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Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Administration1: 6:47am On Sep 09, 2023 |
From what you wrote up there, I can deduce that you're a boring man. You think it's all about food, clean and money, ogbeni, when last did you take your wife out alone? Have you asked her, if she drinks Smirnoff ice or something, if you don't do alcohol, have you considered that she might be the type that drinks, but she is respecting you since you don't . Oga, go and and spice to your marriage and watch it bounce back to life. 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by descarado: 6:52am On Sep 09, 2023 |
cococandy: You gat time to explain darling Nairaland will not be generating traffic if there is no woman bashing thread. After tribal threads, it's wicked women Small boys claiming married. He is so quick to tell us what he earns. And out of the big amount, only 10% for his lovely family. When they are giving others brain for exploration our people decided theirs is for sex only.( see their skits online, it's all about sex, sex and sex. Nothing creative) And they want the world to take us serious. When they are writing their beautiful imaginary stories, they forgot that real people are here. 20 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Administration1: 6:56am On Sep 09, 2023 |
ayomilore: Why do people make this mistake in marriages, I told my wife that the day you go and seeking someone whom I revere to have audience with me, over our marriage issue, is the day our real problem starts. Any spouse who does that is evil. Like I said earlier there's a place for communication in marriages. Sit down and talk. The issue OP has is a very trivial one to deal with, it's just that they do not "speak" the same language. I can recommend 3 ways to restore sexual life to that marriage, I have already mentioned one in my first post 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ADURA123(m): 7:23am On Sep 09, 2023 |
eniolorunfe: Yes, I am willing she is a wonderful woman , the only problem is what I mentioned. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Justkatty(f): 7:33am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Acidosis:My joy is that, this is coming from a fellow man God bless you real good. 24 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by starpower(m): 7:37am On Sep 09, 2023 |
ADURA123:if you have prostrate and she lives you will also come here. Learn to love genuinely. Most times hormones changes, you mentioned many benefits but your needs are sex. She doesn't need you as you are thinking, doesn't overspend and independent. Will probably be less promiscuous because of low libido. Omo! You for die like 100 years old with that type of woman, kids are in quality hands. Once in a while you guys can take a week off (5days) intentionally stress 😩 ni o. Check her contraceptive could be one of the cause. If your libido is that high. Have some once in a while Spa journey. Something must kill a man. We too dey hurry for this Nigeria. One time I complain too much naso my madam dey react. Now I they pay attention to her interest and things she feels insecure with I avoid. Compliment intentionally 2 times a day even if it flattery it helps with the kids too. You self dress well on weekends and no dey knack like chicken. After sex talk for 🛌, share old time gist. Make her know how important she is, check your odours too. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Justkatty(f): 7:37am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Dear op reject that spirit that's calling you outside. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ADURA123(m): 7:42am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Reading through all comments here, I see some people do not understand my post. 1 she is a nice woman the only problem is sex. 2. The question of been a boring husband is no, I am not, I am a hyper extrovert she is an introvert..she I force her to go on outing with the kids, last week we were at Magic land, previous months millennium park or any other nice place in Abuja, I have pictures evidence. 3. On the issue of gift ...at least the cheapest rapper in her bag now is around 15, and the last abaya I bought for her is worth 90k. 4. On discussing with her mum, sadly she is an orphan and that is my biggest problems here, I try to treat her in such a way that she doesn't feel the absence of her parent's. Lastly let me put the record straight.. I am a Muslim, my religion permits me to take more than one wife, but me as an individual don't believed in second or third wife... I am not praising myself, I know I have lots of respect for her, the last time a senior member I have ever reported her to in my family, ask her what is the problem she said , she doesn't like sex, mind you I met her a virgin...that was the first and last I ever take my issue out, that was last year...I have talked and I am tired of talking. But plans are in place for her, she either shape in or shape out, but I maintain my stand, I won't cheat on her coz she doesn't deserve it. 5 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ADURA123(m): 7:49am On Sep 09, 2023 |
starpower: She is not on contraceptive.... it gives her issues |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by kwaso2(m): 7:53am On Sep 09, 2023 |
ʏᴏᴜʀ ʀᴇᴀsᴏɴ ɪs ᴜɴʀᴇᴀsᴏɴᴀʙʟᴇ. ᴀʙᴏʀᴛ ɪᴛ ᴛᴏᴛᴀʟʟʏ 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ADURA123(m): 8:07am On Sep 09, 2023 |
eniolorunfe: I have never threaten her with divorce, but this will be my first time, if after this she did not change...sorry I have my...there are several girls girls out dia looking for who will bleep them for free.. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Administration1: 8:14am On Sep 09, 2023 |
ADURA123: Is she a Muslim also? |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Rechargeam247(f): 8:34am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Oga, work on your marriage. This isn't enough reason for divorce. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ADURA123(m): 8:47am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Administration1: Devoted one 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by flokii: 9:08am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Why should married women be denying their husbands sex in the first place?.. Don't they know it's their conjugal duty.to.satisfy one another? The.rate at.which men are complaining of.their wives now is alarming... Some just stay in the marriage for the sake of the children while others who can't manage quit. It's bad o. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by starpower(m): 9:27am On Sep 09, 2023 |
ADURA123:reasons while she is very careful, you should be very understanding. Nowhere is perfection. You can unlearn the urges with time. But she should see a therapist. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ADURA123(m): 9:31am On Sep 09, 2023 |
starpower: God bless you sir... you have been consistent in your advise |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Eternitymedia88: 9:36am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Oga, side chicks has their own use. This is where you should go for one and forget about marrying another woman. Get a beautiful sidechick, she will make you forget ur wife's sexual and marital shenanigans. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by heykims(m): 9:45am On Sep 09, 2023 |
