Beverlyjean:


Go and watch justpearlythings on youtube..maybe she's a man as well....

Lumig:

what I am saying is that her "good intention" may be subjective, and may not still be good enough to be called "good".
Hope you get it oga ade2

athaliya:


There's an infinite supply of stupidity in the universe and the stupidity is adequately represented in both genders.

A woman who acts funny when she begins to earn more than her husband is either stupid or repaying her husband in his own coin.

No right thinking woman who cares about her man will love him less because of money. The problem is that many men are not matured and they get insecure when they see that she earns more, beer parlour gossip doesn't help matters and they lead to the man acting funny and questioning things, picking offences unnecessarily.

Example:
Husband comes back from work by 6pm, wife has been home all day cleaning and working and she's tired and even having a backache and headache.

Husband: Ever since you began to earn more, you now squeeze your face at me when I come back, I know my salary is small but don't forget that it's what has sustained this family for the past 5yrs.
Wife: ?

Another day:
Husband: So you're here and I've been calling you and you didn't answer
Wife: Babe sorry, I was playing this game and you know that at this point, if I shake I'll lose, sorry why were you calling?
Husband: Its not your fault, you don become my madam, why won't you value game over me
Wife: Babe!, today isn't the first time I'm playing this game and you know it
Husband: No worry, I understand
Wife: ?

If he keeps this up, one day she'll snap na
See ehn experiences plenty

SonofGod231:

If a woman should say all she wants and you provide them after earning her love and trust. She would still be outraged and feel damaged if she heard you were cheating even if it's carefully and discreetly done. I don't think any sensible man would treat his sidechic better than he treats his lovely wife. Nobody is perfect so your partner will never be perfect. Women just want you to pamper their pride. If he respects and treat you and your feelings right that's fair enough. Don't go asking for a saint chris. Men are humane,It's as simple as that.

Little21:
It's not that relationship is that hard. It's just that no one wants to be the victim. Men think most girls now are prostitute and on the lookout for better one's. And as a ladies you don't want to marry men that as nothing too offer. They smoke, bet, drink, sleep with whatever comes their way and some aren't even financially stable. Ladies ought to get married but men's have the mindset that no matter how old they are it's not too late for them. So how is it supposed to work out??
Everyone is just on their own.

omooba969:


This is prejudice oga Ade.

poweredcom:


You are finished , u are unemployed , no kobo and you think a girl loves you , na small pikin mentality de worry u

When she change an for you in the marriage , no come de post long stories for us here o

Hmmm! Before marriage people are so deceitful true colors comes out most times after wedding when the real heat start

When u wake up and no food for house , ur eye go clear

Stephen2324:
Relationships are now more difficult than ever. Everyone is being wary and careful of the other person. Men don't trust ladies and ladies don't trust men. Everyone is on the edge, suspicious of the words and actions of other person. Distrust everywhere.

Voluntary unions are now built on falsehood and distrust. No one wants to be the fool. No one wants to be the "mugu". Everyone wants to be the smart one.

The winner of this unfortunate battlefield is he who has the least emotions and who cares less. It is more sad when one realises that these are two species that are meant to work together in a physical and spiritual upbuilding but this is where we are today.

More sad is that, it will get worse as time passes because even these wrong values are being passed on to the younger generation who cling to it more firmly and build on it. Building on the wrong values with so much energy and talent, directed in the wrong direction. And when one seeks to find the root cause of this pain and scar we all bear, we end up going round in circles and plunging ourselves into the very entities that birthed these false attitudes. A vicious cycle.

We are like a legion of lost souls in a dark enclosed tunnel, getting in eachother's way just to find a way out but without a genuine desire to change from within.

cutesharon:
And the submissive and loving women have realised say all na scam.
Even person wey no do bad in the past de suffer in marriage while the ones wey their past bad de get better people.

Sirtee19:
Relationship is not difficult as projected here. It's the people going into the relationship that are difficult.

