darealez:
Why didn't your sister arrest your mother?

Amumaigwe:


Just having a dangler does not make a man.

Procashtips:


No. I believed no one, hence my questions I have asked so far.

Kobojunkie:
But that is bullsheet since there should be absolutely no reason why they, as professionals, should do any such.

Procashtips:


Ok chief judge, she's the victim because she said so.

No questions asked
No scrutiny
No evidence tendered

You that believed her, do you live with her?
Are you her family member?
Do you know her?
Now that you have believed her, I hope you're also going to help her resolve her family issues and undo the damage she's already afraid of through her guilt?

Oh great judge you're.

Samantha124:
Only my sister can answer that question, not me.

Samantha124:
That's because the people don't like taking responsibility for their actions and they're too prideful.

royalfly:
■ Why is osinachi case ur only mantra.. I know ur type, take away Osinachi on this matter, what's ur point. Do you think women have not killed men too. As a matter of fact, women have killed more men from the inception of life. My happiness is that the woman is remorseful for going that far, meaning she knows husband is not a dead bit. Bros stick with the issue on ground, I don't av time

BRATISLAVA:


Please, batter your woman in peace. I don't have time for this.

TheMostComplex1:


Yes that's the more reason when you want to take this route which is the right thing to do you should be prepared for anything

KingLennon:

What's ur question? Now try asking it without involving emotions

cutesharon:
Very typical response...blame the woman, she must have done something wrong right. Do we ever think of that working class woman that still has take care of the home. Doesnt she deserve some love too. Amidst the constant going to work knowing she cant quit as her fanily depends on it, who remembers her. She may also be depressed too. And nothing wrong in calling the cop. Do the crime, face the fine. Why must he lose his anger and make her feel threatened. The human response is to react amd protect herself.

DavidTech23:
■ People interpret threats in different ways. What's life-threatening to you may be child's play to me. The bottom line is, he was provoked

colbycell:


You have spoken well, and like an elder. You see, in the last 2 years, August precisely my life, business and all is been upsidedown.

I live in Abuja, my home was demolished, and also this June my work station was demolished. So you can understand that the frustrations in my life are astronomical.

No marriage is perfect, especially when the primary source of financial flow drops or stops permanently.

I have a wife, and I have 2 kids with my wife and 2 other beautiful daughters outside my marriage. Yes! I am putting this out so that the OP knows that she's overdone this.

Any day I go to my new office space I spend roughly N3,500 and I may end up not getting any return for that day. Before now, every other month I make roughly 350k or more.

Because of this drop in funds, I get some silly behaviors from the wife, it is only normal for women to want to overdo things especially when they have friends, and maybe their husbands are doing fairly well.

There are issues here and there, but I try to never let it result into deep quarrels or me hitting my wife. May God never allow me do this.

You husband is totally wrong for hitting you, and there are no justification for even damaging your things. But let me tell you ooh! Some of these people that are advising you don't mean well.

Anybody wen arrest me na there our friendship end, this is why I have never thought about arresting anybody. If it turns out that my wife would be the one to arrest me Hmmm! That Marriage is Over and I mean it.

Forgive and avoid, simple. Where una elders or neighbors dey wen you go bring police? Na power play be that na! Like you planned it out.

But then you know your husband, try to get family and friends to beg him, and I pray he forgives.

Money and Job will come...na small time remain.

One of my life rule is: You don't get to determine how a person react to your provocations. While you throw the first punch I hope you save the best for the last.

This is what is happening with Op. Husband acted, she reacted, husband is currently acting she's concerned. Things don't work that way.

It baffles me that the ladies supporting the law on this thread are not giving the headway on the real issue which is how does Op get her husband's forgiveness since she still wants the marriage.

UnfairLife7:
LOl

You seems think husband is a demi God? You are really still backwards at this age and time.

BennyDGreat:
■ Read up on counselling. A professional counsellor can tailor counselling to the patient's faith if necessary to achieve required objective.

cutesharon:
Very typical response...blame the woman, she must have done something wrong right. Do we ever think of that working class woman that still has take care of the home. Doesnt she deserve some love too. Amidst the constant going to work knowing she cant quit as her fanily depends on it, who remembers her. She may also be depressed too. And nothing wrong in calling the cop. Do the crime, face the fine. Why must he lose his anger and make her feel threatened. The human response is to react amd protect herself.

