michi2011:
Some one up there called her stupid for this write up and as usual the angry Nigerians come out in numbers to attack poster for this topic.

Very well written topic, everything written up there is true. In case you are wondering, yes I am currently living in Nigeria and couldn't be any happier than I was when living in the UK.
Everything is different and better for ME here in Nigeria, lets start from the very beginning.

Healthcare - I was left for dead in a London hospital, thank God I survived. I survived not because of better healthcare but because of a kind doctor who decided to investigate the medical problem further when everyone else gave up.

Kids - I was lucky to be able to have children following the medical negligence thanks to God and to a Nigerian DR.

Security - Cars were stolen in my neighbourhood on a daily basics and it is still happening, by the time you wake up, your car is already in eastern Europe - long gone. Thank God for insurance which will however take 5months to pay out and only a percentage of the car amount.
My friend's house was broken into last month, his dogs scared the thieves away however goods worth almost £1K was taken in less than 2 minutes.
NO - I was not living in barking or Peckham, I was living in NW London and house on my street are worth £900K and above at that time.

Electricity - Gas, Electricity, Car and Water monthly cost £650.

Money - what everyone has been waiting to hear. I used to earn a very good wage but I worked 60hrs per week. My take home after tax was plus overtime was £4100 however my bills and mortgage was £2450 monthly. I had no time for my kid, my poor child didn't get to see me at all.
Childcare cost was £850 per month and I was very lucky.

Mental Wellbeing - What life will I have after working 60hrs from Mon-Friday and Saturday morning. I couldn't do anything for I was physically and mentally exhausted. Depression began to kick in as all I did was work, Relationship - what is that and where is the time for that?
Home training - How do I train my child when I am working, at least I could afford a nanny.
I began to dream of a better life for myself, a life where I could live and enjoy it not just exist.
Africa suddenly became more attractive as it is the only place where I wouldn't have to work like a crazy person, they said US is worst.
I worked as a senior nurse just for the record on a £70000 annual salary

My people I started to plan ooooo, I failed on my first try at relocating because life was so hard and stressful in Lagos. Second time round, I saved money for 5 years, yes 5 good years and invested well.
Now I can happily say I am living my best life in Nigeria, we go back to the UK for vacation during the holidays.
God willing if business remains good, I will use money made in naira to buy my house in the UK.

Moral of this story, as there are people dreaming to japa abroad, there are so many also dreaming to japa to Nigeria / Africa.

UnfairLife7:
you that hardly string two or more words together to make a correct sentence? You that voted Buhari and Tinubu😂

Dey play

UnfairLife7:
you be Olodo stop lying. You can't speak nor write fluently. Olodo man. Always discouraging Nigerians from relocating to a better and saner clines.

Eat your patriotism you old fool and allow others live

UnfairLife7:
old Yoruba man. You're too local and dumb for my liking seriously. You hardly string two or three words together without adding Yoruba to it 😂

Wodu89:




I have hope in myself, not in Nigeria. That Hope has given me courage to build and develop whatever I desire

Fearyourcreator:

You see your life.... Okada man dey build house... Most of you that speaks yeye English no really get sense se ... What have you achieved with your yeye English ... Fish brain... I can tell you boldly that you didn't write your WAEC yourself... You were assisted... If you deny this na ogun go kill who dey lie

Fearyourcreator:

Who is discouraging a slave ... Na English be your problem again ... I can't speak fluently... Mr man you don dey madt ... Go check yourself

MimiSheWrote:
Hello Everyone, first of all I apologize in advance for the long note and also about my English, not actually my first language.

My name is Mimi, I was born in Nigeria... But cos of the nature of my dad's profession i have spent around 75% of my life in different countries outside Nigeria... Mostly in EU.

Well enough said about myself, cos this topic is not about me but about Nigerians... Our general mentality and perception of abroad.

Guys listen up... All that glitters is not really gold. Out there is not entirely what people think it is. And you might think just because I have spent so much time outside Nigeria i do not understand the struggle in Nigeria and therefore not qualified to tell you all this "nonsense"..... I completely get it.. trust me.

