Everyone want to survive to meet up putting food to the table, also in pursuit of greener pastures.

Marriage for better for worse.. I will obey him as my husband and so also the wife.

That is according to the oath .
But situation turns things around in marriage. Husband having side chicks, wife also have side guys due to distancing..

Two most important factors that leads to distancing in marriage are .. work - due to transfer
,(2.) Travelling Abroad.

But should we say is a bad thing to go look for money for upkeep of the family.

Most spouses spent three years or more than in disapora also within the country transfer from one state to other..


I have seen times and number of married ladies collecting different pkekus coz of their husbands not around. One told my aunty that body no be fire wood, she has been lonely for five years, though husband do send money to her and children.. she said she can't cope ... But in marriage they said stay faithful to each other..

Even their husbands in disapora also feck pufzy too..

Who is to be blame? And the white brought religion preaching in the bible two become one, don't Bleep outside marriage but they are the one self are best in polygamy , betrayal, single father and mothers...

Anither one is a Nigeria navy officer that go for missions like kilode spent years on ship hardly come home occasionally... Hs wife is just distributing pkekus for street guys around the area... And with kids.. Nigerian soldiers nko.. one of our military friend said imagine them dey feck his wife and he caught them but he allowed the guy to go Bec if he kill him , it will affect him bec they will charg him for murder... It is because he has to obey his duty call and wheredd he want to make money..


So many situations leading to distancing.

So say communication will okay the relationship strong .. really but someone said he do call his wife everyday and for him to hear a voice underneath saying she should raise her ass for doggy up during live call , I think she was carried away by her boyfriend dick , she later realize she is on call and cut it... The said guy in question felt hurt but he is in London.. what can he do ..

My friends said he didn't want to marry, that just baby mama, Bec his working place is full of that practices.. married ladies fucking colleugues in office. The guy vow not to marry Bec he is a jealous type..

How do husband and wife cope in this situations.?

Matured opinion please..

Marriages these days is not for the faint hearted. I basically do not support distance between spouse in marriages cos of the many temptation it comes with.. If you're working in a state different from ur wife, carry her along same applies to if you're in a different country...

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AsomStructures:
Marriages these days is not for the faint hearted. I basically do not support distance between spouse in marriages cos of the many temptation it comes with.. If you're working in a state different from ur wife, carry her along same applies to if you're in a different country...

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some men don't do that at all, they just don't

I don't do long distance relationships and I will definitely not do a long distance marriage... Because loneliness can lead to temptations, calling each other every day means nothing.

And I wouldn't want my husband to end up fathering children that are not his.

If a woman is not patient to hold on for his husband, she can leave to marry another man.
At the end, money most be made. Marriage without money will be full of disrespect from your wife and in-laws and will eventually crumble.

Only married men can understand my point.

Na woman wey wan cheat go cheat abeg

Samantha124:
I don't do long distance relationships and I will definitely not do a long distance marriage... Because loneliness can lead to temptations, calling each other every day means nothing.

And I wouldn't want my husband to end up fathering children that are not his.

alright, wetin I wan talk sef? okay...

distancing in marriage is of two things.. one is, necessary distancing and the other is voluntary... necessary distancing is a type of distance that happens as the relationship moves on between both partners, like maybe for official assignment or for works, religion purposes, or in some cases, searches for greener pastures, maybe for a couple of weeks or months.. this type doesn't mean the relationship started off as a long distance relationship...

the other one is voluntary... this is the type of relationship that started off as a long distance relationship... this is the one that isn't encouraged... in the former one, sooner or later, even though the couples were living together or in the same state, things might happen along the way that will cause the distance between them... just like life is not a bed of roses, so are relationship... you can't expect it to be going smoothly all the time... at this point what matters here is your commitment and how dedicated you are into making the relationship work... if both couples married each other for selfish reasons, things will go wrong, whether distance or not... distance is not the only thing that makes couples cheat... in fact, they can cheat on each other while staying together... it's the commitment that makes relationship last, and not necessarily distance... one of the true test of loyalty is distance...

from the latter, one of the voluntary distance might be that, for example, a man who lives far away from his wife for number of years without visiting.. this is the type of distance that isn't encouraged.. some men can go up to 3 years + without setting eyes on their wives, this is highly discouraged, this is the voluntary distance... anything wey their eyes see at this stage, na their problem because they brought it upon themselves.... even though the man is trying hard to fund for his family, this shouldn't stop him from visiting once in a while when he gets the chance from work.. you can't tell me you would be busy for a whole 365 days not to mention of years.. it's highly unacceptable, women too have their own cravings... this is why if a man is not where he wants to be in life or still financially struggling, it's advisable to stay away from marriage because marriage will make it more harder for him and issues like this will later cause problems for him...

from other perspective, if the man is in faraway country like in the West, the laws, and restrictions there and how women have been proved times without numbers to behave when they finally get to such countries might deter the men from inviting them over...

