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Re: Frustrated With My Wife by GVTAsiwaju(m): 9:35am On Apr 11, 2023 |
lishman1010: You are lucky not to have a witch as MIL |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by jesmond3945: 9:36am On Apr 11, 2023 |
SIRTee15:smh |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by lollipop984: 9:37am On Apr 11, 2023 |
If both of you can't forgive each other and get things right, I we advise you go for devoice... 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by BloomingDale(f): 9:41am On Apr 11, 2023 |
Enemyofpeace: The problem with you men is that you don’t appreciate what wives do. Do you know how tasking it is to look after children, especially the mental effort it requires. You have to be constantly on alert to make sure they are okay, and you guys have not made it easy by preying on children. Imagine being in a state of constant adrenaline all the time. That will drain any human being. Then you now add household chores on top. Well, the woman has checked out. The husband should better stop doing the bare minimum and start helping the wife with the household chores, even if it requires going to the market to buy the food ingredients, getting the laundry prepared for the house-help or wife to do, cooking everyday things like rice, yam, eba if the wife makes the soup and stew etc. I’m pretty sure If the husband is as stressed as the wife he won’t be thinking about sex all the time. 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by SIRKAY98(m): 9:42am On Apr 11, 2023 |
Guy, be patient, and always tell her what you hate, they do come with different package which you have to sought yournown package to your taste, its very sure if no changes in your marriage it will crash, I saw that church activity is consuming her time, tell her the time you want her in church and when she must not be there, and make sure you mean it that if the marriage want to crash it should. She will start begging. frkm there you will proof oher points, Also make sire you are a good husband to her. |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by Jen96: 9:43am On Apr 11, 2023 |
BloomingDale:n he thinks she doesn't contribute 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by Mamijoh(f): 9:49am On Apr 11, 2023 |
Dogalmighty17:It doesn't at all worth it, most times I think the same as you. Faking smiles around as if all is well but...its not ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by BRATISLAVA: 9:52am On Apr 11, 2023 |
Ortintin: But the majority of men are guilty of this. This particular story is much deeper than he's letting on. If you ask the OP to be truthful, he has made some comments in the past that made her that way, or has done things that made her decide to compete with him. His story has a huge red flag which is that he is constantly criticizing/nagging her and never says how it got that way. Maybe he cheated on her and she realized she needed to up her game. Saintly spouses are tiresome. Plus, a ladder is something one stands on to get to a place they couldn't otherwise. Many men can only achieve because their wives have to sit back and support them without achieving their own dreams. If they don't, look no farther than the OP. Some men hate to see their women better than they are. They begin to see disrespect at every corner once their wife is high flying. 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by SirLakes: 9:54am On Apr 11, 2023 |
BloomingDale: Make the husband dey go market go buy pepper, dey do her laundry abi....why she con get maid If the money provided by the husband is not enough, why is she not communicating but want the marriage to end In fact, the husband might not even have an idea of how much contribution she's putting in terms of finances to keep the family, she should communicate. All these are not even enough to want your own marriage to crash... women used to put in more effort, make sacrifices to keep their marriage.... but today.... divorce is not a thing of shame and disgrace any longer Lol ![]() ![]() |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by BRATISLAVA: 9:58am On Apr 11, 2023 |
jesmond3945: It's what he wanted. He wanted his wife to be insulted by people she doesn't even know. Pity her, he's not as good as he portrays in his story. |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by BRATISLAVA: 9:59am On Apr 11, 2023 |
ConfidentialDoc: There's nothing called a soul mate. That is star-crossed high fantasy. |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by ibokunle(m): 9:59am On Apr 11, 2023 |
Don't spoil a great thing. Your situation was my reality some years ago before i cracked the code. Unfortunately, we were all not prepared for marriage. I truly wish i can get around to speak with you. The key to making this marriage work is in your hands. I believe that you should be abit more patient and circumspect. You need to build a common family vision with your wife, something she will buy into, else OYO lo wa o. You both have great potentials and don't be stupid here. Let me get a feedback and I may arrange to speak with you. tomi4life: |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by hustla(m): 10:01am On Apr 11, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Na English you dey talk Ask Tonto Dike and others, they'll tell you Continue to talk English and play ![]() |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by Mamijoh(f): 10:03am On Apr 11, 2023 |
