What’s the hardest truth you have learnt as an adult?

You can't please everybody. Do your best in everything you do. Anyone that is not satisfy with your best should re-do it to his/her taste.

FAMILY IS NOT ALWAYS FAMILY

You did a lot by not saying anything

TIME is EVERYTHING.

There is no KARMA. Evil people prevail, even their generations still excel.

Negotiations are just what we engage in, to prevent/regulate how brutal we can be to each other. Because a step below that is basically the law of the jungle, where the strongest chew the weakest.

So for example, as a country signs international treaties and enacts UN laws, it still maintains a large military to fight off invaders, because the documents countries are signing are not what protects them, but their ability to fight if the other party breaks it.

Or when a bank is giving you a loan, and you both sign documents, but the banks make sure they have collateral worth more than the loan they give, so when you default, they won't lose.

So as you are entering any agreement/negotiations, make sure that when shit hits the fan, you do not lose, and that your strength is in you, not in the documents you are signing, or at the benevolence of the other party.

Everyone no matter their social standing, will face challenges in different aspect of their life
Eg
1.Physical appearance, identity and characteristics. Resourcefulness
2 Material and immaterial things of certain value.
3 Communication. Distribution/generosity. Intelligence/development
4.Ancestry, heritage, roots. Foundation and environment. Mother or caretaker. Housing and the household.
5.Recreational and leisure activities. Things which make for enjoyment and entertainment
6.Routine tasks and duties. Skills or training acquired. Employment (job)
7.Partnerships. Marriage and business matters.
8.Cycles of deaths and rebirth. Sexual relationships and commitments of all kinds
9.Ambitions. Motivations. Career, achievements. Society and government
10.Benefits from effort. Friends and acquaintances of like-minded attitudes
11Ambitions. Motivations. Career, achievements
12. Religion

Listen and silent were spelled with the same alphabet 💯

E no easy to make money

I've learned that food poisoning is real... I've been 🤮🤮🤮 all evening.

Hopefully I'll be okay tomorrow.

Money doesn’t necessarily bring happiness ,it’s just important to have it to solve basic problems. but you think it does cause there’s probably a lot of stuffs you want to do with money.

Well think about it this way , after getting all the money and you’ve done everything you’ve always wanted , you start to feel empty ,it’s like you’ve seen it all so there’s no excitement anymore , u begin to get tired of luxury easily.

That’s why you see the likes of Elon musks , Dangote , Otedola , money doesn’t seem to excite them at all. But they understand that it important to have it.

Life is 100% your responsibility no one is coming to save you

You will never run out of women
You will run out of time

Everything sucks

People will want to help you when it’s of no use to you anymore, they’ll try to give you what you have already achieved, they’ll show concerns at the point it doesn’t matter,benefit you.

They’ll deny you food when you’re hungry/starved and try to feed you when you’re full

They’ll bully, terrorize and show you plenty of wickedness at your lowest point but start preaching morality at your peak level

You’ll be castigated, insulted at your worst times but be praised at your best times.

1. Talk is cheap, action is hard.

2. The majority of humans clamor for freedom. But the price of freedom and individual sovereignty is an expensive price to pay. This makes people settle for mediocre lives, mediocre jobs, and mediocre relationships.

3. Refusal to do the important things with joy when young will be done in shame when old.

4. Don't castigate what you don't understand. Because in few years you may become a partner with it.

5. Humans are altruistic as well as selfish. The side you find them on any day is dependent on their mood.

When situations are light, the altruistic side shines. When it becomes a matter of survival, which is the commonest mode, selfishness goes overboard.

6. If you don't have solid principles you'll be tossed to and fro by every wind that blows.

7. It becomes harder to remain focused and consistent as you age. Because your mind is scattered along many terrains.

8. Hard work is important. But to rise from top to bottom, you'll need a helping hand.

9. It takes one person to change your life for good. Hence, be vigilant with everyone you come across.

Don't squander time and interactions with good and powerful people.

10. Nothing goes for free in this life. If you have nothing of value to exchange nobody will treat you with respect.

11. Instead of begging someone for help, see how you can help them. In doing so, you protect your reputation and dignity. And nobody can shame you for working to earn.

12. Anything right and good your mind is prompting you to do now, do it. Don't postpone it. That's where your fulfillment lies.

13. Stay aloof from people who fail to reciprocate kind gestures.

Reciprocation doesn't need to be equal. At least they should be trusted enough to side with you when you are at the low.

14. If you want to see the burgeoning of good behavior, good deeds, and luminous character, reward people who effuse it.

15. Learn to think in 2, 3, 4... dimensions. Your first and best plan may fail. But having other strategies and options will help you when things become tough.

16. Don't depend on promises and favors. Without it, you'll survive. So, why then have you suspended your survival hoping for it?

17. Disappointment is part of life. You must be prepared and wait for it. This is not pessimism. It's just a little handbook of wisdom.

