modernWays:
But what do you people benefit in being just friends with ladies sef.

Shinjawestern:


Lastly,never take relationship advice from a woman..

Candidlady:
Cuz she is tempting me


Deep down you know what you want... You only brought this issue here so your fellow freaks can encourage you on how to lash the poor lady

frozen70:


I think you should leave her with her mistakes because you don't know the options she has

But if you don't want her to make another mistake, take her in and she will be far from mistakes

Remijuice:

Madam herself, I dey hail o!
@ the bolded, that's what the guy actually wants but, doesn't know the diplomatic way of doing it.

Please, if you get any plan, tell him.

Candidlady:



Sorry icalled you an edddiot...

You wanna have something to do with her but you don't wanna be responsible for her kid?

Cuz idont get this post of yours

Lexzeey:
This girl was a casual friend for a while, we live in the same street, we were close friends, I noticed she was into me for two reasons, first reason is she gets angry when she sees me with other girls to the point of not talking to me, second, some guy from her church came to warn me to stay away from her because he's interested in marrying her, and I told the guy we're just friends, when I told her what happened, she laughed and told me she's with the guy because she got tired of waiting for me to ask her out, which I never did.

So I gave her space to be with her guy, we only kept in touch online, she left for her home town, for almost six months I didn't hear from her, I later found out she got pregnant for the same guy who warned me to stay away from her, funny thing is, the guy abandoned her with the baby, she was ashamed, she couldn't tell me she got knocked up by the guy, she's now back from her home town, living with her sister whose house is down my street, we met and I didn't act surprised or anything, I just ask about her baby and everything, now the problem now is, since she returned, she's been doing stuff I find uncomfortable, trying to initiate stuff when she visit me, trying to get me to visit her, calling me every now and then and getting mad if I don't check on her, she kept trying to ignite a relationship by telling me stuff she should have saved for her baby daddy, now I can't outrightly abandon her based on the fact that we were close friends before the whole pregnancy thing.

How do I let her down easy without loosing the friendship, to be clear I don't want a relationship with her, the baggage is too much and I don't want to walk right into that, I just want to stop her from making another mistake by getting pregnant a second time.

Lexzeey:
This girl was a casual friend for a while, we live in the same street, we were close friends, I noticed she was into me for two reasons, first reason is she gets angry when she sees me with other girls to the point of not talking to me, second, some guy from her church came to warn me to stay away from her because he's interested in marrying her, and I told the guy we're just friends, when I told her what happened, she laughed and told me she's with the guy because she got tired of waiting for me to ask her out, which I never did.

So I gave her space to be with her guy, we only kept in touch online, she left for her home town, for almost six months I didn't hear from her, I later found out she got pregnant for the same guy who warned me to stay away from her, funny thing is, the guy abandoned her with the baby, she was ashamed, she couldn't tell me she got knocked up by the guy, she's now back from her home town, living with her sister whose house is down my street, we met and I didn't act surprised or anything, I just ask about her baby and everything, now the problem now is, since she returned, she's been doing stuff I find uncomfortable, trying to initiate stuff when she visit me, trying to get me to visit her, calling me every now and then and getting mad if I don't check on her, she kept trying to ignite a relationship by telling me stuff she should have saved for her baby daddy, now I can't outrightly abandon her based on the fact that we were close friends before the whole pregnancy thing.

How do I let her down easy without loosing the friendship, to be clear I don't want a relationship with her, the baggage is too much and I don't want to walk right into that, I just want to stop her from making another mistake by getting pregnant a second time.

Therock5555:


Guy if you do mistake nack that lady, you're a goner.

That babe wise pass you, cause how can she claim that she's with her church guy because you didn't ask her out, somebody that so cherishes you would now get Pregnant for another and still want to come close to you?

She wants to eat her cake and have it back, dude be wise.

I'll have said you should chop your own and move but I'm just getting out of a single mum/widow entanglement, trust me dude, free that babe, nothing good would ever come out of una friendship.


If you wanna know more, hit me up on WhatsApp make I tear your eyes.

IconicR:
Marry her if she's good.

IconicR:
Marry her if she's good.

UcheKingsley1:


Tell that to your elder brother!

IconicR:
They are very wise and won't be find wanting in such kind of situation.

Lexzeey:
This girl was a casual friend for a while, we live in the same street, we were close friends, I noticed she was into me for two reasons, first reason is she gets angry when she sees me with other girls to the point of not talking to me, second, some guy from her church came to warn me to stay away from her because he's interested in marrying her, and I told the guy we're just friends, when I told her what happened, she laughed and told me she's with the guy because she got tired of waiting for me to ask her out, which I never did.

So I gave her space to be with her guy, we only kept in touch online, she left for her home town, for almost six months I didn't hear from her, I later found out she got pregnant for the same guy who warned me to stay away from her, funny thing is, the guy abandoned her with the baby, she was ashamed, she couldn't tell me she got knocked up by the guy, she's now back from her home town, living with her sister whose house is down my street, we met and I didn't act surprised or anything, I just ask about her baby and everything, now the problem now is, since she returned, she's been doing stuff I find uncomfortable, trying to initiate stuff when she visit me, trying to get me to visit her, calling me every now and then and getting mad if I don't check on her, she kept trying to ignite a relationship by telling me stuff she should have saved for her baby daddy, now I can't outrightly abandon her based on the fact that we were close friends before the whole pregnancy thing.

How do I let her down easy without loosing the friendship, to be clear I don't want a relationship with her, the baggage is too much and I don't want to walk right into that, I just want to stop her from making another mistake by getting pregnant a second time.

Lexzeey:
I just don't want her to start seeing me as an enemy, holding grudges and keeping malice, that's why I'm looking for a nice way to tell her I'm not interested, hope you get now? I want to let her down easy without becoming her enemy, women do that alot, when you refuse thier advances or deny them something it becomes hatred.

maticar:

I mean only a novice would fall for the oldest trick in the book by single mothers

If the op has sisters he should just tell them about this lady or his mother and hear their response..

I don't like what I hate

Toluwanise247:
Tell her say her toto dey smell she will forget about you in a minute

modernWays:
But what do you people benefit in being just friends with ladies sef. Understandable if they are colleagues or business partners, but being friend with one random girl looks absurd to me. Someone that may not pick your call again if she get married to a jealous lover.

Therock5555:


Guy if you do mistake nack that lady, you're a goner.

That babe wise pass you, cause how can she claim that she's with her church guy because you didn't ask her out, somebody that so cherishes you would now get Pregnant for another and still want to come close to you?

She wants to eat her cake and have it back, dude be wise.

I'll have said you should chop your own and move but I'm just getting out of a single mum/widow entanglement, trust me dude, free that babe, nothing good would ever come out of una friendship.


If you wanna know more, hit me up on WhatsApp make I tear your eyes.

Lexzeey:
Thanks. I really appreciate the eediot tag.

aysnoopy:


See better maturity. I love your reply. It's only some senseless humans that'll orally abuse others online knowing fully well that they can't even approach you physically.

Back to the topic, please be careful with the said lady if you don't want to marry her. If u have anything to do with her and u later leave, she may never forgive you.
My advice is, get a girlfriend and introduce her to the lady and case closed .

Lexzeey:
Lol your response actually made me laugh, thanks dude I appreciate your advice.