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Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by creolehunt: 11:41pm On May 16, 2023 |
Jakumo: Hows he a "sexual pervert"? Pray tell. And hows she different from the boy in the last image? 1 Like |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Kobojunkie: 11:46pm On May 16, 2023 |
alcuin:You are kidding, right? When you were 9-years-old were you completely dumb or something? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Kobojunkie: 11:48pm On May 16, 2023 |
LeyeWrites:I was reading newspapers at age 6. I wasn't daft or dumb and yes, I was able to reason as early as 6 years of age. Kids are not imbe_ciles that you think they cannot be talked to. It may take them some time to get it but you continue until they do. It is how they learn. No one comes into this world prewired with knowledge of any or everything. They learn by picking these things up as they go. Flogging it into them does not help them in learning anything aside from the fact that if you are around you are a hindrance to their freedom. That is why the same kids you flog go on to become arseholes and crooks as adults. They never got to in fact learn anything real. 1 Like |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by seanwilliam(m): 11:57pm On May 16, 2023 |
Geovanni412: 99% of people will read this and pass, What you said here can never be thought in schools or anywhere. Infact, there’s 80% chances that people won’t understand this even if they experience it. You must be extremely smart , I mean a super intelligent person to say the bolded . I’ll love to be your friend !. 1 Like |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by seanwilliam(m): 11:59pm On May 16, 2023 |
Benjaniblinks:the guy is a stealthy simp. Like he singled out and defended the girl but intentionally ignored the boy ( funnily enough , in the picture above, the boy was having it harder than the girl) 1 Like |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by ModCaller: 12:09am On May 17, 2023 |
VinnyBaba: This is how you people kill potentials in Africa because you're too lazy to learn. Continue killing that negative trait. We always term what we don't know how to control negative. Light will enter Nigeria one day |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by seanwilliam(m): 12:12am On May 17, 2023 |
Beating na him make me no Dey social till now . When I was young , I would go out to play from morning till night , na torch light my mama go Dey use to find me for neigborhood , my papa was working with a construction company then , if my mama don report me to him, chai I don finish that day . Dem go beat me like a criminal. Till now, if I go out wether to visit person or to buy something or social gathering, I will always feel the urge to go back home as soon as possible. 7pm, my mind go don Dey my house, even if I no get anything to do. ( now I’m old enough small to be father too o and the fear still Dey affect me till now). And no matter The situation , it’s extremely unlikely for me to sleep over for person house , as in I must reach my house o, even if I travel and lodge, e go still Dey do me like mske I don Dey house, My parents frowned at omota lifestyles , now ehn, if you jam me for street, I look so responsible and mature sotey , u go think say na deeper life dem brought me up, but na lie, I be confirm pako. Yes, beating works on some kids ( like me) But I won’t raise my kids with beating . It affected my social life, 3 Likes |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Spanki(f): 12:14am On May 17, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247: Flogging is between 3.6years-10 years old. After then nothing sinks. Sorry... 3 Likes |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by atheistandproud(m): 12:40am On May 17, 2023 |
abbey621: Hear hear As an ex teacher who tried the American style. I'll agree wholeheartedly with you. I shouted and talked and shouted till my voiced cracked. An experienced hand told me 8 years ago, "buy water cane and lay it on your desk". Mr Omokaro, good man. The next day, I bought the biggest canes I could find and put them on my desk in full view of the class. After issuing a few lashes to those who tested my resolve, I never had to shout again. 5 Likes |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Nobody: 12:42am On May 17, 2023 |
Since the Good Book says, "Spare The Rod And Spoil The Child" Then, Case Closed!!! 1 Like |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by 1stGenAmerican(f): 12:42am On May 17, 2023 |
suxkill: This isn’t discipline, it’s sadism and even prisoners are protected from cruel and unusual punishments like this. This is really disturbing. What makes people think about these methods of torturing children? 2 Likes |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by emorse(m): 12:47am On May 17, 2023 |
suxkill:You dey mind dem Oyinbo wannabes? One of them has been ranting on this same thread on how he can't wait to get into a fist fight with an adult whom he could easily have a conversation with yet he's against caning a child you has no idea of right or wrong or actions and consequences. Talk about "selective wokeness/civility". The "oyinbos" whom they see as gods do punish their kids as a means of correction when the need arises. Take a look at the clip below. Though it is from a movie, it shows that the ideas isn't alien to them. https://youtube.com/shorts/LEm0ClYwxLo?feature=share Moderation I think is key. Go too hard or too soft, you create a monster. NB: My mum did the trick for me. One of the many things I appreciate about her. 1 Like |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bepositive11: 12:52am On May 17, 2023 |
efficiencie: If you want your child to believe that flogging is the consequence for their bad actions, what happens when you are not there? They will do those bad actions because you are not their to flog them so the consequences you made them believe don't exist. If you child or woman flogged you for making mistakes, would you like it? Why flog them if you know that you won't like to be flogged? |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bepositive11: 12:54am On May 17, 2023 |
You are one of the few people making sense here. I still can't understand how people are against man beating woman saying that it is domestic violence but they will still come and say that it is okay to beat a child. The child is much more helpless and vulnerable. It is pure wickedness to beat a child Jakumo: |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bepositive11: 12:57am On May 17, 2023 |
benqo01: Flogging doesn't instill discipline. It instills heartlessness. It damages a child's ability to feel empathy. It breaks down the child psychologically. It is abuse not discipline. |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by emorse(m): 1:00am On May 17, 2023 |
abbey621:The sense in this comment is clear enough yet my "wanna - gonna" people with LAFL (Locally Acquired Foreign Lifestyle) Syndrome will bite your head off. Permit me to add that the Chinese tend to be very strict with the upbringing of their kids and they're doing extremely well for themselves. |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by sprints1: 1:11am On May 17, 2023 |
