1Sharon:


I hope you that thing they call bride price is the reason some men are gingered men to maltreat and treat women like property?

It should be done away with.

That is for the elders of the tradition to know...
If they abolish brideprice, that's fine..
But the main purpose of brideprice is more or less like "the man buying the girl"...
So if anybody add #1 join, meaning say you both bought the girl...

I don't think so

1Sharon:
Abolish bride price. It has been the reason for mistreatment against women

Funny sha'' they was fighting or what?

Samantha124:
My sister paid half of her bride price... No one knew about it until one day her drunk husband told everyone everything.. .. She was so embarrassed.

talented321:
I don't think so

Absolutely so. It's the reason why some Nigerian men are misogynistic.

Since they paid for your head, they feel they are entitled to do whatever.

A similar thing happens when Nigerian men are the breadwinners.

Puss360:

That is for the elders of the tradition to know...
If they abolish brideprice, that's fine..
But the main purpose of brideprice is more or less like "the man buying the girl"...
So if anybody add #1 join, meaning say you both bought the girl...

Since you reap the benefits, it also starts with you. You can be the change and choose not to partake in it. Culture changes.

Greed and hunger won't allow some women.

He was busy praising her and you know how drunk people can't keep a secret.

He then talked of how she helped him raise the money for the bride price by paying half of it... Everyone just went silent upon hearing this..

talented321:
Funny sha'' they was fighting or what?

Samantha124:
He was busy praising her and you know how drunk people can't keep a secret.

He then talked of how she helped him raise the money for the bride price by paying half of it... Everyone just went silent upon hearing this..

Damn that's embarrassing. I wonder what their convos were like when he was sober

So far she's the one managing his finances...

1Sharon:


Damn that's embarrassing. I wonder what their convos were like when he was sober

Some people has that midset which is right''
But i have witness so many marriages where introduction' traditional wedding and white wedding wasn't perform yet the same thing happen.
See sharon'' men just want to be head the house no matter what'' i believe u might witness or see that same behaviour in relationships too na.
As far a man is the one taking care of all the expenses in the house he will always let u know that he is the head.

1Sharon:


Absolutely so. It's the reason why some Nigerian men are misogynistic.

Since they paid for your head, they feel they are entitled to do whatever.

A similar thing happens when Nigerian men are the breadwinners.

Samantha124:
So far she's the one managing his finances...

Oh.. did that make him stop drinking?

Na wa'' happiness and drink are too things we have to becareful with. Sometimes u fit tell ur enemy ur plans because of drink and happiness. Sha

Samantha124:
He was busy praising her and you know how drunk people can't keep a secret.

He then talked of how she helped him raise the money for the bride price by paying half of it... Everyone just went silent upon hearing this..

talented321:
Some people has that midset which is right''
But i have witness so many marriages where introduction' traditional wedding and white wedding wasn't perform yet the same thing happen.
See sharon'' men just want to be head the house no matter what'' i believe u might witness or see that same behaviour in relationships too na.
As far a man is the one taking care of all the expenses in the house he will always let u know that he is the head.

And being condescending while doing that.

No woman should rely on a man 100% for finances, that's why they do shakara and talk down on you.

Even women talk down on their husband despite man of the house.
As far two people (man&woman) are living under one roof talks must come except love and understanding

1Sharon:


And being condescending while doing that.

No woman should rely on a man 100% for finances, that's why they do shakara and talk down on you.

Nope, but apparently it has decreased... She only allocates him a small amount of money as his monthly allowance from his monthly salary.

Sometimes he'd have to ask her for some money if it happens that he finished his allowance before the month end...

1Sharon:


Oh.. did that make him stop drinking?

Samantha124:
Nope, but apparently it has decreased... She only allocates him a small amount of money as his monthly allowance from his monthly salary.

Sometimes he'd have to ask her for some money if it happens that he finished his allowance before the month end...

Damn..so he's like a man-child😟

Amajuoyi44:


there are some girls that can do such thing

Such men will end up treating them like trash

Apparently it's for his own good because he can't manage his own finances.

He was even the one who suggested in the first place that my sister should take him to children's court and demand for child support from him.

The judges were surprised when he agreed to everything without a fight, not knowing that he was the Mastermind behind it...

1Sharon:


Damn..so he's like a man-child😟

Samantha124:
Apparently it's for his own good because he can't manage his own finances.

He was even the one who suggested in the first place that my sister should take him to children's court and demand for child support from him.

The judges were surprised when he agreed to everything without a fight, not knowing that he was the Mastermind behind it...

It gets worse😟...

Goodlady:

I weep for your condemned destiny. Born throway pikin. See how tattered your life is!

Don't mind him, some guys will see the truth and they will not want to say it. If she get a sister she go allow his sister to pay her own bride price

Samantha124:
So far she's the one managing his finances...

So what are you now saying
Sometimes being drunk doesn't mean a man is irresponsible o. Anyone that wanted to feel ashamed should feel ashamed about it. Your sis know what she saw that makes her to pay half of her bridepride.....If they are living in peace and harmony that is all that matters.. what had happened in the past will remain in the past..

My dear sisters if you decide to pay your own bride price the tables might turn, it might either lead to gratitude or attitude.

Jeez! Did I say I was complaining?

What is your problem?

deewhydoski:

So what are you now saying
Sometimes being drunk doesn't mean a man is irresponsible o. Anyone that wanted to feel ashamed should feel ashamed about it. Your sis know what she saw that makes her to pay half of her bridepride.....If they are living in peace and harmony that is all that matters.. what had happened in the past will remain in the past..

deewhydoski:

So what are you now saying
Sometimes being drunk doesn't mean a man is irresponsible o. Anyone that wanted to feel ashamed should feel ashamed about it. Your sis know what she saw that makes her to pay half of her bridepride.....If they are living in peace and harmony that is all that matters.. what had happened in the past will remain in the past..

For you to make this comment, that means you're just like him.

Amajuoyi44:
I hardly seen or hear that ladies gives their man money to pay their bride price






Why can't such happen?

They should come and pay my groom price .....na only virgin I go pay em bride price.....

evening newspapers feel free to dm.

Wetin concern man wey never get money to pay bride price with marriage?

Palava.

Goodlady:

Stfu!
There's nothing like evening newspapers.
The older the wine, the sweeter it is.
Just last Saturday, a 46yrs old woman got married to a 40yrs old man in Lugbe area, Abuja. Everyone ll get fulfillment at one time. Cos I reject your short, black and broke destiny no mean say I go tey before I marry or reach Age 90 like Sarah before I born.
All you boys here dissing women with your childish threads, na una Mama's bweast una dey drag like madman own. You all should get a life.

And you take the marriage dey give urself hope sis?

If as a man you yield to this then I'm sorry for you. The future will better explain itself.

mariahAngel right now!

If any man accept this, the man will lose respect to the woman.

talented321:
Now we are dating and u take in (pregnant)' i wanted to wed u before delivery time, but in the process thing went sour for me'' but u have the ability to give me the cash to pay your dowry so that i will give u later''
Now u need this dowry to be paid too, so that you will be called a legally married woman' to gain that respect of a married woman.
Will u let it slide and born out of wedlock?
Ordinary dowry head no dey again' and u think without neck the head will stand.
na only god know why he give men power over women'' if not the oppression and shege we for enter.

Must you do wedding during the time things went sour for u ni?

Samantha124:
My sister paid half of her bride price... No one knew about it until one day her drunk husband told everyone everything.. .. She was so embarrassed.

same thing happened to my neighbour anytime they have quarel her husband will tell her I didn't marry you because you are that paid your bride price not me