Jeon:


Ewweeeee.
They always pay for it.

cutesharon:
And the submissive and loving women have realised say all na scam.
Even person wey no do bad in the past de suffer in marriage while the ones wey their past bad de get better people.

omooba969:


She said 'good intentions' - read to understand oga Ade.

omooba969:


She said 'good intentions' - read to understand oga Ade.

poweredcom:


You are finished , u are unemployed , no kobo and you think a girl loves you , na small pikin mentality de worry u

When she change an for you in the marriage , no come de post long stories for us here o

Hmmm! Before marriage people are so deceitful true colors comes out most times after wedding when the real heat start

When u wake up and no food for house , ur eye go clear

omooba969:


There are many decent men out there, just keep your head up, HE will eventually show up.

DonBenny77:

It's scary man.
Some of us may not get married

Jeon:


I said what I said.

Women don't need Men apart from their Money right from day one ,but have no choice because they're not wise and are dependent. Some are sold out by their family for the goodies, some are forced into early marriage cutting short her dreams.

Women do face alot in Marriage, bearing cheating, abuse, over worked, sacrificing time, freedom,life, social life, career and putting up with someone's issues just to be a good woman .And at the pay day they will be left with no pennies,love or appreciation.

Do you think our foremothers, will even take Marriage if there were freedom? making their own Money? being independent? the way it is today?.

DND069:



Bro the thing is there are many decent men but everybody dey guide him heart. Decent men way dem Don hit am with breakfast no go guide him heart?

The thing is: we have many many Decent and good men, but they do not wanna show the good side any more since they were taken advantage of in their past experiences. Everything is mixed up! Same with women. We gave some Decent ones but they have also been taken advantage of so they don't show the good side anymore. So what most humans show is that dangerous side. No-one wanna be a prey. It is telling on everyone

We are all in a mess!

SuccessfulRichi:
Completely Tru. I am in a relationship where I know that my babe is cheating on me with her exes. They're communicating fine. But when she comes to my house she mute her phone. And I'm playing along though. I'm not perfect either.

omooba969:


@bolded,

Everybody needs somebody. The new generation of Black people need to realise that we're not built/wired to be separate entities and economic independence shouldn't distract us from our primary roles in the natural order of creation.

It would be patronising & insensitive of me to say I understand or feel the plight of women but I think a woman's economic independence should help build, maintain, preserve...and not destroy.

Evestar200:
Don't mind him.

They always think everyone is like the bad people they have come across in their life.

I have come across a lot of bad men in the name of relationships but I don't go around tagging every man bad.

Since he thinks I am like what he wrote up there ,all I can say is Good for him.

DarkLover:
Difficult af especially for someone like me.
I know what I want in my lady but I don’t really know if I want a lady, I mean I don’t really know what I want.

My standards are high and I don’t know how to trim them down to accommodate a partner, so I get tired of these relationships easily. I may never get married.

2Radii:


Pay with what??

In wat way??

See you, I laf In yoruba

Soo all the one wey don dig you paid for it??

omooba969:


@bolded,

Haaa! Omoge, how many is 'a lot' ?












Na joke o!

omooba969:


Quite a challenge for an adult to change a longstanding bad habit. It's an illusion to hope they'll change once married - you will be sleepwalking into a trap.

Stephen2324:
Relationships are now more difficult than ever. Everyone is being wary and careful of the other person. Men don't trust ladies and ladies don't trust men. Everyone is on the edge, suspicious of the words and actions of other person. Distrust everywhere.

Voluntary unions are now built on falsehood and distrust. No one wants to be the fool. No one wants to be the "mugu". Everyone wants to be the smart one.

The winner of this unfortunate battlefield is he who has the least emotions and who cares less. It is more sad when one realises that these are two species that are meant to work together in a physical and spiritual upbuilding but this is where we are today.

More sad is that, it will get worse as time passes because even these wrong values are being passed on to the younger generation who cling to it more firmly and build on it. Building on the wrong values with so much energy and talent, directed in the wrong direction. And when one seeks to find the root cause of this pain and scar we all bear, we end up going round in circles and plunging ourselves into the very entities that birthed these false attitudes. A vicious cycle.

We are like a legion of lost souls in a dark enclosed tunnel, getting in eachother's way just to find a way out but without a genuine desire to change from within.