meobizy:
Nairaland no get the IQ points to debate on this topic. Sometimes I believe you children rip questions from western forums to post here. A medium where users steal comments from other platforms to post as their thoughts will never amount to much.

I posted my experience madam, I for once don't bash women, go through my profile you will see threads where people have been advising me to run, it was a living hell for me, but I don't really blame her, I believe she doesn't know that she have this disorder.

Saintinoo:


You are right, it is a both gender something.

In my case, she waits for me to complain about things she does, then when next we have an argument she accuses me of being that thing, e.g, she have an uncontrollable anger, when I complain about her anger issue, next time she accuse me of having an uncontrollable anger.

She does not really appreciate things I do for her, she has this materialistic mentality but disguise as someone who is not.

Like I mentioned up there, she yell at me when she is angry.

She insults and shame me when we have an argument.

When she is angry, if I am dying, she derives joy from it, she totally lack empathy when she is angry.

She loves being in control and always gets threatened when I mentioned mention being a man.

I don't wish my worst enemy such woman.

You just defined my ex girlfriend.

othermen:
She’s still in your head.
You admitted that she love bombs you today and do otherwise tomorrow, the rest of what you said is about her attitude when there’s disagreement.
Might just be borderline.

No sir, it is more than a disagreement, only guys are ladies who have experienced a narcissistic abuse can explain to you better, read up and see peoples experience

Narcissists are attention seekers who love to seek attention and love controlling others to give them attention. They can use anything to be in control and can go as far as blackmailing you and playing the victim when you want to let go.

Saw a narcissistic situationship on live TV. The situationship of Yemi cregx and the Kobosi vulture he was saddled with.

Attention seeking pity card playing toxic blackmailer. Heck, she forced herself on Yemi in his bed while crying for pity despite Yemi telling her that he didn't want to be boxed but she wouldn't leave Yemi's bed alone. She chased away the several other girls who indicated interest in Yemi and had wanted Yemi boxed to her ugly toxic ass whereas her hypocritical toxic ass would flirt around for her usual attention validation while she always cried for pity whenever she saw other girls with Yemi and had even promised to disqualify herself if she saw Yemi with another girl in his bed. She had even wanted to sabotage Yemi's friendship with the guys like she did with the girls interested in him.

A toxic vulture clown!

18wheeler:
She may be narcissistic okay, but the main problem here is you. You are Simp

That is what you think until you meet one, I was thinking I was a simp, but you know why I am not a simp? Because we keep having problem, Narcissists need someone they can control and get attention from, if I was a simp, we would never had have problems.

Captain0823:
My brethren brother break up os the main solution... Let love breath
Don't look at the love side
Break up with her
I just break up with mine too last 2 months...

Fortunately for me, she gave silent treatment, I decided to leave, left for some months, and those were her most terrible moments.

Saintinoo:


You are right, it is a both gender something.

In my case, she waits for me to complain about things she does, then when next we have an argument she accuses me of being that thing, e.g, she have an uncontrollable anger, when I complain about her anger issue, next time she accuse me of having an uncontrollable anger.

She does not really appreciate things I do for her, she has this materialistic mentality but disguise as someone who is not.

Like I mentioned up there, she yell at me when she is angry.

She insults and shame me when we have an argument.

When she is angry, if I am dying, she derives joy from it, she totally lack empathy when she is angry.

She loves being in control and always gets threatened when I mentioned mention being a man.

I don't wish my worst enemy such woman.

No good person deserves such a partner .
Glad you left with your life and sanity in place.
Cut off ALL and every means of her coming back ,take your time to heal and move on.

Best regards.

vickydevoka:

Narcissist are Always fine ladies and rich guys. Or highly educated individuals

Might be true ,but then ,he was and will remain the last of his kind I let Into my space or life.

Kingcalls:


U just described a typical woman ....simps suffer in their hands well well ...

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K.

BobbieZion:
They are usually very cute and charming.
Now that covers the underlying narcissistic tendencies,so at first you won't see it coming.

They love bomb you and create a false perfect world for you, but anytime you want to talk about any thing serious they snub you.
They are the greatest at entitlement,they want you to become their parent.
They are never available emotionally and they lack empathy.
They are great liars and have countless sex partners, so they are great cheats.

They make you run mad and after some time you will start losing your sanity.
Their victims are mostly kind hearted and caring people.
They are very intelligent and they create scenarios in their head, which makes them great at acting and directing.

Judith anywhere you are just know that I am a real OG, you couldn't toy with my intelligence.
And if I had the opportunity I will collect my Mavado watch back, e still dey pain me die.

Haha, seems you were also almost destroyed by her, I can say I was destroyed because she made me always go back to beg her after feeding me with silent treatment.

