Jennyclay:
MONEY
SEX
LOVE
ATTENTION.

If a man can’t give me enough of these 4 things I listed above in my marriage, I’ll gladly divorce him.

BTW, the lady should be happy that the ERROR called marriage has ended. A better man who would appreciate and respect her career must surely locate her.

You will remain single forever

Jennyclay:
MONEY
SEX
LOVE
ATTENTION.

If a man can’t give me enough of these 4 things I listed above in my marriage, I’ll gladly divorce him.

BTW, the lady should be happy that the ERROR called marriage has ended. A better man who would appreciate and respect her career must surely locate her.

Remove number 1.. you're an adult

Marriage is too complex for an outsider to comprehend the things that are happening in it.

iammo:
Divorce is never the solution, marriage is not meant to be perfect

Is this the best you can come up with? It's not meant to be perfect doesn't mean you should turn yourself to devil or make your partner uncomfortable with your behavior or attitude.

iammo:
Divorce is never the solution, marriage is not meant to be perfect

What did you smoke to utter such nonsense?

The issue does not affect one side alone, even men I very ready to be single these days

iammo:


You talk as if the man isn't tolerating her bad behaviors too or she's perfect

From the story up there am sure the man has several reasons for his actions, and he is the only one in best position to throw more light

Perhaps. May be the man is also acquainted with the weaknesses of her past...

Y'all feminists should calm down, let's hear the man out first before we crucify him

A woman will always tell her side of the story to curry pity from the public, though I am not blaming this one yet

Both men and women are seeing shege in marriage in Nigeria, when the man is the victim, you all feminist leaves the chat room but when a woman is the victim they all flood NL to cast aspersions on menfolk

majority of those commenting are not even married, you only know better when you marry.

We are very very anyhow people truly, if these countries don’t protect themselves even they will be shocked what they will look like in 10years!!

We must find peaceful ways to sort things out and acknowledge that not everyone should be allowed near the marriage institution!!!



quote author=pocohantas post=123336004]Women and men are going through shege in Nigerian marriages, but the difference is, men are brazen about the shege they dish out. Women are hardly ever that brazen because they know the odds are not in their favour. I can't say the same for the sons of Nebuchadnezzar.

When a man sees shege, he is encouraged to get a divorce or side-chick for balance and he would most likely do that. With or without shege.

When a woman sees shege, she is encouraged to wear red pant and pray. This has never been a proven way to let out steam, so they become toxic and depressed with receding hairlines. Waiting for their kids to grow, then they go there to disturb the future daughter inlaw and the son who has failed to ask his mother why she is running from her own husband, would indulge her. Or maybe he knows why she is running. After all he saw it happen.

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I am not moved by all the divorce topics in the UK or wherever. The problem is not the UK. The problem is the foundation of Nigerian marriages. We are a dangerous people. Home and abroad we are the same. Any country we enter en masse must start looking for how to close her borders. That is how dangerous we are. But we would hardly ever reflect and change. Instead we blame feminism, blame NATO, blame a Youtuber and blame Tinubu. Very anyhow people...[/quote]

Jennyclay:
the man is just a foolish confused man who has no reasons for his action.

The man is also a randy man reason his wife keeps getting STDs.

Honestly, I just hate Nigerian men!! They’re so disgusting and irritating

have you hear the side of story.

Jennyclay:
MONEY
SEX
LOVE
ATTENTION.

If a man can’t give me enough of these 4 things I listed above in my marriage, I’ll gladly divorce him.

BTW, the lady should be happy that the ERROR called marriage has ended. A better man who would appreciate and respect her career must surely locate her.

A better man who would appreciate and respect her career must surely locate her when she's 60years old. Mumu talk

Jennyclay:
MONEY
SEX
LOVE
ATTENTION.

If a man can’t give me enough of these 4 things I listed above in my marriage, I’ll gladly divorce him.

BTW, the lady should be happy that the ERROR called marriage has ended. A better man who would appreciate and respect her career must surely locate her.

My advice to you is to try and be alone. Maybe fall in love when you turn 60 years, then no more stress about marriage

Women should stop getting married in the first place. Biko women don't get married lol . So we can hear word

pocohantas:


Look at Annie's hairline.
Even the late Osinachi.

with all ya experience and expertise about men and relationships, you are still very single and no serious date.

Newnas:

So, asking my wife not to work night shifts makes me a bad husband?!

Before marrying a doctor or a nurse, didn't you know about night shifts? Why didn't you focus on marrying a lady whose occupation have nothing to do with working at night?

You should also say that asking your medical doctor wife not to follow up with her postgraduate studies dies not make you a bad husband.

Look for girls who just finished secondary school and marry from the lot, she would sit wherever you place her as career issues would less likely be an issue in your marriage.

TrainPark:
How many tangible things can you give him?

Entitled delusional beings who believe that their very existence adds value - while at the same time looking for a man to take care of them.

This mindset is the reason why most women do not take time to improve their talents, personality and character because ALL WOMEN believe they are beautiful, valuable, and queens worth worshipping by default ... even if they have very shitty character, zero personality and bottom of the food chain value and eternally poor!

Well, reality na shege .. e go set in everly!

Bro don't blame them, If only God had taken a little brain from us when he took the rib to create women, we won't have so many entitled donkeys on make-ups running around.

I know this will offend alot but if i say lets go by the bible then!
God created man to have Dominion over all things.
And created women as playthings for men (i mean he didn't see the need of adding brain to them when he created them) He created women to give companionship to men and now they all think they're on equal footings

Make i go hide before they start attacking me

Jennyclay:
MONEY
SEX
LOVE
ATTENTION.

