This girl was a casual friend for a while, we live in the same street, we were close friends, I noticed she was into me for two reasons, first reason is she gets angry when she sees me with other girls to the point of not talking to me, second, some guy from her church came to warn me to stay away from her because he's interested in marrying her, and I told the guy we're just friends, when I told her what happened, she laughed and told me she's with the guy because she got tired of waiting for me to ask her out, which I never did.

So I gave her space to be with her guy, we only kept in touch online, she left for her home town, for almost six months I didn't hear from her, I later found out she got pregnant for the same guy who warned me to stay away from her, funny thing is, the guy abandoned her with the baby, she was ashamed, she couldn't tell me she got knocked up by the guy, she's now back from her home town, living with her sister whose house is down my street, we met and I didn't act surprised or anything, I just ask about her baby and everything, now the problem now is, since she returned, she's been doing stuff I find uncomfortable, trying to initiate stuff when she visit me, trying to get me to visit her, calling me every now and then and getting mad if I don't check on her, she kept trying to ignite a relationship by telling me stuff she should have saved for her baby daddy, now I can't outrightly abandon her based on the fact that we were close friends before the whole pregnancy thing.

How do I let her down easy without loosing the friendship, to be clear I don't want a relationship with her, the baggage is too much and I don't want to walk right into that, I just want to stop her from making another mistake by getting pregnant a second time.

Marry HER

I think you are a good guy with good conscience. Just be kind to her, but if you know sincerely that you love her, then go ahead with her.

Marry her if she's good.

Lexzeey:

I just want to stop her from making another mistake by getting pregnant a second time, especially with me, cuz she's tempting me.

This is the funny part, you being tempted and blaming her for your weakness.

Hopefully, you are wise enough to know that if you don't fall into temptation she can't possibly get pregnant for you. And it wouldn't be her mistake if you fall into temptation, but your mistake for impregnating her.

Trust me when I say it would only take one temptation on your part for her to get pregnant for you.

Lexzeey
1. The girl like u from the biginning but u didn't make the move.
2. Maybe she was afraid and wanted to get married, so she make the other move and get abandoned.
3.why i'm saying this is because i have 27years former class mate' who is now a single mom'' she was my tight friend back then in school but i didn't make the move' she give me all available greenlights and now she is a single mom and want me badly' but i'm not ready again and i feel the pain in her face' this girl is very desperate to marry now but things are not working for her.
4. I don't blame her because she can't wait for me' she has emotions, feelings and the urge for sex'
5. Why i'm still thinking about this friend is' i don't really buy the idea of a single mom.
6. The only advice i have for u is if u like her and she have a good character u can start a life with her' don't pay dowry from the begin'.
7 or u continue the friendship' one day she may get tired because she will also realize that u are not ready.

Tell her say her toto dey smell she will forget about you in a minute

My Nigha, don't fall for her cheap trap.......

In fact,tell her straight up that you can't do anything like relationship with her...

Make she no come use you take chill until her baby daddy go come to his senses and ask for forgiveness...And trust me, you'll be at the losing end bro....Cuz she'll definitely forgive him prior to the fact that they'd already have a baby together,and she wouldn't want to be a victim of polyandry....

Cuz she is tempting me


Deep down you know what you want... You only brought this issue here so your fellow freaks can encourage you on how to lash the poor lady

Candidlady:
Cuz she is tempting me

. Like say such temptation can't be avoided.

Sonnobax15:
. Like say such temptation can't be avoided.

Don't mind the edddiot

His last line sold him out...

he doesn't want her to get pregnant again especially for him

Stvpid thing with the life span of a mayfly

Lexzeey:
This girl was a casual friend for a while, we live in the same street, we were close friends, I noticed she was into me for two reasons, first reason is she gets angry when she sees me with other girls to the point of not talking to me, second, some guy from her church came to warn me to stay away from her because he's interested in marrying her, and I told the guy we're just friends, when I told her what happened, she laughed and told me she's with the guy because she got tired of waiting for me to ask her out, which I never did.

So I gave her space to be with her guy, we only kept in touch online, she left for her home town, for almost six months I didn't hear from her, I later found out she got pregnant for the same guy who warned me to stay away from her, funny thing is, the guy abandoned her with the baby, she was ashamed, she couldn't tell me she got knocked up by the guy, she's now back from her home town, living with her sister whose house is down my street, we met and I didn't act surprised or anything, I just ask about her baby and everything, now the problem now is, since she returned, she's been doing stuff I find uncomfortable, trying to initiate stuff when she visit me, trying to get me to visit her, calling me every now and then and getting mad if I don't check on her, she kept trying to ignite a relationship by telling me stuff she should have saved for her baby daddy, now I can't outrightly abandon her based on the fact that we were close friends before the whole pregnancy thing.

