Zigzagman:


The part that got to me was the pretty female banker complaining she didn't have time to find love.

In this lagos where love plenty berekete


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lT62gdKcI0c

ednut1:
I worked with many of them. They dont even see their fellow male colleagues at work as their equal or levels. They are all aiming for men who earn more than them or have gone far in their careers. But most of those men are not even looking for careers women or they just keep using and dumping them. Working class women ronu o

XshegzzyeeiX:
Let the rot continue.

I believe men are waking up.
Marriage favours women more sef.

Zigzagman:


The part that got to me was the pretty female banker complaining she didn't have time to find love.

In this lagos where love plenty berekete


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lT62gdKcI0c

Dimaya:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eR3MCsqxBvA


In Nigeria today, the banks and financial institutions are full of beautiful successful women with dating issues.

According to the career ladies in this video, there's a big issue around women in banking and dating. It's really difficult for them.

While many of them are high earners at work, they struggle to find men who match them intellectually and financially.

Considering the minimum wage and unemployment rate in Nigeria, do you think they have a point or do they just have unrealistic standards for men?

Watch and share your opinion

pansophist:
Is it just career women? Dating is worse for every gender. The rot affect most people equally.

But specifically on this, men love language is respect. If he perceives a woman as an ally, instead of a competitor, you can make him do anything. A feminine, respectful, youthful woman makes men weak. No matter how macho.

Furthermore, hypergamy is a woman's best friend, and her worse enemy. If she is a high status/earning woman, then the selections of men will be fewer. Average earning woman? Then the selection of men will be many.

So it's either this women sacrifice their hypergamy for a good average man, just as men have always done by marrying low. And for men, the top always feels better because as he rises in finances, his pool of women increases.

It's no brainer that a man in his 30's for example will go for a 23 years old chick, than his colleague who are of his age range and single. Youthfulness is really important to men, not a woman's status.

Walamide:
We don't even know who's married and who's not because many of our married folks no longer use their wedding rings.

bukatyne:
I did not watch the video however would lend my two cents to the topic.

Dating and finding a suitable mate becomes a real problem for working women as they grow older. And one of the major issues is the time to find a potential husband and cultivate a meaningful relationship. Another thing is that most of their mates are married and those unmarried want younger girls not working or just coming up at their jobs so they can rely on them to cover up the slack at home.

Using myself as an example, if I did not have my husband before getting a job (we got married shortly after the job), I honestly doubt I would be married today. I neither have the time nor patience to cultivate a relationship now. If I managed to find a man today, cancelled dates and infrequent calls would have chased him away. Because I do not have the time, I cannot even properly vet him (physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally and financially) to know if he is the one. If I even managed to vet him, I do have the time and patience for the tweaking needed to have a smooth relationship.

Also, if we have lived in a certain way till our mid-thirties or older, it would be an herculean task to mould & fit ourselves into one another.

One might wonder how marriages are sustained with such a schedule; well you have a rhythm. After church, we can stop at Cold Stone and gist for 10mins before going home; I am not trying to vet him, I am relaxed. After work on Friday, we can branch to an eatery and grab dinner in 45mins; he is not trying to find out if I am a feminist or not so he is relaxed. WhatsApp chats or a 2mins call to check up on each other during the day. The days we have to work freaking late, we understand that it is the wicked 'capitalists' and a backrub and a peck makes the other person feel loved.

Ideally, I would often advise a lady looking at building a career or working for a long time or a demanding job to find a mate young and build a relationship on a solid foundation. When the job becomes demanding (and it would be), both of you can do the dance of adjustment without much drama (considering you are both sensible people).

The advise of 'build your career to a stage before getting married' is really pulling the cart before the horse. You have decades to build your career; like a person I admire said, it is much easier to juggle your job and childcare when you are at the bottom. When you get to the middle and top, there is a fear of missing our that you want to be present in important 'occasions'; you want to be present in the rooms where decisions are taken; which has an opportunity cost.

ednut1:
I worked with many of them. They dont even see their fellow male colleagues at work as their equal or levels. They are all aiming for men who earn more than them or have gone far in their careers. But most of those men are not even looking for careers women or they just keep using and dumping them. Working class women ronu o

bukatyne:
I did not watch the video however would lend my two cents to the topic.

