lavylilly:

Thomasankara:
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lavylilly:

Gerrard59:


Good. In that case, Nigerian men are not top of the food chain regarding dating when abroad. Isn't that the reason they lament of lack of sexual partners aka knack o before going to the abroad? These men believe the 5K or 10K they give to young girls in Nigeria can be replicated abroad, but it is a lie. You want to use money to buy the heart of a Swiss girl? How much does he have to do such?

emmaodet:


Atleast, they attract mid to low quality ladies in the societal ladder.
Now, the question is, how many men do Nigerian ladies attract abroad?
Even in Africa, outside Nigeria I don't think any other African nationality want to touch our ladies and that speaks volume compared to our men.

Thomasankara:
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Exedyne:



hookup culture and the unfair justice system that is tipped in favor of women sef dey contribute.

kkins25:

Exactly. Plenty people make up the excuse of career and personal development BS. but, in reality, we are all dodging changing pampers😂..

SaLongs1:
Our irresponsibility you mean?

Tzar:

Believe it or not. I am speaking from experience because I have lived & still live abroad for several years to know how abroad men have evolved.
Nigerian women are a stone throw away from the same fate.

Ilekokonit:


Not just bills and taxes but a great lot of our Women abroad especially in the UK [i] which is the single parent capital of Europe because of the money the Govt gives to single mothers [/i]are super aggressive and stubborn to the point that you will then ask yourself of you want to marry a woman who will be dragging trouser with me and will try to give me her skirt to wear whilst she takes my trouser and the driving seat / headship of the home away from me

In a relationship, UK women want to be the man and the woman at the same time

Hence "smart" Naija men are staying well clear of them to avoid going to jail.

rickleye:


Not true regarding bills. I find splitting the bills makes you save but you have to date first before you get to that level of moving in together.

Easybet1:
love your picture. Are you available for a flex this weekend ?

Originalsly:


If the Naija man's options are multiple especially when outside the country...... and Nigerian women are at the bottom of the pecking order .... then why do soooo many Naija men outside return home to find a wife?

lavylilly:
The pressure to meet up with bills, taxes and other stuff to survive with back to back shifts go humble any Nigeria Person. Even many married people are lonely...talking from my sisters experience.

She said nothing but the fact.
Have experienced this issue.
Ko easy. Do shakara for naija but not for obodo Oyinbo

Beautiful thing ;
1. You can’t use money, catfish &pepper soup to get a girlfriend.
2. Bills are split even on first date
3. You don’t pay anyones transport
4. Dating doesn’t mean relationship
5. Relationship doesn’t mean marriage
6. You must ask if she is into men/women

Finnbaloroficia:



What's the difference between dating and relationship

Oyindamolah:

sprints1:
E be like one naija babe wey we worry me. Na big time doctor she be for California hey. She dey find husband even her family dey worry my old parent but as dem see I no dey look their daughter side dem discharge. Number 1 she no too fine and secondly not my type. I get my own personal lingering financial problem wey I dey beg baba God to solve. I never ready to do houseboy for obodoyinbo. Make I dey my dey. She go use american culture take finish my life. She is career oriented. I need a badass chick not a control freak.

GUNITGuy:
My aunt in the Uk same thing she should going to her mid 50s .....Here on the island dey just dey find who to give them belle wether rich or not.......

Finnbaloroficia:



What's the difference between dating and relationship

DAramis:

My own little knowledge on the two words.

Dating means you guys are together, but she would not see any future with you. You are only sex satisfying toy to her till she gets tired with you and jump to another guy that catches her fancy.

For relationship, she sees other qualities in you aside the great sex you guys have. She is open to having your kids, living together, introducing you to her tight knitted friends and family members as someone special to her etc

Not sure if it helps, but just see it from the little perspective I gave.

anayolity:


To make it simple DATING means you guys are hanging out together when you can and are also involved sexually without any commitment.

Being in a RELATIONSHIP requires commitment and Faithfulness

anayolity:


To make it simple DATING means you guys are hanging out together when you can and are also involved sexually without any commitment.

Being in a RELATIONSHIP requires commitment and Faithfulness

sharone21:
It is mostly on Nairaland I see where they say Nigerian women don't attract foreign men ... Maybe all this talk is a way of making our men feel good about themselves.

Maybe not enough Nigerian women want to venture out to try these foreigners not that they can't get them. African men who eg Ghanaians, Beninoise, Cameroonians etc who can manage to convince our women for a date, will be in party mood throughout the following week( not kidding).... Our ladies are high premium though may not be valued enough by her men.... The men will prefer treating foreign women as partners than 5heir Nigerian sisters unless ENLIGHTENED, EXPOSED Nigerian men.

We see even the types our men and ladies bring and show on social media: our women are getting good enough foreigners including whites while our men are managing to get by with the left overs there....

Everything boils down to what the person or lady wants / choice ( not meaning racist). Nigerian women have LONG attracted the foreign men and some of these women are our mother's ages, granny's ages not to talk of present younger, more learned and exposed ladies.

I know of a Nigerian lady who was into Medicine or Nursing and the way one fine, white guy ( academician in another institution) was dying for her it was something else. There is even one of our ladies that married a white South African and both have 5 beautiful kids
I can't list others.

I don't know where this talk and culture that we are least desirable compared to our men who have worse reputation( lol).....

It is well..... To every mallam his kettle..... Just go for what you want Naija ladies with faith same with men who would not need to put us down first before trying.

Wotowotoman:


Froshloaded, You don finally pass NYSC?

Rubyjade:
A friend that went to Japan shared his experience on this.

Most of the young fellas think marriage is like a bondage wound up with a lot of responsibility. You see that responsibility is what most of them are not ready for.

Our culture here is helping in this regard.

Exceed15:


Our culture has changed. Marriage is now third world war.

Gerrard59:


Until recently, few Nigerian women travel out compared to the men, So, the numbers don't tally. It is easier and common for a Nigerian man to marry a foreigner. Also, there is no economic benefit attached to marrying a Nigerian woman.