Nemesis0147:
that lady really shock me too
Unlike her 😂

Aswear.

I had to check if it's a cloned account.

This is the beginning of the end.

Procashtips:


Seems I'm talking to a wall. Can't you think differently?

You keep repeating the same line.

How did you know he actually beat her?

Because she said so?

What if it was a lie?

.... OK, let's do this.... I believe her because I've seen men who do such and until it's proven a lie, then I retain my judgment....
U can believe what you want... It's a free world!!!

royalfly:
■ U seem to av the vocals to argue don't make u right, u trying to narrow ur take but I have a bigger picture.. " comprehend"

Read this as it more than explains why you think all humans are implicated in the particular delusions you are hooked to.

An individual with low SI often displays unsociable behavior, making other people feel frustrated, inadequate, and devalued. Often, a low SI person is not intentionally unsociable. Their behavior is often due to a lack of social awareness and understanding of how their behavior affects other people.

https://www.healthhub.sg/live-healthy/584/mental_health_social_intelligence

Dennisochampa:
.... Does the woman sound like someone who wants to make her husband suffer?
Why don't you see it this way...
If indeed what she said is the right thing, then is her actions right or wrong?
I am basing my judgment based on the assumption that what the woman has said is the right thing.
If it happens that it's not, then I stand to be corrected when the truth comes out

If what she said is true, divorce would have been the best option and not an arrest. That man no go forgive am.

Since she wasnt beaten to death as she was alive to facilitate an arrest, she should have facilitated a divorce, simply or call her brothers to beat him.

It is only kids and single ladies that are arguing about the dynamics of the correctness of her decision, they think reality is hollywood

Nemesis0147:
you see your life?
So you have not been reading the news were wives stabs their husbands to death?
Mtchew

compare the stat to that of men. Compare the stat of men rapist to that of women. What of robbery, cyber fraud, pick pocket, hooliganism?

Dominic violence is a No

UnfairLife7:
if you like beat your wife, you will sleep in cell for days. If your wife is too naive to stand for herself your neighbours will do that for her free of charge

Well spoken. I am surprised that people are saying she has lost her husband, my question is, what is good about a man who lacks money, character, and also beats his wife? As long as OP continues to pamper that man, he will continue to do worse. If she was the type of woman who starves him of food and nags* daily about his joblessness, he wouldn't try that nonsense*.

emmeyen:
For every man that decided to attack a scared woman who probably did the only thing she thought was right after being beaten and humiliated by a drunk man, you people are simply mad! As in raving mad! May the likes of OP's husband befall your siblings or daughters. If you don't have money as a man, have good character. You cannot lack both and be shouting bruised ego. God punish that ego that will make you raise your hand on an hardworking woman who decided to take up the responsibilities of the home. And it's because she is doing it well, that's why he has the guts to go and drink. Nobody is advising that woman to run from the monster her husband has become till he is back to his senses. The he-goats are busy claiming she denied him sex. When he comes back smelling like a hippo after drinking, what is she supposed to do? Take her bath and lie down for him to climb?

Madam! Do you have male relatives? Put them in the know of who your husband has become, let them come and warn him not to raise his hands on you again. And be on the look out, if he doesn't change, biko carry your things and leave before he kills you and start blaming the devil. Stop feeling guilty. Else he will capitalise on that guilt and bring more drama. If he has ego, he should go and work! even if na to carry blocks for head. Real men work to provide for their family. Not going about sulking and beating their wives.

Emotionss:
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In the eyes of the law and feminism you are right to have looked your jobless,broke and depressed husband but in the eyes of culture and religion you are extremely wrong....

Your husband is depressed, ashamed and angry with himself and life for his inability to get a job and provide for his family.

And instead of encouragement, understanding and patience, you decided to lock him up for two days as a result of his depressed outrage.

Did you report him to the family elders ?

Did you report to your pastor or any family members or family friends ?

You could have used the police to threatened him but instead you went for outright arrest.

There are more effective ways to handle such situations but I believe you wanted to prove your superiority over your husband as the Bread winner of the house. I am 100% sure your female friends suggested and encouraged you to go to such extreme....