Dareal90s:

Think with your brain nigga, if the woman was in his shoes do u think he will lock her up?

She overstepped by involving the cops, what happened to relatives/elders resolving the issues, a very senseless move, why is she here with the topic then since she did the right thing by locking up her husband?

darealez:
Definitely, and that's where the wisdom is. She most definitely has a large heart... Extend my greetings to her, and I hope she's with one who won't take a brilliance for granted.

LadyRosa:
Some women dey try sha!

Whats fixcking attractive about a Jobless, drunk, vindictive and abusive husband?

The first mistake was apologising to him. I wouldn’t if I'm in your shoes. And I ain't leaving that station until he sign an undertaking with sureties.

If he feels he is too humiliated to continue a peaceful marriage, well, fine. Life goes on.

Kobojunkie:
Osinachi is the ultimate example to all women out there in Nigeria land who thinks to rationalize violence and foolishness in marriage. That woman must have
● prayed and fasted her brains out
● asked every third-party her husband respected, including pastors, to intervene
● persevered for so long under very violent conditions yet all the while submitting
● sung her brains out to God to get Him to come down and fix the relationship
● taken on the role of breadwinner so she could be superwoman in her marriage
● made certain her family was aware of the problem in the marriage
● had in-laws who were aware of the conditions in the marriage, even though they did not care to do anything about it

where is she today? Wormfood and she was made that by that same man she did all that to keep.

UnfairLife7:
domestic violence is a No. I do not care what led to that. I don't condole or tolorate violence

Verokeena:
Good afternoon Nl family
Please pardon my epistle

My husband lost his job two years ago and ever since he has been so reluctant on getting another.. not to brag but I can say I have been the one keeping the family going ever since the job incidence (not like I ever complained) .

What I noticed about him is he now drinks and smokes and he is always hissing (obviously he is not happy and I try to always console him just to elate his Spirit)

Fast forward to last two months.. I got back from work and I was very tired.. I had to go pick the kids from school , bathe them, feed them and to make matters worst I wasn't feeling too alright .. (when I got home he (my husband) wasn't at home)

When I was done with the kids and fixing the house I was so tired I thought to myself to take a lil nap that was how I slept off (and this was around 9pm) ..

He got back around 10pm obviously drunk and smelling like a skunk.. he went straight to the kitchen. That was how the whole problem started.. first was insult.. then my phone, smashed it on the ground later my clothes he started tearing them .. saying all those things he was destroying was why I was feeling untouchable that he knows I have male friends sleeping with me..

I tried securing my items so he doesn't destroy more things that was how he pounced on me..

The next day I got him arrested he spent two days there.. but now I feel so guilty... He doesn't talk to me anymore.. I have apologized times without number

I don't just know what to do...


Nb: even while he was there I was still taking food to him

SonofGod231:

Try find love first then we can take you seriously. They married and she still loves her husband. Hear?

Samantha124:
How would you feel if your wife broke your plates and started beating you up for not cooking after she spent the entire day getting drunk while you were at work working so that you can put food on the table?

UnfairLife7:
The man deserves more than that. He has been without job for 2 years and all he could do was to drink, smoke, destroy his wife stuff and even went as far as hitting her.

I am a man and i will keep saying it, we men can't take half of what we dish out to women.

These same men cannot try all these nonesense in developed countries. Naija na shithole truly. Too many things wrong about the country

Dammyseyon:
People just dey talk like retard. How can you say she locked him up because she's doing better? He can never get away with such act in a developed country.
He got exactly what he deserved and if true love is involved, he should beg his wife and knack sense back into her. Your husband crossed the line and he should be punished.
You did the right thing

Verokeena:



It was more of a warning to him.. I didn't neglect him there.. he had access to his phone.. even though as first he wasn't taking my call but I kept texting him..

Now the thing is he was supposed to come out the next day but he refused. Said since I placed him there he'd wish to die there(emotional blackmail if you ask me)

I had to go with his friends to beg him the next day..


Omo see unaccountability,him refusing to come out is what u call emotional blackmail

blackgold2018:
No dear I’m not supporting violence.. I have never rised my hand on my wife nor verbally abused her

My main point is that. The probability of op cheating is high.