Jakumo:lol... where e for beat am foot or head. Back when I was in Anglican grammar school one man mr jire e dey flog girls anyhow for yansh dem girls for our class chop beating for yansh like 2moro no dey. This olaju don make everybody kolomental. Don't flog a child till d child insults you anyhow. BTW I be teacher too but lost interest because of the pressures from parent can't handle that the whole school wants u to treat this rotten children as eggs. Mschew u dey see chrisland now see as the children be like uncouth pikin. Don't quote me. I once taught in that useless school. Even me beat children for yansh when I was teaching in public school. 3 Likes |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by alyarmouk(m): 1:26am On May 17, 2023 |
BRIMBRAM: With oraimo cord 2 Likes |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by ddeola: 1:51am On May 17, 2023 |
Yes o, even the Holy scriptures talk am well well. Proverbs 13:24, Proverbs 22:15, Proverbs 23: 13-14, etc however it must be done in love and with caution. You don't beat a child anyhow and with anger and you don't do it to inflict any harm on the child. Let's be honest, if dem no flog us well well when we dey small, do you think we will be this disciplined? 1 Like |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Cassandraloius: 2:20am On May 17, 2023 |
I was thoroughly beaten when I was a kid, and was used to it, when I moved out of my parents house to stay with another family, thier method of punishment was totally different, they didn't hit me for a day, they prefer to punish you In a very hard way, told me things that my parents would just use cane instead, I felt like going back to my parents house but on the other hand I stayed back, this made me see life from another perspective. Yes, it's not wrong to cane a child, at least once in a while, with love and caution, but once it becomes a habit of hitting them everyday, the child might get used to it and see it as nothing. A child that wants to be corrupt will be no matter how well you discipline that child. I'm not too proud to beg, kindly check my signature. 1 Like |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by efficiencie(m): 2:23am On May 17, 2023 |
bepositive11: You missed my point. The flogging is just a simulation of the consequences. So first before flogging you have to present the errant child with the real consequences of his or her actions and how costly it is to address the consequence then you proceed to flog the child. This makes the child associate the simulated consequence with the real consequence. When you are not there the child will understand that his or her actions will come with consequences that he or she must be ready to face. Parents who violate this approach to flogging and flog for the sake of venting their anger end up hardening their child. 1 Like |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by efficiencie(m): 2:25am On May 17, 2023 |
Jakumo: Flogging your child and murdering your child are two different things. If your child grows up never knowing that consequences follow actions he or she will ultimately become a hazard to himself or herself. 2 Likes |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bepositive11: 2:46am On May 17, 2023 |
efficiencie: Why can't you present the child with the consequences without flogging them? What do you gain from flogging them? As a child, when you did something wrong, didn't you know that you made a mistake? Did you need your parents to flog you before you knew that you made a mistake? I hated my parents flogging me with passion. Till this day I don't understand how you people are okay with a man or woman flogging a child but not okay with a man flogging a woman or a woman flogging a man. What would you do if someone flogged you today? Won't you call it abuse? Won't you flog them back? It's because children are vulnerable and helpless that's why you people flog them anyhow. |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Staphylococcus: 4:07am On May 17, 2023 |
bepositive11: Hello! Flogging is valid and it’s the best way to instill discipline in a child. That’s why you can see the wide line of etiquette and morals between an African and Western kids. Discipline, humility, respect, cleanliness and hardworking is instilled in us right from our youthful days, and why we mostly turn out to be the best in our domains, in any part of the world. Slap and hood flexible cane is like vitamins to an African kid. It sets boundaries and consequences 1 Like |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Bukola94: 4:26am On May 17, 2023 |
seanwilliam:same with me, beating makes me to loss confident and I hardly tolerate nonsense from girls or ladies who I am far older than |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by VinnyBaba: 4:30am On May 17, 2023 |
Slayar: Thanks for ur Comments. When I see some Nigerian Parents trying to form to Woke or Modern, I just laugh @them. Its Because they have NOT met Unruly and Stubborn kids. You will see a little Child standing by the Roadside and using his hand to touch any Car that zooms past. Such a Behaviour calls for FLOGGING or any other Displinary measure. 😒 |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by ceejay80s(m): 4:36am On May 17, 2023 |
Jakumo:So flogging an underage boy is ok, oga it's part of learning, we all passed through it in primary school |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bepositive11: 4:40am On May 17, 2023 |
If someone flogs you for making a mistake today, what will you do to them? Flogging is physical abuse not discipline. You don't have to hurt a child physically or psychologically in the name of discipline. Keep flogging the empathy out of your children. There's no point trying to explain to you. And stop comparing Western children with African children. Regardless of whether they are Western or African, children who were brought up in loving and healthy environments with no form of abuse are the best behaved. Staphylococcus: |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bergs2: 4:44am On May 17, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247: Op, have you children of your own that you have raised before, if yes, then how did you raise them; if not, then wait until you have yours, because until then, you aren't permitted to talk until you experience what parents go through in raising a single child. We have a lot of "internet" and "perfectionist" ideas these days. All lofty ideas yet no substance. 2 Likes |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by wolement: 4:45am On May 17, 2023 |
Chinese still flogs and use other form of physical discipline. The western nations dont. Which part is more productive and free from all manner of madness. Children understand two things pain or pleasure. All these I will talk sense into him will really work on four years old, good luck. |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by fredoooooo: 4:47am On May 17, 2023 |
Yes |
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