Mummyimbecile:
OP, first, let me start by asking you to please accept my sympathy on the loss of your brother. Losing a loved one and getting over it is not an easy thing unless by God's grace. I knew this when I lost my lovely Dad, it wasn't easy.

I pray that God in his infinite mercies will give you, your mom, your siblings, and any other person that has lost someone dear to them the fortitude to bear the loss and move on... What else can we do? We cant question God.

Secondly, I don't know if your mom stays alone, if she stays alone, I'll advise you to suspend your travel plans if it isn't necessary and stay with her till she gets over the death of your bro. Eh get why.

I pray God sees you true. And also "ozo emena". For the sake of my brothers and sisters who ain't Igbo, it means "may such a thing not happen again".

jogojogo:
My younger brother passed on almost a month ago after being admitted for 3 month at UCH Ibadan. The young man was in his twenties who just wrote is last paper in February. He was diagnosed of aplastic anaemia and was under medical attention untill he passed on.

The death came to us with deep sorrow and pain. I have tried to move on even though it's difficult. I still cry every day secretly but my biggest concern right now is how to get my mother to move on. She has remain unconsolable as every morning I could hear her cries as early as 4.00am daily. I had to be with her in her room talking to her.

Soon, I will be travelling and I am worried she may never find any reason to be happy.

I have spoken to her in my little wisdom and don't even know what else to be telling her.

I need our advice please on how better to handle this and what can be done to effectively help the situation

jogojogo:
My younger brother passed on almost a month ago after being admitted for 3 month at UCH Ibadan. The young man was in his twenties who just wrote is last paper in February. He was diagnosed of aplastic anaemia and was under medical attention untill he passed on.

The death came to us with deep sorrow and pain. I have tried to move on even though it's difficult. I still cry every day secretly but my biggest concern right now is how to get my mother to move on. She has remain unconsolable as every morning I could hear her cries as early as 4.00am daily. I had to be with her in her room talking to her.

Soon, I will be travelling and I am worried she may never find any reason to be happy.

I have spoken to her in my little wisdom and don't even know what else to be telling her.

I need our advice please on how better to handle this and what can be done to effectively help the situation

Socratiz:
I advise you seek help from a grief counselor.

This is a painful loss that requires a skillful management so that he can cope. You cannot imagine the state of her mind to be so disconsolate for one month.

Please get some professional help for her because prolonged grief can be disastrous.

You can send me a mail if you need the services of a counsellor

Mummyimbecile:
OP, first, let me start by asking you to please accept my sympathy on the loss of your brother. Losing a loved one and getting over it is not an easy thing unless by God's grace. I knew this when I lost my lovely Dad, it wasn't easy.

I pray that God in his infinite mercies will give you, your mom, your siblings, and any other person that has lost someone dear to them the fortitude to bear the loss and move on... What else can we do? We cant question God.

Secondly, I don't know if your mom stays alone, if she stays alone, I'll advise you to suspend your travel plans if it isn't necessary and stay with her till she gets over the death of your bro. Eh get why.

I pray God sees you true. And also "ozo emena". For the sake of my brothers and sisters who ain't Igbo, it means "may such a thing not happen again".

jogojogo:
Ameen Thanks so much

jogojogo:
My younger brother passed on almost a month ago after being admitted for 3 month at UCH Ibadan. The young man was in his twenties who just wrote is last paper in February. He was diagnosed of aplastic anaemia and was under medical attention untill he passed on.

The death came to us with deep sorrow and pain. I have tried to move on even though it's difficult. I still cry every day secretly but my biggest concern right now is how to get my mother to move on. She has remain unconsolable as every morning I could hear her cries as early as 4.00am daily. I had to be with her in her room talking to her.

Soon, I will be travelling and I am worried she may never find any reason to be happy.

I have spoken to her in my little wisdom and don't even know what else to be telling her.

I need our advice please on how better to handle this and what can be done to effectively help the situation

jogojogo:

Dad was gone 17 years ago

HappyPagan:
She won't ever recover. My parents 'died' after my siblings died in a plane crash. It's almost twenty years later, and they still aren't themselves.

