Hello house. I'm too angry to type. Been married for 10 years with a kid. 10 long hard years.

He always assures me and portrays himself as a faithful man. I have never suspected him of committing adultery, not because he's not capable, but because I wanted to give him benefit of doubt. I wanted trust to be in my marriage because I'm extremely faithful to him. He disvirgined me on my wedding night.

But he does A LOT of flirting on social media. Passwords his phone from me. This has caused a lot of problems between us, almost leading to marriage break up many times, until people advised me to stay off his phone, which I did. I lost my job since February and have been unable to get another one.

Now I'm learning some soft skills online, using my phone but it got to a point where I couldn't proceed because it's an old phone. I told him yesterday morning that I would love to use his phone, he said ok when he returned from work.

Only for me to go to his browser to enter a website address, I started seeing past searches from him.
LOVE SMS YOU CAN SEND TO UR CRUSH
LOVE MESSAGES YOU CAN SEND TO UR EX GIRLFRIEND.

The one that shook me to the bone is, HOW TO SEDUCE MY SISTER INLAW.

She came to visit two weeks back. She is very beautiful and plump and he has always told me he had a crush on her. So I know.
And those internet searches are RECENT.

I feel so disgusted by his presence now, so much that I don't allow his body to touch mine on bed. I feel for my daughter, she's just 6 years and I don't have any money to take care of her. He doesn't take care of me either, but I have put up with him, I have struggled and suffered with him all these years. Only to see this on his phone. I'm beyond depressed.

He's talking of us celebrating our 10 years anniversary by December and thinking of inviting few family and friends. BUT I'M NOT INTERESTED. The love is dead. I've been played all along.

HOW WILL I HANDLE THIS?

This is who you will live with for the rest of your life, I believe you saw these signs earlier but choose to ignore it.

On the other hand he's just flirting according to your story but hasn't slept with any one of them, him eye still dey up.

You're indeed a strong woman. You don't deserve those treatment. Follow your heart ma'am.

Oh wow! Seems your hubby has a lot of "fantasies and "fetish" feelings he wants to explore. You are absolutely right to feel angry and disappointed seeing some of those things he has going on in his head while you play the loving loyal wife. But take a deep breath and calm down first okay. I think you should let him know you have seen those information and confront him about it. You guys are a couple so talk about it

His type of response will be really important for you to guage his level of deprevity. Maybe he is just playing with ideas but not acting on it, or he is neck deep in those kind of activities....anyway you see it, those are big temptation traps and embarrassing wrong moral antecedents by him.

PLEASE PEOPLE BE WISE AND GO THROUGH THE PREVIOUS POSTS OF THIS PERSON BEFORE COMMENTING

If your previous posts are anything to go by......... YOU TOO ARE NOT FAITHFUL.... so why hating on him. YOU HAVE BEEN CHATTING WITH MARRIED MAN YOU WERE ONCE WITH.

See, there is something wrong with you. YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND MARRIAGE...... you didnt seek wisdom at the beginning.

if your STORY IS TRUE..... then find a counselor offline and meet any wise person whom your husband respects and confess to your husband your FLIRTING chats and your misdeeds.


YOU BOTH NEED HEALING

PaigeTaylor:
Hello house. I'm too angry to type. Been married for 10 years with a kid. 10 long hard years. He always assures me and portrays himself as a faithful man. I have never suspected him of committing adultery, not because he he's not capable, but because I wanted to give him benefit of doubt. I wanted trust to be in my marriage because I'm extremely faithful to him. He disvirgined me on my wedding night. But he does A LOT of flirting on social media. This has caused a lot of problems between us, almost leading to marriage break up many times, until people advised me to stay off his phone, which I did. I lost my job since February and have been unable to get another one.
Now I'm learning some soft skills online, using my phone but it got to a point where I couldn't proceed because it's an old phone. I told him yesterday morning that I would love to use his phone, he said ok when he returned from work. Only for me to go to his browser to enter a website address, I started seeing past searches from him.
LOVE SMS YOU CAN SEND TO UR CRUSH
LOVE MESSAGES YOU CAN SEND TO UR EX GIRLFRIEND.
The one that shook me to the bone is, HOW TO SEDUCE MY SISTER INLAW.
She came to visit two weeks back. She is very beautiful and plump and he has always told me he had a crush on her. So I know.
And those internet searches are RECENT.
I feel so disgusted by his presence now, so much that I don't allow his body to touch mine on bed. I feel for my daughter, she's just 6 years and I don't have any money to take care of her. He doesn't take care of me either, but I have put up with him, I have struggled and suffered with him all these years. Only to see this on his phone. I'm beyond depressed.
He's talking of us celebrating our 10 years anniversary by December and thinking of inviting few family and friends. BUT I'M NOT INTERESTED. The love is dead. I've been played all along.
HOW WILL I HANDLE THIS?

