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Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by Blackazuma99(m): 3:43pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Good day to everyone in this forum, please I am in desperate need of your advice. Early 2014 she lost her dad, 2016 she lost her only brother (my uncle) and then the worst happened in 2021,i lost my father which is her husband, and since then God has been faithful, I graduated same year, my elder sister got a good job same year, we got our first family house same with other benefits. But the problem has been my mum, she's always depressed and always thinking, thinking of my late dad, we have tried our best as the children to make her happy, especially me the first son. Please i need advice on what to do, I really don't want my mother to die of depression đ. 50 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by Afam4eva(m): 3:51pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
There's no magic wand to make her come out of depression. All you havw to do is to know the things that she loves or has been her heart desires and make them a reality. Her heart desires could be her children turning out right and succeeding. So, you as her children should try to make that her reality and most importantly, always tell her about your achievements no matter how small. 70 Likes |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by Blackazuma99(m): 3:54pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Afam4eva: Thanks bro much appreciated 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by jackmrandy: 3:58pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Blackazuma99: get her engaged in an activity and she willl forget about all her worries. does she have where she goes to everymorning once she wakes up? if no, open a small biz for her, don't allow her to be alone. let her be doing the trade irrespective of whether its profitable or not (since you guys are ok now to take care of her) this is just to ensure she gets her mind busy and occupied with other activities. 104 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by Blackazuma99(m): 4:02pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
jackmrandy: She is a trader already, the problem is that even in the market she is depressed and thinking 20 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by MRDEE01: 4:09pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
It is grand children that can only make them happy at this stage. If you or any of your siblings are married and have kids,kindly bring her over so the children can put smiles on her face. Abeg I dey find car to drive on bolt/uber platform abuja. I deliver without stories. N.B- I am experienced 111 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by jackmrandy: 4:11pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Blackazuma99:. depressed and thinking in the market too? have you taken time to ask her hows business at the end of every each day. is her market goods dropping and money not coming? take time to ask her questions. thank God she is your mum, shes now you wife, so discuss with her, once you are back from work, sit with her, ask her how was market today , and you too discuss your day with her, the ups and down of the daily activities you guys both faced. this will put her in talking mood and remove her from that moody situation. 26 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by slawomir: 4:13pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Damnnn niggar Ogbeni make una give am grand children make them dey follow her play By the time she bath grandchildren three times Depression go run leave her 105 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by b3llo(m): 4:13pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Try n find what makes her happy then encourage her to join church group. 2 Likes |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by Jesusmystrength(f): 4:13pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Hmmm 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by Cardiffpoolmast: 4:15pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
slawomir:. Day niger |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by KimFlorence: 4:15pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
You should get her pastor or qualified counselor to talk to her |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by Ologundudu2020: 4:15pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Reading 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by babaireti(m): 4:15pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Then get her another husband, this time with a big gbolah, she would move on 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by denko(m): 4:16pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
If you can change her environment for now. Blackazuma99: 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by SoftP(m): 4:16pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
If she lived with your Father in that same house which she still presently occupies; it might always refresh her memories; If you are buoyant enough, kindly relocate her from there try keep her busy with the things she likes! Best of luck 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by thorpido(m): 4:16pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Take her to a shrink. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by SultanOfAbia: 4:17pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Ok |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by Nobody: 4:17pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
My condolences 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by MrFixIt007: 4:18pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Na JESUS be the KEY oh Let her know how much JESUS loves her and no matter what she's going through, she should never think she's alone J E S U S The cure to Depression 4 Likes |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by Fuckingmallam45(m): 4:19pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Avoid cliches, please. Telling someone in the depth of despair that âeverything happens for a reasonâ or âit will passâ isnât helpful. Nor will lies like âlots of people care about youâ, or âyou have lots of friendsâ. Ultimately there is nothing to âalwaysâ say to someone in depression. Words wonât help. What you can do is show you care and are there for them, with your actions. Visit them, help get the dishes done, help clean the bathroom, take out their garbage, offer to make them a bubble bath. Take them a nice soft blanket to snuggle up in. A new set of pillows can make someoneâs whole month. They wonât ask for help, even when they need it. But know that in the depth of a severe depression, doing anything at all takes herculean effort. Depression causes a lot of physical pain. Helping someone be more comfortable is one of the best things you can do. They donât have the strength, energy or motivation to clean, tidy or cook a decent meal. Take them for dinner or make them something they like to eat. Donât ask them how they are. Instead, talk about things that you did, a bird you saw that day, a funny conversation with someone. If they want to talk, they will, but donât push. Often just spending time sitting beside someone watching tv can be enough. They may not respond but that kind of gesture means the world. My friends all vanished within a couple of years of me getting sick. Just one person caring enough to keep in touch and come visit even once every week or two would have meant the world. I have one friend who comes by for about 1/2 hour once a year. Even that, I appreciate, because it means I still exist to them. 14 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by BarrElChapo(m): 4:19pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Nothing really can be done about it except you want her to see a shrink. Try to create new memories for her as you can afford. Take care |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by omoadeleye(m): 4:19pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Damn. |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by 2mch(m): 4:20pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Grief is very hard and she has had multiple in a short time. Try to get her some counseling from a professional. NOT a Pastor. 6 Likes |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by Cloudflare: 4:20pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Blackazuma99: Oga that woman needs grandchildren. By the time she's busy with grandchildren and their troubles alone in the house, depression go run leave her 16 Likes |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by Karlifate: 4:21pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
She simply needs a companion, whether a close relation or her direct bloodline. 7 Likes |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by Kobojunkie: 4:23pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
Blackazuma99:Get your mum professional grief counseling so as to help her process her grief then. 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Advice Needed To Protect My Mum From Depression. by Darnell9(m): 4:23pm On Jun 09, 2023 |
MRDEE01:sense dey this talk 5 Likes |
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