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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by WhereMyLoud: 2:31pm On May 10, 2023
When him knack her tomorrow hope you no go pursur her commot house.

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by cpu2006(m): 2:31pm On May 10, 2023
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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Nobody: 2:31pm On May 10, 2023
Jashub:
A man thinks differently from a woman but this is something a stupid bìtch like you can never phantom. Anyway, you go remain old for your papa house.
I'd rather remain old in my papa house than to ever cross the path of a man that thinks with his penis. You need surgery to properly put your organs where they rightly belong because it's strange having your penis do the reasoning instead of your brain.

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Omagi: 2:32pm On May 10, 2023
Since your husband doesn't want a house help, look for all these women that can be coming around like two to three times in a week or if she can come around everyday to help you with house chores. She won't be living with you, she will only spend few hours with you, do her job and leave.
There are terrible experiences pple have had with house helps. You won't need to house, cloth and feed these type of women unlike house helps.

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by IamPlato(m): 2:32pm On May 10, 2023
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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by meum: 2:32pm On May 10, 2023
How did you cope with the other kids when they were toddlers?

Madam, E fit be say the man know him weak point

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Jashub: 2:32pm On May 10, 2023
IyaebeTheGreat:
I'd rather remain old in my papa house than to ever cross the path of a man that thinks with his penis. You need surgery to properly put your organs where they rightly belong because it's strange having your penis do the reasoning instead of your brain.
Enjoy your papa house

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by ugodson(m): 2:33pm On May 10, 2023
IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband

U are d one wicked. Do u want another to take someone else husband. His saying it for a reason. Not when she +house maid) comes and seduce OGA u will come here and say Men are scum

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by sisisioge: 2:33pm On May 10, 2023
Hmmmm...

1. You need to change the course of your discussion with him to a help that comes and go daily.

2. If that fails, pls suggest bringing in his extended family or yours to help.

3. If that fails, do only what you can do and leave the rest. He will be the one to revisit the matter with you soon. Instead of cooking all the time, pls order food. His finance will feel it. Leave the house untidy. Pay for school bus and school lunch for kids. Just start looking at spending more to relieve yourself.

What a very very simple matter. You shouldn't even add his lack of empathy to your worry. All will be well.

You need not kill yourself fa.

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Nobleou(m): 2:34pm On May 10, 2023
Lazy woman, don't come later to complain of ur house help forrkinng ur husband
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Nobody: 2:34pm On May 10, 2023
Jashub:
Enjoy your papa house
Have a safe sugery(penis and brain position sugery) nansense

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Shadysen: 2:35pm On May 10, 2023
him don tell you now, later you go cry when him start to fuvk your maid, it alright.
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by fesdo(m): 2:35pm On May 10, 2023
Listen to ur husband oo
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Bringbackmandat: 2:37pm On May 10, 2023
Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...
you can never satisfy woman. If they bring the house help, later this same woman will accuse the husband of sleeping with the house help. Infact she will even post it on nairaland.

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Xerona: 2:37pm On May 10, 2023
Rayban25:


House helps usually come with problems especially in these times you dont know who you're Bringing around your kids so I can understand your husband

But I suggest you plead with him to maybe invite your mother to help you with the kids (NOT YOUR SISTER INCASE YOU HAVE ONE)
I have considered all of the above... the truth is my mom has stroke and it affected her legs she's been taken care of, also I dont hv any family relative that can help ATM
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Sanchez01: 2:37pm On May 10, 2023
Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...
What are his reasons if any? How about you suggest a non live-in help; someone who comes and goes? If helps are not on the table for consideration, how about a sibling from either side?

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by GorgeousAF(f): 2:37pm On May 10, 2023
Omo some men Sha...what are his reasons by the way?... I'm a stay home mom and still have a domestic help... domestic chores plus raising kids ain't easy...who suffer help? If he does want a live-in,you can get a live- out..!! Besides it will give you time for yourself asides d house and kids. He should consider you na. Na wa o

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by slowice(m): 2:37pm On May 10, 2023
IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband

You re not the standard.... You are below the standard.

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Olalekanbanky1(m): 2:38pm On May 10, 2023
Bring your kid sis in
Or u bring in a distant niece or nephew
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by qtguru(m): 2:38pm On May 10, 2023
House helps are good, depending on the type of household, a traditional man will find it hard, but for working-class couples I don't think there's any other choice unless you want to break down fast. Imagine entering 5 hours hold-up and coming to do more work again. hian.

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by ruffhandu: 2:38pm On May 10, 2023
Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...
I hope he is not a womaniser, if he is, then mind the kind of help you bring in, it has to be an old married woman. Don't bring in a boy, he may molest your kids. A girl may molest your kids too, but...
whoever you bring, take her for deliverance first, then medical tests, before they step in. Just my advice. The child that is 5 already should be helping small small. Desperate times call for deperate measures.

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by slowice(m): 2:38pm On May 10, 2023
Talk to him about bringing in your sister or someone you trust.
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Xerona: 2:39pm On May 10, 2023
Sanchez01:

What are his reasons if any? How about you suggest a non live-in help; someone who comes and goes?
he doesnt just want a stranger in his house... a non live-in house help wouldn't do much as i would still be the one to stay up most of the night.

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Taiwo20(m): 2:39pm On May 10, 2023
Sometimes, an outsider joining the family could cause issues especially in these times.

Have you thought of buying pot of soup or getting someone to come and cook the soups needed for a whole week. Get someone to do the laundry or use the washing machine.

Have you thought of having a house help that isnt live-in.

Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by MASTAkiLLAh(m): 2:40pm On May 10, 2023
Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...
call his mother and elder ones. I know you love him but he's unreasonable and wicked. If he's bothered about the expenses in this APC economy then you guys should look for an alternative but you really need help

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Vicana: 2:40pm On May 10, 2023
I would suggest you find ways to inculcate your 5 yr old to assist you even when it is not done totally the way you want it. Avoid any perfect house chores.
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Bringbackmandat: 2:40pm On May 10, 2023
IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband
whenever you open your mouth you must say rubbish. Why?
Do you even think of the future problems that the house help will cause?

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Khastro(m): 2:40pm On May 10, 2023
IyaebeTheGreat:
That will be his loss. Even with the constant headache you are not touched, you still supporting the man. You guys are very mean sha.

This lady or girl maybe keep quiet after making your point.
There have been several intelligent responses even to your comments but your "righteous anger" is all over the place

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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by BigYash: 2:41pm On May 10, 2023
IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband
You when no dey get toasters,na you dey talk put for marriage matters? You need to go work on yourself first.. Op don't mind this one.. Your husband might have a reason for not wanting a house help .. Sit him down and make him understand why you need assistance. If a house help won't work.. Get an older woman, d one they call nanny .. Maybe oga no wan problems with these teenage wanna be olosho or gigolo in his house..

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