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Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by PastorFire4Fire: 10:47pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
maasoap: And that is exactly the start of a journey to a broken home. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Anonymoususher: 10:48pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
You did right by arresting him Seee I am a guy ooo but I detest men that do that. I never saw my dad hit my mom for one day and once of it all, we lost our sister to an abusive husband. We kept begging her to leave that Bastard but she refused until he sucked the life out of her. We couldn't do anything because his family is high and mighty. So you did very well. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by agrovick(m): 10:49pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
We Nigerian men are never beating the allegations, dude has no job the least he could do is make life easier for his wife by helping around the house since she is working but he is going around drinking like a fish. Surprisingly we see someone like this poster trying to downplay the wife's impact, I wonder what your comment will be in a scenario where he wife is not doing the traditional home caring role while the husband works Dogalmighty17: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Verysmart101: 10:49pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Samantha124: For Ur mind it's easier said right.U will realise Ur a human trust me in no distant time 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by malcom1X: 10:51pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Damilolly: The man wanted sex and she has been refusing hkm sex. It was a fight because she knew what the man wanted and she refused. 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by malcom1X: 10:52pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Ensa777: Why are you commenting this way? Are you married? |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by BennyDGreat: 10:53pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Samantha124: Don't get me wrong. The man was under influence of alcohol and can never behave in a rational way. No matter what's done now, only God can restore her marriage because it's a very slippery affair at the moment |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by acevic: 10:53pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Person wey kpai no dey write thread. Don’t wait for your husband to kill you before una try set things straight as a family. If he beat you and destroyed your belongings then you did no wrong getting him arrested. If he’s angry for being arrested after beating you up then he needs some time away to reflect on himself and sort things out. He’s just being egotistical and proud. If he’s a good man, he will come around. If not, then continue to live your life. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by agrovick(m): 10:54pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
If all you've said is the truth, don't ever feel bad for arresting him. If you can explore alternatives that help you keep your distance away from him else God forbid you end up being beaten to death. Losing a job is not the end of the road but failing to help out at home while your wife works is crap behaviour. Verokeena: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Kobojunkiee: 10:54pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Persephone1:You keep insinuating that OP's desire to have her marriage back means she now has to live as a punching bag in the marriage. I obviously disagree as I don't believe there exists any reality — or cultural excuse for that matter — where a sane woman who knows to call the cops when attacked, would consider settling into a toxic relationship as her only option. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Nobody: 10:55pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Stop lying just so you can paint the man as a victim, she arrested him because he was beating her up, not because he was suspecting her of cheating. 1. Would you have sex with a drunkard that reeks alcohol and doesn't bother helping around the house after you had a long day at work? 2. Would you be okay with your wife breaking your dishes and beating you up just because you didn't cook after a long day at work while she was at home doing nothing? Stop lying just so you malcom1X: |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by NoToPile: 10:57pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
The same set of people who supported a Nairalander locking his wife up when she refused to report that her younger brother molested their daughter are the same people blaming the woman for locking up the violent husband. Anyway na wetin some women eye they see for marriage be that. Once you know you will always be at fault as a woman in this Naija you will have peace. It is never skew in your favor o matter how it's tossed. See them awon Hypocrites gbogbo. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Kobojunkiee: 10:57pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Ilekokonit:Hogwash! |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by PrettyRX: 10:57pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Don't let his emotional blackmail make you feel guilty. What if he smashed your head, for him to be that violent he could have used a knife on you. What you did was right to defend yourself and children. If you didn't do that, no amount of family meeting will change him, because even the family will still blame you for his actions (patriarchy). If you still want the marriage, give him space for sometime then seek counselling from a professional (not pastors or family). Pls be safe, life first before MRS 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Styluss: 10:58pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
No, Femicide cases is low in Nigeria because they dont end up dead. We are not killers and not so many couples engage in domestic violence. Marriages are still sacred and respected in most of the regions over here. My babe do not believe in marriage either, it begs for concern if marriage is even necessary in SA. Samantha124: 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by donborg(m): 10:59pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Verokeena: After arresting him, you shouldn't have begged him. You should have demanded he apologized to you and signed a letter of undertaking not to touch you. Then you leave the house for him for sometime till he comes and beggs you to come back to the house.. 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Nobody: 10:59pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
