anthonyuncle:
she was using you to warm up

Persephone1:
You are a single father, so "simping" is expected of you. You shouldn't even term going extra mile as simping,you are not allowed to use that word. You have two baggages already and you are not tear rubber self. Only God knows the reason for the separation 🤷

Anyways to your predicament, this lady is yet to conclude on you. As for emotional attachment on her part, she's not there yet.
She's a very good and cool girl, those qualities should be given to the best of the best so don't be angry she's taking her time. Good things don't come easy.

I'd suggest you let her be. She will be back if she wants you.

pocohantas:
You are a father of two girls that got separated 8 months ago. Loving you would not stop the young girl from reasoning well. Love is not enough. She would have her doubts and she would show them.


She would also weigh her options before settling to be a stepmother to two kids of an average income earner. When she hasn't even added her own kids to the mix.

There has to be some very marketable qualities you possess. Else that young lady would keep doing what she did and telling you about it.

No, you didn't overreact.

pocohantas:


Wetin be this?

Op thinks good and cool girl comes easy because he's a man . He want better thing 🤣.

He should go and look for a single mother or widower

Persephone1:
Op thinks good and cool girl comes easy because he's a man . He want better thing 🤣.He should go and look for a single mother or widower

pocohantas:




His brother above is looking for non-transactional lots. Very deluded set that wants the best, but remember transactional when they are vetted.

Men age like wine indeed.

it is either English is disturbing that one or he is delusional. So a lady should marry an average income earning man with two kids without checking his ability to provide for additional kids coming from her. These guys are the same preaching that women shouldn't marry or date base on love but how much he can provide. Never seen a more confused lots.

Obviously reality is always different.

Persephone1:
it is either English is disturbing that one or he is delusional. So a lady should marry an average income earning man with two kids without checking his ability to provide for additional kids coming from her. These guys are the same preaching that women shouldn't marry or date base on love but how much he can provide. Never seen a more confused lots.

Obviously reality is always different.

pocohantas:


Yes na. Unto non-transactional love. Any small thing they will throw in "transactional" all in a bid to guilt-trip women. Like they weren't transactional while looking for young submissive and homely women. We draw the line on provision.

He should give Op his sister nah

And he dey pain them well well

Persephone1:
He should give Op his sister nah

And he dey pain them well well

pocohantas:


Yes na. Unto non-transactional love. Any small thing they will throw in "transactional" all in a bid to guilt-trip women. Like they weren't transactional while looking for young submissive and homely women. We draw the line on provision.

tundebasic:
Maybe there's something I am missing here. But, what is transactional about looking for a young, homely, and submissive woman? You mean a man should marry just any woman, or a man should marry an old, defiant, and unwelcoming woman?
What is transactional about being young? Everyone was young at one time or the other....

pocohantas:


Na wetin e suppose do o. Make this nonsense girl stop to feel herself. Do it for the brotherhood.

Very simple sturv

pocohantas:


Neither is anything wrong in a woman looking for a provider male. She shouldn't just marry any old, struggling or unproductive man. Thank you

tundebasic:
Why not? She should continue looking for her provider male, and the male looking for a younger woman.

pocohantas:


Exactly what you should have understood before your initial mention to save everyone time.

tundebasic:
You are the one not understanding me. You are equating being young to provision. How would you equate them?

Persephone1:
You are a single father, so "simping" is expected of you. You shouldn't even term going extra mile as simping,you are not allowed to use that word. You have two baggages already and you are not tear rubber self. Only God knows the reason for the separation 🤷

Anyways to your predicament, this lady is yet to conclude on you. As for emotional attachment on her part, she's not there yet.
She's a very good and cool girl, those qualities should be given to the best of the best so don't be angry she's taking her time. Good things don't come easy.

I'd suggest you let her be. She will be back if she wants you.

Obiedun:
But according to him both of them were joking

Afodot0022:
Top of the day to you my nairaland family. After i got seperated from my wife, its 8 months now and i decided to go into the dating scene again,i meet this girl almost two months now and she has been a very good and cool girl. We have been vibing well and the relationship has been sailing well not until 2 days ago that we had a minor misunderstanding and till now, we both have not been in communicating term. It happens that we were gisting and she brought a story about what happened in her office, she told me one of her colleague used the picture they both snap together as status on whatsapp and from their someone told his colleague that he has interest in her. She now mentioned a statement that got me worried, i asked her a question which i cant remember now and she said well she doesn't know yet if she is going to like the guy or not, i ask her what she meant by that statement cos that statement means alot, does it mean if she met the guy and she likes him she might eventually dates him or what. Since i met her, i have been noticing she has beeb in communication with some other guys which i dont have an issues with cos fine we just met and definitely she has met other dudes before not until recently that we start dating officially. That was the question i asked her and she couldn't give me any exact reply, she stood up after a while and left my place angrily which she does anytime we have our conflict. Ever since then she has not communicate with me and neither have i also cos i feel like i have been the one keeping the relationship alive and as it is now, i dont care if it sinks or not. I believe if she truely loves me and care about me , she will reach out to me knowing the fact that her statement was totally wrong, if she values and respect me, she wont say that knowing how i will feel. Now my question to you guys is that, did i overreacted by ignoring her too and not talking to her, wont i look like a simp to her and might henceforth take advantage of that been that she is the one that supposed to apologize for that statement and she still not doing so. Pls house just tell me if am wrong at this and how to make amends.

Styluss:
Oh, now i understand that love is basically transactional for the lots of you!
So settling down with an average income earner with 2 kids is different from settling down with an higer income earner with 5 kids!
You guys are just loyal to your feelings. no love.