My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love.

However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter.

Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most.

I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life.

I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house.

She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?

Why are some women like this?

RIP to your first queen.


Your story is same with some Nigerian movie back then.

Let me write the scene of such movie.. I pray it never be your portion. Amen

First the girl will be accused of being a w. by her step mom, maybe because she no get belle for you.

Then afterwards the girl will be sent out to nowhere.

She will hustle on her own through thick and thin , possible r*pe, school and all that.

Then finally she will get a degree, good job and a husband.

Then she will look for her dad and maybe meets him as a gateman, driver or cleaner in her working place or company.

Then you both will hug each other and cry.

Then she will forgive you and clean you up.


Movie ends.

Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love. However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter. Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most. I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life. I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house. She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?

Don't you have a mother?

Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love. However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter. Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most. I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life. I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house. She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?

It's obvious there's a fly on your scrotum,pls find whatever way and make the maltreatment stop cos she never knows why she came into such family and the reason she met a daughter in the relationship. She should show her love so her womb will open asap oo

You married your present wife after the loss of your wife so that YOUR DAUGHTER WILL GROW UP WITH MOTHERLY LOVE/CARE... it's obviously not working.
FIRE HER.
Don't listen to woke people and ignore the warning signs until she harms that innocent kid.
The hearts of men.

I’m very sure she was pretending to be nice to the child before you married her?
snakes masked in makeups & wigs

Naija women...dats why they all want a son like hakimi,but will never want a husband like him.

Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love. However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter. Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most. I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life. I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house. She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?

My brother, if it is obvious that your new wife is been unreasonable, send your wife out!!!

If you are an igbo man, that is your Ada that you are toiling with... If you are yoruba, just know that you joking with the love and life of your akobi!!!

Well, just in case you're not a tribal person... I guess you know your daughter is uour firstfruit that should be the apple of eyes

Don't let your daughter grow up resenting you...

You married an opportunist as a 2nd wife.
she is yet to conceive but’s already maltreating a child
keep sentiments aside Bro. she has failed to meet the main reason you married her “according to you”
if you persuasively force that woman to love & treat your child well, she will only get better at pretending… a time-bomb in the waiting.

Do the needful now.

I can't control my tears... Only God knows what that little child is going through... Please how old is she?

If you truly married a year after your wife’s demise do that your daughter can feel 'motherly love' and the new wife hates your daughter, isn't it a failed mission?

Now that the mission has failed, instead of you to correct or rearrange it, you are talking of loving the new wife: who doesn’t love you.

Since you are not capable of being a father to your dead wife’s daughter, please send her to your parents so that your loved wife doesn’t kill her or cause irreparable damage.

May God who is the parent of the orphans look after the little girl and protect her. Amen.

bukatyne:
If you truly married a year after your wife’s demise do that your daughter can feel 'motherly love' and the new wife hates your daughter, isn't it a failed mission?

Now that the mission has failed, instead of you to correct or rearrange it, you are talking of loving the new wife: who doesn’t love you.

Since you are not capable of being a father to your dead wife’s daughter, please send her to your parents so that your loved wife doesn’t kill her or cause irreparable damage.

May God who is the parent of the orphans look after the little girl and protect her. Amen.

Which kind prayer be this? The girl is not an orphan yet nau

Zonefree:


Which can prayer be this? The girl is not an orphan yet nau

No difference nah, when she has a father who is only a man by dick, that can't stand up for her.

Nice response;
Put your woman in check. Tell her she shouldn't make you choose between her and your kid. And find a way to ease the tension between the two of them. Quash it now, unresolved family issues doesn't generally end well, it affects everyone.



Not so nice response;

Nairaland and spineless men who can't stand up for their offsprings. If you can't meditate peace then it's between choosing between your blood or someone who may or may not dump you when everywhere burst

Chidi2022:
No difference nah, when she has a father who is only a man by dick, that can't stand up for her.

To be frank, such a man is highly disgusting.

The essence of your remarry is not working, what are you still doing in the marriage?

Diligent1:

Don't you have a mother?

