Father0fjesus:
you guys talk like there's only one formula to a good marriage. It's not a one formula thing

No one said it is a one formular thing.
There are many roads that leads to your workplace, isn't it?
You are likely to follow the smoothest and less cumbersome. But that won't change the fact that there are other routes

tiswell:
just stay out of marriage.


Nothing so special about the hype

Marriage too sweet abeg........

Especially if you marry a true friend like a brother....

Na everyday jollification believe me when I say so

Learn to do the woman duties more than her so when she's the one making the money you can nag like hell yeah.....

.... except you got all the money and a heart built like a tank

Iamgodskid:
A QUICK QUESTION TO THE MARRIED FOLKS HERE
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During the early stage of marriage, there's usually this level of serenity n respect for each other but as time goes on, the story changes n then over familiarity n all the sh*t that comes with it, starts to set in,

with the level of "over familiarity" involved in marriage,

how do u guys still maintain the honour and regard for each other despite having seen n known everything there is to see n know about your partner...

You know how people can be most times, they start behaving funny when they finally get settled comfortably with you,



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my has not changed. The way she use to insult me from the beginning that is how she feels use to insult me now

In some cases they may become tired of each other, mostly when both of the couples have started openly displaying their bad side they have been hiding. Situation may hook the two of you together that you will come to the realization that trying to cope with him or her is more convenient than looking for a new partner that will bring new challenges.

The new challenges may be more difficult to cope with than the present one. Just like the case of the devil you know is better than the angel you do not know

I can't stand someone that lacks respect

arantess:

Marriage is not for children

You are obviously not matured for it, so stay single so as not to suffer someone's daughter

‪During the census you should be counted as a livestock ‬

Iamgodskid:
A QUICK QUESTION TO THE MARRIED FOLKS HERE
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During the early stage of marriage, there's usually this level of serenity n respect for each other but as time goes on, the story changes n then over familiarity n all the sh*t that comes with it, starts to set in,

with the level of "over familiarity" involved in marriage,

how do u guys still maintain the honour and regard for each other despite having seen n known everything there is to see n know about your partner...

You know how people can be most times, they start behaving funny when they finally get settled comfortably with you,



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It doesn't apply to everyone. Let God guide your decisions to get married. For me, i love my wife far more now that i have lived with her than before. I thank God everyday for her. I don't joke with her and i can make sacrifices for her.

Treat women well. Be kind. Be respectful and you will get the part of them you don't see on the internet or movies

When Jesus is at the center of your marriage the honor and regard you seek comes naturally.


QUICK QUESTION TO THE MARRIED FOLKS HERE
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During the early stage of marriage, there's usually this level of serenity n respect for each other but as time goes on, the story changes n then over familiarity n all the sh*t that comes with it, starts to set in,

with the level of "over familiarity" involved in marriage,

how do u guys still maintain the honour and regard for each other despite having seen n known everything there is to see n know about your partner...

You know how people can be most times, they start behaving funny when they finally get settled comfortably with you,



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Heroicvic:


‪During the census you should be counted as a livestock ‬

Unfortunately livestock are not counted, but you don't know that cos dullness runs in your family

Stay single, marriage is not child's play for infants like you

Small boy

isabi2lof:
I can't stand someone that lacks respect

But the way I talk. . Sir/Ma, TBH, u don't sound like a tolerant person. Do you give respect to others urself?

A man gets what he gives. Really.

If you are a Christian, ensure you marry a Christian as well. I do not mean a Church goer, but someone who grew up in a bible believing Church and who is invested in honouring God, and extending God's honour to the way they relate with people.

The next step would be to continue to read God's word, and meditate on His instruction for families. These are clearly stated in Ephesians 6, Colossians 3: 18-25, Ist Peter 3:1-7. These should be read not to instruct to other party but to learn to observe what is written, while leaving the other party to God, if they are not proving teachable.

If a man is harsh to his wife and children, and unkind to others, how does he expect good from God? If a woman claims to love God, but cannot honour her husband, then her Love for God is not genuine.

God for all

PonziHater

@Nebes gave you the most solid response.
Respect is a conscious decision. Spouses must consciously decide to sustain their marriage.

It is perhaps, unfortunate that there are too many badly raised people nowadays. Once the infatuation declines, the poorly constructed persona surfaces.

Equally unfortunate is the fact that people do not know this at the time they are ready for marriage nor will they listen when advised by more experienced fellows. They learn much later, when the frying pan is on the fire.

Iamgodskid:
A QUICK QUESTION TO THE MARRIED FOLKS HERE
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During the early stage of marriage, there's usually this level of serenity n respect for each other but as time goes on, the story changes n then over familiarity n all the sh*t that comes with it, starts to set in,

with the level of "over familiarity" involved in marriage,

how do u guys still maintain the honour and regard for each other despite having seen n known everything there is to see n know about your partner...

