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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by abba190: 10:38am On Sep 03, 2023
Jeon:
Wahala, Wahala.
kaiii, na Men dy cry for marriage those days, why you go cry for wetin no dy give u benefit? .









grin

This is not you Op, please come and bash us!!!..

This happens if you refused to get married in your generation, hoping that the next generation will produces fresh, young, submissive , good and naive girls....


😉
the heart of evening newspaper is evil

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by Justbeingreal(m): 10:39am On Sep 03, 2023
izonborn098:
Red flags don't lie..
People pretend mehn. It takes the grace of God sometimes to see some red flags..

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by Dpaulie(m): 10:39am On Sep 03, 2023
ok
Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by izonborn098(m): 10:40am On Sep 03, 2023
No worry it will be fine, there is time for everything..
Evestar200:
Scarier than ever

May God help those of with Good intentions

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by shantti(m): 10:41am On Sep 03, 2023
IamAtAnger:
But every Saturday people dey wed na abi na staged?

And everyday people are divorcing abi na staged
Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by izonborn098(m): 10:41am On Sep 03, 2023
The areas she hide, you test her. Test her maturity..
Justbeingreal:
People pretend mehn. It takes the grace of God sometimes to see some red flags..
Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by nathyx(m): 10:42am On Sep 03, 2023
21st century indomie generation heavily exposed to social media, how do you expect them to know that marriage requires a great deal of tolerance?? Thank God for the girl he blessed me with My wedding is next month, I don't have employment, zero source of income, zero kobo in my acct yet my woman loves me and eager to live the rest of her life with me cos she of knows am not a lazy man and I will never let my family sleep hungry. If you're still out there waiting for the perfect partner (100%) keep wasting your time marriage is not for feeble minds. Congratulations to me and wife in advance! October 21st 2023 save the date guys!

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by Basicend: 10:42am On Sep 03, 2023
Jasonekah98:
I'll get married to a real woman.
We'll work it out between ourselves, no third party.
I'll respect and honour my wife, in return she'll be submissive. I have declared!

You cant 'respect and honor" your wife and expect her to be submission.

She become the driver of the vehicle . . That is the wiring of a woman.

You are supposed to love her and accord her some respect.

You are the king in your house.

She is the one that should honour you in return.

* Just ensure you show her genuine love consistently and care. . * All factors being constant.

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by MichaelSokoto(m): 10:42am On Sep 03, 2023
mrgreen4real:
I just broke up with my babe yesterday. Searching mode activated
Siofra is available, JennyClay is hia...

dat other werey is here also, d one supporting em... wats her/his name again gaan ni oo?

Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by Error401: 10:47am On Sep 03, 2023
to divorce after 2-3 years
IamAtAnger:
But every Saturday people dey wed na abi na staged?

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by MkBaron(m): 10:48am On Sep 03, 2023
Congratulations to you, I’m happy for you
Why did you choose my birthday...
nathyx:
21st century indomie generation heavily exposed to social media, how do you expect them to know that marriage requires a great deal of tolerance?? Thank God for the girl he blessed me with My wedding is next month, I don't have employment, zero source of income, zero kobo in my acct yet my woman loves me and eager to live the rest of her life with me cos she of knows am not a lazy man and I will never let my family sleep hungry. If you're still out there waiting for the perfect partner (100%) keep wasting your time marriage is not for feeble minds. Congratulations to me and wife in advance! October 21st 2023 save the date guys!
Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by athaliya(f): 10:50am On Sep 03, 2023
kaludestiny10:
Of a truth relationships are now difficult to keep and maintain. Marriages are crashing daily on an alarming rate. I think these factors are the reasons
1. Unfaithfulness.
2. Lack of trust.
3. Lack of respect to partners.
4. Gender equality. Women now see themselves as being equal to their spouse.
5. Lack of proper upbringing.
6. Lack of perceverance.

You forgot to add:
7. Men believing that they can cheat and nothing will happen

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by Nobody: 10:50am On Sep 03, 2023
E Choke Well Well.
Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by Olawalejeremy18(m): 10:51am On Sep 03, 2023
talented321:
We just have few mannered woman and such women can't be found in the club or bar..
Becare and look at the kind of women you are dealing with again..
Relationship/marriage is not that hard as you people are making it look like it can't be achieved...
Marrying a good woman is like having another mother..
And what if your mother was also never a good woman to her husband (ur father)? You know we don’t have a choice to choose our parents, it’s done for us by fate and you can’t control their personality. You can only choose your own wife.

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by Nobody: 10:53am On Sep 03, 2023
It took me a long time to find a woman who i liked everything about her. From her behaviour and charactar to her fisical features ( outward beauty) so much. That hapened just last month. But atimes she use to tel me that despite agreeing to my relationship proposal, she is stil sceptical about the whole tin she isnt realy sure my intentions are genuine. But am determined to keep working to earn her complete trust becos she is all i need in a woman. She is the definition of a virtuous lady. She is stil very young (22 ) . We hav a long way to go together. God wiling.

