CALABAR— A housewife, Maryam Zakari, has allegedly bathed his son, Babanne Abdulahi, with hot water for having the effrontery to bring his girlfriend home in Cross River State.

The woman was said to have boiled water with which he showered her son last Thursday, leaving him with severe burns.



The incident took place at Bogobiri, the Hausa-Fulani residential area in in the city.

“The woman saw the boy in his room with his girlfriend instead of cautioning him verbally, she decided to drench the young man with hot water. She poured the hot water on his body and shouted out for help,” an eyewitness, Dauda said.

When Vanguard visited the residence of the Babanne, many sympathisers were seen at the scene, with many scolding the woman for her action.

“It is not just the girlfriend issue but because the son does not remit his daily wages to her but gives it to his girlfriend,” Dauda said.

The victim was rushed to a private clinic in Calabar for medical attention.
Contacted, the state police command Public Relations Officer, Irene Ugbo, said the matter was yet to be reported to her.

Efforts to speak with the husband and the wife proved fruitless as they both kept mum.

https://.ng/2023/09/04/mother-bathes-son-with-hot-water-for-bringing-girlfriend-home/

Anger....lots of accumulated anger.

Caaz:
Anger....lots of accumulated anger.

She did well. Imagine the audacity. In my time, growing up. You're not even allowed to have a boyfriend/friend even if you were 17

wis3:
She did well. Imagine the audacity. In my time, growing up. You're not even allowed to have a boyfriend/friend even if you were 17

Well, old bean, that is just a load of cobblers. Let's be clear: pouring hot water on a child as punishment is downright barbaric, and it's certainly not a way to discipline a child. It's cruel and abusive, and there's no defending it.

The fact that it may have been acceptable in the past doesn't make it acceptable now - we've come a long way in understanding child psychology and development, and we know that discipline should be focused on teaching, not harming. That's just the long and the short of it.

wis3:
She did well. Imagine the audacity. In my time, growing up. You're not even allowed to have a boyfriend/friend even if you were 17

You are an animal

Ignorance is a disease.

The woman has a very low reasoning.

Isn't it better for your son or daughter to bring home their gf/bf so you can have an idea the kind of people they hung out with?

Infact it is an opportunity to keep eye on him in that way he won't be jumping from one partner to another.

With that you are certain that most times they will be at your place and you keep both busy with fun activities to ensure no handi-panki is going on.

If you scare them away they will start hiding and will take the girl to their friends that live alone. The friend will leave them alone and the next thing na lashing. Your son or daughter will lie to you that they are going to church and wind up in their fucking venue. Before you know it he will start taking different girls to this hide out and his friends will encourage him.

wis3:
She did well. Imagine the audacity. In my time, growing up. You're not even allowed to have a boyfriend/friend even if you were 17

But your generation still do abortion pass.

Botragelad:

Well, old bean, that is just a load of cobblers. Let's be clear: pouring hot water on a child as punishment is downright barbaric, and it's certainly not a way to discipline a child. It's cruel and abusive, and there's no defending it.

The fact that it may have been acceptable in the past doesn't make it acceptable now - we've come a long way in understanding child psychology and development, and we know that discipline should be focused on teaching, not harming. That's just the long and the short of it.

He is a hypocrites no be his generation they do abortion left and right so te them start nation wide campaign for them to dey use condom.

DonBenny77:

You are an animal

you're a compound fool.

Botragelad:

Well, old bean, that is just a load of cobblers. Let's be clear: pouring hot water on a child as punishment is downright barbaric, and it's certainly not a way to discipline a child. It's cruel and abusive, and there's no defending it.

The fact that it may have been acceptable in the past doesn't make it acceptable now - we've come a long way in understanding child psychology and development, and we know that discipline should be focused on teaching, not harming. That's just the long and the short of it.

This right here is exactly what is wrong with our society today. A society full of idiots where nothing's wrong or right. Kids don't even no what morals are. Its thesame reason girls start have sex as early as the age of 13. And you can't even try to scold or make them understand. They'd just pack up their bags and leave the house.

dettolgel:


But your generation still do abortion pass.

Things weren't this bad in my time. This in very sure of. And this was just in the 90s. Where puberty doesn't even start occuring in teens until they're almost 20. Unlike what you have now where 9 year olds and 11 year olds are having sex.

dettolgel:


He is an hypocrites no his generation they do abortion left and right so te them start nation wide campaign for them to dey use condom.

