The entire family was in support of what I did, from my grandparents to my siblings and my sister later apologized.

My mother was there when everything happened, she even gave my sister a hot slap... Everything that I told my sister later happened and I was there to give her a shoulder to cry on because she was regretting not listening to me and she was also depressed.

Everything that happened is now water under the bridge because blood is thicker than water.

darealez:
Well, I see it as very wrong. Kindly do me the favour of sending ops message to the sister you got arrested and your mum. I'd love to hear from them.

If a hen spills my milk, I'll crush it's eggs... It's fine if I don't need those eggs anymore, I can have an eggless omelette then!!

BennyDGreat:


In Nigeria, when you arrest a family member or neighbour, most times that relationship is gone.
It never remains same

Yes that's the more reason when you want to take this route which is the right thing to do you should be prepared for anything

It's not rhetorical, it requires a yes or a no.

KingLennon:

I can't answer your question when it is rhetorical...

Verokeena:



I have never ever nortured such thought.. I have endured countless insults and provocations..

What else could I have done.. ? Like I said I regret my actions but I just wished he had never touched me or raising his hands to the kids.. saying he doesn't even know if the kids were his.. since he lost his job it has been one issue to another.. but I try to see through his eyes .. to understand what he is going through..

I do not have excuse for my actions.. I just need a solution

Thanks for your contributions anyways

I have 4 sisters , they hardly give full details of what happened especially the sides the bleeped up

Dennisochampa:
... I believed her because she's the victim here.... U no dey her house.... You're not her family member... U don't even know her and u want me to believe you over her

Ok chief judge, she's the victim because she said so.

No questions asked
No scrutiny
No evidence tendered

You that believed her, do you live with her?
Are you her family member?
Do you know her?
Now that you have believed her, I hope you're also going to help her resolve her family issues and undo the damage she's already afraid of through her guilt?

Oh great judge you're.

You are right. He deserves more than being locked up in Jail.

He's a loser and an irresponsible father. Your children will grow up to hate him. Avoid him and look for somewhere else before he attacks you again, which I'm sure would be far more brutal than last time because of what you did.

That's because the people don't like taking responsibility for their actions and they're too prideful.

BennyDGreat:


In Nigeria, when you arrest a family member or neighbour, most times that relationship is gone.
It never remains same

UnfairLife7:
FYI, i am a man not a woman.

Try dey talk true

Just having a dangler does not make a man.

BennyDGreat:
■ His statement didn't indicate the counsellor isn't a professional. He only mentioned the word 'christian' [b]cos some professional counsellors do introduce faith-based standpoint in the midst of the counselling to buttress their point[/b]s

But that is bullsheet since there should be absolutely no reason why they, as professionals, should do any such.

Some women dey try sha!

Whats fixcking attractive about a Jobless, drunk, vindictive and abusive husband?

The first mistake was apologising to him. I wouldn’t if I'm in your shoes. And I ain't leaving that station until he sign an undertaking with sureties.

If he feels he is too humiliated to continue a peaceful marriage, well, fine. Life goes on.

Auntie stupido, you go shoot injured lion with catapult and you wan beg for forgiveness? Ok I de come

Very typical response...blame the woman, she must have done something wrong right. Do we ever think of that working class woman that still has take care of the home. Doesnt she deserve some love too. Amidst the constant going to work knowing she cant quit as her fanily depends on it, who remembers her. She may also be depressed too. And nothing wrong in calling the cop. Do the crime, face the fine. Why must he lose his anger and make her feel threatened. The human response is to react amd protect herself.

blackgold2018:
thank you very much. You are the only one with sense.

The man may have fallen into deep depression and frustration mainly because of the wife’s attitude, cheating and others things because he lost his job.

Forget about that trashy story she wrote to paint herself good. But I saw through her message

LadyRosa:
Just two days ?

I hope he signed an undertaking

Jobless, drunk, bad mouthing and wife beater, yet you locked him up for just two days.


Nonsense!

Him still see small money to drink ogogoro na him cause am.

Judging with one sided story is the most dangerous thing to do. We have heard from her but we have not had from him. Too bad.

Hello dear... Please, never ever regret what you have done. I'm a man too. If one is experiencing challenging situation, it's only wise to genuinely seek help for the sake of the family as a man because if you go down the whole family goes down. And if one goes down you must refused to stay down rather than finding excuses to stay down. Woman your actions can be strange because in this part of the world, you're expected to be dumb as woman... What you do here, your genuine intention matters , since it was to restore sanity and not a brag or a show of power to the man.. it's fine. Because if it's the other way now, he comes home with a bottle of Beer and smashed it on your head while you're asleep and your enemy goes to the grave just because someone lost his job and he's depressed and acting like a child who does not know he needs help and makes effort in getting one... Then, it's gonna be a sorry case oo. And for you woman, please it's your home, you need to work in the background the more, it's not going to be easy, talk to people ( professional)on his behalf, they will advise you on distance management, sign that you look out for, emotions and also help loot out for job, then Spiritual... Not kneeling down before pastors oo. Personally talking to God yourself in prayer abou your family

thesicilian:
A man can feed his family for years and no one will hear about it. He's often proud to bear the responsibility. But the moment a woman starts bearing the responsibility, all hell must break loose, sooner or later

women are like that naturally, they are not meant to be providers, they have one kind parasitic and extremely selfish nature towards nature men, stressing and draining them out, no one knows why God created them that way, I no easy to be with a woman Abegi

LadyRosa:
Just two days ?