Image123:


She can. Job recovered, Kumuyi recovered from the death of his wife Adeboye recovered from the death of his son. It takes total trust in God and belief. It's painful but possible. Someone who truly and thoroughly believes that the lost one is sleeping and will be met at the resurrection will recover faster. The problem for the Christian in grief is usually if the loved one died as a sinner, or if the person grieving feels God disappointed him/her in some way. Death is inevitable, like Heaven and hell.

Desusi:

Interesting question. I had wanted to ask same question. Hope the dad is still alive, if not,this may be the reason why her pains seemed to be more.it's not an easy thing to bear.May loss of child never happened to us in life in Jesus name.Amen.l would suggest she leave her dwelling place for at lease a week.Get her engaged with something or let her be with the assembly of God's people where prayers and worship are offered in continuous manner. In no distance time, she will revived. Let her read her Bible for comfort too.Never allow her to be alone.

tofolo:
I actually feel her sorrow cos I also lost my dad and brother same day to a car crash, 2011 till today their memories are fresh, time sha heals all wounds so I hope hers heal on time to.

BoldBrainz:
Okay.
What are we to do then?

jogojogo:

Good
Thank you so much. I am indeed grateful

Adaisback:
show a little empathy pls. We are humans first

IconicR:
Just say I have sense and wisdom let everybody rest

BoldBrainz:


Got none of it to give. Everybody should make personal efforts to be fine .

wunmi590:


So sorry for your lose bro...

No parent pray to that their child die before them..

Something like this happen to my mother inlaw too..

Her fourth born died while on the plane to Abuja to do some busness, after 3years her first born died in US, it was so painful then after a year the husband died also...

Please make sure somebody is close to her, call her may be 3-4times a day and always ask her what she wants if you have the money and get it for her...

May God heal her and the family too

jogojogo:
My younger brother passed on almost a month ago after being admitted for 3 month at UCH Ibadan. The young man was in his twenties who just wrote is last paper in February. He was diagnosed of aplastic anaemia and was under medical attention untill he passed on.

The death came to us with deep sorrow and pain. I have tried to move on even though it's difficult. I still cry every day secretly but my biggest concern right now is how to get my mother to move on. She has remain unconsolable as every morning I could hear her cries as early as 4.00am daily. I had to be with her in her room talking to her.

Soon, I will be travelling and I am worried she may never find any reason to be happy.

I have spoken to her in my little wisdom and don't even know what else to be telling her.

I need our advice please on how better to handle this and what can be done to effectively help the situation

Adaisback:
okay, you should at least look away and not say anything instead of saying something hurtful

tofolo:
I actually feel her sorrow cos I also lost my dad and brother same day to a car crash, 2011 till today their memories are fresh, time sha heals all wounds so I hope hers heal on time to.

jogojogo:

Kai
What a tragedy

jogojogo:
My younger brother passed on almost a month ago after being admitted for 3 month at UCH Ibadan. The young man was in his twenties who just wrote is last paper in February. He was diagnosed of aplastic anaemia and was under medical attention untill he passed on.

The death came to us with deep sorrow and pain. I have tried to move on even though it's difficult. I still cry every day secretly but my biggest concern right now is how to get my mother to move on. She has remain unconsolable as every morning I could hear her cries as early as 4.00am daily. I had to be with her in her room talking to her.

Soon, I will be travelling and I am worried she may never find any reason to be happy.

I have spoken to her in my little wisdom and don't even know what else to be telling her.

I need our advice please on how better to handle this and what can be done to effectively help the situation

IconicR:
😭 sorry dear, just tell her that if she wants you to succeed in life and excel in whatever you are traveling for then she should stop crying and move on with her life. Tell her that's the only motivation you need from her.
Tell her that her refusal to stop crying and move on is haunting your soul and causing you depression. Tell her only a positive energy from her can help you forge ahead.
Tell her to be strong and take everything in her stride and move on with life.
Sorry for your loss