Ok

Lol.

Choosing marriage over relocating for greener pasture could be a big mistake.

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

Oga if you are not staying in northern Nigeria just move abeg. Nothing like love, unless you are sure the lady loves you more. No lady de ready to suffer for man. Imagine losing your job and she’s feeding you. Omo unless u get sure hand work or string business o

Bro my candid advice, relocate with the money with you
Once you are tidy down with marriage

Your life has paused, dont let anyone deceive you here, if anyone tells u to stay
They are lieing to you. If they have the money,

They will japa asap.

Relocate asap and dont tell her u want to reloate to abroad

So she wont send witches to dabaru your plans

Use ur sense

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

See question? B4 u marry her tell us what value she adds to u besides love?

because the right and logical is is to relocate abroad. Nobody has ever chosen to suspend relocation abroad because of marriage. u will be the 1st man to do it.

what they do is either relocate and come back to do marriage or marry/engagement and relocate at same time.

pls take urself and future seriously o.

You want to use your life savings to marrying a liability.

Gerrard59:


So an educated girl who works in corporate Nigeria should wait for a hustler without tertiary education to later marry her? C'mon! Let's be realistic here...

If he was already settled/stable abroad, even as a hustler, good. Or if he was going for further studies after his undergrad, better. As it is, the man is not financially stable. He wants to use his life savings for wedding o, not marriage. OP, I strongly suggest you get financially stable or be in the process of financial stability, considering your lack of tertiary education and wish to relocate. You need that financial stability not only for yourself as a MAN, but for your immediate family BEFORE bringing another family into your life.

As it is, you are not financially stable. That is the truth. You have two options, re-invest that money into your hustle and expand on it or hustle in the abroad. Whichever way you opt for should be legitimate and not wuru-wuru.

Let her marry herself na, or u go and marry her,,
Ode u think it's easy for every type of girl to get married to the man of her choice?

Odin13:
Relocate with the funds you have bro.. dollar is going up and won’t stop..
No job guarantee in Nigeria .. especially for hustlers .. maybe except you’re managing yours and know too well the secret of that business..

Love is an illusion.. is never real.. it always fade with time .. beside she’s still young.. make she gather experience of life .. while faithfully waiting for you..
give your self a year or two and build develop yourself outside the shores .. learn new things and stabilize..

If she’s still available.. you can make the commitment..if she’s not .. you’re a lucky being.

Is yourself first.. self first… stable family.. then you can add another family .. before your “ own” family.. I mean kids ..

Good luck

she should go and get experience?,hope u know that's more body count

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

Just go for a low budget in your marriage.
If she has a First degree, that's an advantage. Both of you can travel abroad easily through the Education route, she should go for her Master's.

Evergreen4:
Do introduction and pay her bride price. Then relocate abroad, when you settle down you can then bring her along through study route. At least getting study visa is a bit easy.

But Bro, I would love to key into this your kind of hustle if you don't mind. Son of man have seen shege pro max in this country

I'm a hustler too and I would love to be part too.

theophorus:
Few Questions
1. What are you going to do when you relocate? (as in what skill do you have to use to make money)
2. Are you sure this Girl love you? As in are you SURE?
3. Is you line of Business sustainable? Such that money can keep coming in for the next 10yrs?
4. Do you have investment in Real Estate?

Sit down and answer these questions, it will help you.

can u explain why u come up with no 4 on this topic

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

After men will ask if women have brain....

Why are men like this, especially young, virile men?

Question you would have asked before beginning your 3years dating sojourn with her is what your brain is now reminding u to ask?

Normally, u should look for how to go build your life first as a young man ( especially as u arent a graduate yet)unless u come from a rich home, or u are already abroad and marriage will keep u there WELL or by virtue of your position, marriage is essential....

Pray about everything.... She can still wait for you if she can persevere....
A broken relationship though is better than a broken marriage.

OP
Marriage won't stop you from relocation
Those that are asking you to relocate are yet to tell you what you can do when you get there. Not everybody will relocate.

Marry
Advance your career with certifications
Get a better job
Prepare yourself for something like PPR in Canada
Then relocate

With all the problems in Nigeria, you wanna keep a Nigerian girl in your house in the name of marriage? Seems you don't like yourself

Do traditional marriage first b4 leaving this country, white wedding can come later

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

let me tell you something I read from a book.

