Is it necessary when you meet a divorced man or woman and you want to start a relationship, to start asking what happened? Like starting to dig and dig into the past of the person who is divorced.

In my opinion i don't think it's necessary, just focus on the person and see if you guys can work things out.

My fellow members, what's your opinion?

Focus on the person keh

It is very necessary to ask but apply sense to whatever story they'll tell you.
If it's a man, you should ask if his wife left or he pursued her, if it's the former run away from him but if it's the later you can give him a listening ear and try him out.
If it's a woman and her husband chased her away then ask questions and apply your sense because no man chases a good woman away from his life.
And lastly you can't hear the true stories from the individuals involved, apply sense.

IconicR:
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This woman you too dey put mouth for relationship talk

Abi them thief your husband ni

Taylor90:


This woman you too dey put mouth for relationship talk

Abi them thief your husband ni

Just say I'm wise in giving relationship advise and rest

IconicR:
It is very necessary to ask but apply sense to whatever story they'll tell you.
If it's a man, you should ask if his wife left or he pursued her, if it's the former run away from him but if it's the later you can give him a listening ear and try him out.
If it's a woman and her husband chased her away then ask questions and apply your sense because no man chases a good woman away from his life.

Don't you think the person who like to play victim and not give real details? Because nobody would want to paint himself or herself bad before anybody.

fyzaila:


Don't you think the person who like to play victim and not give real details? Because nobody would want to paint himself or herself bad before anybody.

I added more, read my conclusion

I will ask him because I wouldn't want the same thing to repeat itself in our relationship.

It is a normal question after over a short period into the relationship'' it is only men and women who have insecurities that take it as a big deal''

Why won't I ask?

I don't want a repeat of what happened in 1960....I will listen attentively and pick the main points and ignore her lies and exaggerations.

ok

Klass99:


Just dey play, you hear?

It is a normal and necessary question to ask in the course of interaction and no sane (divorced) person should take offence at being asked questions around their divorce.

It is natural to be curious about a person's dating/relationship past. Questions can be framed in ways that are not off putting, if a person is secretive or constantly shys away from that conversation you need to be extremely wary.

What on earth would even make you think this Fyz?

Noted thanks
Lol, met one (@ the bold)

Bahamas95:
Why won't I ask?

I don't want a repeat of what happened in 1960....I will listen attentively and pick the main points and ignore her lies and exaggerations.

How will you know the lies? If i may ask. Because you don't even know the truth in the first place.

IconicR:
I added more, read my conclusion

Yea, well noted thanks

May Should One Ask A Divorcee What Caused The Split favor me and my family

Yes

My advice?

The problem about most people in relationships now is that they go in unprepared and uneducated about relationships.

I would advice men here to search and join [b]IAJ ONLIN[/b]E on telegram or Twitter, then read "Day 26 of their ongoing relationship series, read through the entire series if possible, your answers based therein.

Most people lack knowledge because they choose not to read.

You have to ask so that you can know, who dey ask questions nor dey miss road. WORDS OF THE ELDERS

Very necessary, so you know if it can work between you and her.

You will never hear the truth.

I have come to realized that the people who need the most love and affection end up pushing people who love them away. One of the Paradoxes of life....

Dont expect the truth from the bleeding gender.

It always ends with "we both had our issues" we are not enemies...

See How Mummy Eno, NSPPDIANS Celebrated Pastor Jerry on his Birthday


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A_lw00lRG28

If na woman you ask, you no go hear the truth.

U no go still hear truth