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by kaludestiny10(m): 10:56am On Sep 03, 2023
That falls under unfaithfulness my dear. When one partner is unfaithful to the other, then the relationship tends to deteriorate. Personally, I am against that.
athaliya:


You forgot to add:
7. Men believing that they can cheat and nothing will happen

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by karkinase(m): 10:59am On Sep 03, 2023
IamAtAnger:
But every Saturday people dey wed na abi na staged?
Are you an illiterate ni.. what is people are getting married every Saturday don’t you understand probabilities. Is 2 in 10 a success or failure

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by poweredcom(m): 11:00am On Sep 03, 2023
I pity any struggling man wey wan marry todays nigerian gals , na OLOSHO full everywhere damaged psychology and fish brain , lazy bhastardx

Dont be decieved any girl that cant grow wit u ,, kick her out ..if u must marry her wit pity bang her n pregnant her first before spending on wedding o , cos if u go marry expired womb u go regret ur life

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by 2Radii: 11:01am On Sep 03, 2023
Jeon:


If wishes were horses, beggars would ride.

See you. Beggers don dey ride teytey

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by ashawopikin(m): 11:01am On Sep 03, 2023
Omo, trust nobody

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by Justbeingreal(m): 11:01am On Sep 03, 2023
izonborn098:
The areas she hide, you test her. Test her maturity..
Hmmm! Before marriage people are so deceitful true colors comes out most times after wedlock if you're lucky enough you get to see all the red flags before putting a ring on it. That's why you hear people say "He/she wasn't like this before we got married"

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by poweredcom(m): 11:02am On Sep 03, 2023
nathyx:
21st century indomie generation heavily exposed to social media, how do you expect them to know that marriage requires a great deal of tolerance?? Thank God for the girl he blessed me with My wedding is next month, I don't have employment, zero source of income, zero kobo in my acct yet my woman loves me and eager to live the rest of her life with me cos she of knows am not a lazy man and I will never let my family sleep hungry. If you're still out there waiting for the perfect partner (100%) keep wasting your time marriage is not for feeble minds. Congratulations to me and wife in advance! October 21st 2023 save the date guys!

You are finished , u are unemployed , no kobo and you think a girl loves you , na small pikin mentality de worry u

When she change an for you in the marriage , no come de post long stories for us here o

Hmmm! Before marriage people are so deceitful true colors comes out most times after wedding when the real heat start

When u wake up and no food for house , ur eye go clear

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by TsbAfrica: 11:02am On Sep 03, 2023
Mine just became very easy and what I found out is the more you try to force your partner to conform to roles dictated by society the more they find a reason to rebel but as soon as you realize it's all a program and decide to love the other person with the same kind of love a mother has for thier baby ( love regardless of content of character) and trust that the person is capable of doing the right thing at all times even though you don't depend on that person to get things done. Remember expectations is the gateway to disappointment, if you don't expect anything, you can never expirience disappointment.

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by Eriokanmi: 11:03am On Sep 03, 2023
Relationships are difficult nowadays because we've either lost or abandoned the process. You're sleeping with ladies/men when you're not yet married. In those days, my heart would be beating fast just because I wanted to toast a girl because I wouldn't know the kind of response she'd give me. Girls were God-fearing, just like boys. The reverse is the case today

Most of us lost our virginity in our late 20s and early 30s. I married my wife a virgin at the age of 29 years, she was almost 30 years old. As pretty as she was, long, pointed-nosed, dark and skinny with amazing frontside lol. She's escaped 2 times from rapists who pretended to be friends. One of them was a head of campus fellowship.

Many today have lost body count. There's an unseen and spiritual bond in sexual intercourrse which many are oblivious of today. You share in his/her spiritual problem and bondage when you sleep with that guy/girl. You can now imagine the number of wahala on your head when you sleep with many.

A friend of mine won Gbenga Daniel scholarship in those days when he was Ogun governor. This guy was so poor. Luckily for him, he was among those selected,alongside children of senators and powerful politicians. A week to their interview at the British embassy for their visa, 2 ladies who didn't know each other visited him. They said they just wanted to see him as he's refused to check on them, they came separately and on separate days. Meanwhile, he had wooed these girls before but they turned him down while in the university. In short, he slept with them, one after the other on their visit.

Everyone got visa approval, except my friend. I now told him to not give up but avoid sexual sin cos the devil had seen the future and set a trap , using those ladies to destroy him. He didn't appeal but reapplied. He was on 3 days fasting when he went back to the embassy. His visa was approved. Today, he's a great man, an entrepreneur of repute.