Believe me, it's not the wishes of most men to abandon their wives, but the circumstances behind them might influence the decision on why they chose not to invite them over... financial difficulties might also be one of the problems...

@ bolded, the way you said it is like you are even determined to cheat at any given opportunity or any cause of distance between your husband or future husband... you might be the type that will even cheat even without distance separating both of you... change this your mindset or it might affect you in the long run if you eventually get married and you realise that marriage is not about what you watch in movies or what you've being brainwashed about...

If you think marriage is all sweet and spicy, you are better off single... marriage is more of commitment than love... if you're no more interested in the marriage, instead of cheating on him, divorce him and go find a man who would be 100% available for you or go make your own man... this is why you can never satisfy a woman... even if you go to war to fight off enemies, they will blame you that you don't give them enough attention not knowing that you're putting your lives on the line for the family... they mostly care about themselves... it's not every woman's complaint a man should listen too.. women will always whine... sometimes, ignore her...

@ bolded is also why I advice every man to scrutinize a woman's past especially if she's not a virgin, in fact, they shouldn't ignore carrying out a DNA test if they can afford it... a woman determined to cheat will cheat irrespective of distance or not...

Lol

Reminderz:

alright, wetin I wan talk sef? okay...

distancing in marriage is of two things.. one is, necessary distancing and the other is voluntary... necessary distancing is a type of distance that happens as the relationship moves on between both partners, like maybe for official assignment or for works, religion purposes, or in some cases, searches for greener pastures, maybe for a couple of weeks or months.. this type doesn't mean the relationship started off as a long distance relationship...

the other one is voluntary... this is the type of relationship that started off as a long distance relationship... this is the one that isn't encouraged... in the former one, sooner or later, even though the couples were living together or in the same state, things might happen along the way that will cause the distance between them... just like life is not a bed of roses, so are relationship... you can't expect it to be going smoothly all the time... at this point what matters here is your commitment and how dedicated you are into making the relationship work... if both couples married each other for selfish reasons, things will go wrong, whether distance or not... distance is not the only thing that makes couples cheat... in fact, they can cheat on each other while staying together... it's the commitment that makes relationship last, and not necessarily distance... one of the true test of loyalty is distance...

from the latter, one of the voluntary distance might be that, for example, a man who lives far away from his wife for number of years without visiting.. this is the type of distance that isn't encouraged.. some men can go up to 3 years + without setting eyes on their wives, this is highly discouraged, this is the voluntary distance... anything wey their eyes see at this stage, na their problem because they brought it upon themselves.... even though the man is trying hard to fund for his family, this shouldn't stop him from visiting once in a while when he gets the chance from work.. you can't tell me you would be busy for a whole 365 days not to mention of years.. it's highly unacceptable, women too have their own cravings... this is why if a man is not where he wants to be in life or still financially struggling, it's advisable to stay away from marriage because marriage will make it more harder for him and issues like this will later cause problems for him...

from other perspective, if the man is in faraway country like in the West, the laws, and restrictions there and how women have been proved times without numbers to behave when they finally get to such countries might deter the men from inviting them over...

Believe me, it's not the wishes of most men to abandon their wives, but the circumstances behind them might influence the decision on why they chose not to invite them over... financial difficulties might also be one of the problems...

@ bolded, the way you said it is like you are even determined to cheat at any given opportunity or any cause of distance between your husband or future husband... you might be the type that will even cheat even without distance separating both of you... change this your mindset or it might affect you in the long run if you eventually get married and you realise that marriage is not about what you watch in movies or what you've being brainwashed about...

If you think marriage is all sweet and spicy, you are better off single... marriage is more of commitment than love... if you're no more interested in the marriage, instead of cheating on him, divorce him and go find a man who would be 100% available for you or to make your own man... this is why you can never satisfy a woman... even if you go to war to fight off enemies, they will blame you that you don't give them enough attention not knowing that you're putting your lives on the line for the family... they mostly care about themselves... it's not every woman's complaint a man should listen too.. women will always whine... sometimes, ignore her...

@ bolded is also why I advice every man to scrutinize a woman's past especially if she's not a virgin, in fact, they shouldn't ignore carrying out a DNA test if they can afford it... a woman determined to cheat will cheat irrespective of distance or not...

You did a good job explaining the types of distance in marriages. A woman that will cheat, even if she has a live-in husband, she will still cheat.

Anfieldboss:


You did a good job explaining the types of distance in marriages. A woman that will cheat, even if she has a live-in husband, she will still cheat.

correct

I have girlfriend I have been banging for years cos her husband is outside the country.

Her toto is still tight you won't even know she has already had 2 kids

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
I have girlfriend I have been banging for years cos her husband is outside the country.

Her toto is still tight you won't even know she has already had 2 kids

Really but ain't you know she is a married woman... But you keep banging... But shey we go blame the woman ,,, but loneliness and kinji go affect her ... But Dem go say Yu dey do fornication... But shey the woman go dey for years without her pussy been bang.. religion self nah wah ooo

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