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Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by karmaolu1(m): 3:57pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Hmm. Just calm down and register your name among people way don marry bfo. U can't quit after the marriage. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by fineboynl(m): 3:59pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
There is a reason that he is marring this late. And he has seen alot of things. probably making money late. So people of this age have seen alot of things and they like to be in control. They hate to do anything they will regret later because it make them feel like a fool forever. He is not going to change for now. But later on. and if you show any sign of disobedience he will quit the marriage without looking back. 2 Likes |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Pcstradamus(m): 3:59pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Pls run for your dear life. A cancelled wedding is far better than a broken marriage. By the time you marry that man, you will see more revelations. Maybe the Mother will draw out timetable for your sexual activities. Nonsence! I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side. My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon. My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married. The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be. From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge. He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring. He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married. I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding. Are these not red flags I should run from? I am confused, please advise me. [/quote] |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Kobojunkie: 4:00pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
adelcole:How long was she in the marriage for? Any kids? |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by ednut1(m): 4:01pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
luckyz4rea:No such thing as seeking Gods face. See below - you are to find a wife not God finding for you Proverbs 18:22 KJV Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, And obtaineth favour of the LORD. 1 Like |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Kajaard: 4:01pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
freshkpomo: You must be extremely stupid. Bloody illiterate. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by biafranrealson: 4:01pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Are you an asset or a liability? The one you are will determine the limit of your control. If at 35, you are not an asset, know that the guy is doing you a favor and maybe his money comes from his family. 3 Likes |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by PECON1(m): 4:02pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Enemyofpeace:this is why it's dangerous to seek advice from a faceless forum, education is actually not a scam,u need one |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by blacksam01: 4:02pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Fineman2: all i can say is so so mny fine girls wasting their time away all cuz of they are looking or classy men... u see what time.wasting has caused...? normally u shld turn away from such men...but cuz u wasted ur whole 20 somethings..u are no ow in a tight corner... wish u the best anyways... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by OChimex: 4:02pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Excellentmind: Until you live out of Nigeria you will understand how badly women have been treated in Nigeria. I am not telling you to believe but I tell you from experience. I have seen countless men control their wives and refused them to get a job all because they are afraid of losing that control. Beside what people call love in Nigeria is actually a bribe to get something in return. The one an only act of real love in marriage as a man is to be a servant, serving your wives and kids happily. And this is hard in Nigeria Peace out. 2 Likes |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by ebonyface2(m): 4:03pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
visaclick: & Women are what? |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Caleycash(m): 4:04pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Any woman not married at that age most likely has a problem, you can't tell me otherwise!, coupled you have no contribution towards your marriage, what were you doing all your twenties without adding any value to your life? 1 Like |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by ALLNIGERIANSMAD(m): 4:07pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Fineman2:Run for your life, he's a killer, he will kill you imidiately after the wedding, I think that's what you want to ear 👂 |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Nobody: 4:07pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Based on all those negatives, it's better to think twice before proceeding with the marriage. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by steeltrust: 4:09pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Kajaard:my friend shut your mouth Why say marriage is not important This is Africa and procreation is important to continue our lineage Family is key to everything we do in this part of the world If you have western mentality go and stay there and stop yarning dust |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by ALLNIGERIANSMAD(m): 4:09pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Kajaard:what is your pain/problem exactly |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by saysoo: 4:10pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
35? You are complaining? 1yr of dating and marriage gbam, madam run 4/40 cause that identy you no wan collect. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by ebonyface2(m): 4:10pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
biafranrealson: Best analysis so far? Her message makes me feel she's a liability age & financial wise else, no family will ever try controlling her marriage. Madame age is not on ur side. Discuss ur fears with a marriage counselor & take him there before ur parent disown u for losing this one again. No 40Yrs guy would wish family control but if his source of income is via same family. He will definitely take control. If u lose this one., Enough babes in the wing ready to pounce. 1 Like |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Caleycash(m): 4:11pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