You know how people can be most times, they start behaving funny when they finally get settled comfortably with you,



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@Nebes gave you the most solid response.
Respect is a conscious decision. Spouses must consciously decide to sustain their marriage.

It is perhaps, unfortunate that there are too many badly raised people nowadays. Once the infatuation declines, the poorly constructed persona surfaces.

Equally unfortunate is the fact that people do not know this at the time they are ready for marriage nor will they listen when advised by more experienced fellows. They learn much later, when the frying pan is on the fire.

Iamgodskid:
A QUICK QUESTION TO THE MARRIED FOLKS HERE
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During the early stage of marriage, there's usually this level of serenity n respect for each other but as time goes on, the story changes n then over familiarity n all the sh*t that comes with it, starts to set in,

with the level of "over familiarity" involved in marriage,

how do u guys still maintain the honour and regard for each other despite having seen n known everything there is to see n know about your partner...

You know how people can be most times, they start behaving funny when they finally get settled comfortably with you,



🤥🤥🤥

Iamgodskid:
A QUICK QUESTION TO THE MARRIED FOLKS HERE
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During the early stage of marriage, there's usually this level of serenity n respect for each other but as time goes on, the story changes n then over familiarity n all the sh*t that comes with it, starts to set in,

with the level of "over familiarity" involved in marriage,

how do u guys still maintain the honour and regard for each other despite having seen n known everything there is to see n know about your partner...

You know how people can be most times, they start behaving funny when they finally get settled comfortably with you,



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Basicend:


But the way I talk. . Sir/Ma, TBH, u don't sound like a tolerant person. Do you give respect to others urself?

A man gets what he gives. Really.

Like I will be with someone that hurl insults at me at any slightest provocation, say madness dey run for him family abi na wetin.

I can't stay with someone that looks down on me or even my family.

If you no get money, you supposed get carriage or mouth .

I no get money, I no go still get self worth , abeg ooo

My wife & I still de do farting competition, from day 1 till date. Infact, it's 1 thing I do with my girlfriends then, so those who weren't ready to fart around with me left...I hate too much seriousness.

Btw, the love & respect btw my wife & I is very much intact, strong & enviable.

arantess:

Unfortunately livestock are not counted, but you don't know that cos dullness runs in your family

Stay single, marriage is not child's play for infants like you

Small boy

Fortunately for you, Cows will be counted in the north and you can’t afford to miss out aboki 😂

Iamgodskid:
A QUICK QUESTION TO THE MARRIED FOLKS HERE
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During the early stage of marriage, there's usually this level of serenity n respect for each other but as time goes on, the story changes n then over familiarity n all the sh*t that comes with it, starts to set in,

with the level of "over familiarity" involved in marriage,

how do u guys still maintain the honour and regard for each other despite having seen n known everything there is to see n know about your partner...

You know how people can be most times, they start behaving funny when they finally get settled comfortably with you,



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That's women for you. She must insult you. Their ability to talk to you anyhow and hiss or do shakara for you, makes them feel home and free. If they don't they are not happy. So just know it's a must for your wife to do like winch

Reminderz:
by setting boundaries from the start... most people tolerate disrespect from the start of the relationship.. some will even say "if I can't comfortably insult you, that means I can't be in a relationship with you", this is just stupidity.. as time goes by, love will wane from your eyes and you'll start seeing the shits you once tolerated...

don't tolerate disrespect from the start, even if too much familiarity later comes to play, you'll learn how to deal with it effectively than tolerating in small amounts from the start just because of love

Are you married? Are you real? Which boundaries? Which respect? Your whole input sound too theoretical.

Marriage is not 1,2,3 pls. Rather, it is built on genuine acceptance/appreciation of the person of your partner. When you admit you are not perfect, you will become humble enough to tolerate any imperfections of your partner and love him/her truly. Any marriage where a partner believes he/she is perfect will most likely crash. A great deal of emotional Maturity is a requirement in marriage. Above all, the fear of God from both couple will always balance things.

Be fair, be kind, be considerate, be firm, be humane, be honest, be positive and optimistic.

Love is good but it gets choked. After the initial 'gragra', realities of life creep in and love begins to wane, tired out and choked. You suddenly realise that love alone is not enough. The aforementioned are the things that you fall back on. They keep you from plunging headlong into that abyss of hatred, intolerance, bickering, disrespect and finally separation.

God bless our marriages.

