediately after getting their numbers then you are definitely doing something wrong, it's sad you have been at this for 5 years.

As a lady,one thing that can turn me off in a guy is when a guy becomes choking, wants to hastily familiarize and gets annoyingly too available. When you bombard me with texts, calls,every minute compliments " you are beautiful, you are sexy all sorts of compliments on pictures i know are just there. When you keep talking about love, relationship and having me like your survival depends on it. Such act puts a guy off as thirsty and it ain't sexy.

Control your availability, let your person of attraction know that you have a life and you have other things going for you. You have a choice. This is not playing macho but playing sensible, confidence and class.

PS: if you do all these and symptoms persist, please see your pastor grin

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by Nobody: 1:46pm On Apr 06, 2023
Jennyclay:
Most of you broke men will hold 10k to take a lady out on a date. Biko who does that undecided. Is it handsome or your fine dress we'll eat

If you don't have over 100k to take a lady out then relationship is not for you. Don't come and put someone's daughter in abject poverty.

You don't have money and you want to take a lady out undecided.

shame!!!
See Ekuke!
U feel say dating is ruled by the power of money?
Money is used to lure Ashawo like you, 100k kill u dia.

Abeg japa!!!

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by Nobody: 1:57pm On Apr 06, 2023
Persephone1:
If women ghost you immediately after getting their numbers then you are definitely doing something wrong, it's sad you have been at this for 5 years.

As a lady,one thing that can turn me off in a guy is when a guy becomes choking, wants to hastily familiarize and gets annoyingly too available. When you bombard me with texts, calls,every minute compliments " you are beautiful, you are sexy all sorts of compliments on pictures i know are just there. When you keep talking about love, relationship and having me like your survival depends on it. Such act puts a guy off as thirsty and it ain't sexy.

Control your availability, let your person of attraction know that you have a life and you have other things going for you. You have a choice. This is not playing macho but playing sensible, confidence and class.

PS: if you do all these and symptoms persist, please see your pastor grin
Wow
Thanks but my observation here is that girls hardly return my calls even when all these ethics are in place but my friends always get return calls especially from girls they barely know.

Anyway I think I will avoid girls for the moment and see how it goes cuz I have already prayed about it but saw very little change with a bounceback to worse!!.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by Geovanni412(m): 3:48pm On Apr 06, 2023
Funnyson20:
Its been close to five years now since I had a girl visit me or honour our first date after we meet.
Honestly speaking, it is one thing or the other that will set in and we won't meet up or she would singlehandedly refuse to come,which the cause of that would not be made known to me.

Okay, let me share the one that just happened yesterday.I just met a girl by name Precious like 5 days ago, she was the one looking at me with quick glances which captured my attention and I approached her where she was standing to pick a bike to church for tarry night after closing from work according to her.I didn't say much and after collecting her number, we bade each other goodnight.

We fixed a date over the phone two days later, which was supposedly Wednesday(yesterday) cuz Tuesday was her birthday. Then the time fixed was 8pm for the date.She told me she needed to get back home from work by 7pm and eat,freshen then I should call her back after 30 minutes.I tried calling her back after the 30 minutes elapsed, she never picked my calls,even this morning I called her again, she don't want to pick.

What could be the problem cuz I have been having this same issues overtime in my life.
To be precise, iam handsome and dresses clean as an average nigga should.

Please I want to know, am I the only one suffering this all the time?? undecided


smh. Have you approached up to 100 girls within that period?

Salesmen make up to 100cold calls and if they close 2% of that, it is a good closing rate

Approaching a girl is called cold approach. It is a numbers game.

Do more if it is truly bothering you.

https://www.cognism.com/blog/cold-calling-success-rates#:~:text=our%20findings%20%F0%9F%91%87-,What%20is%20the%20success%20rate%20of%20cold%20calling%3F,implemented%20into%20your%20sales%20strategy.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:01pm On Apr 06, 2023
Funnyson20:
Its been close to five years now since I had a girl visit me or honour our first date after we meet.
Honestly speaking, it is one thing or the other that will set in and we won't meet up or she would singlehandedly refuse to come,which the cause of that would not be made known to me.

Okay, let me share the one that just happened yesterday.I just met a girl by name Precious like 5 days ago, she was the one looking at me with quick glances which captured my attention and I approached her where she was standing to pick a bike to church for tarry night after closing from work according to her.I didn't say much and after collecting her number, we bade each other goodnight.

We fixed a date over the phone two days later, which was supposedly Wednesday(yesterday) cuz Tuesday was her birthday. Then the time fixed was 8pm for the date.She told me she needed to get back home from work by 7pm and eat,freshen then I should call her back after 30 minutes.I tried calling her back after the 30 minutes elapsed, she never picked my calls,even this morning I called her again, she don't want to pick.