But even a random 3 years old kid knows that the country is messed up and nothing to write home about, we all know about the Suffering, depression and "starvation level of poverty" in Nigeria yeah.... That's why everyone is desperatly looking for a way out, no doubt... but trust me, JAPA is not 'always' your ticket out of poverty... Well 'sometimes' it is... but most times it's just your direct ticket to being subjected to racism,more depression,more struggles,several mental disorder,homelessness, modern day slavery and the list goes on and on.

Trust me... when it comes to hustling field, success is much more louder than failure. cos our mind was designed to constantly search for hope. which means you would quickly hear about the lucky 3% that made it big through JAPA, but hardly hear about the remaining unlucky 97% that found themselves in worse possible condition after the same JAPA. There's no money tree out here... there's no diamond river out here...
Is there more opportunities? Well yes, But there are millions of people that already done and still doing whatever you intend to come do over here and yet they are still in the worse condition than you are in right now.

You would literally cry when you see what most of our African brothers and sisters go through around the world in the name of Japa. And as a Nigerian?? Trust me it gets worse.. and your chances gets even much smaller. Cos no one trust Nigerians anymore any where around the world and I believe we all know why.

Sorry but I'm not trying to burst anyone's bubble, kill anyone's vibe or being a negative biitch! Naaaah I'm only trying to be realistic! I'm only trying to tell you something no travel agent would ever tell you and something people abroad hardly tell you, and even when they eventually do tell you...? You don't believe them.. instead you result to asking them questions like "why are they still there if it's that bad"? .....

Well.... You wanna know why most of them are still there? Let me tell you why... there is a psychological reason for that... First They are still in DENIAL. Imagine dreaming your entire life to travel abroad and finally have a good life, you probably invested almost everything or everything you have got to make it happen (your money, your time, your last hope)
But then you finally got there and then meet a reality that is entirely different from your life long dreams and perception of these faraway green lands?
I don't know if you know... but our brain is defensive in nature, it will automatically switch straight to denial mode... Leaving you with atleast enough 'hope and wait for a magic or should i say a miracle' (afterall this is abroad where magic happens?)
This is just one of the reasons why most of these people continue sticking around instead of returning home.

Another reason is that they are worried about what people back home would say or think... Because the people back home also got this general fvcked up mentality and very high expectation of people coming back from Japa (y'all need to stop it! Y'all need to get rid of that mentality, seriously ) cos like I said earlier... there is no bleeping money tree over there! I don't know where Nigerians got that idea from in the first place...
It needs to stop, yall driving the youth nuts with such mentality, it's doing more harm than good. That high expectation/ pressure back home is mostly the reason our people are more likely to result to crime out here (so just stop it! )

I have met alot of other African nationalities abroad... and amazingly they don't share the same mentality we have about Abroad. They treat abroad as just another hustling ground and not a direct ticket to success... Therefore they are more relaxed and less pressured than Nigerians out here.

Moving Abroad is not such a bad idea though, it worked and still works for few lucky ones (including my Family) it would be wrong and biased of me if I fail to mention that..
There are plenty of and more opportunities over out here not doubt...
But what I'm just saying is that... it's not always that easily reached.. as most people automatically believe.
Look... Somehow all these countries are intelligently designed In such a way that it take back almost entirely everything you make out here from you one way or the other... Through tax, through mind blowing bills or random expenses around every corner.

And at the end of the day you realize you are nothing but a modern day slave building someone's country for free... And without freedom.

Most people screaming Japa in Nigeria are far in better living condition and more stable mentally ,more happy than majority of people in the so called abroad without even knowing it. Sometimes Instead of gambling and betting your hard earned million of naira on Japa, it's more advisable to chill out... relax and invest that Millions in Nigeria. I'm just saying... You would probably end up living a life most people over there can only envy and dream of.

Thanks for reading my long note... I hope this helps someone in making a life decision out there. #ItsYourGurlMimi

Fearyourcreator:

I was never hungry Mr man ... Na lazy man go over cry ... Am an hardworking man and I dey see my work... So Obi pikin no dey here too... Why you come dey vex .. I voted Tinubu and so ... Can't I vote him

Heffalump:
I'll prefer to work in a country where I return my substantial earnings to keep a viable system working and at the same time, gives me comfort, security, and social wellbeing.

