So I am very confused right now because of all this red flag I am seeing.

I lost my wife early last year when she was birthing my third child and only son, I have had my family taking care of the boy since then and now there is need to move on.

There is this lady I am currently seeing, we are both serious with the relationship, infact I have met her family to disclose my intentions and we are planning to get married this December.

Now, this is the issue, this lady is very stingy to herself. She is an entrepreneur, she runs her own business and is doing averagely well, she can afford to cater for need without anyone's support. She has been complaining of body pains and body weakness for almost 2 months but she refused to take herself to the hospital and when I complaint she told me that I should give her money, I am not trying to say it is bad if I give her money to do that but she is quite aware that things are not very rosy for me now.

I am really confused now because I don't plan to wife a liability, I think I will opt out of this relationship.

Sorry for your loss.
But, you wey dey rush marriage..she wan born another Jesus?

dlawsamesq:
So I am very confused right now because of all this red flag I am seeing.

I lost my wife early last year when she was birthing my third child and only son, I have had my family taking care of the boy since then and now there is need to move on.

There is this lady I am currently seeing, we are both serious with the relationship, infact I have met her family to disclose my intentions and we are planning to get married this December.

Now, this is the issue, this lady is very stingy to herself. She is an entrepreneur, she runs her own business and is doing averagely well, she can afford to cater for need without anyone's support. She has been complaining of body pains and body weakness for almost 2 months but she refused to take herself to the hospital and when I complaint she told me that I should give her money, I am not trying to say it is bad if I give her money to do that but she is quite aware that things are not very rosy for me now.

I am really confused now because I don't plan to wife a liability, I think I will opt out of this relationship.

it's a red flag, If she is stingy and nonchalant to herself even when it covering her own health, imagine how "supportive" she'll be to you and your kids. When people show you who they are, take it serious!! she can't and wouldn't change, don't hope for it.

You need a selfless, caring, and empathetic woman for you and your kids, if she doesn't bring that, then hire a nanny! and in my opinion 1 year is kinda too early for another marriage. Focus on your kids and finances, it doesn't make sense adding more responsibility

mrjojo:
it's a red flag, If she is stingy to herself even when it covering her own health, imagine how "supportive" to you and your kids. When people show you who they are, take it serious, she can't wouldn't change, don't hope for it.

You need a selfless, caring, and emphatic woman for you and your kids, if she doesn't bring that, then hire a nanny! and in my opinion 1 year is kinda too early for another marriage. Focus on your kids and finances, it doesn't make sense adding more responsibility

Thank you so much

You’re broke and you still want to rush into another marriage . Why not send the little money you have to your family so they would take good care of your children

With the way you’re rushing into another marriage, how are we sure you aren’t the person who killed your late wife You know you men can’t be trusted .

Why not wait atleast 4 years before you move on. Abi your late wife doesn’t mean anything to you that you can’t mourn her for atleast 4 years You’re a suspect and you need to be investigated.

May your late wife soul rest in peace.

dlawsamesq:
So I am very confused right now because of all this red flag I am seeing.

I lost my wife early last year when she was birthing my third child and only son, I have had my family taking care of the boy since then and now there is need to move on.

There is this lady I am currently seeing, we are both serious with the relationship, infact I have met her family to disclose my intentions and we are planning to get married this December.

Now, this is the issue, this lady is very stingy to herself. She is an entrepreneur, she runs her own business and is doing averagely well, she can afford to cater for need without anyone's support. She has been complaining of body pains and body weakness for almost 2 months but she refused to take herself to the hospital and when I complaint she told me that I should give her money, I am not trying to say it is bad if I give her money to do that but she is quite aware that things are not very rosy for me now.

I am really confused now because I don't plan to wife a liability, I think I will opt out of this relationship.

hope you have warned her that if she messes with the kids you would kick her out ASAP. now back to your dilemma.....e get as e be, if she does not see the need to take care of her health..........another person's health nko?

When you had sex with her your Brain didn't see the red flags bah


E reach marriage na then the dead cells for your Brain wake up

Wicked beings

dlawsamesq:
So I am very confused right now because of all this red flag I am seeing.

I lost my wife early last year when she was birthing my third child and only son, I have had my family taking care of the boy since then and now there is need to move on.

There is this lady I am currently seeing, we are both serious with the relationship, infact I have met her family to disclose my intentions and we are planning to get married this December.

Now, this is the issue, this lady is very stingy to herself. She is an entrepreneur, she runs her own business and is doing averagely well, she can afford to cater for need without anyone's support. She has been complaining of body pains and body weakness for almost 2 months but she refused to take herself to the hospital and when I complaint she told me that I should give her money, I am not trying to say it is bad if I give her money to do that but she is quite aware that things are not very rosy for me now.

