iammo:
Divorce is never the solution, marriage is not meant to be perfect

UptownVibes:
■ Did the man use chains on her in the marriage? If she is not comfortable, she should move out.. Do you even know what the man is going through in the marriage too?

iammo:
Divorce is never the solution, marriage is not meant to be perfect

Lifestone:

But money and attention don't work together, you will have to pick one

iammo:
Divorce is never the solution, marriage is not meant to be perfect

pocohantas:

Look at Annie's hairline. Even the late Osinachi.

iammo:
Divorce is never the solution, marriage is not meant to be perfect

Exceed15:
■ Your write up is one sided. Men are also dying silently in the cage called marriage You will hear be a man . BE a man until u loose your mind? My take if your marriage is draining you out biko walk away. Don't die foolishly. Marriage is not an achievement.

iammo:
Divorce is never the solution, marriage is not meant to be perfect

CuriousStudent:

Exactly, even when a man discovers his wife is cheating

Kobojunkie:
In the end, she had no choice but to leave but it was also her marriage too and she had a right to stay in it just as the man too, only the story says he resorted to controlling her in it, so?

iammo:


You talk as if the man isn't tolerating her bad behaviors too or she's perfect

From the story up there am sure the man has several reasons for his actions, and he is the only one in best position to throw more light

Kobojunkie:
The writeup is onesided meaning the woman herself was the one who did all she could to hamper her own medical training, and in the end, locked herself out of her own marriage home, right?

Newyorkitis:
■ Omo, see how ladies full this thread! Back to the topic: Nigerian Ladies usually want to eat their cake and have it but our culture has put us all in check and it is not far-fetched.
■ Elsewhere, bride price was cancelled because it acts as a restriction against a woman's full right to own her body as she likes. Let us use the South-East as an example: There's no way on earth your parents will collect 1 million naira for traditional wedding and you want to enter the man's house with your full rights. You can't go there and tell the man that you don't like how he is pressing the tooth paste tube or you are just tired and don't love him anymore for no reason, therefore you want a divorce. My point is simple. You can't use marriage as poverty alleviation programme and make any noise about gender equality. Ladies, .if you want gender equality, start by fighting your parents, and not your husband. Bride price reduces your equality status.... Work.on scrapping it and see.your full rights restored. PEACE.

pocohantas:
Women and men are going through shege in Nigerian marriages, but the difference is, men are brazen about the shege they dish out. Women are hardly ever that brazen because they know the odds are not in their favour. I can't say the same for the sons of Nebuchadnezzar.

When a man sees shege, he is encouraged to get a divorce or side-chick for balance and he would most likely do that. With or without shege.

When a woman sees shege, she is encouraged to wear red pant and pray. This has never been a proven way to let out steam, so they become toxic and depressed with receding hairlines. Waiting for their kids to grow, then they go there to disturb the future daughter inlaw and the son who has failed to ask his mother why she is running from her own husband, would indulge her. Or maybe he knows why she is running. After all he saw it happen.

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I am not moved by all the divorce topics in the UK or wherever. The problem is not the UK. The problem is the foundation of Nigerian marriages. We are a dangerous people. Home and abroad we are the same. Any country we enter en masse must start looking for how to close her borders. That is how dangerous we are. But we would hardly ever reflect and change. Instead we blame feminism, blame NATO, blame a Youtuber and blame Tinubu. Very anyhow people...

Obrigardo:
So, you are the nuisance people complain about on this forum. They say you have no beliefs; you just spout anything to garner controversy. And now it's quite clear just reading your posts in succession on this topic. Are you ok?

oluxy:


That's you believe and that's what you should expect when you are married or having now that you are married.

Marriage is meant to be perfect because it's meant for just two perfect individuals who are perfect in the heart.

Most marriages that are not perfect are as a result of the men not even perfect in the heart while the woman her perfect in the heart. A case study of this thread.
You would see the woman is really perfect in the heart but the man isn't

Marriage is for two right people who are perfect in the heart and not just for two people who doesn't even know what marriage implies but just got married.

Jennyclay:
MONEY
SEX
LOVE
ATTENTION.

If a man can’t give me enough of these 4 things I listed above in my marriage, I’ll gladly divorce him..jenny how can I locate u.i need a woman I can give all dis.

BTW, the lady should be happy that the ERROR called marriage has ended. A better man who would appreciate and respect her career must surely locate her.

Dalil8:
In all of this. Na men i blame. If you stop marrying women would divorce exist? NO

I'm more concerned about the money & properties lost by men during divorce (Alimony, child support). Remove that and trust me, men would marry and divorce for sport.

If u take away every single woman from the world today the only challenge would be procreation. But even that can be fixed, as there are babies that were grown outside the womb. Science and technology would fix that easily.

MEN, be like me. Modern men do not need women.

1. Make money, get all ur kids through surrogacy or whichever means you chose, that doesn't require women.

2. Hire a nanny or nannies to take care of your kids. That way u don't have to deal with all the baggage that comes with a Wife hoe.

3. Have fun.

No paternity fraud, no worrying about ur hoe cheating on you, no unnecessary female drama in ur life plus its 100% cheaper than having a wife

Adranidoo:
And what will u give the man in return if he provides all this things for u.

Chai

Men don suffer

MEN WILL NEVER LEARN,WOMEN WILL NEVER CHANGE

UptownVibes:
■ Its her marriage we know,but if its not working, one needs to use his or her head.. Life is too short, to allow someone ruin it for you,all in the name of the marriage. Its good she left ..

bukatyne:




Late Osinachi was tragic;

How can a man be defective in all parameters that make women overlook male madness?

Poor, ugly, short in addition to wizardy behaviour of all forms of abuse?

It was sad.

Jennyclay:
MONEY
SEX
LOVE
ATTENTION.

If a man can’t give me enough of these 4 things I listed above in my marriage, I’ll gladly divorce him.

BTW, the lady should be happy that the ERROR called marriage has ended. A better man who would appreciate and respect her career must surely locate her.

babzlim:
are you the one running the marriage or home, do you know the reason the said man set down the strict rules or just because she's your friend you just believe the man is the evil one here.

Oga find out and confirm before u decide abeg.

Mindlog:


"Several reasons" for hindering the career growth of a medical doctor, who happens to be his wife?

I am wondering how the doctor wife, haven studied psychiatry and personality disorders in medical school, allowed the man in his psychosis to mess her up!