ADURA123:This is a nonsense way of reasoning, so your dad controls your way of thinking. This is why Islam is wonderful, go get a second wife bro. It doesn't make sense substituting a wife, one goes, another comes just because of desire for sex. Polygamy is the way out except your wife objects and decides to leave on her own accord. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by hasyak(m): 11:19am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Ahmed0336:+7.7 |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Brandiebird: 12:03pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
ADURA123: Maybe she is afraid to get pregnant and so avoiding sex so as not to get pregnant. I don’t know what you wanted by creating this thread. You’re a stubborn man because you just want to break your home and you will account for your actions when the time is right. Your religion allows you to take another wife but you want to divorce your wife and make your children feel abandoned and in danger because of SEX! 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by pandax: 12:50pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
ADURA123: Please increase the home feeding and other allowance to 200/250k and she will change. 100k for a family of 4/5 per month feeding allowance is almost impossible in Nigeria of today 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by jesmond3945: 12:50pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
ADURA123:op i praise, you are a good man. Please, dont divorce her. You deserve sex from your wife and she not giving it to you is not good for your mental wellbeing. Sex is a need and not a want. I believe much of her energy is expended on caring for the home front so not much energy is left for sex. Also, sex is emotional for women, if she is not feeling you, she wouldnt want it. Also, she might not be enjoying the experience with you. Women love pre-intimacy, penetration can come later. Talk to your wife about getting a second wife since your belief permits it. However, getting a second wife their is no giuarantee this issue would not arise again. Just use wisdom. 6 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ADURA123(m): 1:10pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
pandax: How about a family who's combine income is 100k a month? Are they not surviving? The thing is contentment 5 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ADURA123(m): 1:22pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
jesmond3945: God bless you, She hates hearing second wife, infact she made me understand that there is no room for another woman in our house, but sha she is just talking, she knows is not in my agenda, if I want I will go for it. Most people misunderstood my post, I never said she is a bad woman, infact she is the dream of every man, but I cannot spend the last 7yrs talking to one woman on one topic without any significant changes, yes I agree she is afraid of getting pregnant and she is not on any contraceptive. But cheating on this woman will hurt me coz she is a faithful wife. Secondly our intimacy time is usually 2hrs, 1hr talking stories and touching, giving head both of us and finally penetration, she enjoys head well..but having a side chick kai, I don't fancy it...but my plans are intact... she will change with this last straw I want to pull |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ADURA123(m): 1:25pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
flokii: I have a senior colleague who is having same issues, do you know that he is not aware I am having same wahala, but I paint my wife as very good and she dey spoil me with sex, this guy is currently having a child with another woman here in Abuja and the wife is not aware, for me is bad, I can't do that,the reason is not genuine...side chicks are just out to dig gold 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by marsup: 1:25pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
Have you talked her? In most cases, when a woman stops making love to her partner, it means she has fallen outta love with you and doesn't find you sexually appealing. So, before you start forming boss, be sure she's not the one who is tired of your ass. 6 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by flokii: 1:48pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
ADURA123: He should have divorced her legally, then take the other woman in.. I'm not a fan of married men having side chicks. What I still don't get is how these women sweep, clean, cook, wear skimpy clothes to seduce men into commitment and marriage only to change later on.. that's why it is good to marry virgins attimes not the ones that have seen it all and tasted everything out there. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by elujah1(m): 1:56pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
If you can, totally stop demanding to be intimate with her, care more but spend more time outside, engage in something that keeps you busy. When home find something educative that keeps you glued to your phone, possibly watch comedies that will make you laugh out loud. Lock your phones as well, most women hate Competition, since you say she loves you, she can't stand it. Most women pretend not to like intimacy, but they like it most. Same people telling you I am not in the mood are the same people who will tell you please don't stop. Very funny Gender. BTW hope you are not a one minute man, no offence, also find out what she likes most and how she likes. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ExudeLoveToAll: 2:06pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
JONSYN7154: He shouldn't take advice from his dad but should take the advice from an unknown person and from an ananymous forum like Nairaland? Clap hand for yourself OP there is nothing wrong if your father gives you an advice of not having a side chick and there is nothing wrong if you heed to your father's advice. Your dad knows that when you stab the one that gives you food at the back(taking side chick) your life is in great danger that's why he gave you that advice never to go for another lady when you are not done with one. In as much as this is happening, I will say this issue is still redeemable and can be sorted out. Please still keep an open mind towards reconciliation, though it seems your mind is made up. I see that your wife doesn't really know that hee behavior towards issues you raised is turning to a deal breaker in the family. Why not place this deal breaker on the table and communicate things through with a view to making sure that the grey areas in your marriage is settled. Remember even the lady you may have in the future may have everything your wife is lacking but also lack everything your wife is having think about it. You postpone this and get another issue from another woman in the future. Give reconciliation another chance, this might be the turning point. Wish you the best 5 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by NaBanga: 2:07pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
If it wasn't for money, most women in Nigeria would also be single. You will be surprised that she is satisfied, if you stay in your own place while giving her money to cater for the kids. Most likely she is no longer attracted to you. 8 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by jamesversion: 2:22pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
ADURA123: Be free to fvck as much as you want. Well, I assure you, you go see fvck run. Nigerians girls no dey fear you. Na your money go complain, not them. 3 Likes |
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