OZIOGU1:


My dear , I don't support domestic violence, but you her actions...she no go explain too much, evidence dey.

One more thing she forgets to mention here is that the likely hood that she must have turn the children against the man, telling them how useless Thier father is, no be is looking towards this direction.

May God help men, A man can take care of a woman for 100yrs and be proud and no one will hear, but a woman taking care of a man for 1hour, you go worship the woman. It's sad for men who are going through depression and my heart is with them.

Finally for me, no woman will get me arrested for what ever offence and remain my wife...is just a matter of time, this woman will kill that man if God doesn't bless him with job quickly.

Your submission is classic, I agree with you.

if you like beat your wife, you go spend days for cell. If your wife is too naive to stand for herself your neighbours will do that for her free of charge.

Dominic violence is a No

BennyDGreat:
■ You don't know anything about counselling and you are arguing on a mountain of assumption.
One of a characteristic of a wise person is ability to learn and take corrections. Also tone down on how you throw vulgar words around. Engage smartly boy

Again, Stop fooling yourself! The moment you tailor the counseling to suit your religious/traditional idea, it ceases to be professional and becomes religious hogwash!

I bet your kind would not be happy if you found yourself sitting down to be counseled by a so-called professional who had no problems introducing ideas from his own religion — say Islam or traditional beliefs— into each session. But here you pretend it is all good to do so if the so-called professional claimed to be of Christian leanings. Nonsense!

You only pretend what I say is vulgar because you know it is a fact.

Samantha124:
Okay, if you're comfortable with being in an abusive marriage, then that's your choice.

But it's clear the op isn't comfortable, so you mustn't try to project your beliefs about marriage on her.

He wasn't abusive at the early stages of the marriage...

Nemesis0147:
you are comparing the stats of what you see online.
What of those that didn’t make it to the cyberspace?
What of the men that were forcefully accused?
Domestic violence is a no

But u didn’t answer my question….can you lock up your wife?

wife don't beat their husband.

Persephone1:
May we not marry a boy man

Dear Op, my people have an adage it is: Aiki lo kabo ile ejo , ka tun sore. It means we don't come back from court to become friends. Arresting your husband may be right or wrong but what happens when he is released?
If you were arrested as a wife, will you be happy with your husband and let everything go back to normal when you are released?
Especially in this part of the world.

If you still want a happy marriage after a dispute, police station should not be an option. In the sight of the law, you are right but culturally you are not.

Get elders to speak to him, I hope he listens. May God help you. This matter deep i can't think straight self

Good advice

When you see Kano hisbah destroying alcohol, you people will start raining insults that they are destroying people business. Now see what alcohol has done to your husband

Bennysam:
■ So you think the best thing to do to a man going through hard time is for his wife to leave him? What a terrible person you're

Now wait a minute.... is the best a man going through a hard time can do to turn his wife into a punching bag?

Kobojunkie:
So, even if they both want to, they shouldn't even try to reconcile and mend the marriage? Do you listen to yourself at all?

U r very dumb. like so dumb.
So u are now scared on the op's behalf Abt a divorce. Do u resolve anything with someone who resents u so much. That man won't forgive her. That's the truth, so matter how much lies we tell ourselves, that marriage won't remain the same again should it continue.

For her safety, divorce is the best path to take, a divorce is equally good for the man's mental state cos it is torture living with someone u resent

He was wrong if he beat her, arresting him was the nail on the coffin

Kobojunkie:
Read this as it more than explains why you think all humans are implicated in the particular delusions you are hooked to.
https://www.healthhub.sg/live-healthy/584/mental_health_social_intelligence

If that submission by ur reference is correct they would never be disagreement with people or nations. Social behavior is unpredictable but there is a standard. And that standard always changes. Hurt no one and let no one hurt u. Never let anyone hurt u, I repeat that, violence against a woman or man is never acceptable but never give what u don't want.

UnfairLife7:
wife don't beat their husband.

so na only beating go make you lock up your wife?
Can you lock up your wife for any reason?
If yes….give me like one reason that will make you lock up your wife.

Samantha124:
So according to your, people who beat up other people for telling them the truth have got large hearts?

Nah, I presume your sister is elderly. People who overlook the overbearing excess of their kiddlings are.

royalfly:
■ Wow, now I see u are textbook av u gotten a post masters degree.? That write up is relative. I scanned through and all o say is social intelligence is not about agreeing and getting along even if it's inclusive, u av to know the side to go despite u getting along

You are not making any sense to me. In fact, you are beginning to remind me so much of a guy, on some other thread, who claims that Ifa invented a binary system from which he then derived the Yoruba language and cultural laws. That guy also claimed he was a physicist even though none of his populations made sense.

Kobojunkie:
Her anger is to blame for the man destroying property and turning her into a punching bag. Does she have no right to be angry?

She should talk to him every day because she don become mental health counselor abi? Show him love and care when he chose to violently attack her in the presence of her kids?

3. He is still jobless so why are you pretending he will change overnight if she cuddles him even more than she has for the past 2 years?

Your points ooze fuming anger. Can you calmly go back and read what I wrote but this time very slowly? Perhaps you’ll notice that I mentioned “giving a distance” if every efforts prove abortive.

The poster needs an advice. Do you want to assist her to pack out tonight or is leaving the marriage your only solution? I don’t understand.