One thing I can assure is that by locking him up in the worst stage of his life, you have succeeded in destroying your home and marriage. That man will never forgive such inhumane and disgraced treatment from his wife....

If her father was Commissioner of Police would he put a finger on her. Let's not defend nonsense please.

In many countries he would be locked up so forget all these family elders, pastors talk. I'm a man and the truth is a lot of us need to do better.

Can't be unemployed, drinking and still beating your wife join. She's not responsible for your misfortune

Samantha124:
So you would edure being abused by your wife?

She's my wife for crying out loud samantha. What so many couples see in marriages and file for a divorce, is what others see and just laugh over it....

Dennisochampa:
.... OK, let's do this.... I believe her because I've seen men who do such and until it's proven a lie, then I retain my judgment....
U can believe what you want... It's a free world!!!

Then why do you keep quoting me since you are still using assumption to judge?

People that use assumptions to judge cases are very foolish because i have seen such before until proven that their assumption was true.

It's a free world, just believe your assumption.

In the end, na she go still carry her cross and be in a loveless marriage if there's any left.

Verokeena:
Good afternoon Nl family
Please pardon my epistle

My husband lost his job two years ago and ever since he has been so reluctant on getting another.. not to brag but I can say I have been the one keeping the family going ever since the job incidence (not like I ever complained) .

What I noticed about him is he now drinks and smokes and he is always hissing (obviously he is not happy and I try to always console him just to elate his Spirit)

Fast forward to last two months.. I got back from work and I was very tired.. I had to go pick the kids from school , bathe them, feed them and to make matters worst I wasn't feeling too alright .. (when I got home he (my husband) wasn't at home)

When I was done with the kids and fixing the house I was so tired I thought to myself to take a lil nap that was how I slept off (and this was around 9pm) ..

He got back around 10pm obviously drunk and smelling like a skunk.. he went straight to the kitchen. That was how the whole problem started.. first was insult.. then my phone, smashed it on the ground later my clothes he started tearing them .. saying all those things he was destroying was why I was feeling untouchable that he knows I have male friends sleeping with me..

I tried securing my items so he doesn't destroy more things that was how he pounced on me..

The next day I got him arrested he spent two days there.. but now I feel so guilty... He doesn't talk to me anymore.. I have apologized times without number

I don't just know what to do...


Nb: even while he was there I was still taking food to him

I’m surprised no one is commenting on his drinking habits. Where is he getting the money from?

As for the police station matter, you should have left the house together with your kids instead of spending money at the station.

Please you need to work on your anger. Kindly be patient with your husband. Talk to him everyday and show him more love and care. Then if he doesn’t stop his ugly drinking habit and you sense that your life is in danger, because of your safety, be wise to give him a distance.

If he broke her dishes and beat her up, then I'll be in full support of what she did because I wouldn't tolerate a man treating me that way.

Nemesis0147:
how will you see your sister in-law after locking up her husband….your brother.
How will your family see her?

LadyRosa:



Lol! Don't feel sorry for him. He doesn’t know a low life first class son of a rotten C.unt like you exists!

So sad but I'm really inspired to meet him. I just want to know how he managed to carry cervical cancer home?😁

Kobojunkie:
Read this as it more than explains why you think all humans are implicated in the particular delusions you are hooked to.
https://www.healthhub.sg/live-healthy/584/mental_health_social_intelligence

Wow, now I see u are textbook av u gotten a post masters degree.? That write up is relative. I scanned through and all o say is social intelligence is not about agreeing and getting along even if it's inclusive, u av to know the side to go despite u getting along

Verokeena:
Good afternoon Nl family
Please pardon my epistle

My husband lost his job two years ago and ever since he has been so reluctant on getting another.. not to brag but I can say I have been the one keeping the family going ever since the job incidence (not like I ever complained) .

What I noticed about him is he now drinks and smokes and he is always hissing (obviously he is not happy and I try to always console him just to elate his Spirit)

Fast forward to last two months.. I got back from work and I was very tired.. I had to go pick the kids from school , bathe them, feed them and to make matters worst I wasn't feeling too alright .. (when I got home he (my husband) wasn't at home)

When I was done with the kids and fixing the house I was so tired I thought to myself to take a lil nap that was how I slept off (and this was around 9pm) ..

