Good for him. Women love Divorce too much. Always have a Plan B.

Dozie32:
This one is even small, compared to what women does to us. By bringing in someone's else's child. DNA una well done.

Nigeria is the headquarter of paternity fraud in the world.

I have done DNA test for my Sons. Remaining my daughter. Women are good at keeping secrets.
She was angry when she found out that, I did DNA test for my kids. I no even say a word.

Nothing!

Just live your life.

Any moves may be at your own detriment.

You have many things to loose if you take a wrong decision.

Live in peace with all.... then you won't have any cause to regret.

Fruitfulness is as important as breath.....

You're in control!

Sorry madam

I know it's not easy but you have to move on. There is nothing new on this earth

Pray to God for your own fruit of the womb and accept the woman. Live and let live.

Better husband weighing his option God bless the man.

He probably took a second wife because you were barren and couldn't give him a child
You think he's going to wait around for 15 years
Nawa o
U b joker

your hubby has been caring and providing for you all these years.
some other men would send their barren wife packing.

your hubby needed children to carry on his name and properties?
Madam, do not be selfish.
some women do far worse things like multiple abortions, paternity fraud etc.

[quote author=tonywonder post=124978513]I am a legally married woman with no child and My marriage is 15 years. I reside in Lagos.

I am not the type of woman that monitors or interfere in my husband business or his staffs. Though I know some of the staffs but not much closeness.

7 years ago 4 youths corps served at my husband office but one lady among the 4 corps member was later retained and employed as a secretary to the director who is my husband.

Though my husband told me when his secretary wanted to do her wedding at Port Harcourt 4 years ago. I didn't go but being my husband staff, he went with some of his friends. Less than a year after the wedding the Secretary gave birth to twins. I even went to visit her at home in gbagada, Lagos with gifts for the new babies then. When I asked for her husband I was told he is out of the country. I never knew I was being fooled.

December 22, last year, the Secretary gave birth to another baby in a private hospital where my immediate sister got employed less than 3 months as an accountant. It was my sister that witnessed everything and told me.

The lady I thought is just a secretary is my husband-wife. The wedding the Secretary did in port Harcourt then was between her and my husband. The twins she gave birth to then and the new baby she just put to birth are my husband children. The house I went to visit her in gbagada was bought to her by my husband with a saloon car.

My husband didn't deny it when I confronted him. Even his parents and siblings all knew about it. I didn't know I was in darkness for years.

I am still in the shock because all is still like a dream to me. I asked him of my offensee to have punished me that way but he said I did nothing wrong.

Now I fully believe men are evil and their place is hell.

Since that the whole secret was exposed I have been mentally sick and disturbed. My heart is wild now, and at any time I can do and undo.

What should I do?

https://www.facebook.com/100003745537262/posts/pfbid02bf6qynCVjDVQhVc5UwURf7Ri9JH1LAvDuM34Z7pxfvkhfdg4XAPhEjhWs8jPgX1Nl/?mibextid=wPBFeM[/quote). I read this same story 2 yrs ago. Nothing changed.

IconicR:
Second paragraph is where most women get it wrong , how can you not interfere in your husband's dealings? Why then did you marry him if you don't want to interfare in all his dealings. Men are very cunning and manipulative, they will always come up with lines that will give them space for cheating e.g don't pick his calls, don't check his phones, don't question his movements and all that. A relative of mine was doing her traditional wedding and all those elders (men) were busy giving advise that'll enable the man to cheat, each time they give the advise I'll giggle with a bombastic side eyes till my mom stylishly summoned me and took me inside my aunt's room 🤣🤣🤣🤣

How can you be eavesdropping on men, where are your manners?

For 15 years?
Well, I can't judge him, people have different ways of solving their problems. But I think he is a good man to wait all years.

This isn't a side chick but he married her and paid brideprice, sincerely speaking the families of that lady and that of your husband are fully armed awaiting your negative reactions.

For your good, it's either you stay or you move on, raising any problem will definitely bring war to your territory.

In addition, for this man to have his children from his new wife and still lives with you tells you what?

The first sentence explains it all. 15 years and no issue.
Madam, this man loves you. Move on.

The second wife get big bumbum ?

IconicR:
Second paragraph is where most women get it wrong , how can you not interfere in your husband's dealings? Why then did you marry him if you don't want to interfare in all his dealings. Men are very cunning and manipulative, they will always come up with lines that will give them space for cheating e.g don't pick his calls, don't check his phones, don't question his movements and all that. A relative of mine was doing her traditional wedding and all those elders (men) were busy giving advise that'll enable the man to cheat, each time they give the advise I'll giggle with a bombastic side eyes till my mom stylishly summoned me and took me inside my aunt's room 🤣🤣🤣🤣

My sister calm down, the first person to commit crime and led man to it according to the bible are women - Eve, Delilah, Noah's daughters slept with their father, Sarah lured Abraham to marry Haggai, same Sarah pursued her with a young baby.....Rebecca manipulated Isaac to bless Jacob rather than Esau, Michal (David's wife). Men learnt from these great men.
Guess what, nothing happened to any of these people, they simply were playing their part in the bigger picture.