Many have entered a wrong relationship today because they abandoned the process. I prayed and fasted over my relationship. I was interested in 3 ladies but I didn't show it. I had to take their names before God. I also engaged my pastors. They never knew each other but God revealed samething to them. There was one of them whom a man of God said had 4 spiritual eyes and possessed with a marine spirit. That I shouldn't near her. To confirm this, there was a day she called me and told me what I was doing. I had malaria and she told me so. GSM was just a year old in Nigeria then. Today, you don't need to toast. They meet on social media, dating app and enter a relationship just like that. No wonder there are rampant divorce cases and family wahala nowadays .

People should go back to God and everything will be ok, including marriages, jobs and spiritual life. Even in the olden days, both families would do some ritual
rites and consult oracles before going for their life partner. Marriage no be beans. Happy Sunday people

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by izonborn098(m): 11:03am On Sep 03, 2023
Is a known fact'' but you also need to play ur part very well...
Justbeingreal:
Hmmm! Before marriage people are so deceitful true colors comes out most times after wedlock if you're lucky enough you get to see all the red flags. That's why you hear people saying "He/she wasn't like this before we got married"
Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by JOACHINpedro: 11:04am On Sep 03, 2023
nathyx:
21st century indomie generation heavily exposed to social media, how do you expect them to know that marriage requires a great deal of tolerance?? Thank God for the girl he blessed me with My wedding is next month, I don't have employment, zero source of income, zero kobo in my acct yet my woman loves me and eager to live the rest of her life with me cos she of knows am not a lazy man and I will never let my family sleep hungry. If you're still out there waiting for the perfect partner (100%) keep wasting your time marriage is not for feeble minds. Congratulations to me and wife in advance! October 21st 2023 save the date guys!
So we should applaud you for willing to get married without source of livelihood?
Like seriously?

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by karkinase(m): 11:05am On Sep 03, 2023
Relationships are hard nowadays everybody dey guide

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by athaliya(f): 11:05am On Sep 03, 2023
kaludestiny10:
That falls under unfaithfulness my dear. When one partner is unfaithful to the other, then the relationship tends to deteriorate. Personally, I am against that.

That's not just unfaithfulness. A man cheating to your face and telling you to use the door if you don't like it, it doesn't stop at cheating to her face.

Men who see it as a taboo to wash the plate they ate with or do the laundry because they're men. And they'll rather marry a second wife than do things they believe must only be done by women.

Men believing their wives are commodities because they paid brideprice to another man (something the woman had no say in).

Men believing their wives must not earn more than them or the same with then and her aspiring to earn more could be seen as an attack on his masculinity.

The list is endless. Many women aren't buying it in 2023.

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by poweredcom(m): 11:06am On Sep 03, 2023
Kenmatt:
I didn't go through.

But accessing the Top Story, it's as a result of "hook up".

Most ladies don't like going into relationship any longer.

I don't know if it's poverty or what?

One lady told me that ladies that do relationship are "dirty".

That I should just cross-check those that do hook up and see how "clean" they are and get them compared with those that do relationship. That after all, "nack na nack".

And this is having an ill effect in our Society this time round. Most Single guys that would want to "settle down" can't find it with ease as every damn thing is commercialised.

Very tru..todays nigeria is gone to the dogs

Everywhere oloshos , in ur app michat tinder inmessager codedruns

Never trust any naija gal just thrust them de go ....

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by abuhusna1: 11:08am On Sep 03, 2023
nathyx:
21st century indomie generation heavily exposed to social media, how do you expect them to know that marriage requires a great deal of tolerance?? Thank God for the girl he blessed me with My wedding is next month, I don't have employment, zero source of income, zero kobo in my acct yet my woman loves me and eager to live the rest of her life with me cos she of knows am not a lazy man and I will never let my family sleep hungry. If you're still out there waiting for the perfect partner (100%) keep wasting your time marriage is not for feeble minds. Congratulations to me and wife in advance! October 21st 2023 save the date guys!
It's not a crime to be unemployed and get married but it's a crime not to have any source of income and you get married. marriage go quick sour with no source of income

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Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by okoroemeka(m): 11:09am On Sep 03, 2023
nathyx:
21st century indomie generation heavily exposed to social media, how do you expect them to know that marriage requires a great deal of tolerance?? Thank God for the girl he blessed me with My wedding is next month, I don't have employment, zero source of income, zero kobo in my acct yet my woman loves me and eager to live the rest of her life with me cos she of knows am not a lazy man and I will never let my family sleep hungry. If you're still out there waiting for the perfect partner (100%) keep wasting your time marriage is not for feeble minds. Congratulations to me and wife in advance! October 21st 2023 save the date guys!
congrats bro,sometimes it is better to tackle a problem, most times the solution will
always come in the struggle

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