He got back around 10pm obviously drunk and smelling like a skunk.. he went straight to the kitchen. That was how the whole problem started.. first was insult.. then my phone, smashed it on the ground later my clothes he started tearing them .. saying all those things he was destroying was why I was feeling untouchable that he knows I have male friends sleeping with me..

I tried securing my items so he doesn't destroy more things that was how he pounced on me..

The next day I got him arrested he spent two days there.. but now I feel so guilty... He doesn't talk to me anymore.. I have apologized times without number

I don't just know what to do...


Nb: even while he was there I was still taking food to him

You're very lucky I'm not your husband because by now you will be writing this epistle from your grave , idiot

SonofGod231:

So sad but I'm inspired to meet him. I just want to know how he managed to carry cervical cancer home.😁

Well! Is that the sickness your mama died from?
I guess she talks the way she 4"cks!!!

Kobojunkie:
Again, Stop fooling yourself! The moment you tailor the counseling to suit your religious/traditional idea, it ceases to be professional and becomes religious hogwash!

I bet your kind would not be happy if you found yourself sitting down to be counseled by a so-called professional who had no problems introducing ideas from his own religion — say Islam or traditional beliefs— into each session. But here you pretend it is all good to do so if the so-called professional claimed to be of Christian leanings. Nonsense!

You don't know anything about counselling and you are arguing on a mountain of assumption.
One of a characteristic of a wise person is ability to learn and take corrections. Also tone down on how you throw vulgar words around. Engage smartly boy

Okay, if you're comfortable with being in an abusive marriage, then that's your choice.

But it's clear the op isn't comfortable, so you mustn't try to project your beliefs about marriage on her.

KingLennon:

She's my wife for crying out loud samantha. What so many couples see in marriages and file for a divorce, is what others see and just laugh over it....

You called police to arrest and lock up your husband, it is finished! Forget about the marriage, peace is gone!

Gbolahan111:
■ I’m surprised no one is commenting on his drinking habits. Where is he getting the money from?
As for the police station matter, you should have left the house together with your kids instead of spending money at the station.
■ Please you need to work on your anger. Kindly be patient with your husband. Talk to him everyday and show him more love and care.
■Then if he doesn’t stop his ugly drinking habit and you sense that your life is in danger, because of your safety, be wise to give him a distance.

Her anger is to blame for the man destroying property and turning her into a punching bag. Does she have no right to be angry?

She should talk to him every day because she don become mental health counselor abi? Show him love and care when he chose to violently attack her in the presence of her kids?

3. He is still jobless so why are you pretending he will change overnight if she cuddles him even more than she has for the past 2 years?

Samantha124:
But it is life threatening, what if he killed her in the process of beating her up?

She must have escaped to be able to report to the police. So, he obviously didn't kill her in the process of beating her up.

She didn't act with a clear mind. No one from her family with support her for taking the arrest option.

UnfairLife7:
compare the stat to that of men. Compare the stat of men rapist to that of women. What of robbery, cyber fraud, pick pocket, hooliganism?

Dominic violence is a No

you are comparing the stats of what you see online.
What of those that didn’t make it to the cyberspace?
What of the men that were forcefully accused?
Domestic violence is a no

But u didn’t answer my question….can you lock up your wife?

Verokeena:



It was more of a warning to him.. I didn't neglect him there.. he had access to his phone.. even though as first he wasn't taking my call but I kept texting him..

Now the thing is he was supposed to come out the next day but he refused. Said since I placed him there he'd wish to die there(emotional blackmail if you ask me)

I had to go with his friends to beg him the next day..

Hahaha your gut is what makes me wonder the kind of woman you're or the kind of wife you're to him

Verokeena:
Good afternoon Nl family
Please pardon my epistle

My husband lost his job two years ago and ever since he has been so reluctant on getting another.. not to brag but I can say I have been the one keeping the family going ever since the job incidence (not like I ever complained) .