The primary purpose he remarried after one year was for her new wife to be a mother to the child
You women!! so he should transfer his child to his mother ?? as far as you’re concerned.. Abi?

Zonefree:

To be frank, such a man is highly disgusting.

The essence of your remarry is not working, what are you still doing in the marriage?

As in ehnn. My neighbor here sent his wife(mother of 2) back home because she do frown her face whenever his friends come visiting or come to play all these football games... Ever since the woman returned, she smiles and greet everyone... i believe she learnt her leasons...

Zonefree:

To be frank, such a man is highly disgusting.

The essence of your remarry is not working, what are you still doing in the marriage?

I wonder ooo… when you see some grown males with beard, you would think you’ve seen a man.

Chidi2022:
As in ehnn. My neighbor here sent his wife(mother of 2) back home because she do frown her face whenever his friends come visiting or come to play all these football games... Ever since the woman returned, she smiles and greet everyone... i believe she learnt her leasons...

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Chidi2022:
As in ehnn. My neighbor here sent his wife(mother of 2) back home because she do frown her face whenever his friends come visiting or come to play all these football games... Ever since the woman returned, she smiles and greet everyone... i believe she learnt her leasons...

You got yourself a correct neighbor. That's how to handle issues in marriage. You're blessed to have such man as a neighbor.

Billionaire2:


😂😂😂😂😂😂

I swear.. everybody suprise as the woman change.. Because even in the compound, always acting like she is some sort of powerwoman, we are supposed to be scared of..

Zonefree:

You got yourself a correct neighbor. That's how to handle issues in marriage. You're blessed to have such man as a neighbor.

LMAO....wetin be my own.. am just happy that we can rest from the woman's tyranny.

No man will be this foolish to allow a total stranger to maltreat his child for any reason so i don't bliv this made up story. If u have any relative or frnd that is this weak that person shud be castrated asap cos he's not qualified 2b called a man.

Chidi2022:
LMAO....wetin be my own.. am just happy that we can rest from the woman's tyranny.

I wasn't blessed with such neighbors. All my neighbors here are weaklings except Mr Duru. Sometimes I wonder if they're under a spell. A man will be begging his wife not to shout that it's late

Billionaire2:


I wonder ooo… when you see some grown males with beard, you would think you’ve seen a man.

It's worrisome, aswear

Zonefree:


Which can prayer be this? The girl is not an orphan yet nau

What is the difference between 6 and half a dozen?

If the loved wife tells OP to sell the daughter, won't he?

Chidi2022:
No difference nah, when she has a father who is only a man by dick, that can't stand up for her.

Well said.

Zonefree:

I wasn't blessed with such neighbors. All my neighbors here are weaklings except Mr Duru. Sometimes I wonder if they're under a spell. A man will be begging his wife not to shout that it's late

The day i feared this man, was the day, he told her openly that instead of his to stop being friends with any of his friends... he would rather divorce her... i shock ..walai....Ever since she came back, she even dey knee down greet..
The man said his main annoyance was that, she meet all thise his friends when they were dating, she will even cook for them without complains.. but immediately he married her, she frowns when ever they are around to the extent, they will be uncomfortable and that thier wives don't treat him that way...

Chidi2022:
The day i feared this man, was the day, he told her openly that instead of his to stop being friends with any of his friends... he would rather divorce her... i shock ..walai....Ever since she came back, she even dey knee down greet..
The man said his main annoyance was that, she meet all thise his friends when they were dating, she will even cook for them without complains.. but immediately he married her, she frowns when ever they are around to the extent, they will be uncomfortable and that thier wives don't treat him that way...

The man is a true alpha. God bless him abundantly.

Zonefree:
The man is a true alpha. God bless him abundantly.

Lol....

You have to put your foot down…


For your daughter’s sake.

No be all this lovey-lovey “ I love my wife” BS.

Man up!

Billionaire2:


The primary purpose he remarried after one year was for her new wife to be a mother to the child
You women!! so he should transfer his child to his mother ?? as far as you’re concerned.. Abi?

No, I am just being afraid of the child being maltreated by the step mum because of cases I have heard.