Darkerberry:Amen in Jesus name 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by BloomingDale(f): 10:04am On Apr 11, 2023 |
SirLakes: Did you not hear the husband say they fight about food, sex and finances? I’m sure the women of old would have left too if divorce was not a thing of shame. I just use those examples as things that can be done to relieve the wife. I’m trying to save the man’s marriage and you guys are letting your ego get in the way. I think she is way more mentally stressed than physically stressed. She has to be making constant decisions for the household. That’s why I said the husband should relieve her of that, like noticing when they are running out of things and making the effort to replenish them, looking after the children, sitting out which clothes are clean and which are dirty and putting them in the laundry basket. Those are mental tasks. |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by SIRTee15: 10:06am On Apr 11, 2023 |
BloomingDale: U claim the man should go to the market and cook. Did u read where op said the wife mocked him for doing just that?? U just talking nonsense since the beginning of this thread. U are nothing but a jealous home breaker. I doubt u have a man in your real life. U don't know the purpose of marriage and lacks the intelligence to understand the special role of man and woman in that institution. Toxic feminism will only breed rebellious men. If u think men will cower to disrespectful wife, u must be joking. That's why the likes of Andrew Tate are becoming popular on social media- because he ignites that natural dominance instinct of men in marriage. Now even western men are demanding virgins and mocking only fans girls calling them 'only for the street'. Western men now talk about passport wife- travelling to South America and Asia to get a wife. If u like continue to support rubbish and see the man that will put u in the house as wife. Loneliness is real and trust me, u dont want to be lonely as an elderly woman- it's a miserable existence. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by BloomingDale(f): 10:13am On Apr 11, 2023 |
SIRTee15: The world is changing. You better move with it or forever be left behind. Use that natural dominant instinct to compete with the white man, not your wives. No one likes being a slave disguised as a wife. |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by SirLakes: 10:20am On Apr 11, 2023 |
BloomingDale: A career woman with 5 kids who is fully committed to see her marriage work won't see these as an excuse to say... maybe we should dissolve this marriage Make she kukuma find husband wey she go pay him groom price ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by winner37(m): 10:21am On Apr 11, 2023 |
tomi4life: My brother is good to court with a lady first before getting marriage ,if the distance is the problem invite her to spend some weeks with you so you can know her lapses .. Sex ...am not married but due to my ashawo life I have careful study and examine ladies.. If a woman is complaining all the time she is tired or she is not in the mode my brother another guy is bleeping her secretly... How good are you on bed because naturally women don't enjoy dull sex. Have you go on pre-intimacy with a hard romance? Personal hygiene could bring discomfort to a woman even when she on the mode poor personal hygiene could destroy everything, asked her about her favorite sex position make things real with her don't be scared she is your wife . Sex is not all about penetration only there are more about sex which only few guys understand it ... Finance.... first you shouldn't let your wife knows the exact amount of your salary because there will be a problem ..If a woman knows a man's salary and maybe she is earning more than the man there will be no respect in the house.. My advice.... Women do listen at midnight, so call her at night talk peacefully with her , asked her some questions like if she really enjoys the way the marriage is going.. |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by Montaque(m): 10:24am On Apr 11, 2023 |
Foodqueen:Abi o. You and your family went to church. You stayed back after dismissal while your family goes home to no food. Thats really some strong mentality from a wife and mother. Then on an Easter Sunday? Nawao 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by BloomingDale(f): 10:25am On Apr 11, 2023 |
SirLakes: That’s why she has checked out and left the husband to take care of himself. I’m also sure she has to wake up very early to bathe the children and get them ready for school, get herself ready for work while the husband is still in lala land. Lol. Then the husband expects to wake up and be served a hearty breakfast by his slave, sorry wife, before he goes to work. Let the husband either get the children ready for school or cook breakfast. Not while he is sleeping while the wife is slaving. How much come be bride price compared to what the parents has spent on her? |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by BigBizzy(m): 10:25am On Apr 11, 2023 |