Nonexisting1:
You will not give him children, he brought in someone who has done what you haven't been able to do even in a greater measure. Twins who are probably boys no be beans. He even respected you enough by putting the egg laying hen very far away from you. Now you, the old hen who probably damaged your womb with abortions are planning to do and undo. Okay then.

Your words are very unkind. Be careful because God is still a righteous judge. You don’t know why she is barren. Yet you have already accused her of vile things. Learn compassion and don’t be quick to judge harshly. One day you will need kindness too.

I can't wait for 15years with any lady on child birth though hiding the babies for you maybe he's scared of your do and undo in your last paragraph


I can only give a lady 2-3years anything beyond that I go find one baby to give me kids outside

WHAT U SHOULD DO IS GET HIM CHILDREN...SIMPLE..

tonywonder:
I am a legally married woman with no child and My marriage is 15 years. I reside in Lagos.

I am not the type of woman that monitors or interfere in my husband business or his staffs. Though I know some of the staffs but not much closeness.

7 years ago 4 youths corps served at my husband office but one lady among the 4 corps member was later retained and employed as a secretary to the director who is my husband.

Though my husband told me when his secretary wanted to do her wedding at Port Harcourt 4 years ago. I didn't go but being my husband staff, he went with some of his friends. Less than a year after the wedding the Secretary gave birth to twins. I even went to visit her at home in gbagada, Lagos with gifts for the new babies then. When I asked for her husband I was told he is out of the country. I never knew I was being fooled.

December 22, last year, the Secretary gave birth to another baby in a private hospital where my immediate sister got employed less than 3 months as an accountant. It was my sister that witnessed everything and told me.

The lady I thought is just a secretary is my husband-wife. The wedding the Secretary did in port Harcourt then was between her and my husband. The twins she gave birth to then and the new baby she just put to birth are my husband children. The house I went to visit her in gbagada was bought to her by my husband with a saloon car.

My husband didn't deny it when I confronted him. Even his parents and siblings all knew about it. I didn't know I was in darkness for years.

I am still in the shock because all is still like a dream to me. I asked him of my offensee to have punished me that way but he said I did nothing wrong.

Now I fully believe men are evil and their place is hell.

Since that the whole secret was exposed I have been mentally sick and disturbed. My heart is wild now, and at any time I can do and undo.

What should I do?

https://www.facebook.com/100003745537262/posts/pfbid02bf6qynCVjDVQhVc5UwURf7Ri9JH1LAvDuM34Z7pxfvkhfdg4XAPhEjhWs8jPgX1Nl/?mibextid=wPBFeM

This is painful and right now your sense of betrayal is real. No one can tell you what to do with your marriage because no one will live your life for you after a divorce but pause and consider.

Your husband likely took in this woman because you are barren. He couldn’t tell you because I’m sure he has seen your grief at barrenness and likely all the medical procedures and intense self condemnation you have put yourself through. He has a heart. There is likely in his opinion no way he would not be subjecting you to further pain if he told you he is taking another woman to wife, simply because no matter how he words it, the reason would be because you are barren.

Understandably.

But your pain is still very real. You feel you are displaced in the eyes of family and no matter what that other woman will have the respect going forward.

You can either move out or submit to whatever he has done. He needed children and most Nigerians will not adopt as a solution.

In the years before you knew of this has your husband treated you kindly or the same? Was he harsh? The answer will let you know what your future is like.

I don’t know what I would do but you can be sure your marriage has changed. Trust has been broken. He should have told you earlier and worked with you if possible.

"I am a legally married woman with no child and My marriage is 15 years...."

Not every man can endure not having a child for 15 years, I don't support his action though, but let's be objective here; maybe he did the right thing in a wrong way.

Has she now been able to give birth?

tonywonder:


Who told you it's only abortion that makes one barren? I have seen a virgin girl, married and barren for years. Gone for checkups with her hubby and medically, both are fine.... These things most times are way deeper than us!

At the time you did, how much did it cost per child?

Sleekfingers:



Nigeria is the headquarter of paternity fraud in the world.

I have done DNA test for my Sons. Remaining my daughter. Women are good at keeping secrets.
She was angry when she found out that, did DNA test for my kids. I no even say a world.

tonywonder:


He is a selfish and wicked man as you rightly described.... Even if he must take a second wife, let her know and give her reasons why!... Even if she's barren, she remains the first wife and nothing can change that!