I am really confused now because I don't plan to wife a liability, I think I will opt out of this relationship.

I beg "shut up and run down the street from the house/your house,etc; to get more sense or to be a honey or..." We don't want to hear your ordeal... It is ideal that you deals and seals (or you want to steals...?) your deal,deals and ordeal... Deal with your ordeal or have an ideal real deal with your ordeal...?...

Patented:


hope you have warned her that if she messes with the kids you would kick her out ASAP. now back to your dilemma.....e get as e be, if she does not see the need to take care of her health..........another person's health nko?

My fear

Jennyclay:

Hello bae/babe... pull over... reverse baby/babe/bae pull over... Am I your ideal kinda like... like the one you sent...?... Heaven sent...or the one that has cent and 💯... the one like 50cent or the one that has 50percent of what...?...

Candidlady:



When you had sex with her your Brain didn't see the red flags bah


E reach marriage na then the dead cells for your Brain wake up

Wicked beings

You don't know what you are saying. We have been together for five months now and I haven't kiss her not to talk of having sex with her

Candidlady:



When you had sex with her your Brain didn't see the red flags bah


E reach marriage na then the dead cells for your Brain wake up

Wicked beings

what are you saying? so becuase they've had sex means he shouldn't be cautious and critical about a decision that will greatly affect him and his kids? And why did he mention sex? and even if did, they are both consenting adults, they had sex with each other! When will some of you ladies stop seeing sex as some kind of 'favor' to men?

After 3kids what do you need another woman for, or marriage for?, oga please go and take good care of your 3kids and give them the best of life...

You are even complaining of low cash presently, are you sure if you marry her, she will be able to support you?

dlawsamesq:
■ Now, this is the issue, this lady is very stingy to herself. She is an entrepreneur, she runs her own business and is doing averagely well, she can afford to cater for need without anyone's support. She has been complaining of body pains and body weakness for almost 2 months but she refused to take herself to the hospital and when I complaint she told me that I should give her money, I am not trying to say it is bad if I give her money to do that but she is quite aware that things are not very rosy for me now.

I am really confused now because I don't plan to wife a liability, I think I will opt out of this relationship.

I really don't understand your confusion.

Bros... marriage should be the last thing you ought to be thinking about at this moment....

Your major concern should be on how to cater for your kids.......Leave banny matter alone for now....

Abi do you want to bring another woman into your house and you'll later run down here to be complaining how she's been maltreating your kids?

Na wa to you oh..

Sorry to say this, you are not a reasonable fellow at all and I must say you have no respect for your late wife whom you lost not quite long

Jennyclay:
You’re broke and you still want to rush into another marriage . Why not send the little money you have to your family so they would take good care of your children

With the way you’re rushing into another marriage, how are we sure you aren’t the person who killed your late wife You know you men can’t be trusted .

Why not wait atleast 4 years before you move on. Abi your late wife doesn’t mean anything to you that you can’t mourn her for atleast 4 years You’re a suspect and you need to be investigated.

May your late wife soul rest in peace.

Jennyclay..., why am I close to seeing your navel(well I would prefers to see/seeing your navel than your nipples... I mean... seeing your navel inside a novel...) like I am reading a novel...or, like you are reading a/the novel...? Of course, I ain't reading no novels... So I won't see your navel... Are you reading a novel or you are in a novel...? You are the novel...? I marvel...so you don't marvel/so you don't need to marvel...(I should hold a towel/towels, shovel/shovels, riffle/riffles,etc; so you won't need to do what or that...?) After all or at least, it isn't as if you can hold a shovel...can you...or would you...? You would either or rather hold a towel... instead of holding a shovel to unravel some gravels... that has travelled or that is/that are ready for/to travel...? If you can hold a towel...,why don't you or can't you hold a towel that would covers or shells your bowels and navel or bowel from navel... Mabel or Mirabel-so I won't calls you a Jezebel or so I won't need to call you a Jezebel... Gingle your bell... What is your "bell", Mabel, Mirabelle and Anabel/Anabelle...? Your "bell" as "Jezebel", who is into Abel,etc; is to first become...an "Abel" or like an "Angel" that dwells with/inside Abel and Abigail?... Then, tell Abigail, Anabel/Anabelle, Rosabelle,etc; to hold/use a towel... that would covers or shells their navel or bowel(s)... So, if you can hold a shovel...let us travels to the area where there are gravels...; and we would begin to unravels... It would be like waffle/waffles or raffle/raffles, waffles and raffles tickets for.../raffle draws...?... Can you hold a riffle or riffles...,if you can't hold a towel and shovel...? Would you...? Marvel... Abigail... You are baffled...? Don't be baffled... I don't mean to baffled... I don't know how to baffles... "It is your fault I just.../it is you that do belittles...Kelvin Little, that has no kettle or pestle nestle and mortar..."? "He" is immortal or "probably" with immortal techniques...? Isn't it better to be immortal or have immortal techniques,etc; than to be immoral and have immoral techniques/immoral unique techniques...,etc; that can't(or can...?) be found in clinics or that would leads you to a clinic-where you can't or won't be having or holding a picnic/satanic picnic... like or with Vucinic or Vunicinic...? "I have a battle or I have my battles...?" Or I know that, there are battles,etc; that needs to be settled...? After all, you are eating fufu, lanfun, and are taking your bath inside baafu or inside a baff... Omo ounje kiki ifun... If you want us to "settle"... Build castles or build a castle,etc; in Newcastle... Let us go and settles in Newcastle...or with Newcastle...? Of course..., you aren't entitled to a title or any titles,etc; in Our CASTLE and NEWCASTLE/CASTLE LIKE NEWCASTLE...?, unto you dismantles or have dismantles your battle with rattle and castles,etc... What is your title...or what are your titles... What are your entitles...,etc; that hasn't been settled...? Your battle/battles,etc; still have or still has titles and subtitles... Even in Newcastle...there are battles...