LilMissFavvy:
Well spoken. I am surprised that people are saying she has lost her husband, my question is, what is good about a man who lacks money, character, and also beats his wife? As long as OP continues to pamper that man, he will continue to do worse. If she was the type of woman who starves him of food and nags* daily about his joblessness, he wouldn't try that nonsense*.

exactly what i was telling some of these Men with their warped reasoning. She doesn't have a home before the iccident. A man who doesn't work, a drunkard, smoker and physically abuse a woman.

royalfly:
■ If that submission by ur reference is correct they would never be disagreement with people or nations. Social behavior is unpredictable but there is a standard. And that standard always changes. Hurt no one and let no one hurt u. Never let anyone hurt u, I repeat that, violence against a woman or man is never acceptable but never give what u don't want.

That post is meant for you to address your hangups with women that have led you to pretend you have them all figured out when you have no clue at all.

Nemesis0147:
so na only beating go make you lock up your wife?
Can you lock up your wife for any reason?
If yes….give me like one reason that will make you lock up your wife.

seems you didn't read what i said clearly. Domestic violence is a No. I do not care what led to that.

Kobojunkie:
You are not making any sense to me. In fact, you are beginning to remind me so much of a guy, on some other thread, who claims that Ifa invented a binary system from which he then derived the Yoruba language and cultural laws. That guy also claimed he was a physicist even though none of his populations made sense.

Y would u make sense when ur references are already out of point. Ifa? I don't get. Good night, u are an upcoming, u made my evening

But that's not an excuse to inflict pain on someone that's been by his side since he lost his job two years ago.

She could've left him, but she stayed in the marriage.

KingLennon:

He wasn't abusive at the early stages of the marriage...

Gbolahan111:
■ Your points ooze fuming anger. Can you calmly go back and read what I wrote but this time very slowly? Perhaps you’ll notice that I mentioned “giving a distance” if every efforts prove abortive.
The poster needs an advice. Do you want to assist her to pack out tonight or is leaving the marriage your only solution? I don’t understand.

LOL..... Mr. Anger-Meter.... please don't quit your day job!

UnfairLife7:
seems you didn't read what i said clearly. Domestic violence is a No. I do not care what led to that.

so you can lock up your wife?
Yes or no

bionixs:
it is our full responsibility to feed and take care of them if only the pained single mothers amongst them would not brainwash them into acting equal with men

My responsibility That rule was made during the stone age when survival depended more on brawn than brain. It should not apply in the present age when people make wealth more with their brains than Physical strength and women are not deficient in brain.

The one who works and earns should cater for the family. This is me being realistic and not sugarcoating fact!

It well

You should have try and involve his family member or better still ur Pastor or any spiritual person you know,i think he could have being more of helpful than arresting him but I don't blame u for your action too..

Just lay everything to God hand and please try and carry his family members along, everything will be fine at the end by God grace..

LadyRosa:


You describe her too well! Your mother.

No wonder having crawled out from her putrid hole, you sleep and wake up with horrifying nightmares! 4ck you! 4c'k her too!


Next time you see this moniker, just dey face front...You no reach!

Noted

If she's guilty, then she'll be getting what she deserves.

Nemesis0147:
how will you feel if your father locks up your mother for whatever reason?

What if she couldn't escape and he killed her?

BennyDGreat:


She must have escaped to be able to report to the police. So, he obviously didn't kill her in the process of beating her up.

She didn't act with a clear mind. No one from her family with support her for taking the arrest option.

Kobojunkie:
That post is meant for you to address your hangups with women that have led you to pretend you have them all figured out when you have no clue at all.

Enjoy. Good night. No one has figured out anything except u. U seem to be the only one who already figured it all, I repeat am standing on a bigger picture, u alone wants to narrow, in ur bid to expatriate, u continue to rope urself. No man should beat a woman, u did not read that but continue to show u av a very good woman. May it continue to be that way for u. For people or men who re good, I speak for them and wish someone would hear thier story before they become monsters

Odekayodenr:
It well . You should have try and involve his family member or better still ur Pastor or any spiritual person you know,i think he could have being more of helpful than arresting him but I don't blame u for your action too..
Just lay everything to God hand and please try and carry his family members along, everything will be fine at the end by God grace..

For what purpose exactly? OSinachi did the same but that didn't stop her from ending up food for worms. Why is it not Ok to call the cops but better to call on family which has failed so many before now? Why is it almost always about the woman enduring beating when calling the cops can spare her such trauma in life?

Nemesis0147:
so you can lock up your wife?
Yes or no

if she abuse me physically like some men do to their wives. Yes i will get her arrested

thesicilian:
A man can feed his family for years and no one will hear about it. He's often proud to bear the responsibility. But the moment a woman starts bearing the responsibility, all hell must break loose, sooner or later

Ideally that is his responsibility as a Man.

The level of wickedness amongst some Nigerian women feminists these days is becoming so pronounced. I read about one bragging of starving her own blood brother all in the name of feminism!

royalfly:
■ Enjoy. Good night. No one has figured out anything except u. U seem to be the only one who already figured it all, I repeat am standing on a bigger picture, u alone wants to narrow, in ur bid to expatriate, u continue to rope urself. No man should beat a woman, u did not read that but continue to show u av a very good woman. May it continue to be that way for u. For people or men who re good, I speak for them and wish someone would hear thier story before they become monsters

Your so-called bigger picture is culled from a delusion that stems from a low level of social intelligence. The moment you tackle that problem, you will probably begin to see that the gender world, particularly where women are concerned are in fact not as black and white as you pretend. You cannot speak for anything except for yourself in your delusion.

Oh I forgot, you are a South African. My babe told me about the rate of Femicide in there, Yall have so many principles and the guys still kill for fun.
Begs for the reason why there are lots of single mothers roaming in S.A.

Samantha124:
Well, since I'm not a Nigerian, then let me keep quiet.