Dating and finding a suitable mate becomes a real problem for working women as they grow older. And one of the major issues is the time to find a potential husband and cultivate a meaningful relationship. Another thing is that most of their mates are married and those unmarried want younger girls not working or just coming up at their jobs so they can rely on them to cover up the slack at home.

Using myself as an example, if I did not have my husband before getting a job (we got married shortly after the job), I honestly doubt I would be married today. I neither have the time nor patience to cultivate a relationship now. If I managed to find a man today, cancelled dates and infrequent calls would have chased him away. Because I do not have the time, I cannot even properly vet him (physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally and financially) to know if he is the one. If I even managed to vet him, I do have the time and patience for the tweaking needed to have a smooth relationship.

Also, if we have lived in a certain way till our mid-thirties or older, it would be an herculean task to mould & fit ourselves into one another.

One might wonder how marriages are sustained with such a schedule; well you have a rhythm. After church, we can stop at Cold Stone and gist for 10mins before going home; I am not trying to vet him, I am relaxed. After work on Friday, we can branch to an eatery and grab dinner in 45mins; he is not trying to find out if I am a feminist or not so he is relaxed. WhatsApp chats or a 2mins call to check up on each other during the day. The days we have to work freaking late, we understand that it is the wicked 'capitalists' and a backrub and a peck makes the other person feel loved.

Ideally, I would often advise a lady looking at building a career or working for a long time or a demanding job to find a mate young and build a relationship on a solid foundation. When the job becomes demanding (and it would be), both of you can do the dance of adjustment without much drama (considering you are both sensible people).

The advise of 'build your career to a stage before getting married' is really pulling the cart before the horse. You have decades to build your career; like a person I admire said, it is much easier to juggle your job and childcare when you are at the bottom. When you get to the middle and top, there is a fear of missing our that you want to be present in important 'occasions'; you want to be present in the rooms where decisions are taken; which has an opportunity cost.

ednut1:
I worked with many of them. They dont even see their fellow male colleagues at work as their equal or levels. They are all aiming for men who earn more than them or have gone far in their careers. But most of those men are not even looking for careers women or they just keep using and dumping them. Working class women ronu o

bukatyne:
I did not watch the video however would lend my two cents to the topic.

Dating and finding a suitable mate becomes a real problem for working women as they grow older. And one of the major issues is the time to find a potential husband and cultivate a meaningful relationship. Another thing is that most of their mates are married and those unmarried want younger girls not working or just coming up at their jobs so they can rely on them to cover up the slack at home.

Using myself as an example, if I did not have my husband before getting a job (we got married shortly after the job), I honestly doubt I would be married today. I neither have the time nor patience to cultivate a relationship now. If I managed to find a man today, cancelled dates and infrequent calls would have chased him away. Because I do not have the time, I cannot even properly vet him (physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally and financially) to know if he is the one. If I even managed to vet him, I do have the time and patience for the tweaking needed to have a smooth relationship.

Also, if we have lived in a certain way till our mid-thirties or older, it would be an herculean task to mould & fit ourselves into one another.

One might wonder how marriages are sustained with such a schedule; well you have a rhythm. After church, we can stop at Cold Stone and gist for 10mins before going home; I am not trying to vet him, I am relaxed. After work on Friday, we can branch to an eatery and grab dinner in 45mins; he is not trying to find out if I am a feminist or not so he is relaxed. WhatsApp chats or a 2mins call to check up on each other during the day. The days we have to work freaking late, we understand that it is the wicked 'capitalists' and a backrub and a peck makes the other person feel loved.

Ideally, I would often advise a lady looking at building a career or working for a long time or a demanding job to find a mate young and build a relationship on a solid foundation. When the job becomes demanding (and it would be), both of you can do the dance of adjustment without much drama (considering you are both sensible people).

The advise of 'build your career to a stage before getting married' is really pulling the cart before the horse. You have decades to build your career; like a person I admire said, it is much easier to juggle your job and childcare when you are at the bottom. When you get to the middle and top, there is a fear of missing our that you want to be present in important 'occasions'; you want to be present in the rooms where decisions are taken; which has an opportunity cost.