How do I let her down easy without loosing the friendship, to be clear I don't want a relationship with her, the baggage is too much and I don't want to walk right into that, I just want to stop her from making another mistake by getting pregnant a second time, especially with me, cuz she's tempting me.

She is broken already... First guy abandoned her and her kid. Flee from her.. Make her know you can't marry a single mum neither date one. Friends is ok. But don't go to far. Let there be boundaries

Candidlady:
Cuz she is tempting me


Deep down you know what you want... You only brought this issue here so your fellow freaks can encourage you on how to lash the poor lady

It's the opposite actually, she's someone I used to care about, if that guy hadn't happened maybe we'd have had a relationship, feelings like that don't just die, and everything she's doing of recent is awakening that part of me that feels something for her back then, that's what I meant by she's tempting me, I don't want anything to do with her anymore because it's too much trouble, I stated that already, but trust nairalanders to misconstrue everything you say.

Candidlady:


Don't mind the edddiot

His last line sold him out...

he doesn't want her to get pregnant again especially for him

Stvpid thing with the life span of a mayfly

Thanks. I really appreciate the eediot tag.

Sonnobax15:

My Nigha, don't fall for her cheap trap.......

In fact,tell her straight up that you can't do anything like relationship with her...

Make she no come use you take chill until her baby daddy go come to his senses and ask for forgiveness...And trust me, you'll be at the losing end bro....Cuz she'll definitely forgive him prior to the fact that they'd already have a baby together,and she wouldn't want to be a victim of polyandry....

Yea, I sensed it too, she'd now be expecting me to take care of the baby, we have history, that's why I'm even still talking to her.

Lexzeey:
Yea, I sensed it too, she'd now be expecting me to take care of the baby, we have history, that's why I'm even still talking to her.

Sorry icalled you an edddiot...

You wanna have something to do with her but you don't wanna be responsible for her kid?

Cuz idont get this post of yours

But what do you people benefit in being just friends with ladies sef. Understandable if they are colleagues or business partners, but being friend with one random girl looks absurd to me. Someone that may not pick your call again if she get married to a jealous lover.

So single girls no dey again?

Na person with pikin u wnt..

Chase her bck to the street she came from...

Lastly,never take relationship advice from a woman..

Lexzeey:
This girl was a casual friend for a while, we live in the same street, we were close friends, I noticed she was into me for two reasons, first reason is she gets angry when she sees me with other girls to the point of not talking to me, second, some guy from her church came to warn me to stay away from her because he's interested in marrying her, and I told the guy we're just friends, when I told her what happened, she laughed and told me she's with the guy because she got tired of waiting for me to ask her out, which I never did.

So I gave her space to be with her guy, we only kept in touch online, she left for her home town, for almost six months I didn't hear from her, I later found out she got pregnant for the same guy who warned me to stay away from her, funny thing is, the guy abandoned her with the baby, she was ashamed, she couldn't tell me she got knocked up by the guy, she's now back from her home town, living with her sister whose house is down my street, we met and I didn't act surprised or anything, I just ask about her baby and everything, now the problem now is, since she returned, she's been doing stuff I find uncomfortable, trying to initiate stuff when she visit me, trying to get me to visit her, calling me every now and then and getting mad if I don't check on her, she kept trying to ignite a relationship by telling me stuff she should have saved for her baby daddy, now I can't outrightly abandon her based on the fact that we were close friends before the whole pregnancy thing.

How do I let her down easy without loosing the friendship, to be clear I don't want a relationship with her, the baggage is too much and I don't want to walk right into that, I just want to stop her from making another mistake by getting pregnant a second time.

she is now a single mother looking to covertly pin her responsibilities on you.
you better avoid her. just let her know you are just friends and that's all you'll ever be with her.

use ur head.

Run and never look back.

Single modas are damaged,they are better off single with their kid(s).

"don't go to prison for someone else's offence"

You are warned!

Lexzeey:
It's the opposite actually, she's someone I used to care about, if that guy hadn't happened maybe we'd have had a relationship, feelings like that don't just die, and everything she's doing of recent is awakening that part of me that feels something for her back then, that's what I meant by she's tempting me, I don't want anything to do with her anymore because it's too much trouble, I stated that already, but trust nairalanders to misconstrue everything you say.

''excess baggage '' rightly said. Smash using condoms till you get tired if you wish

Find your self a babe asin get into a serious relationship with someone else. She would leave you peacefully.

But how some ladies easily open their legs for guys they aren't married to beats my imagination 🤔😕
Like how comes You don't even value yourself chai

May God help us in this generation we find ourselves.