Will

So many things happens in marriage, you just have to be wise enough to protect yours

Some will advise you divorce him or stay totally away from him but that is not the solution
Confront and challenge him, see to his response and reaction first

Everyone has an opinion and choices, Vawulence in marriage is what I wouldn't tolerate

PaigeTaylor:
Hello house. I'm too angry to type. Been married for 10 years with a kid. 10 long hard years. He always assures me and portrays himself as a faithful man. I have never suspected him of committing adultery, not because he's not capable, but because I wanted to give him benefit of doubt. I wanted trust to be in my marriage because I'm extremely faithful to him. He disvirgined me on my wedding night. But he does A LOT of flirting on social media. Passwords his phone from me. This has caused a lot of problems between us, almost leading to marriage break up many times, until people advised me to stay off his phone, which I did. I lost my job since February and have been unable to get another one.
Now I'm learning some soft skills online, using my phone but it got to a point where I couldn't proceed because it's an old phone. I told him yesterday morning that I would love to use his phone, he said ok when he returned from work. Only for me to go to his browser to enter a website address, I started seeing past searches from him.
LOVE SMS YOU CAN SEND TO UR CRUSH
LOVE MESSAGES YOU CAN SEND TO UR EX GIRLFRIEND.
The one that shook me to the bone is, HOW TO SEDUCE MY SISTER INLAW.
She came to visit two weeks back. She is very beautiful and plump and he has always told me he had a crush on her. So I know.
And those internet searches are RECENT.
I feel so disgusted by his presence now, so much that I don't allow his body to touch mine on bed. I feel for my daughter, she's just 6 years and I don't have any money to take care of her. He doesn't take care of me either, but I have put up with him, I have struggled and suffered with him all these years. Only to see this on his phone. I'm beyond depressed.
He's talking of us celebrating our 10 years anniversary by December and thinking of inviting few family and friends. BUT I'M NOT INTERESTED. The love is dead. I've been played all along.
HOW WILL I HANDLE THIS?

Well, I have gone through your previous post and you're just as unfaithful as your husband. You both need counselling.

She said she suffered with him...

Why do Women always think they are doing u arl favour by marrying you and staying married to you ......
Saying they suffered when they technically can't pay their bills all alone .....and with you, probably eating free food, living rent & bills free, and it's not like they had a dangote, adenuga or otedela option that wanted to really marry them

As in... I don't get it.... .. them too dey proud over nothing

Birds of same feather...
Married together...
Playing together...
Cheating together...
Suspecting together...
After craving together.

Madam, as a man is, sometimes, so are his things. Calm down and make your home.
You have the capacity, you have the chance and you can do it.

Never expect excellent in a man, in a marriage.
Occasionally, things go wrong, yes temporarily if you can endure and turn it to victory.

STARGREEN:
Birds of the same feather...
Married together...

I'm not perfect either. Never said I was. And that was my past life, something I wanted a solution to because I want to forget it, that's why I brought it to nairaland. Didn't you see where I said I didn't want a broken home? It's my past, Why bring it up?

Anfieldboss:


Well, I have gone through your previous post and you're just as unfaithful as your husband. You both need counselling.

I'm not perfect either. Never said I was. And that was my past life, something I wanted a solution to because I want to forget it, that's why I brought it to nairaland. Didn't you see where I said I didn't want a broken home? It's my past, Why bring it up?

Wetin you for do 3some with your hubby and your sister in law


You sef day try spice up ya sex life

PaigeTaylor:
I'm not perfect either. Never said I was. And that was my past life, something I wanted a solution to because I want to forget it, that's why I brought it to nairaland. Didn't you see where I said I didn't want a broken home? It's my past, Why bring it up?