OChimex: OChimex:Nigeria is a patriarchal country first of all, secondly the economy is messed up, western men won't bear half the burden men bear in Nigeria, most times women are still treated right just that they want to absorb authority and lead the home, which is prevalent whenever they're taking outside Nigeria, next thing is divorce, they don't even consider men that married and sponsored them abroad, it's a give and take world |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Lexusgs430: 4:12pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Fineman2: When people ignore flashing red flags........ They later bitterly regret it...... It's best you remain a happy spinster, than a miserable wife........ 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by harisclub: 4:14pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Tell us how much you are contributing for the wedding before I can advise you 1 Like |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by JeffreyJunior: 4:15pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
adetunrayo:So seeking the face of someone in "heaven" will help choose better horseband for her eekwa? You religious folks will keep running in circles since you can't even read the book you parade and misquote everyday. Your holy book says marry woman and then obtain favor, not seek anyone's favor before marrying woman. I tire for una biko. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Kajaard: 4:16pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
steeltrust: You are a fool. |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Yankiss(m): 4:17pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Fineman2:You don't need advice. Marriage between two partners can only work out if one of them is blind to the other's faults. Age is not on your side does not mean that you accept anything. But my candid advice is that you do NOT cancel the marriage for these reasons. No marriage is perfect. No perfect woman or man. A guy can be on the exact opposite radar of these faults but be a 1. Womanizer 2. Woman beater 3. Ritualist or yahoo yahoo 4. Drunkard. There are as many reasons to leave a guy as there are stars in the sky. Be understanding. Do not complain. Let hm be in charge, he is the oga. Sit him down and remind him of all these issues. But dont make an issue out of it. Go close to the family and gradually take back your man. He's a mummy's boy. Be close to the mum. Dont complain. make her a priority. She will love u back and relinquish ur rights with time. Dont push. Be subtle. Good luck. 8 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Pufpuf(m): 4:18pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Don't go ahead with that wedding, or else, your life will be very miserable. Imagine at 40 years. 2 Likes |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Ynix(m): 4:18pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Fineman2: Bitter Pills here I don't see anything wrong in what the guy is doing. At 40 marriage obviously is not what matters to him. Also if it is about the wedding it's not for both of you but third parties, that is how it is in Nigeria. Left to normal cause you can have court wedding and that is all. All this wedding casala we disturb ourselves about is to satisfy third parties. Madam get married and submit to your man else remain single for life. You can't eat your cake and yet have it 2 Likes |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by OChimex: 4:19pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Caleycash:Nigeria is patriarchal, yet they call themselves educated, civilized and modern. They better refer to themselves as cavemen. Again the economy is messed, because they wallow in ignorant and stupidity which drags their country behind. Again, by their genetic makeup, women are designed to yearn for the love of their husband, that’s why the desire of every woman is to find love and marry and have a home, but it’s the men who turn them to beast and make them want otherwise. 1 Like |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Tzar(m): 4:23pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Madam you are not even in the position to complain! Your youth which is highly priced by men when looking for a wife is gone. Note that men are always looking for these 5 things in no order of importance when looking for long term relationships or wiife: - Respect, Youth, Homeliness, Loyalty and Submissiveness. 1. You are well past your prime in the marriage market & you are exceptionally lucky to find an unmarried man to want to wife you. 2. The marriage is aleady set on a path of turbulence if not destruction because of your thinking that he is your equal in marriage and should ‘seek your opinion’ In decision making. 3. Your duty as a wife is to be submissive, homely, loyal and respectful. Love from you is a small factor that CANNOT keep you married to any man. It looks like you lack most of the other 4 critical factors remaining for you that can keep a woman in marriage. I suggest you don’t get married until you have worked on yourself and is ready to stay married, because you clearly are not ready. Fineman2: 1 Like |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by folake4u(f): 4:27pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
I cringe when Nairaland mods allow daft topics grace the front page. This Op is clearly one with Fi fi imagination. Another thread was created by the Op on May 16th claiming married woman who's been married for 6 years. https://www.nairaland.com/7691434/married-woman-needs-advice 3 Likes |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by silverx(m): 4:29pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Fineman2: |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by steeltrust: 4:29pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
Re: This 35 Year-old Lady Needs Your Advice As She Plans To Get Married by Hotwest: 4:29pm On Jun 02, 2023 |
I must marry this year by fire by force. Amen |
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