What I noticed about him is he now drinks and smokes and he is always hissing (obviously he is not happy and I try to always console him just to elate his Spirit)

Fast forward to last two months.. I got back from work and I was very tired.. I had to go pick the kids from school , bathe them, feed them and to make matters worst I wasn't feeling too alright .. (when I got home he (my husband) wasn't at home)

When I was done with the kids and fixing the house I was so tired I thought to myself to take a lil nap that was how I slept off (and this was around 9pm) ..

He got back around 10pm obviously drunk and smelling like a skunk.. he went straight to the kitchen. That was how the whole problem started.. first was insult.. then my phone, smashed it on the ground later my clothes he started tearing them .. saying all those things he was destroying was why I was feeling untouchable that he knows I have male friends sleeping with me..

I tried securing my items so he doesn't destroy more things that was how he pounced on me..

The next day I got him arrested he spent two days there.. but now I feel so guilty... He doesn't talk to me anymore.. I have apologized times without number

I don't just know what to do...


Nb: even while he was there I was still taking food to him

Don't feel guilty. Imagine if he had used the object used in destroying your clothes on you!
I don't see or know why you are still there with him when you are the father and mother of your children already.

thesicilian:
A man can feed his family for years and no one will hear about it. He's often proud to bear the responsibility. But the moment a woman starts bearing the responsibility, all hell must break loose, sooner or later

The sad reality

Samantha124:
If he broke her dishes and beat her up, then I'll be in full support of what she did because I wouldn't tolerate a man treating me that way.

how will you feel if your father locks up your mother for whatever reason?

LadyRosa:



Well! Is that the sickness your mama died from?
I guess she talks the way she 4"cks!!!

You must be an extremely uggggh biiiiich,i'm tayad of your bullshiit. Abeg,buzzzzzzzzzzz offf

Persephone1:
May we not marry a boy man

Dear Op, my people have an adage it is: Aiki lo kabo ile ejo , ka tun sore. It means we don't come back from court to become friends. Arresting your husband may be right or wrong but what happens when he is released?
If you were arrested as a wife, will you be happy with your husband and let everything go back to normal when you are released?
Especially in this part of the world.

If you still want a happy marriage after a dispute, police station should not be an option. In the sight of the law, you are right but culturally you are not.

Get elders to speak to him, I hope he listens. May God help you. This matter deep i can't think straight self

My dear , I don't support domestic violence, but her actions is oppression .she no go explain too much, evidence dey against her

One more thing she forgets to mention here is that, the likelyhood that she must have turn the children against the man, telling them how useless Thier father is, no one is looking towards this direction.

May God help men, A man can take care of a woman for 100yrs and be proud and no one will hear, but a woman taking care of a man for 1hour, you go worship that woman. It's sad for men who are going through depression and my heart is with them.

Finally for me, no woman will get me arrested for what ever offence and remain my wife...is just a matter of time, this woman will kill that man if God doesn't bless him with job quickly.

Your submission is classic, I agree with you.

Bennysam:

You're very lucky I'm not your husband because by now you will be writing this epistle from your grave , idiot

you go chop watery beans tire for kirikiri maximum prison. Na people like you plenty for there sha.

Kobojunkie:
So why exactly do you feel guilty for having him arrested for 2 days? Would this all had gone better if he had taken to smashing your head after smashing everything else?

Now that you are obviously aware the man has taken to acting out violently, don't you think it makes sense at this point to distance yourself and your kids from him instead of worrying whether he is in speaking terms and if he has eaten or not? Please, separate yourself from that man asap. The space might do him a whole hell of good..

So you think the best thing to do to a man going through hard time is for his wife to leave him? What a terrible person you're

SonofGod231:

You must be an extremely uggggh biiiiich,i'm tayad of your bullshiit. Abeg,buzzzzzzzzzzz

You describe her too well! Your mother.

No wonder having crawled out from her putrid hole, you sleep and wake up with horrifying nightmares! 4ck you! 4c'k her too!


Next time you see this moniker, just dey face front...You no reach!