The title of the book is the alchemist. A very popular book.

It's about a boy chasing his dreams.

He saw in a dream that there's gold hidden at the base of a pyramid in Egypt.

The problem is that he's just a shepherd boy in far away Spain.

But nevertheless, he sold his sheep, gathered his things and left for Egypt. On the road he was robbed and many other things.

But here's something very similar to your story.

On reaching the desert and about crossing over to the pyramid, the boy met a girl, the most beautiful girl he has ever seen.

They fell in love and he was tempted to stay behind with her in that place. After all, he helped the village to win a war and they made him chief.

So in that place he had the love of his life and wealth to live comfortably.

But the girl told him to pursue his dream that she will wait.

She said though she will want him to stay back with her but she knows that his heart will never be at peace.

One day, he will wake up and look to the desert and wished that he had crossed over and see his dream.

And then he'll blame her and maybe even hate her deep in his heart for holding him back.

So with tears in her eyes she let him off to go follow his dream.

But on reaching the pyramid, some thieves met the boy and beat him and collected all he had after learning that he was digging the base of the pyramid for gold because he saw that in his dream.

As they were about to leave, one of the thieves remarked, "that's how I saw in my dream that there's a chest of treasure buried under a sycamore tree in a ruined church in Spain, its just a dream and I'm not stupid enough to believe it"

And with that they left him half alive.

But the boy already knew that his treasure is not really in Egypt but in Spain, his home country that he left behind!

Omo!never let Konji puts you into trouble, just jaapa and hustle in abroad first,after getting your feet over there, you can now come back for marriage the marriage.

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

While I understand that times are hard in Nigeria yet I really don't understand the obsession with traveling abroad as the only way of solving problems in this country. I wonder if some people think abroad is also a bed of roses. By the way, Op you're yet to tell us

1. Your educational background,

2. what presently do for a living

3. How sure are you that your travelling plan will be scam free

You better think well

HUSTLE don't have respect in British but in Nigeria

Nice2023:
They are telling u to relocate abroad and they are in Nigeria making money.

U had better not listen to them oh.

See,before u marry that lady,discuss her role in the marriage,your role and most importantly,your individual financial responsibilities.

How many children u want to have,investments,extended families and many more I may not fathom here.

Marriage and wedding aren't the same,it is in the definition u will understand me better.

Don't rush into it but ask yourself if u can muster all the financial implications that comes with it.


Wish u all the best.

The thing tire me ooo.
The OP should assess himself, his options and goals very well because at the end of the day, he's the one wearing the shoe and knows where it pinches the most.

See this fuul, want to waste ur precious resources on a 9ja girl.

Instead of using your hard earned resources to marry a 9ja girl, use the whole money to buy suya give area.

In years to come they will still appreciate you

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

Pls leave her for me to marry. You won't regret it. Tnx

Don't let her threaten you to marry her.

If she has that same money and plan you have for it. She won't think twice before leaving for the abroad. Leave her and go before she leave you and go.

Bros for were u de count 3yrs relationship another man don de round up 2 n half yrs on top am, Mark am

those people saying relocate seem not to watch the news. I think soonest Africa will be the safest place to have a family and train kids with this transgender and LGBTQ stuffs the world is consuming.
I will advise you to invest online rather than travel. Shey the other day one guy want to run back to naija just three months after he japa, na still una tell am to come back home or be a man. Imo, you can make it anywhere.

Upworkwriter007:
Do court wedding, leave the country with her. Come back after few months for your engagement etc. Problem solved.

Court wedding?

Op don't try this if you are dating a slay queen with wide eyes... You'll regret your life... Only try this with someone you're totally convinced will listen to you, respect you and follow your lead

I'll advise you discuss this with her, better still just do small tin for her head b4 leaving

Any day, anytime always make your career priority.
Your career is very important...if your earning is much it will be better to stay in naija than to start in square one in foreign country.
If you are still managing life it's better to travel out and make it big.
In other way I can say that you are not mature enough for marriage when u do you can take good decision without consultation.

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

Don't listen to anybody here, take your time and think.

Don't just travel without an introduction first.If you do, you might regret because when the time comes for you to settle down it will bedifficult for you for to find a woman you love