isabi2lof: I completely concur 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by Montaque(m): 10:28am On Apr 11, 2023 |
BloomingDale: Did you read that they have a househelp? |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by Dan777: 10:34am On Apr 11, 2023 |
First, start sharing your bills equally. You can do extra sometimes. Second put your foot on the ground and be a man. Be the leader and dominate. Rebrand yourself. Also if she threatens to dissolve the marriage, push for it. When she sees your boldness, she will calm down. You need to take charge bro. 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by Princessdainty(m): 10:34am On Apr 11, 2023 |
Nothing dey outside my brother. You own small compared to the real marital issues out there. I think you're threatened by your wif's earnings. A Black man don't like to see a Black Woman at the top. And you may continue to whine, nag and think like a clown until lose your wife to a better person (man or woman). You get wife wey dey earn 800k and you want her to have sex with you everyday? Cook! be mom to your two sons be a w.h.o.r.e in bed. be a good wife to your family members. be all good and all you do is..what!? Remind me again!? Y'all need to come to terms that if you want traditional values, you can't have it with Capitalism at the brisk of getting it. . Who's the perfect person? You? Me? oh yo mama!?.. You do, you're damned, you don't do, you're still damn. Your wife dey go church, not club o, not party with friends o. Just a metime away from your drama and the kids. Marry a Black man at your own peril. These set of homosapien will take away your Autonomy!. Without the maid bros, Do you help with chores in the house? Do you do Parenting your boys too? Or its just her duty alone. King wey no fit enter kitchen cook soup for him wife and pikin. ....yeyeKing dey buy soup outside... You got a maid, but you still buy soup outside because you're MAD at your wife. Just dey play! You're not Special. She has given you the option of divorce, Dear King, Take it! Divorce your wife since you're the trophy like your Redgang make you believe..and watch yourself slip into the rabbit hole like your ancestors. Imagine comparing your wife to your mom. You're an entitled sicko. You need a lot of unlearnings lest you fall. How about your tell your mama to sUck your D!ckkk. .. |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by Uniquekriss(m): 10:37am On Apr 11, 2023 |
My brother, I want to believe this story is true as much as I hate to give my opinion without hearing from both parties. If she keeps mentioning or suggesting that the marriage be dissolved then u have to check, someone is sharing her with you. At this stage, stop bottling up, speak to her father and let them call her to order, find ways to make yourself happy and make her feel you can do without her, good enough you have a maid, concentrate on your maid for food, care and the likes, that would make your wife jealous but Mk sure to not cross boundaries with the maid, if possible, try to monitor her social life, check her phone, these are some of the reasons men die on time |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by BloomingDale(f): 10:38am On Apr 11, 2023 |
Montaque: And so? Do you know the duties of the househelp? Do you know how old the househelp is? I’m reading btw the lines of what the man wrote up there since the wife is not here to give her own version and he ain’t lily white. They fight about food, sex and finances which means he is slacking, especially when it comes to the finance aspect, that he craftily put himself as a saint. |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by SIRTee15: 10:48am On Apr 11, 2023 |
BloomingDale: Tell that to the white men travelling to Asia and South America to get a wife. They are sick and tired of brainwashed western women and their whoredom. The world isnt going to change marriage institution. It's women like u who should receive sense and understand the role of women in marriage which is submission while the man should live his wife. 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by Mrbllymer: 10:50am On Apr 11, 2023 |
Montaque:Stop replying that kid. |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by SirLakes: 10:51am On Apr 11, 2023 |
BloomingDale: To take care of children and home is slaving even with a maid to run errands It is well 👏 1 Like |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by BloomingDale(f): 10:51am On Apr 11, 2023 |
SIRTee15: Only the losers are traveling out. If the man is playing his role it makes the woman naturally feminine and loving. If the man ain’t, the woman becomes masculine and defensive to protect against the source of constant irritation. Imagine a man cheating and you expect the woman not to put up barriers to protect herself. You a crazy sonafabitch. |
Re: Frustrated With My Wife by BloomingDale(f): 10:55am On Apr 11, 2023 |
SirLakes: She is working full time with side hustles. |
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