Lexzeey:
This girl was a casual friend for a while, we live in the same street, we were close friends, I noticed she was into me for two reasons, first reason is she gets angry when she sees me with other girls to the point of not talking to me, second, some guy from her church came to warn me to stay away from her because he's interested in marrying her, and I told the guy we're just friends, when I told her what happened, she laughed and told me she's with the guy because she got tired of waiting for me to ask her out, which I never did.

So I gave her space to be with her guy, we only kept in touch online, she left for her home town, for almost six months I didn't hear from her, I later found out she got pregnant for the same guy who warned me to stay away from her, funny thing is, the guy abandoned her with the baby, she was ashamed, she couldn't tell me she got knocked up by the guy, she's now back from her home town, living with her sister whose house is down my street, we met and I didn't act surprised or anything, I just ask about her baby and everything, now the problem now is, since she returned, she's been doing stuff I find uncomfortable, trying to initiate stuff when she visit me, trying to get me to visit her, calling me every now and then and getting mad if I don't check on her, she kept trying to ignite a relationship by telling me stuff she should have saved for her baby daddy, now I can't outrightly abandon her based on the fact that we were close friends before the whole pregnancy thing.

How do I let her down easy without loosing the friendship, to be clear I don't want a relationship with her, the baggage is too much and I don't want to walk right into that, I just want to stop her from making another mistake by getting pregnant a second time.

I think you should leave her with her mistakes because you don't know the options she has

But if you don't want her to make another mistake, take her in and she will be far from mistakes

Lexzeey:
This girl was a casual friend for a while, we live in the same street, we were close friends, I noticed she was into me for two reasons, first reason is she gets angry when she sees me with other girls to the point of not talking to me, second, some guy from her church came to warn me to stay away from her because he's interested in marrying her, and I told the guy we're just friends, when I told her what happened, she laughed and told me she's with the guy because she got tired of waiting for me to ask her out, which I never did.

So I gave her space to be with her guy, we only kept in touch online, she left for her home town, for almost six months I didn't hear from her, I later found out she got pregnant for the same guy who warned me to stay away from her, funny thing is, the guy abandoned her with the baby, she was ashamed, she couldn't tell me she got knocked up by the guy, she's now back from her home town, living with her sister whose house is down my street, we met and I didn't act surprised or anything, I just ask about her baby and everything, now the problem now is, since she returned, she's been doing stuff I find uncomfortable, trying to initiate stuff when she visit me, trying to get me to visit her, calling me every now and then and getting mad if I don't check on her, she kept trying to ignite a relationship by telling me stuff she should have saved for her baby daddy, now I can't outrightly abandon her based on the fact that we were close friends before the whole pregnancy thing.

How do I let her down easy without loosing the friendship, to be clear I don't want a relationship with her, the baggage is too much and I don't want to walk right into that, I just want to stop her from making another mistake by getting pregnant a second time.

Na wa for you ooO, if it is pregnancy she is looking for, impregnate her the second time, who knows, she might even give birth to twins 🤣🤣🤣

Candidlady:
Cuz she is tempting me


Deep down you know what you want... You only brought this issue here so your fellow freaks can encourage you on how to lash the poor lady

🤣🤣🤣🤣

So the girl is a poor girl?

Bro you need to straight up tell her to leave you alone and sternly if needed. She is a grown adult that should take responsibility and accountability for her own actions. You're actually a G and have handled this well enough

[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]I don't know why people just like to make things complicated? Are you ready to battle with the other guy?
Why can't you just ignore the lady and try build yourself up? It's worthless to try to form hard man in women matter. Many young guys have lost their lives trying to fight unnecessary fights as regards ownership of a woman.
Such lady can put you in serious trouble. I'm this present 9ja situation, you won add woman wahala join put? Dey play.

This lady....the way you attack men, ehn.

Candidlady:


Don't mind the edddiot

His last line sold him out...

he doesn't want her to get pregnant again especially for him

Stvpid thing with the life span of a mayfly

Xscape1993:
I think you are a good guy with good conscience. Just be kind to her, but if you know sincerely that you love her, then go ahead with her.

The most senseless advice anyone can get. So a man got her pregnant and abandoned her, then he should start something with her so as to start bearing the burdens of another man's child. Tell me exactly what this girl in question has to offer him aside sex and bills.

Single mother? Don't start what you can't finish

To let her down easy-- cut communication;
Bring to life your fictional babe/fiancee; have a discussion with her letting her know that the ship sailed when she went with church boi and you both can only be Friends. Encourage her that being a single mum is not the end of life as she can either raise the child alone or get married to someone who will love her and her child BUT that someone CAN'T be you.
Single mother's often times choose their bed; so let them lay on same.
Life is not a game, actions have consequences