I am a legally married woman with no child and My marriage is 15 years. I reside in Lagos.

I am not the type of woman that monitors or interfere in my husband business or his staffs. Though I know some of the staffs but not much closeness.

7 years ago 4 youths corps served at my husband office but one lady among the 4 corps member was later retained and employed as a secretary to the director who is my husband.

Though my husband told me when his secretary wanted to do her wedding at Port Harcourt 4 years ago. I didn't go but being my husband staff, he went with some of his friends. Less than a year after the wedding the Secretary gave birth to twins. I even went to visit her at home in gbagada, Lagos with gifts for the new babies then. When I asked for her husband I was told he is out of the country. I never knew I was being fooled.

December 22, last year, the Secretary gave birth to another baby in a private hospital where my immediate sister got employed less than 3 months as an accountant. It was my sister that witnessed everything and told me.

The lady I thought is just a secretary is my husband-wife. The wedding the Secretary did in port Harcourt then was between her and my husband. The twins she gave birth to then and the new baby she just put to birth are my husband children. The house I went to visit her in gbagada was bought to her by my husband with a saloon car.

My husband didn't deny it when I confronted him. Even his parents and siblings all knew about it. I didn't know I was in darkness for years.

I am still in the shock because all is still like a dream to me. I asked him of my offensee to have punished me that way but he said I did nothing wrong.

Now I fully believe men are evil and their place is hell.

Since that the whole secret was exposed I have been mentally sick and disturbed. My heart is wild now, and at any time I can do and undo.

What should I do?

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Second paragraph is where most women get it wrong , how can you not interfere in your husband's dealings? Why then did you marry him if you don't want to interfare in all his dealings. Men are very cunning and manipulative, they will always come up with lines that will give them space for cheating e.g don't pick his calls, don't check his phones, don't question his movements and all that. A relative of mine was doing her traditional wedding and all those elders (men) were busy giving advise that'll enable the man to cheat, each time they give the advise I'll giggle with a bombastic side eyes till my mom stylishly summoned me and took me inside my aunt's room 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Madam no man is going to hell' if you like swear nothing go work'' eve and delilah starting this business so relax''
*why are some men so dumb
* you may not tell her you will take second wife when toasting her
But when u don catch her and in like two or three years into the marriage that is where you will tell her that u will take another wife''
Having another family behind your wife's back is madness
For godsake you are a man and head of the family and beside it is accepted by law for you to marry more than one woman'' why are u hiding and what are you hiding ur second or third family for.

hhmmmm. e deep oo

Na wa

Some men are plainly wicked,since he knows that he could no longer cope with the woman's condition why didn't he just come out openly to tell her his intentions i don't why most men don't consider the feeling of their patner before taking nasty decisions.

Nawa.

The story is touch
Touching is the story.

The man no wan apply pressure on the wife or blame her.

Before him go die na im go born

Many women do same to men.

Even the woman might have tried only to discover she is the issue

Lol.

OP, you've felt the pain of betrayal. Now rise up, wipe your tears and prepare yourself for what comes next.

Here's your action plan


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWqppErCr60

talented321:
Madam no man is going to hell' if you like swear nothing go work'' eve and delilah starting this business so relax''
*why are some men so dumb
* you may not tell her you will take second wife when toasting her
But when u don catch her and in like two or three years into the marriage that is where you will tell her that u will take another wife''
Having another family behind your wife's back is madness
For godsake you are a man and head of the family and beside it is accepted by law for you to marry more than one woman'' why are u hiding and what are hiding ur second or third family for.

He's a coward! He's not a real MAN 😡

virginprincess:
Some men are plainly wicked,since he knows that he could no longer cope with the woman's condition why didn't he just come out openly to tell her his intentions i don't why most men don't consider the feeling of their patner before taking nasty decisions.

He is a selfish and wicked man as you rightly described.... Even if he must take a second wife, let her know and give her reasons why!... Even if she's barren, she remains the first wife and nothing can change that!

You will not give him children, he brought in someone who has done what you haven't been able to do even in a greater measure. Twins who are probably boys no be beans. He even respected you enough by putting the egg laying hen very far away from you. Now you, the old hen who probably damaged your womb with abortions are planning to do and undo. Okay then.

Well, people saying he should have told her yenyenyen as if she'll take it likely with him if she's been told. He has respected her to have stayed for more than 10years without any child from her. She's supposed to be the one to suggest he marries another woman to give him children. Since polygamy is allowed and he's wealthy enough to take care of all his wives comfortably. So what's the kababu here now?

But op you sure say that's the woman's pic you have up there?

Well we live in an unfair world move with cautious.

Example of non-consented, or forced polygamy I talked about.

May God help women to marry rightly, and not found out down the line that she is just one of many on a man's rotational list.

This is the dark side of the male mating strategy, it is optimized for quantity, just as women's mating dark side is optimized for quality (eg getting pregnant for their desired man and pinning it on a simp to raise).

am i missing. something,you married a man for 15 years,had no child for him then you are angry that another woman did.madam you are a witch,you care nothing about your husband or his name,you care only about your greed.

Let me share a story similar to yours and probably you can determine a course of action .

