Divorce rates are not even high enough in Nigeria. Women are going through shege. A lot of Nigerian men are unhinged. My best friend’s case is still shocking me. She was the life of the party in med school and an amazing entrepreneur.

Got married and he stopped her from seeing her friends. He will reprimand her for even going to see her parents in the same Lagos . On the same Lagos island!she respected all that for the marriage to ‘work’.

He told her no night shifts. Medical doctors earn more money, working nights . It took her a while to get a job because most hospitals wanted doctors that could work nights. That affected her career.

She eventually got into post grad medical college after passing her exams. Literally chose a field that will allow her work just days and go back home to cater to her family. It was not enough for this useless man

The last straw was locking her out because she attended a discussion class with her colleagues prior to her part 1 exams. He told her not to go for the discussion class. Something she needed to pass her exams. She came back and he had locked her out. That’s how the marriage ended

Contrary to what y’all like to think, women are not divorcing men in Nigeria, enough!!! A lot of women are still putting up with so much rubbish. Believe it or not, a lot of women are suffering because of the shame of a marriage not working out.

If you see a divorced woman in Nigeria, biko applaud her. It must have taken a lot for her to decide to leave that marriage. A lot are still suffering. I will always be in awe of women that leave ugly marriages in Nigeria.

This other girl I know, a lab scientist, kept getting STDs and she was not sleeping around. How are you married to a microbiologist and you are bringing STDs home? Her parents had to get her out of that marriage before she caught something. Men are fucking wild in Nigeria.

iammo:
Divorce is never the solution, marriage is not meant to be perfect

bukatyne:




When they say for better for worse, they refer to challenges that life throws at the couple; childlessness, job loss, health challenges, issues from in-laws, special needs children etc.

They are not talking about one of the parties roving mad and becoming a witch/wizard to the other party.

It is this 'marriage is not meant to be perfect ' that enables you men especially to waltz in with stupid behaviours and lack of home training hoping to be tolerated and accepted.

While marriage a might not be perfect because life is not perfect and the challenges I mentioned above, marriage ought to be enjoyed by both parties.

So ask yourself: these behaviours I put up, would it make my spouse enjoy this marriage?

Life is already throwing challenges, why should someone meant to make our lives more beautiful contribute or sponsor the major challenge?

iammo:


You talk as if the man isn't tolerating her bad behaviors too or she's perfect

From the story up there am sure the man has several reasons for his actions, and he is the only one in best position to throw more light

iammo:


You talk as if the man isn't tolerating her bad behaviors too or she's perfect

From the story up there am sure the man has several reasons for his actions, and he is the only one in best position to throw more light

iammo:


You talk as if the man isn't tolerating her bad behaviors too or she's perfect

From the story up there am sure the man has several reasons for his actions, and he is the only one in best position to throw more light

iammo:
Divorce is never the solution, marriage is not meant to be perfect

iammo:
■ You talk as if the man isn't tolerating her bad behaviors too or she's perfect. From the story up there am sure the man has several reasons for his actions, and he is the only one in best position to throw more light

Jennyclay:
MONEY
SEX
LOVE
ATTENTION.

If a man can’t give me enough of these 4 things I listed above in my marriage, I’ll gladly divorce him.

BTW, the lady should be happy that the ERROR called marriage has ended. A better man who would appreciate and respect her career must surely locate her.

pocohantas:

When a woman sees shege, she is encouraged to wear red pant and pray. This has never been a proven way to let out steam, so they become toxic and depressed with receding hairlines.

Farfalla:


🤣🤣🤣🤣

pocohantas:
Women and men are going through shege in Nigerian marriages, but the difference is, men are brazen about the shege they dish out. Women are hardly ever that brazen because they know the odds are not in their favour. I can't say the same for the sons of Nebuchadnezzar.

When a man sees shege, he is encouraged to get a divorce or side-chick for balance and he would most likely do that. With or without shege.

When a woman sees shege, she is encouraged to wear red pant and pray. This has never been a proven way to let out steam, so they become toxic and depressed with receding hairlines. Waiting for their kids to grow, then they go there to disturb the future daughter inlaw and the son who has failed to ask his mother why she is running from her own husband, would indulge her. Or maybe he knows why she is running. After all he saw it happen.

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I am not moved by all the divorce topics in the UK or wherever. The problem is not the UK. The problem is the foundation of Nigerian marriages. We are a dangerous people. Home and abroad we are the same. Any country we enter en masse must start looking for how to close her borders. That is how dangerous we are. But we would hardly ever reflect and change. Instead we blame feminism, blame NATO, blame a Youtuber and blame Tinubu. Very anyhow people...

pocohantas:


Look at Ahnie's hairline.
Even the late Osinachi.

pocohantas:


Look at Ahnie's hairline.
Even the late Osinachi.

Jennyclay:
MONEY
SEX
LOVE
ATTENTION.

If a man can’t give me enough of these 4 things I listed above in my marriage, I’ll gladly divorce him.

BTW, the lady should be happy that the ERROR called marriage has ended. A better man who would appreciate and respect her career must surely locate her.

ibkayee:

Idibia? Ah ahn 🤣

Did you watch that Young, Famous and African show?

bukatyne:




Late Osinachi was tragic;

How can a man be defective in all parameters that make women overlook male madness?

Poor, ugly, short in addition to wizardy behaviour of all forms of abuse?

It was sad.

pocohantas:


Yes na. Annie Idibia. I didn't o. I no wan vex.
I only wish two of them the best because strangely I love seeing them together.

Persephone1:
Marriage to a Nigerian man is SUFFERING especially to the typical, uncultured, unexposed, unrefined, self centered, egoistic, chauvinistic, loud Nigerian man. Some are overgrown babies you wonder who raised them. Phew!


I jump and pass! Bite me

ibkayee:

All I will say is I wish Annie the best because….

bukatyne:


There are many sweet Nigerian men.

You just need spiritual, physical, physiological, emotional and financial vetting

Lol on top Nigerian marriage?

Nahhhhh

Persephone1:
Lol on top Nigerian marriage?

Nahhhhh

pocohantas:


Yes na. Annie Idibia. I didn't o. I no wan vex.
I only wish two of them the best because strangely I love seeing them together.



I am sure that man hooked her as a young naive girl. Now I see why your church cares about age difference. Make them understand who is manipulating who.🤣🤣🤣

pocohantas:


I am used to spelling her name as Ah.nie, that spelling of the name done master me due to the NL ahniee's username.

Sometimes I wish the show is scripted. Let me believe it is for the views and not the situation of things.