If a man can’t give me enough of these 4 things I listed above in my marriage, I’ll gladly divorce him.

BTW, the lady should be happy that the ERROR called marriage has ended. A better man who would appreciate and respect her career must surely locate her.

I hope you would equally bring same to te table?

Jennyclay:
the man is just a foolish confused man who has no reasons for his action.

The man is also a randy man reason his wife keeps getting STDs.

Honestly, I just hate Nigerian men!! They’re so disgusting and irritating

last last u will end up as an old woman without any man to herself, better change this ur nonsense attitude

nlfpmod:
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OP you are right on this one..
Women are suffering so much in the name of marriage in Nigeria..
Imagine forbidding your wife from using washing machine claiming that it will make her lazy whereas you are driving a car.
Some guys don’t even know the difference btw a wife and a Househelp..
I’m no woman but I feel your pain OP

phorget:



I hope you would equally bring same to te table?

Like what?

bukatyne:




Late Osinachi was tragic;

How can a man be defective in all parameters that make women overlook male madness?

Poor, ugly, short in addition to wizardy behaviour of all forms of abuse?9

It was sad.

This is the definition of the average naija man. That explains the reproach and rejection they face from us.

Religion, culture and stigma forces women to accept them.

iammo:
Divorce is never the solution, marriage is not meant to be perfect

says a marriage technician.

tiswell:
with all ya experience and expertise about men and relationships, you are still very single and no serious date.

For a gender that claims not to benefit from marriage, you guys are too invested in the marital status of women. Can you focus on important things like Chinese men? Invent something and elect good leaders.

Princessdainty:
and what do you give the man in return?

Unachievable demands. Unsatisfied desires.

bukatyne:




When they say for better for worse, they refer to challenges that life throws at the couple; childlessness, job loss, health challenges, issues from in-laws, special needs children etc.

They are not talking about one of the parties roving mad and becoming a witch/wizard to the other party.

It is this 'marriage is not meant to be perfect ' that enables you men especially to waltz in with stupid behaviours and lack of home training hoping to be tolerated and accepted.

While marriage a might not be perfect because life is not perfect and the challenges I mentioned above, marriage ought to be enjoyed by both parties.

So ask yourself: these behaviours I put up, would it make my spouse enjoy this marriage?

Life is already throwing challenges, why should someone meant to make our lives more beautiful contribute or sponsor the major challenge?

Was she blind before marrying him?


Or you think it's easy for a mother of three to find a husband with no history?


You lots.


Just have the habits of thinking things halfway.

iammo:
Divorce is never the solution, marriage is not meant to be perfect

You're right, but cheating (adultery) is a deal breaker for me


We rise by lifting others

Adranidoo:
Women - Their "heartlessness" in putting logic over emotion and themselves over every other thing on the planet is a necessary survival skill.

Just like a girl will leave a lover who's sacrificed a lot for her in ten years of relationship and go for an older guy who's wealthier...only for her to later cheat with a young blood along the line....that's the kinda cold calculations one should do to be better in life and win. Cos it's a cold cold world out here.



Women?
I learn a lot from those species.

_{Pic below what modern women mean by freedom.
BTW this is a grocery shop}

In the olden days, women body were never objectified. Heck, ladies and men hardly wear clothes and still maintain their lanes. Modernity and religion made looking at the body lustful.

If you go to some villages, you will see some mamas top less during the heat season in and around their homes. Nobody cares.

Men were only boxers without briefs. They even were their joggers or whatever without briefs and you will clearly see the outline of the third leg. They sag their pants to show bums. Or you think thats not a sexual message to ladies?
Women have not killed them. Women are attracted to men's chest, we see men everywhere topless. They go as far as getting six packs to show off. You think it's to their fellow men?

Make we hia. Sexualising Women when men are guilty of the same thing.
I see this everyday.

cococandy:
Lol they are polygamous in nature and women must submit. That’s what the Bible says. Don’t bring that western nonsense of asking men to respect their wives. We are Africans and we hate woke.

Umm what else is missing? I believe I covered the talking points

you would make a good wife

pocohantas:
Women and men are going through shege in Nigerian marriages, but the difference is, men are brazen about the shege they dish out. Women are hardly ever that brazen because they know the odds are not in their favour. I can't say the same for the sons of Nebuchadnezzar.

When a man sees shege, he is encouraged to get a divorce or side-chick for balance and he would most likely do that. With or without shege.

When a woman sees shege, she is encouraged to wear red pant and pray. This has never been a proven way to let out steam, so they become toxic and depressed with receding hairlines. Waiting for their kids to grow, then they go there to disturb the future daughter inlaw and the son who has failed to ask his mother why she is running from her own husband, would indulge her. Or maybe he knows why she is running. After all he saw it happen.

---

I am not moved by all the divorce topics in the UK or wherever. The problem is not the UK. The problem is the foundation of Nigerian marriages. We are a dangerous people. Home and abroad we are the same. Any country we enter en masse must start looking for how to close her borders. That is how dangerous we are. But we would hardly ever reflect and change. Instead we blame feminism, blame NATO, blame a Youtuber and blame Tinubu. Very anyhow people...

Sadly this is the truth. A large number of Nigerians have a damaged psyche. Honestly I wonder hownit can ever be repaired

Princessdainty:
and what do you give the man in return?

flirting with guys on social media

Many have no place to go because they are all wired after school look for husband that all .
No brain to reason what do I want for myself especially the poor and some middle class family can’t leave marriage only the wealthy people can leave anytime because they don’t take shįt from anyone .

Because them dey jump inside marriages with who is available to spend fortune for wedding