I am the first born of my parents and at a certain age. My dad decided that it was time I knew where all his properties were. So, one day he takes me to a school . He informs me that it’s a school he has built . I was shocked . To add to the surprise the way he was flirted with the principal, a female I knew something was up.
After 9 months, he picks me up from Unilag and we go to a baby naming ceremony. It’s the child from the principal my new half brother . He informed me that I cannot tell anyone. For 9yrs I carry this secret . Until one my cousins informs my mum that this is what he’s seen.
My dad inform my mother that yep, it’s true and out of respect is why he hasn’t broadcasted this in her face. But because he isn’t a Muslim he can’t officially bring the woman home . He asks now that she knows , how do they move forward. ?
Long story short - both wives have separate houses and vehicles . Both represented in his will . He visits both places 3/4 days a week.
We the kids don’t care about our step/half siblings . To everyone their own.

Let polygamist breath... don't suffocate them

tonywonder:


He's a coward! He's not a real MAN 😡

He may be a coward yes but not a 'real man' I don't think so. Is he a 'fake man' I don't think so either. That a person doesn't conorn to the decision you would have taken doesn't make him real or fake , he still a man.

Every one is different and unique, not conforming or conforming to a herd mentality doesn't make you real or fake, he is simply a man who has the faculties to make an informed decision for himself.

tonywonder:


He's a coward! He's not a real MAN 😡

He may be a coward yes but not a 'real man' I don't think so. Is he a 'fake man' I don't think so either. That a person doesn't conform to the decision you would have taken doesn't make him real or fake , he still a man.

Every one is different and unique, not conforming or conforming to a herd mentality doesn't make you 'real or fake', he is simply a man who has the faculties to make an informed decision for himself.

Nonexisting1:
You will not give him children, he brought in someone who has done what you haven't been able to do even in a greater measure. Twins who are probably boys no be beans. He even respected you enough by putting the egg laying hen very far away from you. Now you, the old hen who probably damaged your womb with abortions are planning to do and undo. Okay then.

Be civil for once naa

rickleye:
Let me share a story similar to yours and probably you can determine a course of action .

I am the first born of my parents and at a certain age. My dad decided that it was time I knew where all his properties were. So, one day he takes me to a school . He informs me that it’s a school he has built . I was shocked . To add to the surprise the way he was flirted with the principal, a female I knew something was up.
After 9 months, he picks me up from Unilag and we go to a baby naming ceremony. It’s the child from the principal my new step brother . He informed me that I cannot tell anyone. For 9yrs I carry this secret . Until one my cousins informs my mum that this is what he’s seen.
My dad inform my mother that yep, it’s true and out of respect is why he hasn’t broadcasted this in her face. But because he isn’t a Muslim he can’t officially being the woman home . He asks now that she knows , how do they move forward.
Long story short - both wives have separate houses and vehicles . Both represented in his will . He visits both places 3/4 days a week.
We the kids don’t care about our step siblings .

And life goes on....

Nonexisting1:
You will not give him children, he brought in someone who has done what you haven't been able to do even in a greater measure. Twins who are probably boys no be beans. He even respected you enough by putting the egg laying hen very far away from you. Now you, the old hen who probably damaged your womb with abortions are planning to do and undo. Okay then.

Who told you it's only abortion that makes one barren? I have seen a virgin girl, married and barren for years. Gone for checkups with her hubby and medically, both are fine.... These things most times are way deeper than us!

Poison the bastard slowly

The man wicked sha

ghettochild:
Poison the bastard slowly

are U ok

Your husband should go far from you for his own safety.

Hi

This one is even small, compared to what women does to us. By bringing in someone's else's child. DNA una weldone.

tonywonder:
I am a legally married woman with no child and My marriage is 15 years. I reside in Lagos.

I am not the type of woman that monitors or interfere in my husband business or his staffs. Though I know some of the staffs but not much closeness.

7 years ago 4 youths corps served at my husband office but one lady among the 4 corps member was later retained and employed as a secretary to the director who is my husband.

Though my husband told me when his secretary wanted to do her wedding at Port Harcourt 4 years ago. I didn't go but being my husband staff, he went with some of his friends. Less than a year after the wedding the Secretary gave birth to twins. I even went to visit her at home in gbagada, Lagos with gifts for the new babies then. When I asked for her husband I was told he is out of the country. I never knew I was being fooled.

December 22, last year, the Secretary gave birth to another baby in a private hospital where my immediate sister got employed less than 3 months as an accountant. It was my sister that witnessed everything and told me.

The lady I thought is just a secretary is my husband-wife. The wedding the Secretary did in port Harcourt then was between her and my husband. The twins she gave birth to then and the new baby she just put to birth are my husband children. The house I went to visit her in gbagada was bought to her by my husband with a saloon car.

My husband didn't deny it when I confronted him. Even his parents and siblings all knew about it. I didn't know I was in darkness for years.

I am still in the shock because all is still like a dream to me. I asked him of my offensee to have punished me that way but he said I did nothing wrong.

Now I fully believe men are evil and their place is hell.

Since that the whole secret was exposed I have been mentally sick and disturbed. My heart is wild now, and at any time I can do and undo.

What should I do?

https://www.facebook.com/100003745537262/posts/pfbid02bf6qynCVjDVQhVc5UwURf7Ri9JH1LAvDuM34Z7pxfvkhfdg4XAPhEjhWs8jPgX1Nl/?mibextid=wPBFeM

Including your useless father.

I am legally married with no child.
My marriage is 15years.

U come down again to say men are evil.

When u read this my comment, go to your toilet, sit on d sitter and judge yourself.
Just read the first sentence again. Read it again. Also read it again.
If it's your father, brother would u say same about them?

Do and undo! We really cannot tell you what to do.