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How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by GeorgeForeman: 11:38am On Apr 17, 2023 |
I had to create a new account specifically for this post. Today makes it 7 months my left with my kid. I married my wife in feb 2021 in a low key ceremony.I have known my wife for years before get married to her as we lived in same compound.She is from Imo and I am from Enugu state.She is 23 and i am 26 We have a daughter together.Trouble began about 7 months after my daughter was born,my wife always complained i dont give her enough money for upkeep.I work as a security guard for a company earning 75k monthly.Out of that 75k,I remit 40k to her monthly for upkeep.She is a school teacher but i don't really know how much she earns. Given the situation of things in the country,I know she may be right when she says the money i give her isn't enough but i am genuinely trying my best.it hasn't been easy. Asides from her nagging about upkeep money,my wife is a good woman.She cooks and takes good care of our daughter. Things got worse when the company i was working for folded up.I think the owner got involved in some shady deals and the company building and assests were confiscated.I was without a job for some time and we were surviving on my savings and and some menial jobs i was getting. Times were hard.I opened up to my wife that i want to learn cctv And solar panel installation.I viewed this as a good skill to learn and have.I enrolled and i am an apprentice now learning alongside some other boys. My wife couldn't bear any longer and she left with our kid without informing me.I have called her mom to beg.She said she will talk to her.I don't even know where she is though i heard she stays with her aunty. I have begged her to return home to no avail.The issue is affecting me emotionally and mentally.I mean i'm already having a hard time trying to learn this skill,why should my wife add to it? I really need the encouragement and warmth of my wife especially now i haven't been feeling fine for some time 36 Likes 8 Shares
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Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by garriAndsugar: 11:56am On Apr 17, 2023 |
you just have to concentrate and learn the job so you can be useful to yourself and family. hustle so that when she returns you can also add another wife incase one goes the other one will remain 449 Likes 28 Shares |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by Klass99(f): 12:08pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
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Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by ahnie: 12:09pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Taking notes. 4 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by EriMma1: 12:14pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Money go, woman go. When I was warning you guys in my post that a woman needs to be taken care of if you want your marriage to last, some empty skull said I too like men matter. Now see. This skill is what you ought to have learnt first, then build your financial security before talking about marriage but You men like putting the cart before the horse. Number 2, marriage is not for children. Forget the general opinion that it's better to marry a younger girl. mature ladies are still far better in terms of managing hard times and handling tough situations unlike your 23 yr old who has not been through lifes hurdles or surmounted challenges on her own. Prolly she just moved in with you from her parents house where everything is being done for her. As long as you're still broke and can't meet her needs yet, no amount of begging will make her come back cos that was why she left in the first place. Focus and complete your skill training. Make sure you learn it very well and start sourcing for jobs.. Also keep looking for a regular job to sustain in the meantime. Forget about her but try to send upkeep for your child If you hammer tomorrow, look for a mature lady and marry. All this 20 yr old ladies without tangible source of income rushing into marriage with average Nigerian guys, I pity all of you. You people think marriage is childs play. Make una dey play. 321 Likes 37 Shares |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by Klass99(f): 12:17pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
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Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by Nobody: 12:23pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Find menial jobs and be doing. You can look for hotels or large scale restaurants and apply for work as a bartender or a waiter. If you've a car , use it and do Uber. This is not the right time to learn how to install solar panels and CCTV. Now this is the time you be a man and take full responsibility of your family. 42 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by GeorgeForeman: 12:28pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Klass99: Not for jokes please 17 Likes |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by GeorgeForeman: 12:28pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Softbby123: Ok 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by Klass99(f): 12:37pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
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Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by Nice2023(m): 12:44pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
U created a new account to appear innocent. U were earning 75k and u went and married and u think she wouldn't run like Ben Johnson. U should have saved money and invest it to provide u with a passive income but na marriage u follow. I don't think u love yourself,if u really do,u would not marry a woman whose income u do not know. Na only u enter that marriage...and that is why u are begging ur mother in law and also begging your wife. Advice: Start earning income and see ur wife come with full force. Pls,in ur next life,do not marry semi liability as a wife and for women out there,do not settle for a man who can't take care of u. U can abuse me i don't care but let us join hands in reducing poverty in our land. Marriage needs money and without it,na trouble u dey look for. Wish u the best in all u do. 92 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by GeorgeForeman: 12:51pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Nice2023: Ok 7 Likes |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by Stevenbright(m): 12:57pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