You claimed this "He disvirgined me on my wedding night" in your main post. So, at what point did you accumulated the said past you are talking about?

Ignore this mad womans post and her so called husband. It is all lies!

This is what she posted in May.
https://www.nairaland.com/7687654/why-find-it-extremely-difficult

If you are to be believed, you are married but you are actively fantasizing about your ex giving you head. You are worse than your husband. A vile hyppocrate is who you are.

PaigeTaylor:

I'm not perfect either. Never said I was. And that was my past life, something I wanted a solution to because I want to forget it, that's why I brought it to nairaland. Didn't you see where I said I didn't want a broken home? It's my past, Why bring it up?

Well, it doesn't seem like "it's your past" to me. It appears you're still very much emotionally attached to him and even still desiring him.
How do you feel your husband would feel knowing that his wife is desiring another man's touch? You guys should sit down and talk about your issues.

From your prev post, you said you are not emotional attached to your husband
So why then are you upset?
You and your husband are guilty of the same thing, wanting the touch of another

Perhaps you are a definition of confusion

Just relax ehn and patronize your boy

PaigeTaylor:
Hello house. I'm too angry to type. Been married for 10 years with a kid. 10 long hard years. He always assures me and portrays himself as a faithful man. I have never suspected him of committing adultery, not because he's not capable, but because I wanted to give him benefit of doubt. I wanted trust to be in my marriage because I'm extremely faithful to him. He disvirgined me on my wedding night. But he does A LOT of flirting on social media. Passwords his phone from me. This has caused a lot of problems between us, almost leading to marriage break up many times, until people advised me to stay off his phone, which I did. I lost my job since February and have been unable to get another one.
Now I'm learning some soft skills online, using my phone but it got to a point where I couldn't proceed because it's an old phone. I told him yesterday morning that I would love to use his phone, he said ok when he returned from work. Only for me to go to his browser to enter a website address, I started seeing past searches from him.
LOVE SMS YOU CAN SEND TO UR CRUSH
LOVE MESSAGES YOU CAN SEND TO UR EX GIRLFRIEND.
The one that shook me to the bone is, HOW TO SEDUCE MY SISTER INLAW.
She came to visit two weeks back. She is very beautiful and plump and he has always told me he had a crush on her. So I know.
And those internet searches are RECENT.
I feel so disgusted by his presence now, so much that I don't allow his body to touch mine on bed. I feel for my daughter, she's just 6 years and I don't have any money to take care of her. He doesn't take care of me either, but I have put up with him, I have struggled and suffered with him all these years. Only to see this on his phone. I'm beyond depressed.
He's talking of us celebrating our 10 years anniversary by December and thinking of inviting few family and friends. BUT I'M NOT INTERESTED. The love is dead. I've been played all along.
HOW WILL I HANDLE THIS?

You are too fat and boring for him. Divorce him so he can have peace of mind and progress you this insecure killer of destines rubbish gender

vincenteger:
From your prev post, you said you are not emotional attached to your husband
So why then are you upset?
You and your husband are guilty of the same thing, wanting the touch of another

Perhaps you are a definition of confusion

Make she free the man abeg

advanceDNA:
She said she suffered with him...

Why do Women always think they are doing u are favour by marrying you and staying married to you ......
Saying they suffered when they technically can't pay their bills all alone with you, probably eating free food, living rent & bills free, and never had a dangote or otedela option that wanted to marry them...

As in... I don't get it.... .. them too dey proud over nothing

Because they are brunch of useless parasite that torment men's lives

What if u caught him red handed,would u kill urself ...why all this wahala because of marriage.

Most men including me can never be predicted one bit.

So,be calming down. Experienced women don't talk like this.