Speak for yourself please. If you or your relatives or siblings or sister were doing abortion whilst growing up. We are not and we can't relate. I'm just trying to say things weren't this bad like we hace it now. Check on social media. All you find are 13yr olds girls sending nudes and making half naked videos of themselves. And you think it's alright?

wis3:
This right here is exactly what is wrong with our society today. A society full of idiots where nothing's wrong or right. Kids don't even no what morals are. Its thesame reason girls start have sex as early as the age of 13. And you can't even try to scold or make them understand. They'd just pack up their bags and leave the house.

Well, for starters, let's recognize that children are individuals with their own unique personalities and needs. They're not just blank slates that we can mold however we see fit. The key is to communicate effectively, set clear boundaries, and provide positive reinforcement for good behavior. Hitting or hurting a child can only cause harm and distrust, and it doesn't teach them anything positive. It's just not the way to go, mate.

Also there's a massive difference between scolding and hurting a child. Scolding is simply telling a child that they did something wrong and why it was wrong. Hurting a child is inflicting physical pain or discomfort, which is never okay. It's a question of respect and boundaries. Scolding is an appropriate form of discipline, but hurting is never justified. It's just not the way to teach or correct a child's behavior. It's that simple. 👍

Botragelad:

Well, for starters, let's recognize that children are individuals with their own unique personalities and needs. They're not just blank slates that we can mold however we see fit. The key is to communicate effectively, set clear boundaries, and provide positive reinforcement for good behavior. Hitting or hurting a child can only cause harm and distrust, and it doesn't teach them anything positive. It's just not the way to go, mate.

Also there's a massive difference between scolding and hurting a child. Scolding is simply telling a child that they did something wrong and why it was wrong. Hurting a child is inflicting physical pain or discomfort, which is never okay. It's a question of respect and boundaries. Scolding is an appropriate form of discipline, but hurting is never justified. It's just not the way to teach or correct a child's behavior. It's that simple. 👍

Spare the rod. You know the rest. Children aren't born with any particular character or traits. Parents are largely responsible for how their kids turn out. And this they do by monitoring the things they do, put in place certain restrictions on things that they're sure arebnot healthy for the child. You can't just birth a child and expect them to turn out however way they want. You instill these things in them.

wis3:
Spare the rod. You know the rest. Children aren't born with any particular character or traits. Parents are largely responsible for how their kids turn out. And this they do by monitoring the things they do, put in place certain restrictions on things that they're sure arebnot healthy for the child. You can't just birth a child and expect them to turn out however way they want. You instill these things in them.

Don't use that bible verse to justify violence against children, which is wrong and harmful. The Bible verse does not support or condone child abuse, but rather teaches that parents should discipline their children with love and wisdom, not with anger and cruelty. Discipline does not mean hitting or hurting a child, but rather correcting and guiding them in the right way.

You can put certain restrictions on a child or correct them without inflicting injuries or scars on them. That is not only more effective, but also more respectful and compassionate. Violence against children is not a sign of strength or authority, but of weakness and insecurity. It damages the child's physical, mental, and emotional health, and it breaks the trust and bond between the parent and the child.

dettolgel:
Ignorance is a disease.

The woman has a very low reasoning.

Isn't it better for your son or daughter to bring home their gf/bf so you can have an idea the kind of people they hung out with?

Infact it is an opportunity to keep eye on him in that way he won't be jumping from one partner to another.

With that you are certain that most times they will be at your place and you keep both busy with fun activities to ensure no handi-panki is going on.

If you scare them away they will start hiding and will take the girl to their friends that leave alone. The friend will leave them alone and the next thing na lashing. Your son or daughter will lie to you that they are going to church and wind up in their fucking venue. Before you know it he will start taking different girls to this hide out and his friends will encourage him.

This is what most parent don't know.

Botragelad:

Don't use that bible verse to justify violence against children, which is wrong and harmful. The Bible verse does not support or condone child abuse, but rather teaches that parents should discipline their children with love and wisdom, not with anger and cruelty. Discipline does not mean hitting or hurting a child, but rather correcting and guiding them in the right way.

You can put certain restrictions on a child or correct them without inflicting injuries or scars on them. That is not only more effective, but also more respectful and compassionate. Violence against children is not a sign of strength or authority, but of weakness and insecurity. It damages the child's physical, mental, and emotional health, and it breaks the trust and bond between the parent and the child.