If she leaves that house, the husband would have nowhere else to go because she's the one paying for rent. Would you prefer that she leaves the house so that the husband will end up living under the bridge? Verysmart101: 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by malcom1X: 11:04pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: So now for person to loose his job shows he's irresponsible? Like he decided to loose his job? 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Nobody: 11:05pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Femicide cases are low there because your families see reporting them as a thing of shame... The same way you guys are bashing the op for reporting her husband for GBV. If you guys are not killers, then how come I see cases of Nigerian women being killed by their boyfriends and husbands on this forum almost everyday? In your country it's even worse because even single ladies get used for rituals, while others get abducted and forced into marriages. Styluss: |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by agrovick(m): 11:06pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
What if the wife died during this beating episode, would you have made this same comment? Yes, he is going through stuff because of his current situation, does that warrant him beating his wife dreamxhaser: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Nobody: 11:08pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee:You see where you got it all wrong. I really hate it when people throw tantrums on baseless assumptions. Is this all you can deduce from all my posts? oh lawd! Are you saying Op should keep on arresting her husband if she wants to remain married? 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Ilekokonit: 11:08pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
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Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by litaninja(m): 11:08pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Very good. This is one side of the story. Let us all wait for the other side. Mr. Husband, please get on NL and provide this. Verokeena: |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Nobody: 11:09pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Hiding behind alcohol is not an excuse. If he really was remorseful, he'd have apologized to her instead of using emotional blackmail afterwards. Or are you going to tell me that he was also under the influence of alcohol when he started emotionally blackmailing her? BennyDGreat: 1 Like |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Nobody: 11:10pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
You're right, I am a human and not a punching bag. Verysmart101: |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Christian07(m): 11:11pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Things dey happen sha..all of this happened real fast I pray things are settled to normal
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Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Verysmart101: 11:16pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Verokeena: Madam i hope u don't nag or insult him because of his condition? Cos women broke shaming or nagging at their husbands mostly pushes them into taking alcohol to avoid over-thinking. Well Ur husband will be more desperate to make it than ever before because the line was crossed.U need patience cos he will never forget wat happend trust me.I pray he will forgive you if he gets back to his feet because this thing really hurts his ego.Keep showing him u are truely remoseful so he would calm down.He would be fine it's just time |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Kobojunkiee: 11:17pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Persephone1:Clearly, you did not grasp my response at all. Again, you keep insinuating that OP's desire to have her marriage back means she now has to live as a punching bag in the marriage. I obviously disagree as I don't believe there exists any reality — or cultural excuse for that matter — where a sane woman who knows to call the cops when attacked, would consider settling into a toxic relationship as her only option. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by lawrenzooo: 11:17pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:I didn't at any point say he should not help, don't quote me out of context. the comment I quoted implied that he still had money to go and drink which might not be the case |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Verysmart101: 11:18pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
UnfairLife7: Keep quiet there. U talk as if you are God. The kind of fake confidence u all exhibit is alarming. He lost a woman who arrests husbands at will period |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by MuMuOnBail: 11:18pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Na wa ooo The day that any jobless Igbo-smoking, Cocaine sniffing drunkard husband lay his stupid hands on any female member of my family he should type his Will and laminate his death certificate. Only weak men lay their hands on a woman. No matter the situation. Women are naturally p*ussies so beating them make you a p*ussy too. Just few days ago, A lady was foolishly killed by her husband for what? Because She saved her father's phone number as 'MY LOVE'. Mumu provoke, beat im wife kill! You did right arresting that Fool. If he refuse to leave the police station, let him die there. You are better off without him and I promise you, we have better, long and muscular d*cks with veins here in NL that will service and also pamper you better with money too. |
Re: The Guilt Of Locking My Husband Up For Two Days by Mercury12(m): 11:19pm On Aug 22, 2023 |
Verokeena:forget about your marriage it has officially ended in his mind. He just need to get a new job and either show you the door or move out to go live with another woman. Mind you did did accused you of cheating. 1 Like |
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