Beb will wrong me, when I get upset, she will give silent treatment until I apologize. To me I have found a wife, was busy planning marriage, I made her my priority, everything was about her needs, career and family.

Yep I dated one, at first he gave this controlling vibes and demanding respect, while saying I'm not up to per on some things, when I point out any fault of his, he won't accept his mistakes, but will immediately apologise for "Peace to reign", the very next minute he will repeat same mistakes again then tell me to get used to it, he likes to talk about himself alot, but turn deaf ear to anything that has to do with me, when I noticed this traits the first 3 months of dating, I felt it might be a one off thing, then it started reoccurring everytime, eventually I excused myself from the relationship by ignoring him, it wasn't easy but I was determined to end it, after 3 months of silence he chatted me up one day and said he couldn't believe I'll ever ghost him, I ignored that chat till date.

Moniya4Real:
You make it easier for them , especially when they realize you love them very much and like you are kind of emotionally attached to them. O boy! I got drained financially cos of mind-blowing sex she was giving.

Mine was a virgin, I was busy keeping her virginity in the name of I have found a wife. Truly she was a Virgin, because I confirmed.

But she has the mentality that I and not her father should take care of her, mind you, she is not a small girl.

REVOLUTION2018:
I just dropped one.
It's not just only you she will destroy, she will destroy everything around you...

I am still trying to recover....

CuriousStudent:
I am a female,but in all honesty,narcissism is most likely to be with a woman than men.

Narcissism comes from weakness, emotional weakness.The urge to be complimented and to be the center of attraction, the fear of admitting you are wrong or being judged that you have to obfuscate,spin tables,gaslight. The need to want to be in control of narratives. To get your strength by putting others. Hence a woman is more than likely to be a narcissist than a man. Men are more likely to be psychopaths than women. But there are male narcissist. They generally are cowards or weak or feminine.

A male narcissist=spiritual feminine man.


There is one way to deal with narcissist -ignore,don't indulge.when you ignore them,their sense of control is gone,they are very weak. But note that ignoring a narcissist is not for the faint at heart. You have been the source of their strength and validation ( by putting you down) ,a sudden withdrawal of that attention and strength you gave them will not go down well with them. They are not ready to love you,neither are they ready to lose you.
At this point love bombing is a tool they will use to lure you back. They will cry,tell you about a painful past that made them the way they are( in some cases lie about a tragic experience),even apologize in some cases, some drink poison or cut themselves to get you back..but don't fall for it.
If it's a male narcissist,he will quickly propose to you(to make you so excited that you forget all the uphills and what he has done). Then the cycle keeps repeating itself.

Stop sharing top secrets like this on a public forum

CuriousStudent:
I am a female,but in all honesty,narcissism is most likely to be with a woman than men.

Narcissism comes from weakness, emotional weakness.The urge to be complimented and to be the center of attraction, the fear of admitting you are wrong or being judged that you have to obfuscate,spin tables,gaslight. The need to want to be in control of narratives. To get your strength by putting others. Hence a woman is more than likely to be a narcissist than a man. Men are more likely to be psychopaths than women. But there are male narcissist. They generally are cowards or weak or feminine.

A male narcissist=spiritual feminine man.


There is one way to deal with narcissist -ignore,don't indulge.when you ignore them,their sense of control is gone,they are very weak. But note that ignoring a narcissist is not for the faint at heart. You have been the source of their strength and validation ( by putting you down) ,a sudden withdrawal of that attention and strength you gave them will not go down well with them. They are not ready to love you,neither are they ready to lose you.
At this point love bombing is a tool they will use to lure you back. They will cry,tell you about a painful past that made them the way they are( in some cases lie about a tragic experience),even apologize in some cases, some drink poison or cut themselves to get you back..but don't fall for it.
If it's a male narcissist,he will quickly propose to you(to make you so excited that you forget all the uphills and what he has done). Then the cycle keeps repeating itself.

You are right about emotional weakness and fear, mine had all these traits, but I kept assuring her that I will always protect her. I did everything to show her true love and protection, maybe it got into her head.

Ignoring her is like starting a war, she gets depressed when ignored. Like I ignored her for some months when she won't accept that she was wrong, and when I thought about everything and decided to get back, she exploded and started avoiding me, I k ow I took away that supply for months, probably she got a new supply.