18. Never fail to express your love to people who love you. Your friends and families. Acting strange with them makes you less than lower animals.

19. Wolves are always in the raiment of sheep. Being a sheep draws them close as they arrive to feast on you. Being a wolverine yourself makes them fear you.

Occupy the paradox as an adult.

pansophist:
Negotiations are just what we engage in to flavor our animalistic nature. Because a step below that is basically the law of the jungle.

So as you are entering any agreement/negotiations, make sure that when shit hits the fan, you do not lose, and that your strength is in you, not in the documents you are signing.

Continuations........

Real life examples that butress the above.

Russia would not have invaded Ukraine if Ukraine transposed the minsk agreement. Since Ukraine didn't act civilized, then you, the offended will have to go jungle mode. That's how it works.

Hakimi married his wife, but made sure that if that marriage ends, he will not loose, hence he took measures to protect himself, to avoid rewarding a person that breaks the agreements.

Same thing with the police (maybe not Nigerian police lol). They will treat you civil and protect you, but if you fail to be a good citizen , prison awaits you and in some countries, the death penalty.

Agreements/documents doesn't give you any power, it only regulate how brutal you can be. It's just a step above natural law, which is the jungle law. The law of strength and weakness.

This is real life, and you must know how to live well in it. Agreements are meant to be broken. Humans are notoriously selfish, and will destroy any agreements, marriages, truce etc for their selfishness, especially when you can't deal with them.

Prepare for that day in any negotiation you enter. I pray you don't have an accident but please, wear your seatbelt. I come in peace.

Not every relative older than you deserves respect by default, a lot of them need to earn it because a lot of them don't deserve it.

Be careful who you are turning to for help when you have a dispute with someone else, there are some people that pretend to be neutral but deep down are not.

Look for a help the helper can gain in it. Looking for a totally free help won't move you forward.

Thanks for the responses, I’m learning a lot !

I have learnt a lot about life, and about human beings, no matter who they are.

1. Women feed their soul via the attention of men. They will hate you if you don't give them attention.

2. Age is just a number. Age does not make person fully mature.

3. Genuine human beings are only known through their suffering and love.

4. People who are truly serving God are very small in numbers.

5. Trust only what you know about a person.

6. No matter how good you are to people, they will surely crucify and sacrifice you. The moment you stop them from using you, they will start hating you and tag you a bad person.

7. Our life troubles comes from those around us.

8. Help many strangers. It pays a lot. You won't regret it.

Know in life that your husband or wife can abandon you when the chicks are down.

Nobody should be trusted including you

omoh........i no knw say people wen get sense plenty for nairaland lyk dis.

i've learnt alot 4rm u guys

WarrenP:
FAMILY IS NOT ALWAYS FAMILY

exaggerated abi?

You're welcome

1, A SLÚT, wayward girl, whóre or olosho will forever be OLOSHŌ.
They never change.
What usually seem to change them is conditioning (marriage, having a child etc)
Most times when circumstances change again, they will go back to their old ways.


2, Never trust anything that comes out ot a NON-VIRGIN girl's mouth, as regards her sexual history and past. They lie 99.99% of times.

3, Women have pattern behaviours.
If she's cheated in the past, she will always cheat again.
A girl that you snatched from someone or that left someone for you, CAN ALWAYS LEAVE YOU FOR SOMEONE or will still leave you for someone else.
She can never be a loyal or committed partner.

4, If you didn't marry her as a virgin
PLEASE DO DNA TEST ON YOUR CHILDREN.
Even if you married her as one, and you notice or suspect misbehaviour or waywardness, PLEASE STILL DO DNA TEST. DNA TEST IS NO LONGER AS EXPENSIVE AS IT USED TO BE.

5, A woman with good morals, decent and modest and with average looks is far more VALUABLE AND A GOOD ASSET THAN THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMAN IN THE WORLD FOR A PARTNER.

6, IF YOU WON'T LIKE YOUR DAUGHTER TO BE LIKE HER, SHE IS NOT A GOOD PERSON TO BE THE MOTHER OF YOUR CHILDREN.

7, People's past matters a lot and we should always Judge people by their past.
The law judge people by their past (actions)
Your cv is your past to get jobs
Banks will judge you by your past before giving you the next loan...
Even God will judge us by our past at the end of life.
But for you here on earth, one cunny and mischievous girl will tell you not to judge her by her past after living a useless and wayward life and you'll think she has a point

Most of the people you call friends aren't your friends

Peace of mind is paramount.. cut off anything and everything that weighs you down.
Never be afraid to walk away or to say NO to things you don't want. Always stand your ground.

Tinubu WILL be the President of Nigeria for the next 4years!

That the major religions Islam and Christianity are scams.


A fact i wish i had known since i was a child.

No one truly cares , only your biological parents care