Ever heard of D-I-V-O-R-C-E ?

So, he waited for 7 years...e try.

KennethEnyi:
He probably took a second wife because you were barren and couldn't give him a child
You think he's going to wait around for 15 years
Nawa o
U b joker

This one strong
But why the secret

The deed has been done. U can't change the outcome but pray that God do to u as he did to Sarah and Hannah in the bible.
Don't do or take rash decisions. Pray over it that God should remember u and if u had done anything in the past that might or probably cause ur present situation in ur marital home. Pray for forgiveness.

Your Dad's second wife's children are your half-brothers and half-sisters there are not step-siblings . In short they are you siblings period and even their mother cannot be described as a step-mother as you dad is still also married to your mother.

rickleye:
Let me share a story similar to yours and probably you can determine a course of action .

I am the first born of my parents and at a certain age. My dad decided that it was time I knew where all his properties were. So, one day he takes me to a school . He informs me that it’s a school he has built . I was shocked . To add to the surprise the way he was flirted with the principal, a female I knew something was up.
After 9 months, he picks me up from Unilag and we go to a baby naming ceremony. It’s the child from the principal my new step brother . He informed me that I cannot tell anyone. For 9yrs I carry this secret . Until one my cousins informs my mum that this is what he’s seen.
My dad inform my mother that yep, it’s true and out of respect is why he hasn’t broadcasted this in her face. But because he isn’t a Muslim he can’t officially being the woman home . He asks now that she knows , how do they move forward.
Long story short - both wives have separate houses and vehicles . Both represented in his will . He visits both places 3/4 days a week.
We the kids don’t care about our step siblings .

Ategberoson:
I can't wait for 15years with any lady on child birth though hiding the babies for you maybe he's scared of your do and undo in your last paragraph


I can only give a lady 2-3years anything beyond that I go find one baby to give me kids outside

.

What if the problem lies with you?

IconicR:
Second paragraph is where most women get it wrong , how can you not interfere in your husband's dealings? Why then did you marry him if you don't want to interfare in all his dealings. Men are very cunning and manipulative, they will always come up with lines that will give them space for cheating e.g don't pick his calls, don't check his phones, don't question his movements and all that. A relative of mine was doing her traditional wedding and all those elders (men) were busy giving advise that'll enable the man to cheat, each time they give the advise I'll giggle with a bombastic side eyes till my mom stylishly summoned me and took me inside my aunt's room 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Men are polygamous please, this thing has been laid to rest

She might be surprised he’s the barren one. Madam dump the dude and move on.

Pretty sure you guys believe in “for better or worse” but only where the woman is concerned though.

Following this logic any wife is justified to step out on her husband if she’s not getting what she expected from him when they got married even though it’s no fault of his?

LaRosa01:
am i missing. something,you married a man for 15 years,had no child for him then you are angry that another woman did.madam you are a witch,you care nothing about your husband or his name,you care only about your greed.

Yoighaman:
"I am a legally married woman with no child and My marriage is 15 years...."

Not every man can endure not having a child for 15 years, I don't support his action though, but let's be objective here; maybe he did the right thing in a wrong way.

Ategberoson:
I can't wait for 15years with any lady on child birth though hiding the babies for you maybe he's scared of your do and undo in your last paragraph


I can only give a lady 2-3years anything beyond that I go find one baby to give me kids outside

TK9680:
The first sentence explains it all. 15 years and no issue.
Madam, this man loves you. Move on.

calabardick:
For 15 years?
Well, I can't judge him, people have different ways of solving their problems. But I think he is a good man to wait all years.

This isn't a side chick but he married her and paid brideprice, sincerely speaking the families of that lady and that of your husband are fully armed awaiting your negative reactions.

For your good, it's either you stay or you move on, raising any problem will definitely bring war to your territory.

In addition, for this man to have his children from his new wife and still lives with you tells you what?

macphilip:
your hubby has been caring and providing for you all these years.
some other men would send their barren wife packing.

your hubby needed children to carry on his name and properties?
Madam, do not be selfish.
some women do far worse things like multiple abortions, paternity fraud etc.

KennethEnyi:
He probably took a second wife because you were barren and couldn't give him a child
You think he's going to wait around for 15 years
Nawa o
U b joker

VIKTO83:
I am legally married with no child.
My marriage is 15years.

U come down again to say men are evil.

When u read this my comment, go to your toilet, sit on d sitter and judge yourself.
Just read the first sentence again. Read it again. Also read it again.
If it's your father, brother would u say same about them?

This one deep o

they have contraceptive pills that allow women to give birth nowadays. have you tried speaking to your doctor about this??

your husband couldn't wait.

just accept it. he could discussed his plan of getting a second wife with you earlier.