I hope he signed an undertaking

Jobless, drunk, bad mouthing and wife beater, yet you locked him up for just two days.


Nonsense!

Him still see small money to drink ogogoro na him cause am.

Judging with one sided story is the most dangerous thing to do. We have heard from her but we have not had from him.

Dennisochampa:
..... How do u know she's not telling the truth? Do you live with them?
What will friends and family do to a violent man that will make him change his ways?
Did he not see his so called friends and family to talk sense into him before he went about drinking and destroying her properties?
Like I stated, if what she said is the truth, which I think it is, then she even Bleep up as she no allow am sleep there for one month.
If he's truly depressed, he should hustle and pray hard, not frustrate the efforts of his wife to provide for the home.....

which you think it is?

How do u know the truth since u don't live with them also

Hisincrease:

I don’t remember quoting you to disagree or argue views with you. I want you to stay out of my mentions and debate with folks who disagrees with you. Again, every man is not an idiot like you.

domestic violence is a No.

BRATISLAVA:


Let life not happen to you, since you have convinced yourself that you're posting for unmarried toddlers. Let life not happen to you.

If the man is wrong, you say, yet many people knew he was a wife beater and her own children testified that he was a wife batterer to the extreme. If the man is wrong you say. Is there a God anywhere that will consider beating ones wife as something debatable and be unsure if it is right or wrong? If the man is wrong, you say. Even the law knows it is a crime punishable with jailing. And that's why he's there.

Thank God it is your opinion despite the plain evidence before you, and not the truth.

Have you beaten your woman today? Because that's what this liberality in the face of evil has gotten to. People like you helped Osinachi to where she is.

Why is osinachi case ur only mantra.. I know ur type, take away Osinachi on this matter, what's ur point. Do you think women have not killed men too. As a matter of fact, women have killed more men from the inception of life. My happiness is that the woman is remorseful for going that far, meaning she knows husband is not a dead bit. Bros stick with the issue on ground, I don't av time

MrAbufayed:
If I flog you ehnnn.....

Na reason why your policemen dey use una as punching bag every chance they get.

Verokeena:



It was more of a warning to him.. I didn't neglect him there.. he had access to his phone.. even though as first he wasn't taking my call but I kept texting him..

Now the thing is he was supposed to come out the next day but he refused. Said since I placed him there he'd wish to die there(emotional blackmail if you ask me)

I had to go with his friends to beg him the next day..

Lol, you are warning your husband. Dammn

Samantha124:
It's not rhetorical, it requires a yes or a no.

What's ur question? Now try asking it without involving emotions

shantti:


which you think it is?

How do u know the truth since u don't live with them also

domestic violence is a No. I do not care what led to that

Kobojunkie:
So, her husband pummeling her— she probably fearing he might kill her— is an exception or what?

People interpret threats in different ways. What's life-threatening to you may be child's play to me. The bottom line is, he was provoked

Slic1:


Judging with one sided story is the most dangerous thing to do. We have heard from her but we have not had from him.

Call him and ask him.

UnfairLife7:
did i said all men? The fact that Op hubby is irresponsible doesn't mean all men are irresponsible.

Stay one place.

You don't even read your own comments?

Samantha124:
The entire family was in support of what I did, from my grandparents to my siblings and my sister later apologized.

My mother was there when everything happened, she even gave my sister a hot slap... Everything that I told my sister later happened and I was there to give her a shoulder to cry on because she was regretting not listening to me and she was also depressed.

Everything that happened is now water under the bridge because blood is thicker than water.

Why didn't your sister arrest your mother?

royalfly:


Why is osinachi case ur only mantra.. I know ur type, take away Osinachi on this matter, what's ur point. Do you think women have not killed men too. As a matter of fact, women have killed more men from the inception of life. My happiness is that the woman is remorseful for going that far, meaning she knows husband is not a dead bit. Bros stick with the issue on ground, I don't av time

Please, batter your woman in peace. I don't have time for this.

BRATISLAVA:


And you automatically believe the absent husband is innocent?

Nigerian men

No. I believed no one, hence my questions I have asked so far.

He who judges by a one sided account is a fool.

There's more to OP's account than meets the eyes.

However, if everything OP typed up there is 💯 true, then the man didn't do well. He definitely needs to get back to his senses and do the right thing especially if he still wants the marriage to work.

OP should have explored other options before calling the cops. Who did she report to amongst his family? Did she report to someone he fears and respects? Did she take her children and go on some safety vacations to her father's house for the man to have some time to get himself while she's also safe? She can even make the man sign undertaking not to lay hands on her again without having him detained for two days.

Going forward, OP needs to be very careful staying under same roof with him for now.

Having him sign an undertaking is not enough; we have heard stories of men killing their wife and children and still kill themself.

Take a break, be sure is mentally stable before you can be with him again. Be sure he's happy again. You can care for him from a distance, you can apologise, reconcile without necessarily staying with him for now.

All the best

Dareal90s:

Lol, you are warning your husband. Dammn

LOl

You seems think husband is a demi God? You are really still backwards at this age and time.

shantti:


which you think it is?

How do u know the truth since u don't live with them also

.... Good, I don't live with them so I am judging based on the information I have @ hand and also based on experiences... I have seen men who act irrational simply because they don't have jobs and they perceive that their wives is attempting to boss them around simply because their wives stood up to them at one point or another