Oga, have you recovered from your loss? As in mentally, physically, emotionally and financially ready to start a new relationship? You really don't need episodes of comparing and contrasting.

You are the major RED FLAG.

You have some valid reasons to avoid entering a serious relationship or marriage for some time. Firstly, you lost your wife (and mother of your three children) just last year. Secondly, you are currently facing financial difficulties. So, what exactly are you seeking?

She is rich and stingy even to herself. You don't need anymore red flags. Please for the sake of your mental health, don't move on with the relationship. I have met some ladies like that and they never change.

Isn't finding a way to be financially stable the first thing ?

She’s not stingy but she is smart! She’s letting you know that she’s not going to take over your responsibilities. You have no business looking for another “liability” so go and raise your kids and make more money.

I don't know why Africans are so addicted to poverty. You have 3kids already and you're still planning to get married to someone who has shown you that she's not ready to shoulder any kind or form of responsibility and you would probably have 3-4 more kids with her. Have you asked yourself how you intend to train 7 children in this economy without any kind or form of support?

You have no business with marriage. If you're a responsible and loving father, your concern should be your children, and how you'll cater for them.

At this phase of your life, you are not good for marriage!

Acidosis:
You are the major RED FLAG.

You have some valid reasons to avoid entering a serious relationship or marriage for some time. Firstly, you lost your wife (and mother of your three children) just last year. Secondly, you are currently facing financial difficulties. So, what exactly are you seeking?

Someone to take care of him and his kids.
They always claim it is easy until they are left to do it. Then they start looking for another wife or shipping the innocent kids to their great grandmother.

Men do not benefit from marriage indeed...

pocohantas:


Someone to take care of him and his kids.
They always claim it is easy until they are left to do it. Then they start looking for another wife or shipping the innocent kids to their great grandmother.

Men do not benefit from marriage indeed...

Shipping ke

Acidosis:


Shipping ke

Yes nah., abi are you expecting her to start her marital life taking care of 3 children without first enjoying living alone with her husband?

YOU are the red flag you're complaining about.

stingy women like that are DANGEROUS!!!!!

Just like my girlfriend

Even if you see 1 million in her account, she will tell you that it's not her own

dlawsamesq:
So I am very confused right now because of all this red flag I am seeing.

I lost my wife early last year when she was birthing my third child and only son, I have had my family taking care of the boy since then and now there is need to move on.

There is this lady I am currently seeing, we are both serious with the relationship, infact I have met her family to disclose my intentions and we are planning to get married this December.

Now, this is the issue, this lady is very stingy to herself. She is an entrepreneur, she runs her own business and is doing averagely well, she can afford to cater for need without anyone's support. She has been complaining of body pains and body weakness for almost 2 months but she refused to take herself to the hospital and when I complaint she told me that I should give her money, I am not trying to say it is bad if I give her money to do that but she is quite aware that things are not very rosy for me now.

I am really confused now because I don't plan to wife a liability, I think I will opt out of this relationship.

things are not rosy and na marriage Dey hungry you now. Oga you have kids already, relax. What’s the hurry

22o62021:
Just like my girlfriend

Even if you see 1 million in her account, she will tell you that it's not her own

The problem is you, not her.