FRANCISTOWN:


I moved out of my parents house at 16, not because of anything but because my dad was too difficult and we didn't get along. Didn't want to be in his shadow.

For the next 2 years I was in the streets of Aba, from MCC to Osisioma, to Ariara to Ngwa to Umuojima joggling between 2-3 jobs.

I gained admission and would only go home for maybe a week or so, other days I was busy doing my own thing.
After I finished NYSC, i invested in a right business which turned out to be wrong and I went flat broke.

I moved back to a single room and started doing all kinds of things to survive. It was so bad that I had to go back to my parents house for one month before I got my shit together again.

Honestly as I tell you, there were some of my friends who were still in their parents house until they were 30, but now they are so rich and successful that I don't even come close at all.

The point is, whether you leave your parents house at 16, 26 or 36.

What works for everyone is different. Some guys are making 10Mil monthly and they are still living with their parents.

Some just love the company of their parents. Don't pressure anyone, let people live the way they want

zed7:
It's lazy people who complain of the economy everytime. Why would a man in his mid 30's live at home? Such a man has no ambition.

Go and rent a room in a face me house, go and be a bus conductor or any other manial job. It's much more dignified than to be a free loader crying about the economy.

Too many men have become weak and lazy. I see them all around, even online begging for 2k. Weak and lazy set of people.

It's better to earn 20k a month than not earn at all. Even if you earn 20k, get two of such jobs. Foolish people everywhere. Except you have a health challenge or deformity, there's no excuse for you.

Ade3131:


Your submissions above says a lot about how much you've experienced in life than it says of the 30+ guy living with his parents.

Lemme ask you why you think everyone above 30 that still lives with their parents can't really afford to rent his own place?

And who told you that most of them don't have a job? Ifeel your perspective on life in this regard is so narrow and bereave of wisdom.

They're people that decide to stay with their parents due to their parents' health condition. I guess you didn't factor that into your submission.

They're also guys like Seyi Tinubu who's born into wealth. His parents live in mansion and they have a lot of them littered around the world. Whichever one he chooses to stay, it still won't change the fact that he lives with his parents.

Then lemme also ask you what economic or logical gain is there in renting your own house (even when you can afford it) and your dad owns an estate and they'll only sleep in one or two rooms while they're lots of vacant rooms available?

Or you just want to go out for the society to see that you're truly a man?

And if we're being realistic, the realities of the present day Nigeria is not in synch with whatever fantasy any of us have had growing up. Renting a room and parlor at Orile, in Lagos state now goes for as much as half a million for a year and landlords are demanding 2 year rent upfront in addition to agent and commission fee. Total package is 1.3m. That's a room and parlor. Tell me how your 20k of 2 jobs can afford that.

Let's not pressurize the less-privy men among us. Yes, it is expected that at certain age you should be financially stable enough to stand on your own, but if you're reading this and you're above 30 and still stays with your parents, and your reality says otherwise to the expected norm, pls don't go into crime bcuz you want to size up with your mates.

Life na turn by turn. You might be a late bloomer, and there's nothing bad about it. What's bad is knowing that you're down and still be digging. If you're down don't dig. Instead, stand up.

JILF:
Is it ok for a guy to be living at home where he grew up or with his parents between age 32-39? if you are a lady, will you find such men as someone who is serious with life or someone who is unserious?

I understand the economy has not be smiling for many and also understand that some men cannot afford to pay rent due to unemployment.

Nefort:

You are just saying things to sound so easy. You yourself can you be a bus conductor? Can the money you earn from being a conductor even pay rent? Unless you want to share a room with four persons all in the name of leaving your parents house. Most jobs are 9 - 5 and can be hectic. And you expect someone to do two jobs in a day?

Delightsome2023:
if she doesn't accept my parents moving in then she should go seek another suitor.
My parents practically saved me and contributed immensely to my upgraded version, can't despise and abandon them now.
Dad is in his 80's with no one by his side except me and mum that is aging as well

JILF:


I mean a guy between age 32-38 living with parents or in the home of his grandparent etc

Ade3131:


Your submissions above says a lot about how much you've experienced in life than it says of the 30+ guy living with his parents.

Lemme ask you why you think everyone above 30 that still lives with their parents can't really afford to rent his own place?

And who told you that most of them don't have a job? Ifeel your perspective on life in this regard is so narrow and bereave of wisdom.

They're people that decide to stay with their parents due to their parents' health condition. I guess you didn't factor that into your submission.

They're also guys like Seyi Tinubu who's born into wealth. His parents live in mansion and they have a lot of them littered around the world. Whichever one he chooses to stay, it still won't change the fact that he lives with his parents.

Then lemme also ask you what economic or logical gain is there in renting your own house (even when you can afford it) and your dad owns an estate and they'll only sleep in one or two rooms while they're lots of vacant rooms available?

Or you just want to go out for the society to see that you're truly a man?

And if we're being realistic, the realities of the present day Nigeria is not in synch with whatever fantasy any of us have had growing up. Renting a room and parlor at Orile, in Lagos state now goes for as much as half a million for a year and landlords are demanding 2 year rent upfront in addition to agent and commission fee. Total package is 1.3m. That's a room and parlor. Tell me how your 20k of 2 jobs can afford that.

