royalfly:
■ Follow through, I never asked for osinachi, he or u are the using osinachi as ultimate example. Once again if osinachi husband is wrong let him die by hanging, I repeat if he is wrong.
■ U don't know what's going on. Most of us can't be fooled again.

Kobojunkie:
Stop rambling already! There is absolutely no excuse or justification for violence even in marriage. Simple! If you have poor social intelligence and are hence unable to relate to women as they are, then avoid them at all costs. In fact, marry a man if you must so you can have peace of men.

Nemesis0147:
I’m not talking about being in support of demotic violence…I won’t even allow a man touch my sister.
She should have walked out of the marriage or give him space….guy
The woman is feeling guilty bc she knows that what she did was not right….can you lock up your wife?

Samantha124:
Well, what he did was unlawful and if you ask me, you did the right thing by getting him arrested.

Let it be a warning to him that next time you wouldn't be lenient on him.... You can apologize to him for getting him arrested, but let him know that you don't appreciate what he did to you and you're not going to stand for it if he continues with his behavior.

It's not your fault that he lost his job and can't find another one.

BennyDGreat:
You are just ranting. Calm down and learn. Go and read up on counselling. Peace

LadyRosa:



Idiot! I don't find love.
I married a man who loves me and who I love.

A wife's role is to be submissive and not to love.

I'm not unfortunate like your sisters.

Persephone1:
May we not marry a boy man

Dear Op, my people have an adage it is: Aiki lo kabo ile ejo , ka tun sore. It means we don't come back from court to become friends. Arresting your husband may be right or wrong but what happens when he is released?
If you were arrested as a wife, will you be happy with your husband and let everything go back to normal when you are released?
Especially in this part of the world.

If you still want a happy marriage after a dispute, police station should not be an option. In the sight of the law, you are right but culturally you are not.

Get elders to speak to him, I hope he listens. May God help you. This matter deep i can't think straight self

Nemesis0147:
I’m not talking about being in support of demotic violence…I won’t even allow a man touch my sister.
She should have walked out of the marriage or give him space….guy
The woman is feeling guilty bc she knows that what she did was not right….can you lock up your wife?

Samantha124:
It doesn't matter.

Is breaking things in the house and beating up your wife lawful?

KingLennon:

I will feel bad but I won't give up on her. I will never give up on her because that's not how she was when we qot married. Something must be wrong, we'll figure it out 2geda. I hope I have answered ur question?

Zonefree:

It's time to return the phone to the owner.

Come and collect it

SonofGod231:

Congratulations, I just feel sorry of the clueless thwart that coincidentally married a cancer like you. Animal!

Styluss:
Marriage is beyound laws, especially a Nigerian marriage

UnfairLife7:
women are not physical violence in marriage. Domestic violence is a No.

Verokeena:
Good afternoon Nl family
Please pardon my epistle

My husband lost his job two years ago and ever since he has been so reluctant on getting another.. not to brag but I can say I have been the one keeping the family going ever since the job incidence (not like I ever complained) .

What I noticed about him is he now drinks and smokes and he is always hissing (obviously he is not happy and I try to always console him just to elate his Spirit)

Fast forward to last two months.. I got back from work and I was very tired.. I had to go pick the kids from school , bathe them, feed them and to make matters worst I wasn't feeling too alright .. (when I got home he (my husband) wasn't at home)

When I was done with the kids and fixing the house I was so tired I thought to myself to take a lil nap that was how I slept off (and this was around 9pm) ..

He got back around 10pm obviously drunk and smelling like a skunk.. he went straight to the kitchen. That was how the whole problem started.. first was insult.. then my phone, smashed it on the ground later my clothes he started tearing them .. saying all those things he was destroying was why I was feeling untouchable that he knows I have male friends sleeping with me..

I tried securing my items so he doesn't destroy more things that was how he pounced on me..

The next day I got him arrested he spent two days there.. but now I feel so guilty... He doesn't talk to me anymore.. I have apologized times without number

I don't just know what to do...


Nb: even while he was there I was still taking food to him

Zonefree:

It's time to return the phone to the owner.

Nemesis0147:
your question doesn’t require a yes or no answer…
But I will never lay my hands on my wife or lock her up in the police station.
What happened to taking her back to her people?
Or leaving the house for her?

SonofGod231:

Congratulations, I just feel sorry of that clueless thwart that coincidentally married a cancer like you. Animal!

Procashtips:


What happened to their family members?
Their friends?
Relatives?
Neighbors?
Etc

How come it was police straight?
Was she harboring an opportunity to "show him pepper" before now thereby asking for such a scenario to play out?