You were earning 75,000 naira and normally give her 40,000 naira for upkeep. She works too as a private school teacher but you don't know how much she earns which means she didn't tell you and hence not even open about her finances and she has mind to be angry at you who is open about your finances and giving a moderate sum to the home considering your earning power! You were not miss using the rest of your funds as you saved a part of it and probably used some to meet your personal effects and transportation fares. You have not done anything wrong but next time maybe you can be more open by clarifying what your remaining funds is meant for and also demand to know her financial status. Again, she realizing that after the lost of your job, your savings came in handy should have made her to respect and regard your stand and opinions if she actually loves you. But for now, focus on yourself, finish your skill acquisition, launch a career on the acquired skills and work at it to regain your lost time and finances. After which, you can decide if you still want her or someone else. A teaser--- "What if she is with another man right now"? 80 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by GeorgeForeman: 1:01pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Stevenbright: With another man? Hmmm 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by frozen70(f): 1:03pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
GeorgeForeman: As it is now, three things are making you sick Loneliness Absence or wife and child Lack of money You know what, you just have to keep calling to say hello to them and assure them that everything will be fine Concerntrate on the job you are learning so that you don't come out half baked By the time you find your bearings, you can look for you family and bring them home You barely feed, so why do you want to bring them back and end up not providing for them You rushed into marriage at a very early age, when you don't have family's to support you Learn from that mistake pls Relax she will not marry another man without her family informing you Just keep calling, even if they don't pick your calls or communicate with you To avoid any one blaming you for not reaching out to them 36 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by PJtech: 1:05pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
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Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by mariahAngel(f): 1:11pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Since you've asked (and begged) her to come back and she has refused, then ignore her. Make the most of the freedom that you've been given to focus on and build yourself. Don't be too needy. Preserve your dignity. When she's had enough of her vacation , she'll come back. If not, good riddance. 92 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by GeorgeForeman: 1:12pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
frozen70: Ok 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by DontBullshitMe: 1:18pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Every Nairaland thread keeps proving the uselessness of marriage. When the chips are down, the institution falls. Not worth sacrificing for TBH. 27 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by NoFucksToGive: 1:19pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Klass99: Shut up 17 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by NoFucksToGive: 1:21pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Klass99: Shut up . It's his daughter that's affecting him 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by Nobody: 1:29pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
What does the last chat says? Anyone to translate? 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by Jozilinn: 1:48pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Op don't be angry but seriously your wife is very selfish,you were giving her 40k per month, she wants to say she doesn't have savings right plus her salary, with just one child haba now wetin she dey buy every month...why didn't you encourage her to get a trade before so she would be helpful right now. There is no marriage without pain, endurance and patience makes it work, besides you are both still young, have you tried paramilitary work? The only thing right now is your daughter your wife probably has someone else right now I am not really sure cos if her family was so good, they would assist her with something that would help the both of you... their silence is encouraging her money isn't everything maybe she was sending little money to them, since you are okay with security work then try military now it might favour you, it's just to see money to train your girl,a female child needs protection and besides the world is very wicked...talk to your family members right now it's about you and not your wife, make yourself work and better things would come your way. I pray God help you, Amen. 23 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by ChybuzzDD(m): 2:00pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Klass99: If you have nothing other than criticisms to offer him, can't you just get out ![]() 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by Klass99(f): 2:04pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
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Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by bummyla(m): 2:08pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Acquire the skills first, start making money, nobody go tell her to come back to you! 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by Klass99(f): 2:11pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
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Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by Kobojunkiee: 2:12pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
GeorgeForeman:It seems the best you can do is work towards resolving the poverty issue first. So, get working and also don't forget to send support at least once a month to help your wife take care of your kid. When you are back on your feet again, maybe you can go back and ask her back again and she might change her mind. ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by Munzy14(m): 2:35pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
mariahAngel:You dey advise who conji hold..🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 It is same as advising a woman in love. A buhari/Tinubu supporter. Or Nwoke ji cash... ![]() Self developement is key to sustainable wealth/income. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by sisisioge: 2:42pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Hmmmm....it doesn't sound true that she left all because money is tight in the house. Too fair weather for comfort! Well, if indeed that's why she left and you dont mind that betrayer but still want her back, the best course of action is to concentrate on your apprenticeship, finish, start working and making money before then asking her to come back. After all, there is still no money, aunty will still run even if she comes back. Very funny marriage ![]() Have a little more patience 7 Likes |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by Romanoff(f): 2:43pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Hmmn. You people will marry without knowing each other's income. How then will you be able to plan for your home? If she doesn't have a job, it's understandable but the woman is working. What is she using her own money for that she can't hold the forth till you're back on your feet? You married too young self. Time you should have used to develop yourself in a good career, you run use that time go marry. Does she not have a family? Hasn't anyone from her family reached out to you to find out why your wife left? 21 Likes |
Re: How Do I Get My Wife And Kid Back? I Really Love Her So Much by SleekyP(m): 2:44pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
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