Iamgodskid:
A QUICK QUESTION TO THE MARRIED FOLKS HERE
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During the early stage of marriage, there's usually this level of serenity n respect for each other but as time goes on, the story changes n then over familiarity n all the sh*t that comes with it, starts to set in,

with the level of "over familiarity" involved in marriage,

how do u guys still maintain the honour and regard for each other despite having seen n known everything there is to see n know about your partner...

You know how people can be most times, they start behaving funny when they finally get settled comfortably with you,



🤥🤥🤥

[b][/b]Dear OP,being a married individual of 16years,I can tell you that it needs continuous work on your relationship with your spouse.
You will need to come to terms that every change you see in your spouse over the course of the marriage is mostly what you allowed to happen assuming you didn't see that trait from the beginning if it is a negative trait.
Accept that you both will change physically,emotionally and mentally and you need to love the new person you see over time.
Constant communication is the key to maintaining a healthy relationship because the bond is stronger when you're used to communicating verbally and telepathically.It is easier to do this when you're both able to be vulnerable to each other.
Love changes over time and not fades as some allege but it is the friendship between the spouses that keep the relationship strong.Where there is selfishness and each is pursuing their individual goals,there is bound to be fissures in the union.
Marriage is ideally supposed to be 2 people becoming one in body,spirit and purpose.Anything less than that is a faulty foundation and it will collapse like those Lagos buildings.

Marriage is another school of it's own, it's not always rosy and it's not always bitter.
And the most interesting difficult part is that, it's a lifetime thing.

We all grew under different roofs. The only way to avoid such is if we marry siblings. Since that isn’t legal, accept whatever you come across. People also change over time. OP, the situation is unavoidable.

crows2ravens:
Do you have any close friends or siblings? Does "over faimliarity" cause issues?
If your answer is yes to both, don't get married!

Excellent questions!

Terver90:
Simply obey the Lord and do it properly and you both will be fine

Keep the mentions of God out of this abeg!

Kharol1234:
Na see finish cause am, After see finish respect no go they again and children don burst out.

Does this same see finish also destroy your relationships with your siblings and parents? That you believe see finish is capable of ruining your intimate relationships speaks volumes instead of your level of maturity. Stay away from marriage.

I'm here to read only one comment

Just marry a beliver, marry sombody that fears God, a true born again, and all your problems are solved ,

A man that fears God will be afraid of cheating because, he does not want to sin against God, and not his wife, he will be afraid of dying in the process and going to hell fire












quote author=Iamgodskid post=123058009]A QUICK QUESTION TO THE MARRIED FOLKS HERE
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During the early stage of marriage, there's usually this level of serenity n respect for each other but as time goes on, the story changes n then over familiarity n all the sh*t that comes with it, starts to set in,

with the level of "over familiarity" involved in marriage,

how do u guys still maintain the honour and regard for each other despite having seen n known everything there is to see n know about your partner...

You know how people can be most times, they start behaving funny when they finally get settled comfortably with you,



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Mumu, do not marry a virgin, marry a good girl, from a well brough up home.











uote author=pandoragirigory post=123175594]Marry a virgin and have peace of mind, you mould them to suite your needs, if they go bad, you are bad[/quote]

You are still single that is why you are capping rubbish, if you misbehave in marriage, your partner will insult you, .

If you cheat ,she calls you a dog, if you can not meet up with your financial responsibilities , and your mumu pride can not make you ,talk to her calmly. and bear with you for now you will be called a useless man.


If you do not want Insult, you have to be thatnperfect man, that does not Insult his wife too, and play his role as a man well.






quote author=Heroicvic post=123175605]Sorry is it just me that has this pride and won’t think twice before sending any woman that disrespect me in a marriage or relationship off?

I’m sorry but I can’t stand you insulting me while I feed you till you die😏[/quote]

Iamgodskid:
A QUICK QUESTION TO THE MARRIED FOLKS HERE
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During the early stage of marriage, there's usually this level of serenity n respect for each other but as time goes on, the story changes n then over familiarity n all the sh*t that comes with it, starts to set in,

with the level of "over familiarity" involved in marriage,

how do u guys still maintain the honour and regard for each other despite having seen n known everything there is to see n know about your partner...

You know how people can be most times, they start behaving funny when they finally get settled comfortably with you,



🤥🤥🤥

Get money when she thinks you can't get it .. then the over familiarity will disappear .. but when she knows all details of when you gonna get Ur next pay .. the element of surprise is gone .. hence no need to praise you .. you get ..??

slawomir:
Damnnn niggar
The sex part is what baffles me

How do I continue to bang one particular pussy for years
Will my dickkk ever get excited the way it was from the beginning for my wife...over familiarity of her kpekus will weakened my dickkk

You so much have the same mentality with one of my paddi. This thought is beginning to affect me .