Has he ever beaten her before?
Have they every involved a 3rd party in their home before now to resolve a dispute?

Is this a first timer situation?

If yes, how come it was police straight?

Was he a drunk and a smoker before losing his job?

Plenty questions that you guys have chosen to ignore.

Styluss:
Marriage is beyound laws, especially a Nigerian marriage

Samantha124:
Every unlawful action has got a consequence.

royalfly:
Yes and yes, no violence, but I assure u that the violence starts from the women but the man always comes out top in that stupid game of violence hence he is the monster. The man is already a punching bag years before u see the real damage by the man which should not be so nevertheless women should remain women to avoid the natural war like nature of a man

Kobojunkie:
Osinachi happens to be the ultimate reason why any and any Nigerian woman out there should avoid any man who uses her as a punching bag. That example more than reveals all the Don'ts in the case of violence in marriage.

2. There is absolutely no justification or excuse for violence in relationships. Comprende?

Joshcoli:


No need for long story just pack your things and leave that marriage

That man will get back at you in the wildest way you can ever imagine...

No matter what you do to a man, don't tarnish his ego because if you do he will get back at you in 100 folds

Verokeena:
Good afternoon Nl family
Please pardon my epistle

My husband lost his job two years ago and ever since he has been so reluctant on getting another.. not to brag but I can say I have been the one keeping the family going ever since the job incidence (not like I ever complained) .

What I noticed about him is he now drinks and smokes and he is always hissing (obviously he is not happy and I try to always console him just to elate his Spirit)

Fast forward to last two months.. I got back from work and I was very tired.. I had to go pick the kids from school , bathe them, feed them and to make matters worst I wasn't feeling too alright .. (when I got home he (my husband) wasn't at home)

When I was done with the kids and fixing the house I was so tired I thought to myself to take a lil nap that was how I slept off (and this was around 9pm) ..

He got back around 10pm obviously drunk and smelling like a skunk.. he went straight to the kitchen. That was how the whole problem started.. first was insult.. then my phone, smashed it on the ground later my clothes he started tearing them .. saying all those things he was destroying was why I was feeling untouchable that he knows I have male friends sleeping with me..

I tried securing my items so he doesn't destroy more things that was how he pounced on me..

The next day I got him arrested he spent two days there.. but now I feel so guilty... He doesn't talk to me anymore.. I have apologized times without number

I don't just know what to do...


Nb: even while he was there I was still taking food to him

Dennisochampa:
.... Boss, a real man will never reduce himself to a woman beater even if he's lost his job for 10 years....

Also, we do not know if they are in the same state as their family members.
Think about the gospel singer that died.... Were her family members and friends not aware of her husband's stupidity before he eventually beat her to death?
It was even reported that her pastor and church elders even advised her against divorce... If she had arrested him once or twice, who knows, they may have ended up going their separate ways and she may still be alive till now...
According to her, he came home drunk, smashed her phone and this happened all under the same roof as her kids... What kind of a man does that?
If what she's said is indeed the whole truth, then she's don't the absolute right thing..... A stitch in time saves 9

BennyDGreat:


She ought to have sort help but not from police.
I wouldn't even take my enemy there unless it's life threatening

Kobojunkie:
NOnsense submission from a story teller!

Verokeena:
Good afternoon Nl family
Please pardon my epistle

My husband lost his job two years ago and ever since he has been so reluctant on getting another.. not to brag but I can say I have been the one keeping the family going ever since the job incidence (not like I ever complained) .

What I noticed about him is he now drinks and smokes and he is always hissing (obviously he is not happy and I try to always console him just to elate his Spirit)

Fast forward to last two months.. I got back from work and I was very tired.. I had to go pick the kids from school , bathe them, feed them and to make matters worst I wasn't feeling too alright .. (when I got home he (my husband) wasn't at home)

When I was done with the kids and fixing the house I was so tired I thought to myself to take a lil nap that was how I slept off (and this was around 9pm) ..

He got back around 10pm obviously drunk and smelling like a skunk.. he went straight to the kitchen. That was how the whole problem started.. first was insult.. then my phone, smashed it on the ground later my clothes he started tearing them .. saying all those things he was destroying was why I was feeling untouchable that he knows I have male friends sleeping with me..

I tried securing my items so he doesn't destroy more things that was how he pounced on me..

The next day I got him arrested he spent two days there.. but now I feel so guilty... He doesn't talk to me anymore.. I have apologized times without number

I don't just know what to do...


Nb: even while he was there I was still taking food to him