Let's not pressurize the less-privy men among us. Yes, it is expected that at certain age you should be financially stable enough to stand on your own, but if you're reading this and you're above 30 and still stays with your parents, and your reality says otherwise to the expected norm, pls don't go into crime bcuz you want to size up with your mates.

Life na turn by turn. You might be a late bloomer, and there's nothing bad about it. What's bad is knowing that you're down and still be digging. If you're down don't dig. Instead, stand up.

Nefort:

You want him to live in the bush if he has no job that can provide money for rent or money to start a business?

nokspos:
we leave our parent home too early in africa but for the wrong reason, there's nothing bad living with your parent as long as he's working and can afford an apartment.

braine:
So far he is single, has a job and is responsible for some house bills, why not?

Living alone these days is not for the faint hearted.

Karleb:
This argument used to be more fierce before Nigeria became this bad.

A lot of people have learnt that one doesn't simply leave their parents house.

But there are still teenagers, privileged individuals, women and some stupid people who will die on this hill. They will tell you all sort of rubbish about what age to marry, have kids, have lots of money, have a car, leave your parents house and they always have a way tagging the age very low.

You need to pay them no attention and do your thing. If it hurts them, let them come and chase you out of your parents house or maybe deposit 10m into your account.

To the set of people always bringing this ridiculous talk every year, SHUT THE Bleep UP!

flokii:
Anything you do up to 22-23yrs is still okay, highest 25yrs you should move out and be on your own..

zed7:
It's lazy people who complain of the economy everytime. Why would a man in his mid 30's live at home? Such a man has no ambition.

Go and rent a room in a face me house, go and be a bus conductor or any other manial job. It's much more dignified than to be a free loader crying about the economy.

Too many men have become weak and lazy. I see them all around, even online begging for 2k. Weak and lazy set of people.

It's better to earn 20k a month than not earn at all. Even if you earn 20k, get two of such jobs. Foolish people everywhere. Except you have a health challenge or deformity, there's no excuse for you.

geezyk:
Y'all be setting stupid standards. Do you think life works in same way for everyone? Even though he doesn't have a job at 25, he should move to live under the bridges abi?

Na people wey give una internet I dey blame.

xpressionx:
Go pursue am commot na

braine:
So far he is single, has a job and is responsible for some house bills, why not?

Living alone these days is not for the faint hearted.

braine:
So far he is single, has a job and is responsible for some house bills, why not?

Living alone these days is not for the faint hearted.

flokii:


I'm not asking people to live beyond their means.. Just stating the way things should be in the ideal manner. It can be slightly different in actual sense.

I know parents don't usually want their kids to leave especially their favourite ones but then one has to find his/her path in life and taste the real world. You can never compare someone that started out in life as early as 20yrs to someone that got spoonfed by the parents up till 40yrs. The way they see life and manage resources would be different.

The summary of my post is if you have a job and have the means to be on your own at 25yrs, just go and live your life.

For you to be successful, you must be ready to leave your comfort zone and survive in the wild.

Came4amod:


Na mumu all of you be .. how man .. a whole man ?? You are just lazy and want to stay in your comfort zone

Paramount01:



What he said is corect

If you know what i do for a living before God picks my call in the same business,you will know ,their is dignity in labour

frozen70:


If I find a man in that situation and he has focus, that means he needs some one that will push him further

So I will advise him we get a room for him to pack out so that he can find his bearing

If he refuses, then I will know that what is holding him is bigger than what am planning for him

I will stylishly end the relationship

But if he accepts my idea, I will make sure he pays for the rent and gradually starts getting things like bed and fridge and pots

My major role will be to come for visits, get food stuff along and cook for our meal

With time I will be requesting money for soup and stew, this is a way of teaching him how to provide

If by six months into the relationship he hasn't propose to me

I will inform him that I want to end the relationship as it's heading no where and I will. Move on but if he pleads with me then he should do the needful

vickydevoka:

Whether man or woman u suppose exit papa house b4 30. I de jobless still leave my papa house at 30, today I’m a millionaire in naira. Omo las las everybody go de alright. All this university graduates are the cause of their problems, submitting cv everyday like their papa na Admin officer

Khyrvxjzy:


the best way to take care of your parents is to marry a good girl early

JILF:
Is it ok for a guy to be living at home where he grew up or with his parents between age 32-39? if you are a lady, will you find such men as someone who is serious with life or someone who is unserious?

I understand the economy has not be smiling for many and also understand that some men cannot afford to pay rent due to unemployment.

Blitzking:
Am 30 staying in my father's house. my parents are late so I basically stay alone, the girls are married. I earn 250 to 400k per month(job plus side hustle) getting married in 2 months time processing my phd in usa for fall 2024. Decided to stay in my father's house so I can spend all my money on it and make it up to standard before I travel out God willing. rather than give it to a landlord by the ways its a3 bedroom apartment owned by my dad. grew up here everyone around know meto be quite reserved.just to prove am an adult babe doesn't want to stay here with me, well I no send cos in the end its in our best interest. I have everything in this house name it she also earns similar to me.