How many years do I have to live on earth that you want me to perish in a directionless shithole of a country.

jesmond3945:
yea is your vote. Allow others to have a choice as well.

UnfairLife7:
shame on you and those that begot you. You're a disgrace to under 40s Nigerians😂

You can't write nor speak fluently at your old age?

What an entity

UnfairLife7:
Old cargo Mr RONU😂

Go and engage your old mates leave me alone.

Fearyourcreator:

You no get at life at this age ... You running up and down for nairaland constituting nonsense.. at your young age.... Your road no clear ooo... I know inside of you go dey tell you... You are just doing nonsense here ... You are wasting away here... Go build your career now ... I dey tell you

UnfairLife7:
work on your English omo iya mi🙏

Fearyourcreator:

Lolzzzz! English wey dey pay my bills .. see person them help with WAEC telling me how to communicate... English... You IQ low .. well you be small boy though... You left the message then attack my way of writing... Won ti fi furo jona

UnfairLife7:
work on your English egbon.

jesmond3945:
yea is your vote. Allow others to have a choice as well.

Fearyourcreator:

Lolzzzz! You be slave ... Tell that to your parent cus I am very sure both can't write better

UnfairLife7:
don't mind the idiot who hardly write or speak without adding Yoruba. I am also a Yoruba man but a liberal one and not trabalistic like that old clown. He goes about discouraging people from relocating claiming Nigeria is the best after bread and butter.

Go and check all his comments to see for yourself. Old man wey no fit write simple English

jesmond3945:
the dark side of the moon in abroad is far better than the bright side of the moon in naija

UnfairLife7:
Your tense is so poor at your age. You're in your 40s if not 50s but struggle to string two to three words together to make a sentence. You must always add Yoruba, pidgin and whataview.

Mr patriotism work on your English😂😂

somehow:


What a mindset.

Tell Adenuga, Alibaba, Basketmouth, AY, Dangote, Otedola, Alakija, and a host of other successful people in Nigeria why they have refused to japa.

Japa is mostly for hopeless people who have no hope here in Nigeria. There are exceptions but very few.


While location matters alot, your decision making ability is the most important.

I can remain in Nigeria and make it 10x faster than those who move abroad (Then start traveling all over for holidays) if my decision making ability is topnotch (So far I thank God for everything).

A monkey is a monkey irrespective of where it finds itself.

jesmond3945:
wetin you smoke guy. Basketmouth's family is in uk, adenuga has properties in europe, he lives in banana island but struts through europe, otedola no mention, cuppy lives in london, alibaba's kids lives in usa. Nigeria is a playground for the rich.

somehow:


I believe you can read to understand.

Why didn't these people you listed move abroad?

They made their money where?

This same Nigeria

They moved (those who did from the endless list) their children abroad did for educational and security purposes, these same children will return to Nigeria to get all the best deals available here.

You actually think they moved these children abroad to live there?
No, to get them equipped so they can come back to lead/rule you and your children.

How come the names you listed spend most of their time here in Nigeria?

You make money faster in a developing environment.

Think deeply

UnfairLife7:
bro, i am in your shoe presently. I graduated with strong 2.1, narrowly missed first-class. I earn 25k monthly as a classroom teacher. I can't afford 2 square meal daily. . .

jesmond3945:
no their kids will not come back. Mention how many people their kids came back?
Besides, what money are you talking about, naira? Worst performing currency in africa, yiu are a joke.

Fearyourcreator:

Una plenty here like that... You don't have nothing good doing than stay on NL at your age

UnfairLife7:
please egbon, write simple English that a sane person would understand. I can't comprehend your pidgin English please. From Yoruba to pidgin😂

I doubt you ever see the four walls of classroom egbon

Heffalump:
I'll prefer to work in a country where I return my substantial earnings to keep a viable system working and at the same time, gives me comfort, security, and social wellbeing.

How many years do I have to live on earth that you want me to perish in a directionless shithole of a country.

MimiSheWrote:
Not like it matters, but I live outside which doesn't limit my understanding of the situation in my home country(Nigeria)
You don't need to experience a bone fracture to know what it feels like.