Jovialjune1:
Yep I dated one, at first he gave this controlling vibes and demanding respect, while saying I'm not up to per on some things, when I point out a fault he did, he won't accept his mistakes, but will immediately apologise for "Peace to reign", the very next minute he will repeat same mistakes again then tell me to get used to it, he likes to talk about himself alot, but turn deaf ear to anything that has to do with me, when I noticed this traits the first 3 months of dating, I felt it might be a one off thing, then it started reoccurring everytime, I excused myself by ignoring him, it wasn't easy but I was determined to end it, after 3 months of silence he chatted me up saying he couldn't believe I'll ever ghost him, I ignored that chat till date.

you deserve a medal .they hate to be ignored.just ignore them,ghost them,walk away.

achimendy:
These and many more I experienced from dating a female narcissist, female narcissists do not know ALFA male, just don't get into any relationship with them else they will destroy you, no matter how strong of a man you are.[color=#000000][/color]/quote]


Don't think every man is like you. You're a simp, that's why you go back begging her even when she did wrong to you .


I wonder how you still describe yourself as stubborn when you can't act.

I know for sure that I am strong of a man emotionally than you. What do you think simping is? Try get into a serious relationship with them and see.

Cloudflare:


Nothing like love bomb. She toyed with you and make it hard because humans naturally love what they can't get easily. Girls like that subdued immediately they encounter a real man. Bang nonsense out of her and give her the silent treatment. Tell her you're busy even when she wants your attention baldly. Dude she'll be the one wondering what you're up to. Dem no born am well to dey give you silent treatment when in reality na u suppose dey give her silent treatment.

Narcissist girls can only use quiet and emotionally Dudes. Baba no be guys like me because I don show dem shege tire.

You didn't date a narcissist, you probably date one of these Nigeria girls, date a covert narc and see the story.

Saintinoo:
This is not a female bashing thread, just to share my experience with some kind of human.

I have been hearing of the narcissism, and even through I believe we all have one traits of narcissism or the other, but I experienced this with my now ex girlfriend. All this while I was trying to protect and love her even after seeing so many signs of narcissism but, the more I try, the more I make her believe that I am the problem. Here are most things she does that made me believe she has a covert NPD.

1. Love bombs me today, and give me hell the next day.
2. She never apologizes, she will ghost me until I apologize for complaining about her wrong doing.
3. She gives silent treatment immediately after an argument until I apologize.
4. She gets angry so easily, she can yell at or shame me when angry and when I react, silent treatment follows.
5. When I caught her lie, even the slightest lie, she gets angry and start ghosting me till I apologizes (sort of manipulation).

These and many more I experienced from dating a female narcissist, female narcissists do not know ALFA male, just don't get into any relationship with them else they will destroy you, no matter how strong of a man you are.

She actually left when she saw that I was too sturborn for her manipulations and won't adhere to her demands, need I say that I still tried to get her back, that is how female narcissists destroys not just their man but even female friends they manage to have.

Guys ever been in a relationship with this type of woman, share you experience.

Ladies who exhibit these traits usually love so deeply. Unfortunately, their men should just tolerate their narcissism

Cloudflare:


Nothing like love bomb. She toyed with you and make it hard because humans naturally love what they can't get easily. Girls like that subdued immediately they encounter a real man. Bang nonsense out of her and give her the silent treatment. Tell her you're busy even when she wants your attention baldly. Dude she'll be the one wondering what you're up to. Dem no born am well to dey give you silent treatment when in reality na u suppose dey give her silent treatment.

Narcissist girls can only use quiet and emotionally Dudes. Baba no be guys like me because I don show dem shege tire.

You sound like a Narcissist male.
I bet you are.

COOL10:



That's what they do. They drain you of all your happiness and make you doubt your sanity.

Stay away from toxic people.

Toxic people attract each other. If you keep attracting toxic people, you need to take a look at yourself.

Same with my ex-girlfriend, even though she works as well.(a caterer and wasn’t doing badly)

Saintinoo:


Mine was a virgin, I was busy keeping her virginity in the name of I have found a wife. Truly she was a Virgin, because I confirmed.

But she has the mentality that I and not her father should take care of her, mind you, she is not a small girl.

helinues:
The problem nowadays is people don't start with friendship anymore, they just jumped into relationship.

If you have gone through the friendship process, you would have seen such traits before considering going into a relationship with such person. Friendship is the process of getting to know more about each other's, likes and dislikes, do's and dont's..

Most people don't have love map.

How does friendship grow into a relationship?

bepositive11:


How does friendship grow into a relationship?

Friendship is the process of getting to know more about each other's, likes and dislikes, do's and dont's..

If you marry one or in a relationship with one...
Get the HELL OUTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!!

poshestmina:
It shouldn't be a women bashing thread because narcissists are not only women.

They are the worst emotional manipulators on earth . they'll rather die than admit and take responsibility of their wrongs .
He'll cheat and would blame me for not giving him attention and his mental health blah blah .