What could be the problem cuz I have been having this same issues overtime in my life.
To be precise, iam handsome and dresses clean as an average nigga should.

Please I want to know, am I the only one suffering this all the time?? undecided

whatever it is, the problem is YOU... if every girl you meet is dodging you like the plague, then something about YOU is keeping these women away.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by chicoMX(m): 6:09pm On Apr 06, 2023
There's nothing wrong with you guy.

A whole lot could have happened, which of course you're not aware of. Whatever the reason it is not your fault, move on guy!


By the way why you go meet girl and 2 days later na her birthday, no ever try that shit again! Big red flag!

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by XAUBulls: 6:12pm On Apr 07, 2023
Persephone1:
If women ghost you immediately after getting their numbers then you are definitely doing something wrong, it's sad you have been at this for 5 years.

As a lady,one thing that can turn me off in a guy is when a guy becomes choking, wants to hastily familiarize and gets annoyingly too available. When you bombard me with texts, calls,every minute compliments " you are beautiful, you are sexy all sorts of compliments on pictures i know are just there. When you keep talking about love, relationship and having me like your survival depends on it. Such act puts a guy off as thirsty and it ain't sexy.

Control your availability, let your person of attraction know that you have a life and you have other things going for you. You have a choice. This is not playing macho but playing sensible, confidence and class.

PS: if you do all these and symptoms persist, please see your pastor grin
Nicely put.
Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by spencekat(m): 6:33pm On Apr 07, 2023
Forge ahead.Date that will sap you is making you to cry and complain.
Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by HellVictorinho6(m): 6:35pm On Apr 07, 2023
badluck with girls or women is following you ,it has been chasing me, we have to give up. if we don't ,these female cases will bury us alive. we can't force those we admire 4 whatever reason to admire us back. we are not less human,anyways. we just have to survive. having a child can happen without that relationship you want.

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Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by HellVictorinho6(m): 6:36pm On Apr 07, 2023
MrBrownJay1:


whatever it is, the problem is YOU... if every girl you meet is dodging you like the plague, then something about YOU is keeping these women away.
dodging is not the issue
Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by HellVictorinho6(m): 6:43pm On Apr 07, 2023
Persephone1:
If women ghost you immediately after getting their numbers then you are definitely doing something wrong, it's sad you have been at this for 5 years.

As a lady,one thing that can turn me off in a guy is when a guy becomes choking, wants to hastily familiarize and gets annoyingly too available. When you bombard me with texts, calls,every minute compliments " you are beautiful, you are sexy all sorts of compliments on pictures i know are just there. When you keep talking about love, relationship and having me like your survival depends on it. Such act puts a guy off as thirsty and it ain't sexy.

Control your availability, let your person of attraction know that you have a life and you have other things going for you. You have a choice. This is not playing macho but playing sensible, confidence and class.

PS: if you do all these and symptoms persist, please see your pastor grin
they are not just liking him, u call the phone calls a disturbance because u are not just into him,don't make me mad! angry
Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by HellVictorinho6(m): 6:48pm On Apr 07, 2023
Funnyson20:
Its been close to five years now since I had a girl visit me or honour our first date after we meet.
Honestly speaking, it is one thing or the other that will set in and we won't meet up or she would singlehandedly refuse to come,which the cause of that would not be made known to me.

Okay, let me share the one that just happened yesterday.I just met a girl by name Precious like 5 days ago, she was the one looking at me with quick glances which captured my attention and I approached her where she was standing to pick a bike to church for tarry night after closing from work according to her.I didn't say much and after collecting her number, we bade each other goodnight.

We fixed a date over the phone two days later, which was supposedly Wednesday(yesterday) cuz Tuesday was her birthday. Then the time fixed was 8pm for the date.She told me she needed to get back home from work by 7pm and eat,freshen then I should call her back after 30 minutes.I tried calling her back after the 30 minutes elapsed, she never picked my calls,even this morning I called her again, she don't want to pick.

What could be the problem cuz I have been having this same issues overtime in my life.
To be precise, iam handsome and dresses clean as an average nigga should.

Please I want to know, am I the only one suffering this all the time?? undecided

i have experienced worse and i have given up ,which means i talk to girls or women without expecting a relationship or sex.
Re: Why Can't I Have A Date After Exchanging Numbers? by HellVictorinho6(m): 7:00pm On Apr 07, 2023
Jennyclay:
Go and feed your starving sisters first before you feed me.

Nonsense!!!
are broke guys chasing you? does it mean they wanna rob you? e be like say you don too chop life , anyways,u don try 3some b4?

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