PaigeTaylor:
Hello house. I'm too angry to type. Been married for 10 years with a kid. 10 long hard years. He always assures me and portrays himself as a faithful man. I have never suspected him of committing adultery, not because he's not capable, but because I wanted to give him benefit of doubt. I wanted trust to be in my marriage because I'm extremely faithful to him. He disvirgined me on my wedding night. But he does A LOT of flirting on social media. Passwords his phone from me. This has caused a lot of problems between us, almost leading to marriage break up many times, until people advised me to stay off his phone, which I did. I lost my job since February and have been unable to get another one.
Now I'm learning some soft skills online, using my phone but it got to a point where I couldn't proceed because it's an old phone. I told him yesterday morning that I would love to use his phone, he said ok when he returned from work. Only for me to go to his browser to enter a website address, I started seeing past searches from him.
LOVE SMS YOU CAN SEND TO UR CRUSH
LOVE MESSAGES YOU CAN SEND TO UR EX GIRLFRIEND.
The one that shook me to the bone is, HOW TO SEDUCE MY SISTER INLAW.
She came to visit two weeks back. She is very beautiful and plump and he has always told me he had a crush on her. So I know.
And those internet searches are RECENT.
I feel so disgusted by his presence now, so much that I don't allow his body to touch mine on bed. I feel for my daughter, she's just 6 years and I don't have any money to take care of her. He doesn't take care of me either, but I have put up with him, I have struggled and suffered with him all these years. Only to see this on his phone. I'm beyond depressed.
He's talking of us celebrating our 10 years anniversary by December and thinking of inviting few family and friends. BUT I'M NOT INTERESTED. The love is dead. I've been played all along.
HOW WILL I HANDLE THIS?

Confront him, keeping it to yourself is creating this resentment.

You guys should refrain from bringing your marital sh1ts to Nairaland. There are too many kids here.
You will get advise from boys who have only used their d1ck for peeing. Most of them are women bashers. They will tell you women are useless and marriage is sh1t and all that, but they go behind to use their last kobo to impress one dirty girl and beg her for love and attention. Only few married people will be able to give you advise.

That being said, as a married man, I will say your husband no try at all. Na that sister-in-law own off me. Regardless, you should confront him, tell him how angry you are at him, hear his side of the story. It could probably be a friend who has been using his phone to search those dirty stuffs, just like he gave you his phone to use.

In all, most of us men are dogs and dogs we shall remain till the end of time. Wetin me seff dey do behind no good.

Then quit d marriage instead of doing story that touch later oooooo

Oopps.

Hmm.

See how those useless nairaland men are trying to justify your husband's infidelity. One is even saying if you're an "experienced woman" you wouldn't talk like that

The hypocrisy of these nairaland men is laughable.

When a man cheats, she should endure and have a dialogue but when a woman cheats she should be stoned to death.

You people cry about declining morality in the society everyday, but you're the ones pushing the decline of society because you don't want to take responsibility for your evil actions like cheating, paedophilia, fornication, adultery etc.

You will continue to wail about women till you die in your misery and wickedness. Mumu people!

Marry better person.

PaigeTaylor:
Hello house. I'm too angry to type. Been married for 10 years with a kid. 10 long hard years.

He always assures me and portrays himself as a faithful man. I have never suspected him of committing adultery, not because he's not capable, but because I wanted to give him benefit of doubt. I wanted trust to be in my marriage because I'm extremely faithful to him. He disvirgined me on my wedding night.

But he does A LOT of flirting on social media. Passwords his phone from me. This has caused a lot of problems between us, almost leading to marriage break up many times, until people advised me to stay off his phone, which I did. I lost my job since February and have been unable to get another one.

Now I'm learning some soft skills online, using my phone but it got to a point where I couldn't proceed because it's an old phone. I told him yesterday morning that I would love to use his phone, he said ok when he returned from work.

Only for me to go to his browser to enter a website address, I started seeing past searches from him.
LOVE SMS YOU CAN SEND TO UR CRUSH
LOVE MESSAGES YOU CAN SEND TO UR EX GIRLFRIEND.

The one that shook me to the bone is, HOW TO SEDUCE MY SISTER INLAW.

She came to visit two weeks back. She is very beautiful and plump and he has always told me he had a crush on her. So I know.
And those internet searches are RECENT.

I feel so disgusted by his presence now, so much that I don't allow his body to touch mine on bed. I feel for my daughter, she's just 6 years and I don't have any money to take care of her. He doesn't take care of me either, but I have put up with him, I have struggled and suffered with him all these years. Only to see this on his phone. I'm beyond depressed.

He's talking of us celebrating our 10 years anniversary by December and thinking of inviting few family and friends. BUT I'M NOT INTERESTED. The love is dead. I've been played all along.

HOW WILL I HANDLE THIS?

Free yourself.