Gaslighting . Playing the victim card.
Gets very aggressive when angry and of course Domestic violence.
He'd beat me up so bad and then force me to stay indoors so "I don't spoil his image".


The relationship ended with Nysc.
Started begging me and going for Therapies.

Only my brothers know what they said or did to him ,I didn't hear from him again till date.

Toxic souls and if you stick around them for a long time ,you become as toxic as them.
They'll drain you mentally , emotionally, spiritually and in every possible way if you let them.

Now,once I notice that attitude from anyone , even a female friend or colleague ,I cut them off immediately!!
Those people will make you feel mad and frustrated and that's how they derive their own happiness.

You messed up as well, once the first hitting or beating happened, a lady must think twice with her head and not some sort of stupid love she has for the guy. Woman beaters are nothing but an animal.

Meanwhile, it's not only men that are toxic, some ladies are toxic as well hope you know that? I'm a living witness.....I ran from that your gender

I'm still trying to heal.
Worst experience I have got my whole life.
I get confused and still wonder why he chose me.
I didn't get closure .
If you notice any trait,get the h*ll out,they will emotionally finish you

You won't even get a chance to try any of your narcissist BS stunts on me to begin with becos by BS detector would pick from far away and my BS counter mechanisms would shot it down with you immediately. I can only ever try to deal with such a person if she is worth in other social aspects, accepts that she has that problem and willing to work to change.

Rexie96:
My woman is.. thatz why i steadily give her infevtion and treat myself right away...

She is sometimes a devil in human form.. put me through hell on earth , almost losing my sanity, lost business oppurtunities and many more.. best purnshment is watvhing her battle infections..

Like WTF?? How the hell would u be infecting someone like that??

We are in the same train. I hate nonsense

A female covert narcissist the most dangerous category of narcissist is the worst person a man can date worse marry and have kids with,they will pretend to be someone else they are not for years only to remove this fake pretensive mask suddenly especially in marriage and your left with a pure demonic evil woman,If you're the church going type you will think she was possessed by a demon and wasting your time taking her to pastors for deliverance.what you don't understand is she is actually the demon in human form ready to destroy your life totally and make your life hell on earth before you think of visiting as a sinner if you're married to a female covert narcissist please run for your life don't stay in it for the kids.if you're alive and not destroyed in a marriage to a female covert narcissist you can stay alive for your kids.Abeg run o

irumole1975:


Stop sharing top secrets like this on a public forum

The Problem with African & Backwardness Is Hoarding Knowledges.....

That's was Why Your Forefathers Were Incarcerated.....

Left for Africans we wouldn't have YouTube, Tiktoks & Internet because the Knowledges would have been hoarded by those who knew the drills ....

Many Old Grannies Died with lot of Secrets of the Worlds living their Children to Start from Where Their Parents Started Instead of Building from Where they Ended...

We Dont have a Progressive Forward Moving Nation But a Retrogressive Nation Because Where Other Nations are Starting From Where their Ancestors Stops to Moves Forward, Africa do not even have the Clue to Build Keke Napep Because Of Hoarding, Hoarding & Competitions Instead of Collaborations ....

To Move Forward, There Must Be Exchanges !

All info must be shared because it's quite obvious your parents nor family can't teach you everything..

Street is Cruel to Learn Lessons, You will simply learn the harder ways !

Saintinoo:
This is not a female bashing thread, just to share my experience with some kind of human.

I have been hearing of the narcissism, and even through I believe we all have one traits of narcissism or the other, but I experienced this with my now ex girlfriend. All this while I was trying to protect and love her even after seeing so many signs of narcissism but, the more I try, the more I make her believe that I am the problem. Here are most things she does that made me believe she has a covert NPD.

1. Love bombs me today, and give me hell the next day.
2. She never apologizes, she will ghost me until I apologize for complaining about her wrong doing.
3. She gives silent treatment immediately after an argument until I apologize.
4. She gets angry so easily, she can yell at or shame me when angry and when I react, silent treatment follows.
5. When I caught her lie, even the slightest lie, she gets angry and start ghosting me till I apologizes (sort of manipulation).

These and many more I experienced from dating a female narcissist, female narcissists do not know ALFA male, just don't get into any relationship with them else they will destroy you, no matter how strong of a man you are.

She actually left when she saw that I was too sturborn for her manipulations and won't adhere to her demands, need I say that I still tried to get her back, that is how female narcissists destroys not just their man but even female friends they manage to have.

Guys ever been in a relationship with this type of woman, share you experience.

No 2 is disgusting. Never apologize to a woman when she's wrong. She will continue to blackmail you emotionally.

Be a man in your relationship and stop being a SIMP