Some kids don't respond just respond to these methods. What will you do if these kids don't respond to your methods?

wis3:
you're a compound fool.

Sorry, but you lost the fight and you are in no way of insulting anyone, your comment alone that she did well pouring hot water on him was a total fail. She could easily ruin his future all in the name of punishment. Yes in your days they did that, but that was wrong. The same reasons our young Nigerian girls do illegal abortion without informing their parents just because they are scared what their parents would do to them.

wis3:
Some kids don't respond just respond to these methods. What will you do if these kids don't respond to your methods?

Blimey, guv! Right, well here's the scoop: When a child doesn't respond to a parent's non-violent discipline methods, it's important to remember that every child is different, and what works for one kid might not work for another.

It would be irresponsible of me to suggest specific steps to take with your child without knowing their specific situation and background. In such case, i recommend consulting a professional, like a child psychologist or a pediatrician, for advice tailored to your child's needs. They'll have the expertise and the full picture of your child's situation to offer you the best advice.

wis3:
She did well. Imagine the audacity. In my time, growing up. You're not even allowed to have a boyfriend/friend even if you were 17

But you won't pour hot water on your son if you were the one. How did she now do well? Because, it is not ur child abi? Religious people

wis3:
Speak for yourself please. If you or your relatives or siblings or sister were doing abortion whilst growing up. We are not and we can't relate. I'm just trying to say things weren't this bad like we hace it now. Check on social media. All you find are 13yr olds girls sending nudes and making half naked videos of themselves. And you think it's alright?

I know that folks like you facts always stung you


But I go still harmer you with facts if you like insult yourself.

See another one chop:

1. Was there social media during your time? If there was I am sure all your illicit affairs would have been plastered everywhere. Just because you lots were born in an era where there was no social media does not mean that you lived a moral life. A thief at night is always a thief whether caught or not. You know who you be

For the sake of argument let's even agree that you are right that your generation were holier, my question is how come your so called morally upright generation ended up raising a generation whose moral compass you detest?

Snake go always born snake. Stop being a hypocrite

wis3:
Things weren't this bad in my time. This in very sure of. And this was just in the 90s. Where puberty doesn't even start occuring in teens until they're almost 20. Unlike what you have now where 9 year olds and 11 year olds are having sex.

Because you lived in a poor neighbourhood riddled with poverty, malnutrition and delayed development does not mean that was the same for everyone in your generation then.

Have you ever come across tapes of high school students then where they all look like full grown adults. E full Internet

The best way to caution a son is to bath him with hot water say wis3... Are u are that pure that they didn't bath u with hot water till date... I pity ur wife....

wis3:
Spare the rod. You know the rest. Children aren't born with any particular character or traits. Parents are largely responsible for how their kids turn out. And this they do by monitoring the things they do, put in place certain restrictions on things that they're sure arebnot healthy for the child. You can't just birth a child and expect them to turn out however way they want. You instill these things in them.

Thonyb2:
CALABAR— A housewife, Maryam Zakari, has allegedly bathed his son, Babanne Abdulahi, with hot water for having the effrontery to bring his girlfriend home in Cross River State.

The woman was said to have boiled water with which he showered her son last Thursday, leaving him with severe burns.



The incident took place at Bogobiri, the Hausa-Fulani residential area in in the city.

“The woman saw the boy in his room with his girlfriend instead of cautioning him verbally, she decided to drench the young man with hot water. She poured the hot water on his body and shouted out for help,” an eyewitness, Dauda said.

When Vanguard visited the residence of the Babanne, many sympathisers were seen at the scene, with many scolding the woman for her action.

“It is not just the girlfriend issue but because the son does not remit his daily wages to her but gives it to his girlfriend,” Dauda said.

The victim was rushed to a private clinic in Calabar for medical attention.
Contacted, the state police command Public Relations Officer, Irene Ugbo, said the matter was yet to be reported to her.

Efforts to speak with the husband and the wife proved fruitless as they both kept mum.

https://.ng/2023/09/04/mother-bathes-son-with-hot-water-for-bringing-girlfriend-home/

I hope she will hug him if he bring a fellow man home as his husband

wis3:
She did well. Imagine the audacity. In my time, growing up. You're not even allowed to have a boyfriend/friend even if you were 17

you time have past no era stays forever change is constant